Psychiatrist Reacts To Tinder Horror Stories... 

In reality what is perceived as the perfect charismatic Hollywood type date conversations is the culmination of the work of several professional script writers along with the delivery of professional actors over several takes and then displayed in one smooth take. For a normal person to want achieve that all by themselves in unrealistic.

I have to stop and comment that omg the first caller is so well spoken. I'm only ten minutes in, but it's amazing for me as a stranger to hear that this person experiences that they struggle with communication. For me it's rare to hear someone who I perceive as this highly intelligent, perceptive and clear in speech. But, heavens know that intelligence can be a curse that makes you analyze yourself out of human interaction. I wish this person all the best with a life full of joy and happiness.

I recently lost my virginity at 27 to a tinder hookup. For the longest time this was my biggest insecurity and to say the least, my profile and behavior on tinder was just....fake just because I was so desperate to finally get it over with. All I can say is that it ultimately wasn't worth it. I won't say the experience was bad....but It also wasn't amazing either. All it left me with is how meaningless it ultimately was. I'm still the same, person with the same feelings and insecurities. Having sex didn't suddenly change me as a person or make me feel better. All I can say to anyone that might relate to this is....there's really no rush. Having sex won't suddenly change you or your self esteem. I wish I had honestly just waited to be with someone I cared about first.

Would be interesting to hear some female perspectives on the matter as well

This format is really incredible, real people in real conversations and you can relate to different people on different levels. Almost like learning from your friends mistake. Keep this coming dr k

Matt's talk (caller 1) had so much growth! he then mentions that he started going to therapy and honestly, we stan for a king that goes to therapy. Good for you, my dude 👏👏👏

I think sometimes we go after the people who just aren’t for us. I can say that I personally prefer people who are genuinely themselves. People are flawed. I don’t want someone who appears “perfect”, because that is impossible. Maybe it’s because I’m going through a divorce and my mindset has changed and now I know more about what exactly I want out of a relationship.

All of you out there in the dating trenches, I salute your valor. I don't think I'll ever be ready to put myself out there like that

I think a problem for many single people is that the urge to start dating comes when they feel lonely, and they act, not because they are ready or want someone to share experiences in life with but because they NEED someone to dampen their loneliness. I have thrown myself in the arms of the first guy that showed interest after my first relationship ended, and i did this, again, and again, and again, until i sat myself down and asked wtf i was doing and why i felt like i needed company from someone i barely knew. Some of these guys sounds like they figured out what they needed before going into a new relationship, and they found out that the fake persona we all put on at times can work for some situations, but not relationships. What i often hear from my single friends is that they are looking high and low, but when i question them on what they swipe right and left on i see a tendency to want the "slim pretty girls" or the "ripped gym guy" but never even giving a chance to the "average" or "cute" people, they don't think a bout having stuff in common or having the same "vibe" they only judge on the looks, which often do not really result in good matches.. (No hate if you're the slim pretty girl or the ripped gym guy! You are just as wholesome and amazing as everybody else!) I have a feeling that the 3rd guy is coming on strong when he confesses or checking up on how a girl is doing. My experience is that telling someone you like them is way too much commitment too early on, its better to say "hey i really enjoy our conversations, i hope we can keep on having them" as it is more relaxed and inviting and you get to say how you feel. Sometimes, we feel entitled to a response to what we write, but blocking a person because they don't answer the how are you doing or are you still sick question is a little much of an overreaction, my advice is, give it one more message a couple of days later, and don't block the person? When I'm sick, I often don't look or answer peoples messages unless its important, but i do play computer, and sometimes i chat with my gaming buddy, because that gives me energy, if my friends would get mad about that, they would be mad at me often, sometimes i just don't have the energy to have a conversation with my best friend.. Different people gives and takes different amounts of energy and when you are getting to know someone, it can sometimes take more, not meaning that its bad, but it is hard work :)

Flo here, I'm the 3rd guy calling in. One nuance I forgot to mention was few of the girls I sorta dated (which ended up ghosting , suddenly disinterested) recently past few months are from irl not online dating. Met them in a coffee shop, bar, approaching them in a park etc, mutual friend group . That said I really felt better after the call, did introspection on "the chadflo doesn't fear the betaflo" . Owning the part that I deemed is weak inside me. Also I started dating again met this girl in a mall and I just started talking and having her like me, just being myself owning up all my flaws, also owning my strength. I am both confident and same time emotional. Owning that my value come from within and I deserve love like everyone else. Perhaps the problem back then I ran into was emotionally I was still not confident the emotional side and girls feel that insecurity. Now I owned it, I'm not sure if this make sense but it does inside my head. *Also it was 2am when I talking to drK so I was really tired but excited* Edit : I don't think you guys understand how many guys are very clueless when it comes to taking photos. I seen many dude that is better looking than me struggle because they dont know how to convey personality. Smile , big smile, if you have a pet include it inside your photo. A simple tweak can make you standout. Also no bathroom selfie

Lol, I am a girl who likes 3D printing. Now I know why I never found 3D printing guys on dating apps

In terms of Flow's story, as a woman, I can definitely say that Dr K is right. We need time to process. I'm currently in that sort of situation, where my friend confessed to me and I told him to give me time. It's incredibly overwhelming, I feel nauseous, I eat less, I sleep horribly at night and I'm constantly thinking. So yeah, we really do need time and space to think about the whole situation.

It’s always nice to be able to learn from all these different people

This was super helpful! As a 38-year-old single woman trying to navigate dating apps for the last 8 years, it has been an absolute nightmare. I hate to find solitude in others' misfortunes but it's relieving to know that I am not the only one who has had a rough go of it.

I watch this not only for the great conversations, but also to study conversational technique as a student of Psychology myself. I learn so much by watching this, open questions, paraphrasing, small encouragements etc. It's worth so much for me, so thank you for having a great channel Dr K🥰

You can always tell when he's listening really closely because his eyebrows go into attack mode. 😂

I tried dating apps once, at first was fun answering messages but the more I used it I got this feeling of judging people by their pictures and seeing them through a counter as products, felt this disconnection with their humanity. Never got to the point of a date as well. Mostly out of fear, because I didn’t want to risk meeting irl with someone I met through messages, specially because where I’m from have been increasing the cases of missing women and femicide, so…. Maybe my train of thought went through the worst scenario but my security over a date was way higher priority. I kinda want date someone but also I’m OK being alone, also currently I’m going through a rough time and I don’t think is a good moment for me to have something else on my life.

I was on and off the dating apps for about a decade, and honestly it was awful. People are utterly cruel to each other. Over time I went from accepting that there's no one out there for me, to outright reveling in the single life.

Wow, 2h of dr K talking with callers about tinder horror stories, I love it 😄 it will be great as a workout background, thank you ♥️

People are just so brave to talk, and open with doctor K, so just thank you. To everyone that tries.

After trying Tinder experimentally, with a fake profile, all I took out of the experience is the sheer way it sucks you in and forces you to kind of give up your humanity and treat every person on there as a product on a shelf. You were not searching for a mate, a friend, what have you. You were browsing what the store had to offer, inside the radius you had set. What also struck me as weird was the abundance of extroverted, pretty women in there. I'd imagine Tinder would be a way to find people if you were too awkward / shy / ugly for people to approach you and give you a chance. I still can't get it. Why set up a dating app profile, if you are already outgoing and pretty? Do you not find people to date?

From the video title I thought it was about people finding someone creepy from tinder or going on a date with a serial killer and finding weird, creepy signs and things. I thought its gonna be like some person trying to date and met a serial killer and found some creepy stuff but its only people having a hard time finding a date! D: Am much bamboozled! xD Was expecting literal horror stories.

A lot of people, myself included struggle with dating because we're scared to be vulnerable. You have to open up to a girl but be comfortable with her rejecting you. Opening up to someone doesn't make you needy, but needing them to like you does. Changing who you are or pretending to be someone else in the short term actually makes you needy as well, because you care more about how you're perceived and external outcomes more than being comfortable with yourself. You should want someone who likes who you truly are anyway. It is extremely difficult to achieve this I hope I didn't make it sound like it's trivial. I struggle with this myself but I'm working on it Edit: it's also easy to become antagonistic towards women because it feels like they have it easier in the early stages of dating (or because you assume they want what men do, which is easy sex), but once you've essentially exposed yourself to being hurt by approaching and being vulnerable, if she takes interest now she's vulnerable because women generally want real intimate connection and she's exposed herself to being hurt. Don't let your past traumas hurt people in your future that give you a real chance

Caller 1 really struck home for me. I had a relationship for 2 years and thought even if we broke up, this girl would be a really great friend. We both ended up drifting away due to circumstances that was out of our control. World and heart shattered. Personally completely changed for a while. Took me 5 months before I started trying to get my life back together. Tried adopting a Chad or sigma male Personality as a coping mechanism, but the more I thought about it the more I realized That JUST wasn't me. Then I almost fell into Inceldom. Took me a solid 1 year and a half to realize and remember who I really was. I stopped the dating scene or am putting it on a long hold. Not only to focus on myself, but because I know how rigged and bad it really is right now.

I sympathize with the first caller's insecurities, but as someone who has sat on the other side of the table, it's really obvious when someone is putting on an act to try to impress you, and I always want to be like... why do you think I'm someone you WANT to impress? Like, on a first date I'm thinking, "What's this guy's deal, is he fun to be around, do we get along, do our senses of humor match?" I don't start worrying about whether I'm impressing him until I decide I like him. I thought that was the point of a first date, to get a sense of each other and decide if this is something you might want to go further. But it's very common for men to approach a first date like a challenge to win a prize, without stopping to think, maybe I don't want this prize? Like, it's cool if you decide you don't like us, it's better in fact because you don't waste our time. And I feel like it takes the pressure off you, because if you don't frame dating as a challenge where you win or lose the girl, then if it doesn't work out it isn't a failure, it just means you weren't a fit for that particular person. I get that this must be harder for dudes since women tend to be more picky than men, but I have a suspicion that if you tried to be a little bit more picky (in a non-judgemental, polite way) that you might become more attractive to women. Because it's very pressuring and uncomfortable to go on a date with a stranger who so clearly just wants to win you over no matter what, and you feel way too responsible for their feelings way too fast. Plus, it's a little bit objectifying, to be honest. If you just desperately want a girl, any girl, even though you don't know anything about her yet, it kinda feels like you're looking straight through us. That's how I feel about it, anyway.

I was listening to Matt say he doesn’t communicate well and for some reason it struck me because as a listener I could understand everything he was saying. I saw someone else say the same thing and responded to their comment but I want to put my thoughts out more broadly as well and see what you guys think. I doubt anyone has really come out and told him he stumbles over his words. It almost sounds like he’s come to that conclusion on his own, to try to understand why what happened, happened. Which is often our way to cope - especially if we are looking to improve ourselves. I say this because I realized I did the same thing and it took me other people to say otherwise to take a step back and ask Why do I think this? Has anyone outrightly said this to me? Once I did that, I realized so many of my introspective conclusions were actually based on “observational” assumptions. It was based on my understanding rather than other people’s feedback. I think this often happens when we don’t actively seek for feedback from other people, where we are left with a vacuum and try to fill it up ourselves to make sense of things. However rational our approach might seem, this approach will always be incomplete, just because we can’t truthfully observe ourselves while being a part of any given scenario. We’re too close. Too in the bubble to get the whole picture. I’ve found it helpful to just ask the person what they thought about our interactions. Often times they tell me things I wouldn’t even have considered and it’s constructive. It makes me realize how “dating” is a two way thing, it doesn’t depend on a single individual’s need, wants and effort. We often get so caught up in ourselves, we assume it is. As far as matt is concerned, maybe im completely wrong and maybe ppl really have given him that feedback. But kudos to him for coming on. I wish him well and I wish this community well.

No horror stories. More like "people who have a slightly lower self esteem find hard to be rejected, so they try to appear like something they're not, and don't feel good about it"

When my actual boyfriend confessed to me, I had to take some time to think about it. He waited for me three months, because I wanted to see If I really wanted him as a friend or as a boyfriend. Now we've been together for 5 years and more in love than ever. Just be patient and treat her as you always do, let her know you can wait for a while.

Lol I love that his first good date and girlfriend is the only one he didnt lie too and just talked too her about their shared interest of league of legends with.

Part of communication & a good interview is asking questions, Dr. K you ask amazing questions!

I would say it’s pretty normal to have no luck on the apps after six months, especially as a man. Honestly, it took me three years of swiping to find my person on there. Give yourself at least a few years. I know it sounds like a lot of time to be single, but if you allow yourself that space, it will relieve a lot of pressure. Plus, the algorithm is designed to keep you on the apps rather than get you off them, so keep that in mind as well.

Online dating is really really tiring. Too many choices is not always a good thing.

I think we are at a point where we all are so conditioned by media that our natural mating behavior is completely fucked. Romantic movies and porn give us a fantasy of what we expect from a potential partner. And i think we're not aware that it's not "just entertainment", but we ACTUALLY believe these things by now. Which means we are never going to be happy in reality because what we seek doesn't exist.

My experience on dating apps: regular "matches", zero conversation. After two years, only around 5 conversations, with only two dates. And I lowered my definition of conversation to mean the other person said something. Anything. Even just "Hi". Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Match, etc. All the same.

This was really great !! I hope you do more like this

Long thought: The best conversations I have with people of the opposite sex seem to happen when we genuinely have a lot of things in common. Interests, experiences, perspectives, goals… that’s hard to fake for a long time and it doesn’t feel right when you start getting the feeling that the other person really doesn’t have the things in common with you that they’re acting as if they do. They tell you they’re into this book series but they can’t name the characters. They claim they [insert activity], but they meet you at the place, and don’t know how to do [insert activity]. And it does take time to process when they go from acting like A to acting like B. You need a moment to decide what you want to do next. Sometimes it feels like they were deceiving you and that doesn’t feel good. Personally, I like it best when the other person genuinely has those core things in common with me and when their behavior stays the same. That’s probably easiest to do when you present who you really are and somebody is able to make an actual match with actual you. If you are polka dotted and looking for somebody polka dotted, present yourself as polka dotted, search up polka dotted others, be your polka dotted self, and stay polka dotted. Chances are there’s somebody else polka dotted out there looking for polka dotted you.

Dr. K saying Y'ALL never gets old for me.

Totally relate to the notion of, fewer dates but more quality relationships vs. more dates and fewer connections, as I have always found myself falling into category A.

#1 used to remind me of myself. My advice for this lad is simply “be who you are” as in don’t change who you are to attract anybody. That’s a chaser mentality, it’s exhausting to maintain because you are constantly having to put out. Take a break and think deeply about who you are. And embrace those aspects. For example. If you’re an introvert, look for somebody similar, can’t force yourself to be somebody you’re not

Man some guys actually messaged back or dates? Online "dating" was freaking awful for me. I know I'm not the best looking guy but damn I got nowhere. I dress pretty decent, have a good personality. Tried to message women that were on my level. The average cute, kinda nerdy woman who likes Fantasy, D&D, etc. Yep it was terrible.

Thanks Dr K for that "shower" line, I'll use it

Hi Dr. k Could you perhaps do a video talking to us about the the dynamic of stress, guilt and shame and how these emotions culminate into the belief that toxic Self-hatred/loathing is deserved ? and how that influences and cascades any attempt to think positively about oneself

As a cosplayer, I would 100%message guys that have "I do 3d printing" in their bio!

Can you please do more of this! This is great Dr. K!

13:34 Damn, I could feel this in such a deep level. I feel for you bro, but it gets better eventually

"So you are thinking 'what do I need to do to not get rejected the next time and what do I need to change?'" That's called codependancy my friend. To get out of it, stop thinking about what you need to do to get anyone to like you, and instead start thinking about what YOU want, and reject anyone who doesn't meet your standards. You would think it makes people like you less, but they will actually like you more.

Love this channel keep up the great videos

"You can be funny or not be funny, but trying never works" - Dr K channeling Yoda

3rd caller was very relatable.

From what I here this guy has great self awareness. The low self esteem will take time. I’m glad he’s on those dating apps. The key is how-to-be-JUST-yourself. Being able to admit you have codependent behavior is the first step. This guy is doing great, Matt. Carlos has insight, but that fear of rejection wasn’t taught recently. I love how Dr.Alok broke the news of addiction to Carlos. The big component to relationship addiction “Codependency (btw, Matt did such a great job and wish Matt nothing but success)” is “terrified of being hurt/rejection’ that is the source of THAT addiction that if Dr.Alok agrees with. And Carlos that is an awful therapist. Best therapists wants you in and out their office as soon as you are able to manage and own your feelings. At the same time, these are addiction therapists. And then FLO, it’s the quick, sour dough bread will go stale in three days if you don’t eat it but!!!!! On the third day if you run stale sourdough bread in tap water for 10 secs and throw it in the oven at 450F for 6-7 minutes you get better sourdough bread than when you first bought it IF you determined and CONFIRMED there was no mold. FLO has learned a lot of bad habits. You actually looked at the loaf a bread, the staleness feels like a six pack. But in a different perspective, using that cooking technique, carbs and that deliciousness can turn that six pack into a one pack. Perspective! I’m so happy for Dr.Alok. I get this beautiful take on men who are so brave to open up.

Great video Dr. K!

Listen to your enlightenment (Alok) every day! I learn so much from you.

I would highly suggest setting up a double date if you are a nice shy guy!! My bf is same and he’s so sweet which I noticed right away, but he’s shy to open up to someone he likes so when we were together with another couple on the first three dates, it allowed a much more natural flow of conversation and there was no need to be fake and everything real (short of something you actually need to refrain from saying, like something very personal you wouldn’t share to a complete stranger) after you’ve started going on dates with them. Come clean about stuff you may have let them believe online as soon as you can. It’s soooo much better to just be yourself and have someone like you for you. 😅

I just got to stop and appreciate Dr K's response in the second conversation. When Carlos was talking about both feeling unfairly expected to take the lead and also shying away when the other took the lead, then Dr K's response was "that sounds tough". Such an empathic response, I wish I would instinctively respond the same but admittedly I think I would've commented on the contradiction in Carlos behavior. I'd be very happy if I was able to adopt even a sliver of his conversational skills

Dating in real life still the best option. Dating apps try to make people stick with the app not people

17:22 I WISH I had a boyfriend who was into 3D printing. That'd be so useful for my crafts lol

I used dating apps over the course of 5 years before I got married (off and on between relationships). I found the most success when matching with someone you’ve previously talked to. For example people from school, work, etc. Its a great supplement to the your goals of meeting a partner but shouldn’t replace other ways of meeting people.

I clicked on this video not really relating to it and just thinking it would be entertaining. Then the first caller literally just replicated the last 6 months of my life. If caller 1 sees this, I feel you on a clone type level.

Oh i just want to scream listening to this because my frustration was trying to find someone genuine and all the men online mask. I finally met someone in person (at karaoke) who engaged me in normal conversation instead of trying to flirt or impress me. We've been dating about 3 months. The apps are terrible. In person is so much better. Just go out and do stuff.

I’m in the same boat as caller 1. I’m really insecure about how I come across to people and whether I’m too much or not enough of something. Especially with whether I’m fun to be around cuz I feel like I sometimes take things too literally and that kills the mood when people are just looking to banter with me. So I try to be more witty with my response but obviously it’s not something you can force and even when I do spit out something it feels disingenuous and not me 😔

20 minutes into the first caller and I have to say It's so refreshing to hear a man not be so bitter about online dating.

Wow, this was incredibly illuminating. This guest really resonates with me, I could almost feel what he's been going through in some way. I resonate with that "mask" that he speaks of, that is really difficult to shake in the moment, especially if you feel like you need a relationship. I've been trying to learn what this guest has learned, the lesson that it seems to be better when you don't force this fallacious "perfected" version of yourself. That mask seems to be fueled to some extent by the way many of us learn to look at the world; typically problems seem to present themselves when we have too much of that outcome based thinking. At least for me, it often takes me out of the moment and fuels my anxiety.

This makes sense. The last relationship I had, I thought from his initial messaging that he was just trying too hard. Then we met in person and I really enjoyed spending time with him and conversing with him. I thought he settled down and worked through the nerves. But then when it all went wrong he said that even through the relationship he was trying to put on a front, trying to do activities, trying to be an interesting person. That makes me so sad, I liked him for him, I didn’t want him to pretend. But he ended up exhausting himself and eventually viewed coming to see me as a chore 😐

Dr.K please keep the " Right in the feels" website up forever 🙏 😔

Tinder is like a fun game personally, I don't really expect anything out of it

I enjoy the longer content😌

How tf people saying things when video has only got posted 2 mins ago

In my experience, dating apps are just about the worst way of connecting with people. Especially if you're trying to meet women. The convenience means that you're not selecting for people who are actually trying to connect with others. Contrast that with, say, meeting folks at a meetup based around a shared interest. That's a whole room full of people who are actively getting out there and putting in an active effort to find their people. It may not specifically be a space for romantic connection, but it's better than dragging conversations with disconnected internet people. Dating apps are somewhat useful if you're just trying to hook up. Even then, the hookup game is not on point believe me.

Thank you for this type of algorithm

Tinder is everyhting wrong with society. It makes millions from the loneliness and desperation of others, as also make people believe you can find the love of your life like you could find a piece of meat in the supermarket.

Online dating hasn't never really work for me either (4 years since I uninstalled Tinder) I prefer real life, going to people and say hi. You get more real conversations, it's much easier to be judged how you really are, not just how you look and that kind of stuff. You get more attention, people can't be as rude either because they are around other people so other people would see them being rude if they are, so it's more soft if you get rejected in real life. Ghosting also becomes awkward for the other person in real life so they usually answer something even if they are not interested. You see if they are not, short answers for exp. then you just leave them alone. Also that common thing that when you are looking a relationship, it's not supposed to fix something in your life. It's just extra. Nobody wants to be your mom (some people do but it's not usually good relationship then), you should have your mom for that or if not, you should have a friend, how helps you with things. You should be a great dad how can take care of family. Your life is on that place that you can take care of other people.

Dates don't work. Just hang out and don't make it formal. Keep it casual. If she wants you to take her on a date but not hang out on a personal level she's not worth the time, effort, or money.

Thank you so much caller 1 :D

Things I've learnt from online dating as a guy who was a late bloomer, now in an almost 3-year relationship: 1) You have to have thick skin: most girls are overwhelmed with choice, and, early on, you can be easily replaced (regardless of whether that is actually a good decision or not). I've had girls be all over me one weekend and then hooking up with another guy the next (this is especially true if they drink or take drugs, but can also apply to other girls). 2) Always leave the door open: no matter how many times you are rejected, its always best to end things on a polite note and if you are still interested in the girl, let her know so that if she changes her mind, you can carry on where you left off. (edit. since there seems to be some confusion around this in the comments, this is specifically in regard to dating and when you're getting to know someone. I tend to think of this regardless of how physical things have gotten, as many people move at different speeds when it comes to sexual interactions). 3) Lean into who you are: if you're a gamer who loves LoL, lean into it. If you're a guy who's into comic books, lean into it. If you're a big teddy bear, lean into it. (This applies more in some cultures than others).

"if im interested in her then why do i need to wait" was Chad asf 😂

I can relate to this guy, it's just that someone can be okay with friendship and say it's sufficient but really you were looking for more of a connection and are continually disappointed that it never happens. Even people that sound ideal on paper just don't seem to click.

For me as a person, a great opener is asking me any kind of question about myself. When I would message men, I would ask if they had a theme song, what would it be? As a person who is very connected with music, this is me trying to find someone who is similar. I also think it’s an unusual but interesting opener.

When someone says they cannot control themselves around me, i find that threatening actually. That's like saying you might sexually assault them. It is true though that most people pulled away when i showed interest. It seems like it's too much too fast for them. I'm the type to dive right into emotionally vulnerable topics real fast since i can also move on pretty fast when it doesn't work out. Moving slow feels like a waste of time since i can't date more than one person at a time. But once we're committed to each other, moving slow is perfectly fine.

Dating Apps sound like a good idea in theory but are acutally a capitalist hellscape. As it has been pointed out these apps are designt to maximise interaction and sales. Also how "good" the app is , is 99% about how many people use it. Personaly i thinks OKcupid has a lot of nice features but in my area hardly anybody uses it. If you meet people in person in most situations you are kind of forced to interact with them at first. Well you can choose not to, but there isn't a new set of people that turn up at your will. But this is exactly what datingapps provide. You dislike some minor detail about the person? Just swip left, there ist probably a better one. So if i would have to design a dating app, you would get like 5 people per day. You can match any amound of them but you only get these per day.

On dating apps, I found that most people are either the “I am emotionally unavailable and just wanna hk up” or the “I am super intense because I really want a Gf” type. It really leaves you feeling that there is only either or and you are never going to find someone. -.-

For caller one, it seems like he hit all the points except him learning to actually like himself and being comfortable with who he is. The need for his mask was because he didn’t like himself. Moral of the story, self esteem makes a huge difference in your outcome of dating!

The last caller's experience of getting a lot of escorts that try to chat a little bit and then offer services is my experience as well.

I must say, the last guy seems to have a great sense of humor and very interesting actually. I feel really sad that he hasn't found anyone. Interested in American women? Lol

First guy be like, what if a girl did like 3D printing? Mate, heaps girls like 3D printing. That is a cool and normal thing to like.

am I alone in thinking that showers are to intense to be thinking while having one?

i feel like self doubt, like not good enough, is what really keeps people from genuinely connecting....

I like 3D printing. 😅❤

Damn, Matt, you wanna hit me up with that emotional maturity? I've actually made a couple of really important friendships on datin apps with that kind of casual, organic approach to relationships in general, and it's so weird how few people I've met or heard about with that kind of healthy mindset. It's like people forgot how the whole "facilitiating meetings" role of these apps, and they only get seen as hook-up hubs, with predictably terrible results. Be like Matt, y'all.

My biggest Tinder horror story was constantly getting 0 matches

The last call was quite funny

After listening to this I finally found the perfect pickup line: Man the dating process sucks, huh?

online dating sucks. so glad I found someone compatible!!

I think ya'll are missing the super key insight of the entire first call! When the caller stopped focusing on himself and how's he's being perceived and he became GENUINELY INTERESTED in the other person, he had a great experience!! The man just has low self esteem, anxiety, and has spent too much time consuming 'red pill' content, it's not actually the apps. This is funny because the key to actual charisma is just showing genuine interest in another person, it's that simple. don't focus on how they feel about you but how they feel themselves, people just want to be seen and heard, the easiest way to achieving that is just by listening and showing genuine interest in them.

My heart goes out to Carlos, despite my jealousy for the women who actively pursued him. When he's ready, he will make someone very happy to have him.

10:43 Dr K droppin' hard solutions baby! 💥

For me, the worst was when a woman tried to sell me a life insurance policy.

Hope in dating restored. ❤

Holy shit, it's relieving to know it isn't just me

I think the last guys name was Torsten(tore-sh-tenne) but with a Norwegian pronunciation. I am Swedish and sometimes we neighboring countries don't understand each other even if the languages are very similar.

26:40 all other Matt's watching: "You didn't have to do me like that Dr. K."