Self Esteem - Understanding and Improving Low Self Esteem 

Margaret is my favorite human being.

It's amazing how my low self esteem caused me to sabotage my own relationship.....all I can do from here is grow.

Guys, you are the most brilliant coaches and psychotherapists I've seen.

I like Craig and Margaret They compliment each other

Margaret is so wonderful to listen to...

I love listening to you both....when I’m feeling desperate to call or to beg my ex to come back to me, i turn you on that’s when I change my mind. You stress we need to work on ourselves first....how exciting is that! That’s what got us separated in the first place, my low self esteem. That best part is you not only talk about getting g our ex back but also why relationships fail why they failed and how to work on ourselves. Once we work on ourselves we may realize it’s not the ex we want back but to feel better about ourselves. The ex is someone to help fill in the the emptiness. Thank you both for your precious time!

"God loves me Adores me Watches over me You are FOR me(can you believe it 😍) Grace loves me and it’s not what I deserve And nothing that I’ve earned But daily grace saves me."- Singer Tasha Cobbs

I listened to this twice!! So many great information, thank you for all the work

My Low self-esteem was the number one reason why my relationship ended. Sad to acknowledge this.

Craig I am lucky that I know how amazingly life changing your insights are. Thank you.

I needed this video. I have a horrible self esteem and it made me an asshole to my ex. I’m taking notes so that I can grow and hopefully if they come back I’ll be ready.

My god, i cant believe you give this for free , im so thankful craig and margaret thank you thank you thank you

I have a really hard time taking complements and also I really do criticise my self terribly. My father was critical about everything I did as a child and used verbal abuse as a way to strengthen my character, so he thought.

I’m rewatching this again because it’s one of those days. I just want to thank you BOTH for what you do. Just hearing Margaret’s and your voice makes me feel rational and calm again. You are both wonderful!

Margaret is also my favourite human being!

“Im waiting 🙄”. Lmfao 🤣🤣🤣 that was so funny ! 😂😂 Coach Craig is definitely the type of guy I need in my life 🙈🙈🙈🙈

This is the root of it all, thank you. Wow.

Love this video, so many important things Margaret touches on here

Margaret, Craig and the Knowledge led me to see therapist and it is so empowering to see how attachment you built in your childhood have such tremendous impact on my present adulthood and in relationships. It is a hard road but so interesting. This channel is the best ever existed. It is like having weekly complimentary session with my most favorite psychotherapists in the world ♥️

Dear Margaret and Craig, thank you for your excellent videos. These are so interesting and helpful and I can totally pick those parts that are related to me. Even the best parents mess up things with their children that are better corrected in adulthood in order to function better. Parenting is the hardest work in life. Living a meaningful and happy life as an adult may not come naturally for everyone but it is good to know that we can really work on it and help ourselves. Thank you for showing these ways!

Margaret this presentation gave me precisly what I needed to heal my inner wounded child thank you so much!! You are the mom I wish I had. You and Craig make the most caring therapists team on your tube. I had been thinking lately I to talk with my inner critic thus this video it is a life saver.

First... God hahahaha i love to coment, and love to see kraig and Margaret together. You know i learn alot from the coments too, not just the videos and the responses i had from other viewers are realy helpfull. Love the kraig videos and comunity. Guys you all have been wonderfull throug thise stage of my life. I just feel so prepare and empower. Let the love and relationships games begin

Brilliant, Margaret! Love you both.❤

You two are so awesome! Not only incredibly knowledgeable and compassionate but also your humor and interactions with each other are so much fun. "You have flaws?!" - "Well not many." Too funny ^_^ Big hugs to both!!

Earlier I had bumped into ur videos as I was facing some romantic relationship issues. But as I kept listening to ur videos, I found that there is so much I have learnt. Especially on importance of right upbringing of children to have healthy secure adult relationships. Nice work u r doing ! Thanks so much, really feel good. And u both coaches , u and Margaret look so cute together. 👌

Just now after 2 year of no contact he start bombarding me with texts n all clamming he wants to be my friend I didn’t respond to any of the non sense …. While he still living together with the down grade that he left me for, the awesome new is THANK U to coach Ken, Margaret n now Victoria I bought THE KNOWLEDGE WORKBOOK IN 2019 n is my second time reviewing anyway since then I started to work on my self now reading more n currently seeing a Therapist I’m taking guitar lessons, ice skating n paddle boarding good old San Diego lol I love it my eyes r wide open n I can see how toxic lazy n crazy he is jumping from relationship to relationship n all n more … anyway all I can say THANK U COACH KEN, MARGARET, N VICTORIA GOD BLESS U FOR ALL YOUR HARD WORK HELPING ALL OF US. Sending love n light OXOX

Thank you for your entire continual knowledge, creativity coupled with training to hold up my trip to progressively more consciously watchful furthermore spiritually connected.

I began listening to these videos in February 2019. Coach Margaret and Coach Craig are spot on about these helpful and informative messages. They saved me after my break up. I was so heartbroken and I just started listening to the videos at bedtime every day. Even though I feel better, I still listen to them so I will not forget what they have said. I love the no contact but when I did it he contacted before 3-weeks. He finds reasons to reach out to me. He's in another relationship so I don't know why he is reaching out at all. If I was happy and moved on, why would I call my ex? It doesn't make sense. Maybe make a video on why the ex reaches out and what do they want? Who calls their ex when they''re in a happy relationship. Thank you Coach Craig and keep up the good work and Coach Margaret you're very understanding and helpful.

You two always help me to reflect on my life and my shortcomings... Not saying it's always pleasant, but I need to do it. And, you, Coach Craig, makes the journey look fun even though it's a tough road, since it is always terrifying to see inside ourselves, not outside. Thank you.

Margaret - thank you for sharing your knowledge and views with us all...By the way the new haircut looks great...

This was incredibly helpful! Thank you. Love you Margaret.

I made a self-esteem poster and put it on my wall. I added a bunch of good things about myself, some inspirational quotes and a giant reminder that I am worthy of love.

TKS FOR UR USEFUL VIDEOS!! I TOTALLY AGREE WITH U!! I GOT LOW SELF ESTEEM AS I HAVE LIVED IN A ABUSIVE NOT PHYSICALLY LUCKILY FAMILY FOR LONG AND ALSO THE PEOPLE AROUND ME WHERE NOT GOOD, I AM WORKING TO IMPROVE MY SITUATION AND HELP THE OTHERS, PEOPLE WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM MUST REALLY BE ENCOURAGED AND TREASURED

This was absolutely powerful. Thank you both. I enjoyed the humor and the examples that can lead to a better self.

You guys should do a video on how to train and speak effectively to our inner voice to build self confidence I know you touched on it today but I want to hear more on this Thanks you guys A million likes you guys ❤️

You two are amazing. ❤️💕 I am funny and attractive and irreplaceable xx

I simply love you guys! You're gold. You're faces have been kind of safe place in these tough times of mine. Greetings from Brazil ❤️

Love the banter between you & Margaret. :) You guys are great! Thanks a lot for your extremely helpful content, Craig. So valuable. I'm in line for the workbook. ~Andrew (in Japan)

Excellent presentation! Very accessible with lots of examples. I particularly love the dynamic between the coaches, Margaret and Craig! Definitely an A+ :))

This couldn’t come at a better time! To me you both are flawless! ☺️ (don’t fight me on this!) I had an “aha!” moment watching this video. My ex could never admit he was wrong... EVER. I was always like “god, that is such a Libra thing to do.” My mom is a libra, he’s a libra, his mom is a libra. They all share the same trait. Now that I have taken a step back, I see his insecurities and low self worth and you guys just confirmed it. Wow! Thank you for the video!

I'm learning so much through this workbook. You guys are incredible, kind, caring people.

I am funny, smart, and very caring. I forgive myself for not handling being disrespected like a textbook psychologist would have, and I blew up and got angry one too many times...I did the absolute best I could with the constant criticism of my outfits, opinions, cleaning abilities, and being accused every five seconds of being disloyal. And of course when I got angry, I was told that I was crazy and had emotional problems...smh. Maybe I had enough low self-esteem to stay in that mess because of the guilt I had from a previous relationship, but I’m doing better now thanks to coaches Margaret and Craig. God bless you both

Thank you both!

I love Margareth. I would love a video on a person that has good self-esteem but low self-love

Thank you Craig and Margaret,my ex had 2 other girlfriends and I couldn't move out ,he told me several times move away if you are unhappy but I couldn't ,finally after going through your vedios I finally had the courage to move and finally feeling happier though I still have some sad moments

Wow i feel much better now thank you so much for this video

Thank you Ms. Margaret and Coach Craig; this video and the end of Workbook 4 stirred things within me so I know is accurate. You guys are genuine and really care, even for people you don't know. God bless both of you. Can you do a video on how (and how long does it take) to rewire these inner voices? does this take a long time, if so how long?

Hi Coaches this video was great alot of information about the subject I can relate too. It has was very well explained. I appreciate your time and work on the topic and would like to see future videos on this topic. Thank you once again.

RIP forever Margaret.❤

I love you both very much this channel is a blessing:) 🤗 hugs

Watching these videos are improving my self esteem

I love Margaret and her style, and the chemistry between the two of you, thank you such a clear explanation about self esteem, it helped me a lot. Is it possible to book a person section with either of you?

Tks for ur videos!! A thing to help all the abuse of this world; every person who diminishes or mistreat u in every shape or form is not normal! And an evil one!they are frustrated with an evil nature maybe not so clever and tend always to vent their frustrations on other people, generally, with an innocent soul,our skills can in any case always be improved and we can become whoever we wish!!, always believe in urself never feel inferior otherwise there are too many bad people out that can take advantage of our weakness as delinquents mostly pimps, It's really what I have noticed, If u are a good person always say something positive to ur next u can recognize lonely depressed, thanks much!!

You guys are so silly at times , i crack up listening to these videos at work . Yes , I multitask but I need this , my self esteem is low right now because my ex seems to be on and off with me . I feel like I’m not good enough . thank you both for these videos, I don’t know what I’d do otherwise !

GOD BLESS U FOR THIS VIDEO

Wow the amazing things I am learning from you both! Thank you. I always knew I was a perfectionist (I love drawing and doing art so that makes sense) but I didn’t realise how bad at times it has been.. the amount of times I have hated a grade that is just below the best grade... it’s that bad I didn’t even bother with a whole year of college because I didn’t believe I could achieve the grade I wanted so I didn’t even try and I completely avoided it. I’ve done that a few times in school! If I’m not confident I can do it perfectly or to a high enough standard then I won’t even try it. But that’s not the only thing I learned from this video, I didn’t want to make a massive comment ha ha But I will say an extra bit, I’m worried I’m a victim most of the time, that’s what my ex always says to me when we argue “stop playing victim” (meanwhile he leaves me for another girl, but ye I’m not a victim of his shitty actions? Ok ha ha) I dunno I remember in primary school seeing kids that were upset always made me want to go over to them and cheer them up and play with them, I suppose I assumed others would always do the same for me? (Oh my god that’s weird because it’s how I fell in love with my ex in secondary school... he was always bullied and treated unfairly so I use to try and stick up for him and make him feel better about himself... it’s a very long story) I’ve been waiting to be rescued and looked after for a while I now realise... kinda sad ik. I can see that I behave that way because of my parents always trying to make sure I was happy so sadness always got a response? I hope that makes sense? That’s my take from what you said for myself anyway. I struggle with being independent too. I’ve had kinda low self esteem but I do not remember anything my parents did to cause that? I do remember being bullied in school tho ha ha that school caused me so much grief everyday 😑 but the teasing didn’t come without violent revenge lol I had anger issues 👀 they always found my outbursts funny... something I couldn’t understand because I’d never have enjoyed watching the suffering of another human being 😕 (without reason *cough* *cough* if they annoyed me I’d hit em *cough* *cough* but no, totally didn’t like watching others suffer oof that’s a bit of a contradiction ha ha... in my head they deserved it) wow this comment is long sorry

I love my parents! at least by the age of 13 when my mum passed away, they gave me the greatest kind of love a parent could give! they deeply loved each other and they adored me. afterwards my dad became really sad and isolated but I know he loved me and he still loves me! please love your other halves and you will have the happiest kids!

Love your videos , thank my daughter for sharing them with me to help me too... I learn so much ...i love to learn on health too .. Thank you so much

This spoke to me completely

I would hear my dad saying that he was disappointed. I project this into my husband and would feel like he was just like my dad. This video was very eye opening. Now to do my workbook!

Thanks a lot for such wonderful video !!! I feel like suing my parents! 😁😁😛😞

Thank you guys for doing this.. it means so much to me.. I'm through workbook 4 so far. So helpful 🙏

I really really enjoyed watching this video 😉😊💝

Well truthfully I really am never wrong. And even if I am I'm right to an extent.

Love you guys

"Well, you've had longer to smooth them out!" 😂.. to the little stabs (with humor) at each other.

Wonderful 🙌🏻👏🏻

Added 1 like for Margaret's self esteem!!! 😄

this is such a great video omg

I remember telling my counselor before pertaining to jot being able to handle compliments, she said I think you are a lovely intelligent person. I said back to her, thanks but isn't that something you're supposed to say to me? Couldn't handle something nice said to me. Couldn't believe it. Felt awkward hearing that. That topic you brought up hit home to me.

My ex knew I struggled and struggled with this....past bagage from a parent who belittled me. She found this very shocking and sad. At the end of our relationship this was one of the breaking points. Really beat myself up for still having the this issue at 38

The Rebel, yep that describes me.

When i got fat again in my relationship, my self esteem dropped! I hit victim, and perfectionist. I self sabotaged completely! cost me a relationship of over 5 years , i really screwed up with a great woman. But now i am in therapy and i lost 55 lbs and startet working out again , she is done with me, but i love me and wants whats best for ME

It's very sad that we have to live with ourselves with the negative words our parents/grandparent have told us all our lives. In my case it was my stepdad and mostly my step grandmother on my dad's side. I remember being told as young as 5yrs old that I was not her granddaughter, that I was going to be a prostitute just like my mom and that I was not wanted nor loved. My step grandfather would sometimes catch her telling me these things and would tell her not to say those hurtful things or treat me any different from the rest of the kids. That it was not my fault whatever feelings she had towards my mom. Of course my mom was not a a prostitute. But because of the things I was told I started to hate my mom, and started having rejection problems, and fear of abandonment in all my relationships growing older. I started to use drugs, and even had suicide thoughts along with suicidal attempts. Now I realize that my problem with my present husband are based from my childhood traumas. We are separated at the moment. One of my biggest fears is my lack of communication. I feel I am going to be rejected, or I am not good enough to be loved. Your workbooks and videos have helped me alot to know where I am at. And have motivated me to get on a healthy path. And has given me hope that I can heal from all this and get my husband back. And even if I don't get him back. I have learned to love myself and heal the inner child in me. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart Coach Margaret and Coach Craig for your work and time put into your videos and workbooks. They really have made a great difference in my life and healing. God bless you both and your families.

nice to hear

This all reminds me of cognitive dissonance? Thank you for the great insight.

Margaret’s compliment to Craig should be...you have a fabulous partner. Haha

Can't get it a Walmart 😂 nice. Love y'all!

Yes I am very happy to understand the negative impact my parents had on me.. In fact they continue to dis credit me well into adult hood...lately I have written them off and will no longer see them since I feel they are toxic..the recent break up with my ex made me feel so terrible about who I am and Im trying to change by knowing what is the reason why this rejection continues..i bought tbe books from Coach Craig and will start to read them...im am have trouble with my computer...Is there a hard copy we can have sent....I plan on getting the hour coaching...but dont quite have skype...my ex calls me still every 2 weeks and takes me to a movie or dinner and a movie...and was the one that said we can be friends...I really cared and know I loved him and feel very upset that he did break up with me...I should have done no contact immediately...but I didnt know anything..still need to know how to handle it as its come this far...sad and trying to keep my head up...

Yes i carry the negative ..but I don't with my own family... Im always trying change way if thinking..bpd makes it hard too

How would you handle a guy you are seeing (whom happens to be your ex) whom often talks about hot celebrities or brings up hot celebrities every now and then when they know it makes you uncomfortable. He said it doesn’t bother him. I know that they are celebrities and it’s a fantasy pretty much however, he doesn’t think it’s a big deal. For him it’s not a big deal but how do I talk to him or convey this message that it bothers me and or makes me feel disrespected without starting a fight or seem insecure?

I'm funny, I am a good communicator, and I'm an excellent problem solver. I am also charming. If I do say so myself. :-) Thanks Margaret! :-)

Do the work books help with th iui s as well

Hi Craig, thank you once again for an encouraging video! I feel that I do have a lot to offer the world and I am offering a lot to the world. I do love myself. I guess I get stuck with not understanding how he can feel that he doesn’t love me anymore. I have been pushing myself to become better by volunteering at my local animal shelter, socializing more with friends, losing weight, and I joined a hiking group which I absolutely love. I feel that I am nurturing myself but the pain still continues. It’s been six weeks of no contact. Prior to that it was about four months of slowly detaching of which I think I was in denial until November. What advice you have for my situation? Thank you so very much! Nicole 1 second ago

My ex said she never gets mad. Well if she ever was unhappy she never showed it. She never told me once in our six month relationship that she was unhappy. She told me her last boyfriend would purposely try to make her mad. Well now I understand why he did that. How do you know if something is bothering someone if they are always displaying happiness. Well the only time she showed negative emotion was when she texted me she wanted to be just friends. She couldn't even face me. Is this fake happiness to hide something else or why do they act happy and never show negative emotion? Then 3 weeks later after telling me she just wanted to focus on herself and not having to worry about a relationship I find out she's in another new relationship. Drives me crazy...lol.

It’s like the unconscious is a search drive. If you type “I don’t want to see images of cars”, it’ll end up bringing websites relating to cars and showing images of cars. It is Just like if you tell yourself “I don’t want to visualize a car”, you’re gonna visualize one anyways.

Question: What would be the best tips with overcoming the victim mentality?

More i listen to this, more I realise my ex did the right move for her own mental health. I made her feel bad about herself and her decisions without knowing it. I thought I was helping her grow. It makes me wonder why would she even come back? As far as she’s concerned, I haven’t done any of the work and haven’t seen any of these videos.

I wish I had listened to my inner voice more

Hi coach, how do I send you a success story?

So did I handle this correctly? I was in a group chat of Section Leader for Marching Band. They forgot to add the Color guard Captains. My ex is one of them. After 16 minutes of them being added, my ex reached out to me after 3 months. She apologized and stuff. She said sorry and cleared things up because we both have leadershio roles in the band. But the Section Leaders never talk, plan, or anything, with the Guard. So she never had to reach out and apologize. She could've left it the way it was and we would've been fine. She apologized and I kept it short and said "sorry I was busy. It's ok. I understand. I accept your apology. I'm sorry too." Then she said she was ok now and she hopes I am to and that if we could be cool. I said "of course" And then she said "kewl" I left her on read as that was the end of the conversation and we straightened things out. Then she messages me again and said she unblocked me on Instagram (the only thing she had me blocked on) and that she had to go. And that was that. Did I handle that right?

My xHusband was never wrong. He got loud and explosive. Was never able to hug things out. True to form narc.

My mum filled with aniexty, very negative ... I grew up in that n violent with her sisters brothers.... Im different I'm happy person more so than mum n her family.... I did n do different with my children n grandchildren

Another thing that I think can hurt our self esteem is being forced to live up to someone’s expectations. Our parents and caregivers can commonly do that. Yes they want the best for us and want us to progress but only if it fits their beliefs of what we should be and end up as. I’m sorry but I don’t agree with manipulating someone to get them to be successful.

Me love you long time

What's wrong with 5 people who disliked this video?? Probably low self-esteem he he

seriously Margaret ❤... I bet your flaws are fewer than Craig's!

My dad called me a loser and my tennis coach called me a three-toed sloth :/

My parents ruined my life

Did you for real just refernece the law of attration like that has any scientific evidence of working? Lmfao