r/UnpopularOpinion - ⚠️Trigger Warnings⚠️ 

I really like this type of video Cliccy!

I’d like to add one topic badum tss

​@@ralseiawooga4482*✨B E A U T I F U L✨*

I like these kinda videos 😎💅

Love your videos they really make me laugh :)

Yeah, and it also helps protect you from some of the consequences of said freedom of speech, for example, letting you talk about more upsetting topics without setting someone off whose fight-or-flight reaction is usually to fight.

Exactly! The story Click told about the tattoo booth at a convention from the perspective of someone with trypanophobia is perfect illustration: "I don't expect anyone to do anything about it but maybe it would have been nice to be warned about it."

Thank you! It’s like… well, like food labels at supermarkets right? No one is saying you can’t sell Cheetos, they’re just saying to tell people what they actually contain so people can, if they choose to, make an informed decision. And if they choose not to heed those warnings, it’s their own fault.

Yep! Trigger warnings have gone a bit far I think, but most of the time they’re a good idea

Can also be "Don't talk about this I'm front of me"

I agree as a fellow ace. Getting married without having sex before is a personal choice, but you HAVE to discuss it before. Finances, sex, children, and other boundaries ALL need to be discussed thoroughly before making the decision to get married, and imo, before you move in with someone regardless of marriage status.

As an aro-ace woman, that seems like it would be obvious? It should come up during the relationship building phase?

@@antidotebrain69 you'd think, but it's amazing how much people will avoid, especially for some people who are raised in purity culture and don't even know how to talk about sex much less have a conversation about boundaries and such.

People in purity culture environments are raised to think that 1) sex is taboo, you should never discuss it, even think about it, even consider it until it's your wedding night and you're faced with the fact you now need to do this thing and you have zero clue what's happening 2) divorce is also a huge taboo, you are to love the person you married without knowing them that well no matter what and stay with them no matter what. Your sex lives aren't compatible? Well either one of you is gonna have to take it for the team and be miserable, or you'll have to both be miserable. Bottom line: only the concept of marriage matters, everything else comes as an after-thought.

I'm not ace, pretty much the opposite, but I still agree communication is vital. The more you understand each other in every way before committing the better. Fewer marriages would fail if more people took the effort to be certain they're marrying the right person. Even beyond sex, abusers would be exposed if given more time to reveal their true nature before locking in. People are less likely to commit to a mistake if they can be more certain they're not making one in the first place.

Oooh I love that

Exactly! I like trigger warnings because it lets me know what media I should be consuming 😏

I was just about to write that similar sentiment before I saw this, lol. Yeah, like, I'm not particularly allergic to any food substances, but I have friends and family who are. I can look at a bag of chips that gives the warning that it might contain corn or cheese ingredients, something that's probably very obvious, but the fact that the words are there to announce that there's a possibility of an allergic reaction or cross contamination is still reassuring when I grab someone I care about, some snacks. A nice addition to that is that my Mom is allergic to sulfites and related preservatives ((not in a dangerous way, but a way that results in skin stuff and sore throat)), so seeing that some products are adding sulfites and such as a bolded item in the ingredients list has been helpful for me to reading the back to be sure I don't trigger that allergy. I imagine trigger warnings are the same in concept.

it really is!!!

(Haven't seen the video yet, but) as someone with CPTSD, just being aware that a trigger will come up honestly 80% of the time makes it possible for me to watch through it. Being surprised by a trigger is never the same as knowing when you can expect it.

I think the only beings that love unconditionally are animals, and that may only apply to domesticated animals. One interesting thing I have found about this from watching true crime shows that interview the family members of the perpetrator is that the parents are the most likely to forgive and not kick them out of their lives. It's never completely unconditional love; this is just the closest I've seen in humans. And it's not gender dependent.

@@kellyl13 (haven't seen the video yet, but) I'd say young children also, have among the closest thing to unconditional love, towards their parents. It's pretty much hardwired in them out of a primal survival instinct. Abused kids don't start out blaming the parents for being abusive, for example, but rather blame themselves for "causing" the abuse. It takes a _lot_ of mistreatment and also age (around preteen-teens I'd say) until kids are honestly for the most part even _capable_ of thinking anything else. So I'd add that to the list as well!

@@sugoish9461 That's true; my sister works as the dean of a title 1 elementary school and specializes in children with behavioral disabilities stemming from trauma, and they often defend their parents. The show I was referring to interviews adults.

For the zoo one: zoos can of course be awful, but they can also be wonderful for the animals. It all depends on the zoo. They’re very good for getting people to care about the animals (it’s one thing to see a picture of a tiger, it’s another to see a tiger playing or napping in person). They’re also great for conservation, with many zoos having breeding programs for animals that are endangered or even extinct in the wild. A lot of people seem to think of zoos as keeping animals in “cages” which isn’t accurate to most modern zoos (and ones that DO keep animals in cages full time should be shut down imo). Enclosures can be cramped, but often have enrichment for the animal, places for privacy, and other things that meet the animals’ needs. And lastly, I think it can lead to a somewhat reductionist view of nature. Yes, the wild is a big, wide open space. However, there is a reason animals tend to have longer lifespans in captivity. Animals have to be on the lookout for the next meal and any potential dangers. Weather events, human activity (habitat destruction, roads, etc) can all be incredibly dangerous. If an animal gets sick or injured in a zoo, there’s a team of zookeepers and vets whose job is to notice the ailment and treat it. Illnesses and injuries fatal in the wild can be overcome in months or even weeks. Now that’s not to say nature is evil or bad for animals, or that zoos can save every creature they keep, death is always inevitable and all those risks are a part of life for animals, I just think that a lot of people don’t really take into account the darker side of nature when talking about how bad zoos are. Obviously zoos can be bad. They can keep animals in unsafe environments, treat them poorly, abuse them, feed them improperly, fail to keep them engaged through enrichment, any of that nonsense. And obviously, that’s bad. But I think zoos as a whole do a lot more than people give them credit for. I think the housepet comparison is actually incredibly good in this regard: your home/terrarium is an enclosed space your pet (probably) can’t leave without supervision. But while pet owners can and do abuse or neglect pets, generally those animals receive safety, love, and care that helps them live good long lives. Edit: I meant to make this a comment on the general video, not a reply to your comment I’m so sorry. I… am actually not sure how I managed that.

@@sparkflightdragon4009 Ngl interesting read! Good zoos really are kind to the animals, especially compared to the harshness of wild nature, yes

I think the problem comes from the difficult balance between "trigger warnings for trauma related topics are reasonable" and "I feel slightly offended by a topic, put a trigger warning".

Or if life altering trauma is a regular thing and giving a warning seems redundant I know because I use to be in this situation

Trigger warnings also come for different things, like flashing lights or jump scares. It would really benefit people like me if these were everywhere, but the amount currently still helps a lot.

@@Kezarim The latter one is usually referred to as a content warning. Content warnings are usually for general disturbing content [blood, NSFW] or discomforts [i.e. some kind of band that some specific person really hates]

The problem is people seem to think getting even slightly offended by something is getting triggered. People essentially ruined the word triggered.

and even in the most uncharitable interpretation the person asking is then no longer liable for negligent homicide, or has any responsibility for injuries incurred.

Yeah, try looking after a kid if you are "only" a man at a playground for example....

You care about my safety and me not getting hurt doing dumb shit? WOMANSPLAINING!

IMO it can't exist because the issue isn't that a man or a woman is explaining something to you. The core issue is that one group which has power and is assumed to be more knowledgeable because they belong to the group tries to explain to another group that has no reason to NOT have that knowledge. It's about power and assumptions and stereotypes. Women have less power, respect, and assumption of technical knowledge on ANY subject by DEFAULT, and therefore it isn't possible to "womansplain." I'm sure that's an unpopular opinion >_>

That post was a very verbose way of saying "I don't like being reminded that I'm regularly doing absolutely braindead, dangerous things and could make improvements"

Ironically, you just posted something that should have had a trigger warning first, considering the topic you just talked about. And yet you didn't include any. See how easy it is to fall foul of this? To forget to include them or not think they were needed? Seems like this whole trigger warning thing is easier said than done, eh?

POV: You're a *umbass@@DavidStruveDesigns

exactly this!!! why do people find a base level of empathy so hard to get as a concept!!!

@@DavidStruveDesigns and you lack basic reading comprehension for they did have a trigger warning with starting the text out as this will be about triggers, so everyone very sensetive could just skip and in the next paragraph they only listed the trigger warnings, but without details that would be triggering

Another late reply, but the whole "get some help" argument also bugs me. So many people have this idea of therapy as though it's as simple as taking your car to the mechanic. Just pop the hood, take a quick look, swap out a part, take some pills, bing bang boom done. You're cured! I've been to six different therapists and I still have so much social anxiety that I just about have a panic attack when I have to have a phone call with strangers. One therapist was trying to get me to "try praying more, because the universe gives us what we ask for if we ask hard enough" (not realizing that the last time I prayed, God still killed my dad with cancer), told me about how ice crystals react to our thoughts and emotions, incorrectly told me that my autistic stimming is what's causing my anxiety instead of being a way to physically vent it, and straight up told me I'm unfixable before ghosting me to move on to other patients. Therapy can be really good, but sometimes it can actually really suck.

I am anti trigger warnings because I am also a believer in science. And what does all of the studies done on trigger warnings have in common? They conclude that TW do not work but also are likely to increase anxiety and fear 😅 There's a huge meta analysis study done by the Harvard University on it, just Google it and they will explain better than I can :) so I really am not sure if they are needed, unless people wanna increase anxiety and fear because that's all TW do :/

But not to the point of tw aesthetic it's just ridiculous but something like tw flashing lights makes sense because of epilepsy

@@bluegloriousgamesI’ve never once heard of a “trigger warning aesthetic” Are you making that up?

@@pemanilnoob especially the seed showcases

​@@pemanilnoobig they're talking about the like 3% of the time that there's a big tw that lists like 6 things that don't really matter? Ig?

I think audiobooks are engaging with literature, ideas, and content just as if reading out of a book. It's a completely valid medium, but I will never claim it's reading though because reading is a skill in it's own. Reading requires reading. Listening to audiobooks requires listening skills. One is not lazier than the other.

I mean, I want to read a book while I wash dishes. This is much more manageable with audiobooks because I don't have to worry about getting the sound waves wet. I can't rest that easy with physical books.

Also there is literal scientific evidence that audiobooks have the same effect on the brain as reading. So there's really no argument there, they're just as good and it gets people the benefits of reading when they otherwise wouldn't.

@@aricaine5024 Most of the time, my 'wet book' argument is enough to finish theirs.

@@aricaine5024 I would say the exception is with youth when they're still developing. Listening and reading skills are both important, and I think too many people privileged and capable of both often take it for granted and underestimate people who can't do one or the other (either through disability or lack of sufficient education)

we know

We know

We have been previously informed…

Not to mention an example of a person that mistakes a concerned individual trying to make them aware of the risks they're taking and trying to help, for someone being patronising and acting as if they know better than someone of the opposite sex, as if being of a different sex is the same as being an illiterate toddler.

@@lauraroeleveld4053 That's the same energy as going up to a person smoking a cigarette and telling them it can give them cancer. Well, duh... we're not doing it because we think it's safe or healthy. We know it's unsafe, MOM.

I was raised with Santa being real. When I grew up it was just another lie I raised with, and I became bitter about it (I was raised in a cult). I think the way you played it is such a wonderful way. You don't lie to your kids, but you still provide a magical experience. And when they get enough evidence to come to a conclusion, they'll feel clever and accomplished. You sound like an amazing parent.

Yeah my parents definitely didn't do the whole Santa lie right. As I believed it up until I was 16. Like. They didn't even try to spin it as anything different, just lied about him being real until one day dropping the bomb with "So I know you guys know Santa isn't real," and i just dumbly nodded yes, but was crushed and embarrassed.

I was briefly raised with Santa being played as being real, the illusion which was dispelled very early when my brother pulled my grandad's fake beard off.

right?? especially with zombies its like, ok why stop there. Get mad at them for existing, get mad at books with dragons or witches or sci fi stuff or aliens etc. Its fantasy and entertainment, its supposed to be fun to watch/read not realistic

I think a zombie apocalypse managing to wipe out humanity is more unrealistic because (especially if the story takes place in modern America) humans have the means to stop them near the beginning of the rising action, assuming them being rotting corpses didn't wipe them out That being said, fiction would be boring if everything was realistic and a zombie story where the zombies can't be a serious threat wouldn't be very entertaining

@@violetnocte yeah, that’s my point. the people that I’m talking about don’t actually want “realism.” They want “edgy, dark depressing story with a sad ending.” That’s what they *think* that realism means.

I actually got letter grades taken off of my stories in my college creative writing class because "disabled people don't have happy endings." Weirdest experience ever and that professor did it to anyone who even had the slightest hint of a happy ending for their stories.

@@ThePlatypusPrincess 1. That's ableist as fuck and yes disabled people *can* be happy 2. This doesn't matter to fiction anyway since it could be a fantasy and even if someone thinks real disabled people are incapable of happiness, they can still write happy fictional disabled characters 3. It's a creative writing class, that means people are supposed to express themselves through writing. If that means writing a happy ending, your pessimistic, debbie downer teacher should accept that.

perfect comparison !!!

id say it would be more accurate to say that the teacher didnt need to tell the kid he failed as it would already be obvious to them

I kinda agreed with his argument

I think he's right, but I think he used the stupidest example possible. A better example might be a woman feeling the need to insert herself in childcare situations where only the father is present, or shooing men out of the kitchen while cooking. Being condescending is unisex, a woman doing so in a gendered context might as well be called womansplaining.

​@@mattdombrowski8435I don't think that's not true, but you used a example that's valid, he's only listed things he probably did that were stupid and were called out on it, he just wanted to be stupid without being recognized by it

I’d argue screaming could be a reaction too, tho you won’t just randomly react like that. I think that only happens if you get shit scared. Or, in some cases, when you lose a close loved one, tho idk if that would still sorta fall under crying

i mean, depends on the screaming and how it happens etc.

@@astridmaack4516 Well, yeah, but that wouldn't be the type of screaming that's being discussed in this sense. I don't think anyone was talking about people screaming in an uncontrollable emotional reaction as an example of when it's okay to discipline someone for doing it at work, just when it's done out of anger that could have been controlled.

You heard of meltdowns? And I don’t mean “temper tantrums” I mean genuine overstimulation meltdowns. People have that. Mostly the only thing you can do is scream

@@pemanilnoob I usually hear crying is what you do during an emotional breakdown. But either way, you don’t scream at people for no reason. If you’re in a bad headspace, you leave the room so you don’t inconvenience others or accidentally act like a douche and scream at others

Good on you for listening and growing!

I will repeat a comment I made on another thread. Ahem. A warning for people who are sensitive to blood and gore, for example, is reasonable. A warning so that people can go to a "safe space" and not hear facts or opinions they do not like is not.

@@PvblivsAelivs Eh normally people saying "ugh people need trigger warnings for facts and logic" nowadays usually follow it up with either extremely incorrect/outdated/cherry picked facts or some n*zi/transphobic/homophobic shit. Cant really get mad at people who don't have the time/ energy to refute all the bad shit or want to work to keep that shit from being normalized. Not saying you do that just giving the common example.

@@The_BHK_Mask Well, calling people n--i or XYZ-phobic is so overused as to be equally dishonest (at a minimum.) But it highlights my point. People are hiding from ideas they don't agree with. And it leads, very quickly, to the name-calling of the people they don't listen to. You _should_ hear ideas you don't agree with. You can continue not to agree. But you should not have those ideas turned into straw-men by filtering them through your echo chamber. And the current use of "trigger warnings" facilitates just that. And, yes, I can fault people who want to silence dissent under the guise of calling it various pejoratives to ensure it "doesn't get normalized." It is the _modus operandi_ of every totalitarian. Ideas that go against what "Dear Leader" tells are any pejorative he can use to get you not to listen.

@@PvblivsAelivs People that like to quote "trigger warnings facilitate not listening to our facts!" are the people that'll ignore scientific fact to parrot the same uneducated 1960's era bullshit and still pretend their right, even when that information hasn't been accurate for 20+ years. Do be silent, you're better that way.

How in the world did they think yelling at you was gonna help? Some people...

I know it sounds weird, but I wish I could find you and hug you.

I don't understand why anyone yells at somebody who's crying to stop in any situation. Like, being yelled at is upsetting, if you're already crying what is being more upset gonna do?

I'm so Sorry for you Hope you have a better workplace now or at least don't see the person regularly

(TW child abuse by parents, deceased sibling) Last night my partner told me about a time where their older brother (now deceased) was mad at them and told them that he deleted their save file in a game they had spend many many hours on, causing them to burst into tears because they were a child (and undiagnosed ADHD/autistic, the game was very important to them because it was one of their hyperfixations) and they couldn't stop crying even when he admitted he lied and the saves were fine. But their dad decided it was a good idea to yell at them for crying, which you know doesn't work, and made them cry more and more until they were grounded for 6 weeks for...crying, as a child. They said they were angry about it and went upstairs to find a pillow to punch, but when they lifted their brother's pillow they found a knife and immediately stopped crying and calmed down because they were like "you know what? My problem isn't that important. There are bigger things to worry about." (Idk what was up with the knife, they never asked their brother and he drowned a few years back. But it was probably to do with their mum being abusive due to untreated depression and anger issues, and was a defense/PTSD thing. Funny enough, their mum is now the good parent who has spent over a decade consistently getting therapy and taking meds that she never wants to stop in case she goes back to old behaviours. Their dad on the other hand is still pretty shitty. Their parents have been divorced since a couple years before the brother died. The mum put in a lot of work to change her behaviour, their dad has not. They live with their mum.)

What does “SA” mean?

@@guyfromusaa9164 S*xually Assaulted.

@@Pikaman20008 Alright thanks

I think a good idea is what I've seen quite a few AO3 writers do of adding something as a warning if directly asked, like if someone replies "I I got triggered by the mention of towels (random example) could you warn that please" you add that warning, while it only really works for smaller creators it's a pretty good work around from what I've seen.

Oh I've seen that comic, it is just several pages, but it is so good. It was not only about how fried eggs became a trigger for her. It was mostly about how she denied being r*ped to herself. She didn't look like a victim, she didn't behave like a victim, she almost couldn't comprehend it happened. Her mind was so frozen, she behaved like everything was fine. But the trauma was there, and after that she came a long way to deal with it. I might be retelling it weirdly, but I read it when I was like 16 years ago and it is engraved in my mind, it tought me so much in such a short time

I feel like that mentality usually applies to people who have trauma over very niche things. Like if someone has trauma regarding animal noises they can’t expect everyone to suddenly TW whenever someone is meowing or barking in text or video. Otherwise , if it’s a common thing then yes there should be some warning attached

Yeah not my problem boo

The "get therapy" thing seems dumb too. A lot of times therapy involves actively digging up and processing trauma and results in people at least temporarily being *more* sensitive to being surprise exposed to triggering content.

This. I have PTSD, I'm in trauma therapy, at this particularly delicate time in my healing I could do with the kindness of trigger warnings more than ever. I'm doing everything I can, but sometimes when you're going through therapy you're at your most vulnerable. Yes we are responsible for our own self regulating, but part of that is actively avoiding triggers. TW makes that a lot easier.

Then there is the fact that therapy can be very expensive, not everyone can afford it, let alone find good therapy near them.

I have ADHD-PI and Autism. But I love to read and sometimes listening.

Yes, I totally agree! Where I live, there is a specific program that offers free audiobooks equipment so people with difficulties reading like the ones you mentioned, as well as low vision and blindness, etc. This is still reading, but a different way of doing so. Many people don't have time to sit down and read but still want to read and learn. My mom used to travel an hour and half each way to work. She was able to listen to audio books those 3 hours a day that she wasn't able to physically read. Saying that audiobooks isn't reading, is like telling a blind person, reading braille isn't the same either.

Yes!! I also would point out, what is reading a book? If you cook all the recipes in a cookbook, did you read it? If you're blind and read a book in braille, did you read it? If you use a screen reader while reading visually, did you read? Where is the cutoff? Let's not gatekeep books. We should celebrate reading in all forms!

My brother is also adhd and dyslexic, and he mostly just listens to audiobooks. Of course, because of the adhd, he sometimes can't really focus long enough to get very far, but that's something most people have to deal with, especially with tiktok and short firm content taking over. My other brother is neurotypical (at least a far as i know) but he still listens to audiobook because... i don't actually know, but it's how he experienced the Percy Jackson books, which are my childhood. All three of us watched the Disney+ series together and loved it, me and bro#2 for being book accurate while giving us scenes we never knew we needed, and bro#1 because it's a good show (PJO was one of the ones he doesn't have the attention span for). I listen to audiobooks because I'm adhd and would never make it through them otherwise (specifically lotr and les mis), or because I'm doing chores and don't want to listen to music or a podcast. Tl;dr: audiobooks are great, even if they aren't the same.

Honestly I seriously don't get what's wrong with that guy specifically the not turning the power off Do they not realise how dangerous that is? My grandfather died and "left"4 children and my grandma alone because of this The guy is really the reason that people going into the murder basement in horror movies seem realistic

I mean that's not really how it's used tho

​@@animeloveer97 That's literally how it was used in the unpopular opinion.

I mean, I don't understand why women try to warn them at this point. Better women than I could be.

"I did something stupid and she told me it was stupid, but I already knew it was stupid so she's stupid" is how I read that unpopular opinion.

Unfortunately this stopped working, at least in the case of instagram, I've seen a lot of weird and terrible people on instagram 😭 But at least it is still true for tumblr and youtube

This is also why I think 4chan deserves to exist, though somehow some of them leaked onto pinterest?

Sorry to burst your bubble but they are already here and everywhere, just thank the algorithm for not sending you to those pits

Interesting logic. I had the same opinion of EVE online in that kept the grievers and extreme PvPers off other games. Nope, they were on other games too.

@@grymns I mean, yeah, they are, but on some sites they are much more commonly encountered than others

LMAO

but it dosent work the first time so he ACTUALLY does it to show them hes serious

*Walks into the classroom like he's doing an intro*

@@yosefzanerva806 with a cart full of plushies

@@marylambkin Or with his Karen Wig

To be completely fair, I think they were saying how much they think the movie series sucks as that is the thing they ask if people still like. Doesn't make their points about the movies any less wrong though.

Pretty sure he was just trying to talk about the movies.

​@@zabbee2323 "should avoid triggers on their own" LMAO they got some cool takes Risking getting triggered and spiral into complete horrors because some dude cant spend 10 seconds putting a TW

@@dezgasting “the real world doesn’t have trigger warnings🥴” dumbasses. literally takes a couple seconds to be a decent human, and people refuse to. pathetic lmfao

​@@zabbee2323 ah yes, let me use my clairvoyance to see if this post will bring up past trauma. Just give me a sec

@@LittleGoblinBoi well, no one is asking anyone to put a trigger warning before everything, just content that may be found disturbing, for example self harm, abuse, murder, suicide etc.

@@shinybearevidra yes I know I was exaggerating. More than anything, I wanted to mention the fact that while you should be careful yourself, there is some stuff that you really cannot see coming without a tw. Obviously not saying to put one at the beginning of every sentence lol, but it can't be taken to the other extreme and only used once in a blue moon either.

wow, what was the runner up?

@@cediviannareeda4305 No idea! I just know that everyone pretty much agreed that turning up to a divorce party in a wedding dress was *_exceedingly_* bad taste 😄

did you attend/dress up?

@@_lexi Yeah, but my bad taste outfit didn't come close to a wedding dress. Should'a' gone dressed up like her ex...

im confused how people think talking to a random dude for 30 minutes about your problems somehow removes your trauma of seeing your whole family brutally tortured, skinned alive, and eyes getting gouged out.

@@Internetgribbler A trained professional who knows how the brain works isn’t a “random dude.” I should clarify I am in favor of therapy, I’m just saying it takes time.

@@EndertheDragon0922 random dude kinda sounds better, but i understand why its wrong, but, technically still a random dude. (a random dude that is specially trained to help you with mental problems, and then giving you another mental problem, when you realize that you now have to pay a hefty therapy bill)

@@Internetgribbler I hate that therapy- and all medical stuff, for that matter- is so expensive. We _need_ that stuff. It’s not a luxury. So many people have issues but will never get help because they don’t believe it’s worth the cost, or they straight up cannot afford it. It’s a disaster.

@@EndertheDragon0922 many of those problems involve money, so most that do have it, most likely dont need it

Like ten months before they tried to ban it, they tweeted "True love is sharing passwords" or something similar. They screwed themselves over.

You wouldn't download a car you wouldn't steal a purse

@@skootergirl22 You wouldn't share a dvd

Also they already made us pay extra so we could view Netflix on multiple devices they shouldn't be able to force us to be at the same place. Hopefully the whole thing backfires

@@skootergirl22 That one always made me laugh, I absolutely would download a car. If my "theft" ends up with both the "victim" and myself with whatever I'm stealing, I'm gonna steal it.

But then you just lose the money you were making.

@@shadenox8164 When the money you're making is less than the money you're spending... You're not actually making any money.

Except, fixing problems outranks keeping you alive in extreme cases.

My brain seems to only create problems

The human brain is not meant for anything, it's just that by accident it tends to help keep you alive But then you have people whose brains tell them it's unfair to be told "you might die if you do electrical work with the power on"

Neither, really. It makes you do behaviour that used to keep us alive, back when humanity first evolved, but those behaviours can (and often do) hinder us today. Example: Back then taking every opportunity to eat lots of protein, carbohydrates and sugar was a good thing, since people were very physically active and could get a lot of use out of it, plus there was never so much that it caused more problems than advantages. Today, indulging in that behaviour will make you eat too many burgers and sweets and make you fat.

yeah that, but a life without happiness is not a life worth living

yepp. i hate the "this is your last day of freedom" and "same dick forever" (just gross imo..) jokes. being married isnt being in a cage, youre still free, youre just not single and cant date/sleep with other people without consequences. like you said, if people view marriage as no longer being free and a punishment of sorts, DONT GET MARRIED 😭😭😭😭😭 just be committed to someone as long as you want i guess (marriage is just dating with extra steps anyways) ??? or sleep around if thats your thing???

Agree. Also, there are so many other things you can do, it's not like that's the only thing you could think of to do. Yesterday I saw a group of guys and on came up to me and said ghey are having his bachelor party because he is getting married and asked if I wanted a baby pacifier candy. They made the theme of the party as his last day of being a baby and that he's gonna be grown up once he's married. I really liked that idea because it is about growing through marriage and not being restricted via marriage. It is just a lot more positive imo.

I don't agree. While it can be that way, it can also be harmless fun. I don't think strippers are cheating anymore than porn is. As long as your partner is okay with it, just go out and have some dumb fun.

@@Darkvalentine333 I didn't say it was cheating. And of course they can communicate with their partner and go to strip clubs, whatever. But strippers at a bachelor/bachelorette party specifically is a thing because of the old idea that once you're married, you're going to be forced to look at/be with only one person for the rest of your life, so you'd better have fun while you still can. That idea is what's gross to me, not the strippers. And maybe not all people who would want strippers at a bachelor(ette) party feel that way, but when a practice is based in such a toxic idea, it kind of feels too tainted to me. Like, go to a strip club on your honeymoon or something if you're both chill with it. Idk just really hate people acting like marriage is doom, even as a joke. It's the 21st century. Feels like we should have evolved beyond that by now.

The “last night of freedom” thing is so weird cause like, weren’t you guys dating? Could you just do whatever you wanted and you only have to be committed to someone once it’s on paper?

It also bothers me that crying is for many people an entierly uncontrollable thing that just happens, while yelling at someone definitely isn’t.

@@MissCaraMint exactly.

​​@@MissCaraMints someone who had multiple anxiety attacks (in school where they took everything as my fault of course) , which included crying, I can say that it's completely uncontrollable and people should be MORE understanding of someone crying

​@@j3tus15 I don't normally cry in public. I built a tough skin to not appear weak to others after being bullied. But I rememeber when one time I naturally started to cry as a response. We were having a class meeting with only us students. And I was either trying to tell others to stop yelling or the teacher would've came back and end the meeting due to the chaos. Or I was simply trying to add my input on some issues with some teacher. This girl out of nowhere blurted at me to shut up and that nobody cared about what I needed to say. As a neurodivergent girl I naturally started to cry. I felt violated. I wasn't trying to do anything wrong. I didn't want to be the bad girl. But she had to yell at me. And that was seen as a violation of my boundaries. Because I hate when people scream at me. Expecially if I make a genuine mistake or unknowingly. And even more when I'm the first one to admit I fucked up. You don't need to make the message any clearer. It's just going to trigger me to cry more and spiral into horrible thoughts I wouldn't act upon but still.

@@j3tus15 I don’t even have axiety. I just have small tear ducts, so anny ammount of eye watering just immedietly spills over. Even from being irritated by the wind.

I can relate, I can't even count how many times I got detention for farting in class when I was in middle school

My ex was abusive, He would come to my work wait for my lunch break then scream at me. One day was really bad and I started crying. When my lunch was over I went back into work still visibly crying, my manager said that I need to smile while I'm working or I'd be fired. Even customers asked if I was okay whereas management only threatened to fire me. Two weeks later I left my awful ex and quit that scummy job. Some people are just atrocious

and its not always emotional- whenever i get allergies my eyes always water

​@@CrystalLynn1988christ that sounds awful. did they not even hear your ex screaming at you?

​@@carlycarmine3858that's so stupid. i have been told to go to the bathroom to fart in the past and it never made sense, considering it takes longer than just doing it there also the stigma about it is kinda stupid considering it's just a normal bodily function

I would apreciate if more people did stuff like you, that is really useful service

Thank you so much for doing this.

Seriously thank you for doing that, it helps so much!

you're doing an angel's work, rather fittingly

You are absolutely amazing, thank you

Totally with you there. My best friend is a dude. We've known each other since we were kids and see each other as siblings. We both have Xmas, birthdays, mother's days presents for each other's family, etc. My dad has even introduced him as his son a few times for practicality, and so on. I would never give him up just because my boyfriend/husband felt insecure.

I agree. And what about people who are bisexual? Are they just not supposed to have a best friend? It's silly.

The people who complain about trigger warnings aren't complaining about flashing light warnings. As another commenter said, it's bad when there are warnings about men, or makeup, i forget the other thing. Trigger warnings have evolved into something it was never supposed to be, now people are demanding warning for things as crazy and obscure as the color yellow.

@@LeCroissant-wn7qi Yes, there are people out there who make arbitrary trigger warnings (eg TW// black person), but I've never seen random colors needing trigger warnings. However, I HAVE seen trigger warnings for flashing colors.

I can understand trigger warnings for things like flashing lights or for graphic depictions of violence against people. But they should be used more sparingly so that a warning actually means something. Some theater put a trigger warning for drug use (among other things) on a performance of Romeo and Juliet. Does drinking a fictional potion that mimics death count as drug use, especially the type of drug use that needs a trigger warning? No, I think we can save that warning for something more like Trainspotting, if you believe a drug use trigger warning is needed at all. I have sympathy for someone in the middle of recovery from drug addiction and can understand why they might want to avoid watching movies like Trainspotting, but I think reading the description is enough information for someone to base their decision on. I don't think trigger warnings are necessary for most university classes either. If you're in a university class, you should expect challenging topics to be discussed at some point for a lot of different disciplines, especially literature, art, history, psychology and so on. We should be putting equal emphasis on learning skills to cope with trauma and practicing resiliency. I think an understanding of how exposure therapy works would be a lot more helpful for people who have experienced trauma and don't want to live in fear or dread of being exposed to their trigger unexpectedly.

The problem is that they are useless, only good TW Is for epilepsy warnings. I encourage you to read any study on TW, theres very clear explanation on how not only do they not work, but they are likely to increase trauma reaction, fear and anxiety 🙀

Yes. Agreed we need to take responsibility and look into what we are about to read or watch. Not that TW can’t be used, but before they become so common that the normalcy makes it hard to even see what warning there is that may apply to use. Neil Gaiman has a book called Trigger Warning and as a person who has has EVER type of not allowed word happen to her…. It made sense to me. After my initial anger. We just heal and become survivors other than victims. For our sake.❤

or they're a manager at some minimum wage job and want their workers to be emotionless robots

We need to bring this back, thank you so much for reminding me that this exists.

I love that. There are plenty of things people just don't like to see, but aren't actual triggers for the vast majority of people.

Squick predates trigger warnings as they're currently being used in fandom (not trigger warnings as a concept, though). Their original purpose was to replace words like "gross" or "disgusting" (which have negative connotations and carry a value judgment with them, e.g. this thing is disgusting, therefore the person who made it/the people who like it are disgusting too) with a value-neutral word. Dark/darkfic is a content warning that fills a similar niche in that it warns for content that a lot of people find upsetting and might want to avoid. I also remember squickfests being a thing, fanfiction events where people would try to write the grossest thing they could think of and a panel of judges with strong stomachs (usually the organisers) would try to determine the winner and runners-up. Good times.

Totally agree to bring that back. As someone who suffered from PTSD and got actually triggered by things, I hate it when people use the word to describe something that is making them feel uncomfortable. For me personal trigger warnings don't work, because I have sensory triggers, not something that I read about. In general most trigger warnings are directed at people who only feel uncomfortable about certain topics. I don't want to say that there aren't people who actually feel triggered, but when a written word alone triggers something then that person needs professional help. Not in a mocking way. I needed that help to get over my own triggers, but at least 99% of people who I met in psychiatric facilities suffering from PTSD had sensory triggers. And triggers are as individual as people. For me it is a certain smell, for someone else I know it is the smell, and texture of jello. No situation is like the other. Trigger warning: You experience life.

Squicks. Thats suxh a fun word to say.

The thing about wolves and Skippy reminds me of how there were zoo penguins who refused to eat the lower quality fish and spat them back at their keepers or something. Also once we got to go on a "behind-the-scenes" tour and throw down food to some chimps from a safe distance and one of the chimps was not only hilariously demanding but would also throw away any food he disliked.

I think a lot of people also still believe that animals are ripped from the wild and dropped into cages. When in reality, zoo parks (at least the reputable ones) are more like foster homes for captive born, or sick animals that can't survive in the wild. They actually give those animals a chance at living a long, healthy life. And of course, there are still some subpar facilities out there, but I think we've made it past the era where that was the default in the world of animal care.

​@@neonbat666a lot of zoos also trade animals too instead of buying them, so instead of buying them from a potentially sketchy market a zoo in California can go to a zoo in France and go hello let's trade animals of equal measure. That can seem weird to outsiders, but it can be particularly beneficial for breeding programs so that the genetic lines can be more diversified, and any offspring that may get released into the wild then can help diversify the natural population gene pool. A lot of animals can also be rescues a mentioned, be them from zoos and wildlife centres that are going bankrupt, illegally kept animals, circuses, the animals will often be taken to a zoo to be cared for and potentially rereleased! You're definitely right about some zoos being not being very ethical and unfortunately those are the ones people try to hold up as proof that all zoos are evil.

It varies from zoo to zoo but most zoos are there to protect animals and the people working there are often massive animal lovers and vets.

it's cool when there is good zoos, but i went to a refuge that took animals from zoo, and one of them was a lion that was supposed to be kille because he couldn't roar and there was a tiger that was too old and was also supposed to be kille :(

I do the "putting clothes on right after bathing" thing only because I don't have the patience to be naked outside of water long enough to towel dry. Either because I stayed in the bath too long and am freezing when I leave, or because I made the water too hot and it sapped my energy to the point of laziness.

Wait what? That's a great feeling, I always do that on purpose.

@@feiradragon7915 There's a perfect solution for that problem, a bath robe! It's basically a wearable towel. Then you can bundle up in it on the couch while you dry and either warm up or gather some energy before getting dressed.

Vehemently. I should remember that word for future sound-cool-ness.

I think that guy must live in a hot & dry climate, anywhere temperate to cold you'd catch pneumonia doing that every day x)

Ah, the good old COD lobbies

@@shadowthedemonicwolf4410 Yeah, or the site called; show no mercy..

​@@einienj3281or dhmis

@@RulerOfArniskad 😩🥲

@@RulerOfArniskad i knew a Guy who watched it thinking it was a wholesome kids series💀 (i think the person deleated their comment but it was dhmis)

Fr tbh it’s kind of annoying and for some terrifying

And also telling you what the triggering content is, people that just do quick as hell ones with just "TW" annoy me to my core

And in the case of bright flashing lights, severe gore or other things that might leave someone in a panic attack/epileptic fit/severely unwell for a long period of time, that warning can be useful.

Or when the warning is just "disturbing content," like what kind of disturbing content? Why even have a warning if you ain't gonna tell us.

Yeah, it’s not super hard to do. I know some of Markiplier’s videos have trigger warnings for flashing lights and it’s nice to see that.

I listen to books at work. I remember shit better when hearing it, and I read so slowly It frustrates me. I am Engadget because my work allows it. So I disagree with the guy, other than about the sheer semantics.

Mansplaining is a concious thing, where you explain something that someone already knows because you think they wouldn't be smart enough to understand it. Explaining physics (in basic terms) to a renound female astrophysicist for example. If that's not what you're doing, then you're not actually mansplaining, you're just sharing information with people. And some times that can be a platonic love language and a very sweet thing to do, to share something that makes you smile with others in the hopes they smile too. I hope you get to keep sharing the things you love with people who like to listen. You deserve to have that happiness and care.

People on the spectrum are constantly pressured to behave in more socially acceptable fashion which is where these responses may come from. It's sad that neurotypical and neurodivergent folks often end up misunderstanding each other. However, it is easy to come off as ableist to an autistic person by assuming some bad intentions on their part when there are none.

Oh me too

​@@pineapplefrostyfruits9225 It usually about explaining things to women because as a man you believe women are too dumb to figure things out. That was the original meaning.

Autismsplaining

I like to watch animal documentaries/educative in biology and other stuff on yt. I appreciate if they put a little trigger warning of arachnophobia and trypophobia. Sometimes there are coments like "spiders at time" and I always like them because I can jump that part and still enjoy the video. If not, it can cause an anxiety attack as I have another issues and it mixes

In some cases, I think it would be awesome if TWs could be turned off, or if they could be found under a specific tab or something, in order to avoid seeing them. Really, I do see the necessity for them, especially for people who might suffer from being exposed to the subject matter. But in some cases, TWs have all but spoiled entire stories for me.

Exactly, I was like "but that's not what tw's are" when he was reading that one out.

@@alexalogan8461 I mean sure, but if it means someone avoiding ptsd I don't really care if it ruins the story for me. Your suggestion isn't a bad idea, but something to revisit when tw's are the norm imo.

@@alexalogan8461 Vague trigger warnings should solve that issue, right? "Depictions of violence" can be anything, is it going to be a murder? An accident? Hom^cide? Gen^cide? (This comment might never make it out into the wild, oh dear.) You won't know until you watch the movie, but it won't take you entirely off guard. I'm a writer in an area that requires TWs so I often struggle with this myself, since I don't want to spoil the experience. But at the end of the day, safety of others is more important, so being vague where you can while being sure to go "hey this contains vivid depictions of s^icide or r^pe (since those are bound to be the most serious)" when needed is the best way to go about it. Honestly, it's a super interesting topic that I ponder on a lot. Vague TWs that cover wide fields yet can have specifics easily provided via a Google search or information on the DVD/streaming service summary page (which kind of already exists in the form of standard ratings) are the best solution for movies in my opinion.

So do people in Canada just not have GSP or what? A GSP 100% collects your location data.

Oh no- gotta finish Breaking Bad before the government bans Netflix or something-

@@Maxwell_Twist I think it only applies to deliberate tracking algorithms

@@Maxwell_Twist GPS*

Legit

The thing is we understand it’s stupid and dangerous, but we think it’s fun. So we don’t need someone to educate us on why not to do it, we think it’s worth it

@@HelmetmanTheSwede Kay, and I'm still gonna tell you it's stupid so when the EMT's come around I'm not arrested for negligence.

@@HelmetmanTheSwede There was one incident were I was faulted for something bad happening (denatured alcohol+allready burning fire) after telling and then going because the stupid/hurt person said I should have tried more to stop him … you can’t win them all … he and I are not friends anymore. Personally I just don’t want to witness another fatal accident especially if I care about the people involved. But I accept that most should know so if I don’t care about the people about to do something stupid (and nobodyelse could get hurt) I will say nothing and just go.

@@HelmetmanTheSwede Buddy why you gotta put urself at risk like that?

yeah

Sometimes. Sometimes people just don't want it to be true or depend on it to support an agenda from which they derive their self-worth.

@@dmgroberts5471 I like how you can apply that to pretty much any point in the political spectrum.

@@bea7823 Well, no single area of that spectrum holds the monopoly on fallacious reasoning. I personally lean left, but I place a much greater value on pure objectivity than my own politics. If you go far enough left, you'll eventually bump into people who support North Korea, which frankly doesn't gel with my reading of Marx.

@@dmgroberts5471 What leftist sees the human rights violations of north korea and go. "YUP. Totally support this🙃"?

I agree. I put the lid down. I also have a stupid cat that doesn't check before trying to jump up on the toilet seat to reach the sink. The other cat is not so foolish in his choices.

@@Lukkaboc I know a cat that occasionally wants a look into the toilet. No idea why. But she has her ways of telling us humans to open doors and such for her, and then she does it for the toilet (can get rather adamant about it), just to look into it for a second or two and then moves on.

Yeah saying you shouldnt have trigger warnings is like saying you shouldnt have content warnings on movies or video games "I shouldnt have to tell you this game is 18+ you should just get older"

@@thatcraftingkid360 basically. The point still stands that some TW's are really. Really. REALLY. Stupid, I mean ones for like food etc etc.

Seriously, trigger warnings aren't censorship at all, or "not showing something". It's still saying/showing the thing, but simply letting people know if it's something emotionally damaging for them, they might be better off choosing to skip it. It's still on the viewer whether or not they watch it. Nothing's being censored or omitted.

Tolerance leads to acceptance, the more we gatekeep trigger warnings the better it remains for everyone.. lest we forget about how tolerant we all were with Gay people.. now look what happen

@@errornull390 - Tolerance leads to acceptance. At least it's a good first step most times. The world could do with more of both. Not much need to gatekeep trigger warnings. It's up to a content creator what parts of their content might bother people and what warnings they wish to give.

My mom did record player stories. We weren't allowed on any media at all, but she did have quite a few vinyls.

Neat

And this is why folklore is so interesting

These are interesting bluebell facts! Thank you!

169 nice

Another fun plant fact about a different plant: Venus Flytraps can count, that's how they determine if the thing in their mouth is a bug or a drop of water. Venus Flytraps are the fastest plants on earth, as they can close their mouths quickly.

That kid is definitely going places. It's got charisma.

My mother told me about Santa when I was six because she didn't want me to learn it from a child at school, being mocked or whatever. She was very gentle but I still cried half an hour in her arm 😅

Am I in the minority for not being upset that about finding out Santa didn't exist? Tbf, I never really believed as I didn't think it was possible, but I always liked to pretend cause I reasoned that it wasn't IMpossible either, plus it was comforting to imagine. Funny enough, I had literally the exact same opinion about the existence of God.

@@thomascorbett709 Ironically enough, people are calling people who believe in Santa childish.... yet believing in God is a-okay. Literally the same thing. If you're good all year, Santa will bring you presents. If you're good all your life, God will reward you with Heaven. The only game changer, Santa doesn't threaten you with Hell to make you obey him. You just get coal and a chance next year for the Nice list. Lol

​@@chatboulon743Santa is a better person than God confirmed ^-^

Some would proudly be proclaiming how they're going to go out and play with the zombies because they refuse to live in fear, and that any safety tips that they may have been told on how to defend themselves from the zombies are just part of an elaborate conspiracy to control the sheeple.

Tbh, I really did not mind when my parents told me, because I enjoyed the play. Really liked joining into the secrecy.

Dating a Cthulhu-esk horror sounds cool af

Two kinda of people lmao

There's this book called Awoken...

​@@shatteredlazuli8092 have you've ever played sucker for love

As an alloromantic person I can in fact confirm that romance is like that. It's even less comprehensible to the human mind than normal platonic or familial relationships. There is no consensus on how dates work besides "there might be kissing at some point". I've heard tell of folks who accidentally went on dates with/got into romantic relationships with people before, and it has the same energy as accidentally signing up for a psyche internship at Arkham Sanitarium.

Funny enough just last week i couldn't dry off after a shower because it was 90°f+ , there wasn't good air circulation, and it was really humid. Perfect storm for an autistic meltdown.

@@LeCroissant-wn7qi Oh yeah. I lived for years in the Waikato region of New Zealand - a humid shithole (though not as humid as the far north like Whangarei etc) and I'd be on the edge of meltdown most of the summer due to the constant extreme discomfort. Actually, weather's a major trigger for me - too muggy, too cold, too windy (being buffetted and pushed around, hair and clothes being ripped at by the wind)

I think the opposite. Putting a wet shirt on a dry body would make me go insane

On second thought, they’re both bad.

@@Aroacerat My flesh is crawling just thinking of either option. And I have experienced both.

This is exactly what Trigger warnings should be used for. The problem is people abuse the trigger warning system as a way to censor something they don’t agree with. It really dilutes the seriousness of a trigger/content warning.

​@@Wolfie54545 Exactly

And trigger warnings for rapid flashing lights for epileptics are important too. Some may not know, but photosensitivity is not common in who has epilepsy, but each case has a different level of reaction. Myself I gradually lose all my senses and then appear to pass out. Others have a seizure, one guy had a seizure and forgot 6 years from his life, and so on. Trigger warnings are for the psychological and physical safety of others.

I literally never had anyone try to accoodate me, so it never seems fair when im expected to accommodate others. I'm just expected to shut up and conform because I don't matter

@@battlesheep2552 bud i'm sorry about that, me too to a pretty major extent, but this is a rehashed "nothing should get better because i had to suffer therefore everyone else has to" argument. progress and bettering is important.

Or maybe grow some thicker skin. People are far too sensitive and think screaming about their problems is a contest. My BF texted me a picture of his dad's bloody nub of a finger today. Apparently he got it caught in a bandsaw or something and it chopped off the tip, even getting to the bone. Did I enjoy seeing it? No. Am I going to get on my soapbox and cry about how that's going to give me nightmares? Of course not. I simply told him I was going to delete the image, then went on about my day. If this upsets you, I'm sorry. But this is how the world is. There's terrible shit in it and staying protected in your silly little bubble isn't going to make it go away. We all have trauma in our lives. There's just some of us that can power through it instead of letting it control us.

@@chatboulon743 "don't make screaming about your problems a contest" they say as they present us with an experience of theirs that we're supposed to use to minimize our own experiences

​@@chatboulon743 That would require a content warning, not a trigger warning. Two different things. Trigger warnings are usually something that could trigger somebody's past trauma. It's like giving veterans with PTSD a warning before taking them to a shooting range.

Considering the lack of r*pe warnings on many, many movies on streaming services, yeah it’s not very great. I have to google all the horror movies I wanna watch before I click, because they prefer to warn about smoking and some blood

@@chatboulon743 "hey, I know you have a simple solution to help with the problem of 'how the world is' by just letting people know what the topic of discussion is as a heads up, but you can't do that, because that's how the world is". Haha. Delightful. What a magnanimous genius you are. Any other wisdom to depart on us, Socrates? Maybe "water is wet, and you will get wet sometimes, so why bother wearing a raincoat"? "you don't need to bathe because you'll just get dirty again"? Brilliant. A mind for the ages.

I'm excited to see how Gen A grows up. although I do really hope cocomelon doesn't fuck them up too bad.

​@@thisgoddamusernamestoodamnlong imo they'll be just fine. There's been garbage children's entertainment for as long as there's been children's entertainment. Look at any kid's network at any time period. Large swathes of programming is bad, cheap filler that gets inexplicably popular, with the occasional actually good show buried in the lineup. RU-vid now is the same way, just with more stuff vying for attention. If anything, this generation of kids will have more trouble for other reasons, like the systemic degradation of attention span that's been perpetuated by smart phones and social media, but not because of any significant decrease in content quality.

Agreed. I am for example incredibly sad how the word "Proshipper" evolved. Originally it represented a chill mentality in which you respected other peoples' ships and don't mind ships, even if you don't like them. Boundaries were still a part of the term, until people completely outside of those boundaries that ship really disgusting stuff started using that term to shield themselves, which immediately ruined that word's reputation and gave it this new meaning of "Being okay with absolutely any kind of ships, particularly illegal ones" which is so yikes.

I've recently decided to accept the mentality that if we can understand each other, neither of us said something the wrong way. Language is all just a bunch of made up sounds that we use to get the attention of others. I'm far less stressed about having to learn new slang every week to communicate with people online since I decided this. Before that I was starting to wonder if I was just already getting old and losing touch with what it's like to be a teenager at only 28 years old.

They should at least teach people how to use the websites that aggregate TW for movies and books. In argentina TW are absent but I taught about those in my school and they were thankful. I guess it comes with being the country of psychologists

Same! I had to read Where the Red Fern Grows, and the stuff at the end definitely deserved a trigger warning. Seriously, I don't know why my teacher made us read that thing☠️

@@footh1013 one of the books I had to read was about sexual assault, toxic relationships, domestic violence, incest, r*pe, kidr*pe, child molesting, housefire, death and power abuse all in one fricking book. I was 14, how did this book end up on the obliged reading list of a school. I completely understand that the Red Fern also needs trigger warnings! /Gen

The fact that they made us read the fucking n word in "To Kill a Mockingbird" out loud in front of the class definitely is traumatic af, no idea who tf approved that

​@Robin913 what hellish book was that? I don't risk get it to read