Definitely been in a similar situation where messy people deny their disgusting habits and blame it on the introvert that wears headphones and cleans up after themselves
Literally have had this happen where they blame you for messes it’s so stressful 😞 also them eating your stuff and blaming you for eating there’s when you’ve done nothing.
i've had something similar like that happen to me and boy, let me tell you when swoozie said "let me be umproblematic and still be a problem" my soul about left my body. this roomie told lies about me that were blatant. so what i did was i started documenting EVERYTHING and karma came back to her like a raging bitch because i had EVIDENCE of the things she was accusing me of that she was actually doing. my suggestion to everyone is document things, take pictures etc. so when they try to turn it on you shove in their face!
for real. hes trying so hard to not cause drama and then they blame him for all the shit they are doing! Roommates do suck though, its very rare for it to work out
I’m so glad I have 3 roommates that were raised by immigrant parents including myself. The 18 years of home training really paid off; the crib is consistently clean, whoever was closest to the trash took it out, we cleaned after ourselves after we cooked food, if someone needed something, they’d just ask and it was never an issue, we planned twice a month to fully clean the residence and laundry since we were all on the soccer team for our university, plan groceries and plan “missions”. I understood how lucky I got when we went to our other teammates res and saw that it was consistently a mess.
Man I hate that shit where people gang up on you and lie about you just because you want to be left alone. I've had roommates tell so much nonsense to the landlord about me I actually started crying. You KNOW none of that is true, how can you lie so blatantly just because I sit in my room all day and don't wanna watch some stupid reality show nonsense on Netflix with yall?
Same. Regarding the last sentence, I always put so much thought into my recommendations, I compare it to many different things I've enjoyed, I read reviews, and I even think about whether the person I'm recommending it to will like it. Meanwhile my one room mate loves to hype shit up because he's an extrovert so he exaggerates everything, and he will just recommend shit that he randomly saw without putting a single ounce of effort into figuring out if its good or not. I swear every fucking thing he's ever recommended has been hot garbage and such a waste of my time, and yet he gets visibly upset when I say I don't want to watch or play a game that he recommends we watch or play together.
regarding that last sentence, i understand that your room mates are frustrated with you. i wouldnt start lying or talking to a larndlord or anything like that, but your not being a room mate. if you decide to "sit in my room all day" your not being a room mate, you want a fun room mate, if you live with someone you want to actually live with that someone and have fun. so bascilly your room mates want to have fun with you, meybe put some effort into oginizing stuff etc, and all you do is say no and refuse? its like being forced into a marrige and the only thing you and your partner do is get married. sure your married, but you dont go on dates, you dont have sex, you dont want to have children, all you have is a piece of paper saying that your married but you refuse to do anything. if your going to be stuck with this person at least led it be a fun person who you can have a good time with, if your stuck with them lets at least have fun. its not always about what you like or what they like but just doing things together, so whats its a shitty show, your not going to sit next to each other in silence the entire time, your going to talk, make jokes, just spend some time together. i could also sit in my room and only eat my own food, but yet i still go and have house food nights together even though i might like their cooking less, i still watch shows with them even if its only to make fun of how bad the show is.
@@shemshem9998 nah, my dude a room mate is there to help you pay bills most of the time not be your bff. Also, it has nothing to do with being married, that's a piss poor comparison. You sound like you'd be an annoying roommate.
@@shemshem9998 maybe i have Asperger and don't like to socialize? The housing situation forces me to share a house with others but it shouldn't force me to interact with you
In college, I used to have neighbors talk trash about my roommates and I claiming we were really loud, always blasted the TV, and were always causing problems. Thankfully, one of our RAs lived right next door and said he knew the complaints were bs because he almost never heard us. Meanwhile, these same neighbors were dragging furniture and screaming at 2am, would have all their lights out whenever we dropped by to politely ask them to keep it down, and after about a month, it became pretty obvious they just wanted to get us kicked out because they were doing drugs and having sex and didn't want us to report them since it wasn't allowed on campus. We didn't report them (since we didn't have any real proof), but our RA started ignoring all our neighbors' complaints against us when they started making noise complaints when none of us were home, so that was nice
The trash issue drove me nuts when I had roommates too. I would get home from work and immediately take out the trash, then I would hear “I was just about to do that!” Like they couldn’t do it during the 8 hours I was at work.
Wonder how'd it go if you told them "sorry. I'll let you do trash next time okay?" Then have your own separate trash and watch theirs pile up so that they would stop feeling "guilty" 🙂 (excuse the pettiness lol)
I had a horrible roomate in college. She had a bit of an arrogant personality while I was much more of a passive introvert. There's one thing that'll always cheer me up about it: we both had cats, but she was out more often, closed her bedroom door at night to leave her cat outside of it, and rarely cleaned their litter. After all was said and done, her cat liked me more. It would sleep on my bed beside my cat and would often go under my bed as a hiding spot. It may have been a horrible school year, but it gives me evil satisfaction that even though my roomate hated me and called me a horrible roomate, her cat would miss me after I left because I was a better owner.
Having one sister was more than enough to make me realize roommates are NOT a good idea. If you live alone, your money, snacks, shampoo and body wash, and perfume won’t get “borrowed” a lot. 😂😂😂😂😂
I hate how I tell her repeatedly to ask first, and when I use something, there's only enough product to fill the cap. But god forbid I do the same back cause then my parents get involved.
I like the repetition of “all our bills are paid” because I’d have no problems with nobody at that point lol. Shoot, call me Mr clean cause I’d be doing house wife chores on the daily to keep that racket going.
I'm with you. I put a lot of jokes in here, but I do see their point. Them wanting me to contribute to the community and me saying I didn't want to. But also, I was the one who got the ball rolling with the community idea by buying the paper plates but all that aside, WE'RE GETTING $200 A DAY. So the one time I asked shouldn't have had anyone running to the manager the next morning becasueeeee all👏our👏bills👏are👏paid lol
@@swoozieMan I don’t know how you got through that. The puke would have been the nail in the coffin. And after that manager stuff? Fist indeed would have been thrown.
Yeah, the ability to see eye to eye on acceptable cleanliness is probably the single most important trait a roommate can have. Also you'd think 20+ year olds will be able to do dishes/take out trash/etc themselves but having a rotating chore schedule is insanely useful in guaranteeing this happens. Lived with a guy who made us follow a schedule like that and it ended up being amazing.
One of the worst suitemates I had was during my final year of college. I was a senior and one of my suitemates (let's call her Amy) was a sophomore. Long story short, we had countless problems with cleanliness because she always had to be reminded to keep the living room and kitchen clean (i.e. dirty dishes, stained counters, crowded fridge, messy floor, etc.). I talked to Amy over 10 times about it and even had an intervention with her, one of our other suitemates, and a RA. The final straw was when she was leaving her clothes in the washing and drying machines for hours when I needed them. She had the nerve to blame me for taking her clothes out if the dryer and putting them in her room even though I asked her to take them out herself. We ended up yelling over top of each other about what we thought of each other as suitemates that day. At that point, I decided to change rooms even though I only has a month and half left on my lease. That's how bad it was for the entire school year. The only reason I didn't do this earlier is because I was in a learning program in which I had to live in a specific dorm and on a specific floor while taking credits.
Oh the crowded fridge. (and ur RA sitch. Wow) A friend called me last night after watching the vid and said his roommate took up every shelf in the fridge w/ their workout meals and got into an argument when my friend asked for a corner of one shelf to put his stuff. How do u not see ur taking up 8 shelves for urself and get mad even if someone else wanted a full one? Or a corner of one?
This is why I'm glad my roommates and I got things worked out early on. At the begininng of the semester, my jobs were keeping the apartment clean, helping with dishes, helping with apartment decorations, and contributing to cooking and groceries. No one else cleaned the apartment, and I was one of the main contributors to groceries. Snacks you were on your own. I was usually the one who did dishes. And my roommates had to clean their own bathroom and bedroom; that wasn't my problem. They paid for toilet paper, paper towels, laundry detergent, and trash bags. It worked out pretty well. We had some mishaps with dishes from time to time, but we made it work. Because I worked hard to make the apartment look nice and clean, it became the main hangout for our friend group, and sometimes they dropped in for dinner. I was also one of the few people with a car, so I became the designated driver. If they ever wanted to go out to Whataburger at 1am, they paid for my food since they didn't contribute to gas or insurance.
I hate being the designated driver, I'm glad one of our friends is getting a car soon so I'm not the only one driving our friend group around. It's tiring. Sounds like you have a lot on your plate.
@@Oceanlinx The cleaning I don't mind since I do that professionally anyway. And I wasn't the only friend with a car; just the only one in our apartment. One of my roommates was legally blind and the other didn't have a license or a car, so I was the default driver. But this was back in college; I'm married now and share responsibilities with my husband. Household duties and bills are more evenly split, but I still do a lot of cleaning :P
Between college dorms and apartment life for a few years, the drama of roommates makes living by yourself that much more peaceful. Another reason why I'm in NO RUSH to get married because that's your 'forever roommate' ya know before you have kids leading to even MORE roommate drama than ever!
When I lived with my friends at one point, I was so over the drama with them that I said “After this I don’t want to live with another person until my husband…..and I don’t even want him yet”. I lived by myself for 3 years and it was wonderful, now I’m getting married in 2 months and even though it’s hard at times it’s definitely better with your partner compared to friends lol.
During my first semester at a four year. My roommates were Brazilian and they were on the soccer team. Real cool guys but I just have to tell you I had morning classes and I am trying to sleep. It was 3am and three of them were yelling while they were playing COD (I get it because I’m a dude as well) but the simple fact that they didn’t consider the fact I have to get up and go to class was really pissing me off. They were nasty too. Leaving their clothes on the floor, hygiene products left unopened from time to time in the bathroom and they would sleep all day because they took night classes. I learned to share a room and a bed because I have siblings and family members to share with growing up. But those four months were ridiculous 😂
We used to charge a $1 everytime one of the roommates left a mess and put the messy person's infraction money into a pot. At the end of the week/month, the lowest score would win the cash pot.
That sounds nice but it only works with honest people. That setup could easily turn into constant debates about what is or isn't a mess and who actually made. Just one guy could make that a frustrating experience.
That whole "equal contributing to the community" reminds me of going out for dinner with a groups of friends. It ends up with them wanting to split the bills when they spend twice as much as you did.
Part of the college rooming experience was an eye opener to me. Had an introverted roommate that would randomly expose me on group chats and call me messy in the most random of ways without ever bringing it up in person. I could have a long conversation with him about some games and we'd be chilling and then I'd see a text on my phone in the group chat about how the trash can smelled like the worst thing he's ever smelled in his entire life. I would look at him and go, "Yo, I'm really sorry about that. I think there was a banana peel in there and one of those cheap ramen I had this morning. I can clean it out if you want?" But then he'd say it's cool but go back to saying how our place smelled awful in the group chat. I felt so embarrassed I took the trash can into our bathtub and scrubbed the whole thing down even though I didn't smell anything. I bought a febreze spray and kept the kitchen clean as much as I could, but of course.... I'd see texts every now and then about some random complaint. I always thought it was kinda weird how he never approached me in person to work things out. Pretty much stopped hanging out with him after that.
ironically i feel as if your discibing the swoozie with this guy. doesnt socialize, complains about how the trash isnt thrown out, dirty plates, puke on the sink, but probably never ever talked with his room mates about it and just does his own thing instead of working together and fixing it. i had a room mate like that too, i live with 3 others and we had that problem with one person, talked behind our back about how dirty it is and complained about us to others and we wouldnt hear about it untill we heard from someone "you this person said this about you guys, thought you should know" while the 3 of us would talk it out and fixed the problems we had living together in about 3 months time and we lived somewhat in sink.
@@shemshem9998 Yeah, lowkey I did feel bad for Swoozie, but I was wondering if he ever just talked with his room mates about the toilet paper thing instead of hiding them. Like... It felt weird that he would even take the Cheezits out of the pantry. If he wasn't going to eat it without asking first he could've just left it there and came back for it when he got the green light. But that aside I'm glad my room mates for the rest of college were super good at confronting any issues they had. Literally made like 2-3 complaints at the beginning and then never again because we knew what to do and what was not cool.
@@Pkedya2boynah man these dudes just dumb asf. Getting mad at the one roommate who don’t cause no problems over some snacks. If they are getting paid 200 dollars a day what is there to be mad about? And the type of person swoozie is he’d probably buy them some more when he could.
This literally sounds like YOU were the problem. Why tf you gotta learn or hear from others how to pull your own weight. Your parents should've taught you better.
@@RubixKyuub yeah fair point. I ain't calling Swoozie a bad guy here. I love the dude to death and I'm sure he would've done the right thing every time. I was just questioning the decision making part is all. I'm sure he was being considerate of his room mate which is why he didn't open the box.
Those guys aren’t even on a deserted island and still devolve into some Lord of the Flies drama! Good on you Swoozie for staying out of that! Don’t need to be involved with that mess!
I've lived with roommates as well, but they were successful. Certain nuances like taking out the trash annoy us because we didn't set the ground rules. I established the ground rules and we were good from there.
I told a really good friend I absolutely wouldn't room with them in college because I still wanted to be there friend for years to come. Best decision ever lml
I had a roommate that would eat my food all the time. I had to talk to him about it repeatedly. Finally I got fed up and told him the next time he did it i was going to throw his stuff in the trash. It didn't take long before I had to make good on my promise. He was pissed but he never touched my stuff again!
I once had a roommate insist with all seriousness that I should do his dishes too. He noticed we were having a dish problem and came up with a system that cycled who did the dishes every day throughout the week. When I pointed out that I do my dishes immediately after using them and those were all his, he threw a fit. I've had good roommates but 99% of them are trash. Hate that the current economy requires them.
There are people who will be a good friend to you, a good lover to you, a good coworker, a good roommate, but not necessarily all four. You just have to find out as you go, communicate your boundaries and listen to theirs with empathy and mutual respect.
It’s SCARY how accurate this is. The trash, the dishes, the paper plates I bought and barely got to use. The only thing I didnt experience is the toilet paper cuz we all had our own bathrooms 🤦🏽♀️
I swear I had the exact same experience my 2nd year of college. I had learned from my freshmen year to get yourself EVERYTHING. And pretty much the same shit happened. “Oh bro you don’t help with anything” and my response would be “cuz I don’t use anything”. It got so toxic I would just sleep at my friends dorms because my roommates couldn’t understand that I wasn’t about to clean up after them. Not to mention I’m a very clean person and my roommates were borderline savages. Like how is the entire kitchen a mess after you cooked microwave ramen??
what surprises me about swoozie the most is his Self discipline and control over his emotions i’m pretty sure if this happened to any other person they would go crazy
@@rundown132Lay off the devils lettuce, but if he was such such a bad person wouldn’t he be exposed by now? bro has been on youtube for 15 years and hangs out with a bunch of celebrities and models. if he was terrible someone would’ve been made a “SWOOZIE EXPOSED” video
Everyone needs to have roommates as an adult outside of school with bills to pay and unable to afford anything else. It gives you an appreciation for cleanliness, your own place, and dealing with other people that you're stuck with. It's difficult trying to explain this to people who have never been in this situation in adulthood.
The worst part about sharing a pantry/ fridge is, you don't know what's for everyone and what's personal. Often when somethings bought it remains unopen for weeks so the buyer isn't even eating it but gets mad when you finally do.
Nah I feel this cuz I had the whole college dorm experience. Roommate was the worst. Got lectured like 3 times cuz her side of the room looked like her closet exploded. She’d ask me to play my music lower then hers is so loud I couldn’t hear my own. I had to leave the room when she made phone calls but I was legit in the middle of an assignment (and wifi was bad in other places). She complained if I had the door locked and she forgot her key….the lock was cuz she’d often send her MALE FRIENDS to get something for her from our room. I can keep going cuz legit I never went another roommate. Worst experience ever
Lived with some roommates at uni and it was basically the same with them saying I didn't contribute when I only ate outland never went in the kitchen. Got a bit worse to the point they would harass me, bang on my door and take my stuff. Ended up moving out and living with a friend and just one person plus someone I knew was way better 😅
Stuff like this is why I actively refused to room with my best friend when it was time to get our own places, he's my bro but dude can be super unreliable, last thing I'd want to do is get into an argument over rent and ruin a near decade friendship.
Had a flatmate once at uni who threw herself a birthday party in our flat after she'd moved out of uni- I walk in a few days later from being home for a week and there's a whole cake face down on the floor, spilled drinks, cigarette butts and a picture of her face on the wall. I then asked her to clean it up, she said yes but left the next day. Never wanted to punch a picture so much in my life- Cleaning it up took 4 hours out of my day. This video brought back some bad memories lmao. Great video swooze and would love to see some more roomate videos man!
Yeah, I can't do roommates either. I can barely stand living with my siblings. You're such a good story-teller Swoozie. I could feel myself getting angry with your roommates. I was LIVID!
I’da been like “let’s talk in your office when you have some time so I can give the full truth to this story” to the manager cuz I KNOW I ain’t getting shit for STAYING IN MY OWN LANE WHILE LIVING WITH SLOBS
Love ya swooz. Big inspiration for me, plus your videos are entertaining but advice-giving too, so I learn a lot about myself as well lol. ❤ thanks for still making them.
Swoozie hit the nail on the head. This is why I can’t do roommates after my first one even when my friends asked. I’m not a neat freak but I am very clean a lot of people my age (I’m in my 20s and I mean both guys and girls) are NASTY!! That garbage thing would’ve had me moving out ASAP second, it’s always when you remove yourself and don’t wanna contribute to their mess that they get upset, why am I contributing to chaos with non courteous people?? It makes no sense, I’m good.
When I first left home I was so motivate to become an adult. I cleaned, I worked out, I tried hard at work, and tried hard to make new friends in a new city. I even would clean up after my room mate for the first 4 months. Other than the shitload of effort I had to put in everyday, it was pretty nice, until I finally got burnt out and said, fuckit, I'm just going to cleanup after myself. Fast forward a couple months and my roommate actually has the audacity to complain about how disgusting the house is. I tell him that I always clean up after myself, and yet he still accuses me of causing it. Even though I clean everything as soon as I use it, and he is the one that has to "soak" his dishes. He even complained once that I cleaned up and said I deliberately chose to not clean his dishes. Its actually insane. Whatever you do, don't live with people that are addicted to videogames or alcohol.
I am one of those nasty people however I take out all the food and keep my mess on my side of the room. The trash is mostly plastic and stuff that won't attract bugs
I've heard a few stories like this from people in these gamer/streamer house situations. The enemy is the ones that like a clean and functioning environment unless someone is OD nasty lol.
Man I loved living with friends. Best time of my life was living with 5 friends in one house. Parties, Playstation, beer, drugs. There was always something happening. I miss it
Man we're on the same wavelength, there was so much drama in my college apartment about pretty much the same stuff even though I bought all my own stuff, kept it in my room, took out my own trash, its ridiculous! So glad I got my own place now.
Funny how I’m planning on getting an apartment at some point with my soon-to-be roommate and this video decides to grace me with its presence. Thanks Swoozie! 👍😄
YUP. literally same for me with the dishes and the toilet paper. and I was constantly the "friendly problem solver" and then I got tired of it because I couldn't keep holding everyone responsible for their shit while working 2 jobs and going to school and never getting enough sleep, that created my first meltdown in my life, and some good friendships ended. Memories!
I feel that whole dishes thing. Anything I use, is cleaned immediately (or I just use a paper plate or something) and my roommates be piling up dishes making a shitty disgusting pile of dishes that smells, them will be like "Hey it's totally your turn to do the dishes" like nah how about you clean up after yourself and not expect other people to do it for you.
The crazy thing is that dishwashers are actually good, but a lot of people refuse to learn how to use them. I know someone that thinks they have to fully clean the dishes first and then put them in the dishwasher. I know others that just flatout refuse to put their dish in the dishwasher, despite me telling them multiple times to do so. One of them refuses to put the dishes away if he opens the dishwasher when they are clean making it impossible to tell if the dishes are clean or dirty. One loves to use one of those scrubbing brushes instead of just using a sponge, I guess because he needs to have disgusting hands and hates to touch soap or water. Its so easy. You scrape the large food pieces off the dish, give it a quick splash of water and then load it in the dishwasher. Then, whatever you do don't stack the plates right next to each other. There needs to be room for the water to get between the plates to clean them. It doesn't matter if you have to run the dishwasher with it being half full because dishwashers are so much more efficient at using a water than washing by hand. My one room mate literally thinks that dishwashers can't clean food off dishes because he stacks the plates together. Its so incredibly easy to use a dishwasher that nothing should be sitting in the sink. Also. You should always clean your pots and pans right after using them. None of this soaking bullshit. Its always easier to clean pots or pans before they get cold, and you just cooked your food, you don't need to eat it right a way, its hot and it won't magically be ice cold because you waited a couple minutes before eating it. Soaking dishes is the easiest way to get an insect problem, because that's all the food and water they need to reproduce like crazy. Also, who fucking wants to be forced to wash pots or pans before cooking something. Cooking is already inconvenient, why make it even harder to get started. Also if you get good at cooking you'll be able to clean pots and pans while you are waiting for your food to cook, so you'll never get bored waiting around for it to cook, and you won't have to worry about your food getting cold while you clean the pots and pans after cooking.
My worst roommate was this guy named Michael who I call “Michael Myers” to this day because he decided hanging dead roses all throughout the living room was “artsy” when it was just downright creepy and weird. Heck he blocked me from a potential date when he did that because I invited a girl over and the moment she saw the roses, even though she knew they weren’t mine she never talked to me again. The other thing he did was come back at weird times and wore dress shoes that clanked throughout the apartment and woke me up at 3 am daily when I had assignments and shit to do the next day. I talked to him about this being an issue and all he’d do is give me an empty apology and continued to live like that. Safe to say, I was only his roommate for 3 weeks before I went to community living and moved out
I come back to this video too much it’s like a comfort video that I relate to with 4 annoying and selfish siblings and they never get disciplined so they take advantage of the fact that my mom is so nice and keep this childish behavior up it’s so fucking annoying
In college me and my friends got an apartment and I never understood why my parents thought it was a bad idea. 3 months in to living with them I found out real quick lol. Great video
Im a flight attendant and i live at a crashpad, which is like this life BUT thank goodness SO FAR my roommates arent like this! Thnaks for making me laugh :)
This sounds like every roommate I've ever had 😂 things I've had to hide from my roommates: toilet paper, paper towels, money, food, my car keys, pens, batteries, glasses, towels, laundry detergent, dryer sheets, makeup, my video games/gaming equipment, deodorant, shampoo, conditioner... people are wild.
@@doughnut_ritual yup. Thought one of them might be stealing from me, left my laptop recording when I went to go shower, caught them on video stealing cash out of my wallet.
From my own experience, I would HIGHLY recommend that you have a conversation with the person/people you move in with PRIOR to moving in together! In my last apartment, I had one roommate and we lived there for FIVE YEARS! 2 room/2 bath and we made it work. The reason we lived together for so long was because he had a brilliant idea before we even moved in. He requested that we have a sit down to go over a few things. Think of it like a roommate interview because we met at the food court in the mall for about 30 minutes. Poor guy had some AWFUL roommates at the time and he was asking questions like he was living in an animal house. "Do you eat someone's food without permission? Do you mess around on someone else's computer when they aren't around? Do you go into someone else's room without permission?" Of course, I don't do any of those things. We never really butted heads unless we had debates over anime or superhero stuff. Our real issues came from property managers who were lousy at their job. Look, bottom line is that you should define the roles in your apartment/dorm with your roommate(s) at the beginning to avoid things irking you as time goes on. If you have an issue with someone, you should bring it up ASAP instead of letting it fester. However, living on your own is WAY BETTER if you can afford to do so!
Reminds me of how this year it was my turn to take out the trash and I had left at 3am to go to my friends wedding for the weekends and I took out trash outside but forgot the one in the kitchen. When I get back 4 days later there was bugs everywhere and my roommate blamed me for forgetting the trash in the kitchen even though he was there the entire weekend and made snide remarks thanking the other roommate for handling it the day me and that guy got back (even though me and him did that together) He even made sure during the meeting to be vocal about how it was my fault Infront of our other roommates and had a talk with him that night about constantly being shit to me in a house I had been living in and got him a spot in but he somehow still had the energy to make it my fault. Next day he's trying to be cool with me then asked to use my school card to go to the gym and we had been friends for years before he moved in and let me tell you that friendship ended right there!
You have undoubtedly hit the nail on the head with this video. Granted, back then AND now, I've had both good and sh*tty room/housemates. Since pre-Day 1, I have done the following: -Tagged my food, toiletries and HHG (household goods) -Sealed/locked them up -Secretly record every interaction with said individuals -Invested in acoustic sound deafening foam panels -Bought a 2nd fridge for the basement with an intricate lock I'm certain I have more, but it's too much to list on here. Anywhoozies (yes, love your videos I'm taking a page from your book