This is refreshing. I’m tired of hearing “you need to just move on” because every relationship is different. Sometimes, getting back together IS a good thing. But all these love gurus just say to move on. This video is great because he gives options for both.
I 100% agree I'm committed to fight myself I had that kind of right relationship with my ex but she still chose to leave very confusing especially how described us and me before she left just need to clear the path and figure it out
Well moving on is part of getting them back. At least the appearance of moving on. It also gives you power when they do come back and you aren’t desperate for their return.
Gerrit Sluyter...I agree, I’m sick of hearing just “move on” right away when the breakup is still fresh. why can’t you fight for it if the relationship was good? There’s nothing wrong to want to try to fight for it and that is if you feel your ex has not given up on you and the relationship. You think you just want to “move on” but maybe your ex DOES NOT want to “move on” and would like to try again.
true i m sick of people telling me to move on when they dont nothing about our relationship.. i think they are just saying that from their bad experience, maybe they had a bad relationship but not everyone has a bad one
I’ve done the begging. I’ve done the constant contacting. Then when I took a step back and didn’t bother him he’s taken steps towards me. Two months. Almost 3 broken up & the other night he mentions he wants to meet up and talk. Be patient.. I know it seems hopeless right now but bugging them doesn’t help either of you.
I made the mistake of begging and pleading. 21 times over the course of almost 4 months to be exact. I have been in no contact for 5 months now. I try to be patient but it's still hard. I still love and miss her.
Danielle Rose mine sees me at work and when I didn’t say happy birthday the next day he came and talked to me .. but not almost two months later and he casually walks by keeps it short says hi somethings but that’s it.. like it’s annoying I don’t want to be just a hi and bye it’s useless pointless it’s like we both know something needs to be said but I am not saying it first this time this is our second breakup .. it’s so hard :/ did your ex talk to you casually? And then eventually talked more and more?
After 42 YEARS, she divorced me. No major problems-now almost a month of no contact. I am very lonely and DEPRESSED. I pray for her and for a reconciliation of our relationship every day. Your thoughts please!
Most of these people that go through breakups, can’t be alone, do not take care of themselves first, I used to be that person. If you are not happy alone, you will always have breakups, depending on others for happiness is a form of addiction. Get your life together before you date. This guy knows what he is talking about. Everything he has said has happened to me throughout my life. ALL my ex’s came back, at least once, sometimes twice. It doesn’t mean that it will workout. Growth happens to people in different times in your life. Live your life everyday and you will attract someone that shares similar values and with some commitment and compromises, also taking care of yourself first. You can have the best days and a great relationship BUT, it starts with a great relationship with yourself first. Good luck 🍀
You sound like a Robot. If you spend 7 years married to one person it's not that you're not happy with yourself if lets say the wife decides to break up. It's that you were emotionally attactched as it should happen if you are human. You don't sound human to me. You probably need oil or something..
Joshua that is really so true. You have to be on your own for a long time to finally understand what you need to do for yourself in order to really love yourself and not be lonely.
This is absolutely 💯 percent spot on. We'll said bro. I was one of those people too. Trying to find happiness through my relationships instead of being happy on my own first. Also, all my(if not most) my ex's came back at least once. This it spot on.
Shit we can do while in this gloom: 1. 12 Week fitness challenge 2. Pay off credit cards 3. Make the best chilli ever 4. Netflix 5. Kick drinking or smoking habit 6.Spring cleaning 7. Make a list of the things that you hated about them 8. Buy the breakup kit
I'm over hating her. She has a lot of issues and is mentally ill. But is in many ways a wonderful person. I'm just gonna become a player and approach 5 women a week, easily the pain will go away!
Dear Coach Lee and all! I have "fought" for him. He left me and immediately went into a rebound relationship. My pain was so deep. I thought I was fainting all the time. At the same time I kept watching these videos which eased my pain and trained my mind. It took some time and some ups and down. Today. He is so happy to be with me again and so I am! We started to plan for our family future again! 😍👪 I wish you all the best. And please do what Coach Lee suggests. He is the best👑💗
@@angrypatient2221 a month and a half following exactly what Coach Lee suggests at every step 😉 if you do not follow his advice you may go back to the beginning and the process starts again😉 Focus on yourself. Improve every aspect of your being💗
I feel like Hollywood has done far more harm than good when it comes to portraying relationships. The sooner people accept that no relationship is perfect and that romance movies are usually a bunch of BS, the happier people will be in real relationships. The key to maintaining love and passion in a long-term relationship is lowering your expectations and learning to be satisfied with less than perfect. That's how couples manage to stay married for 20+ years.
dragonslair951167 love is sweet when you're with the right person and the right person loves you, I want to direct you to someone who can help you get back your ex back without stress he's real and genie.....
Just remember guys, a woman will throw away a perfectly good man to chase after fairytales.... move on and find someone worthy of your time and effort....they will come back if you treated them properly..
@@Derek-rh9mi fyi mine came back, not after chasing other men but just wanting to get married. We got married and just returned from Jamaica…. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn’t. Just don’t hold out hope, live your life and move on and see what life brings you…
No one should waste time on someone who didn't think enough of you; to keep in the first place. Things don't happen as a mistake but it's for a reason. Meaning another door is opening for the RIGHT person to show up. Move on and never pursue someone who didn't value you much in the first place.
I can't thank you enough coach Lee, almost a month after I was dumped, I cried, I get desperate, I'm fearful of not getting my ex back, but everything I've been experiencing goes down and I feel calm when I watch your videos, thank you for keeping the hope of getting my ex back.
@@applesnicolle5144 I am! We celebrate 2 years in Mars and we currently live together since June 2021. Planing on extending the family, since I have 2 kids and looking for a bigger apartment or house.
I think “moving on” is not the right thing to say. It’s “letting go”! It takes weeks or in reality months to feel normal after a breakup and get at a baseline emotional level! Just let time heal and delete all triggers. The memories will become more and more distant and that’s probably a good thing. Another thing to keep in mind is that you have to look at the entire relationship from beginning to end, everything that was said and everything that happened to put it all in perspective. If they are worth it and value you they will come back. If not, someone better will come along eventually… hopefully!
Hi Stephenn77, I think you are hitting the nail on the head with your comment. I also see it more of a process of letting go and detaching, which does hurt a lot obviously.
I hit the 1 year and 3 months mark. It does get easier guys. And through the gift of time...I am healed enough to Begin dating again. Do I still think about my ex and miss them?? Yes I do and that Is perfectly normal and human...but now i am stronger enough to move on 😌
I been out of a relationship for 6 months ago and I still Watch Your videos because you Help me move on and do better things in life 💯💯💯 if it's not coach Lee Its not Real and I still Watch until This day keep inspiring men 💯💪🙏
Just move on its the best you can do for yourself. I moved 3,000 miles away across the country after we broke up and never looked back and feel better then ever. It takes time guys.
I was polite friendly I didn't up the past why he dumped me and all and he explained him self why he did what he did which I know wasn't the truth my I was in control I just said to him I'm doing great and he went saying that he missed me and he wanted us to get back together but I know one thing he told me he was miserable without me
No Contact its not just for getting your Ex back, its for her to assess herself if you still have a place in their heart, but also to assess yourself if you really love them, or you can still live without them, if you can, just move on, NC is teaching us to love our self a bit more and appreciate what you have now, and let go of things that you can't control or have.
This is an interesting philosophy; if you have something unique you should not chase others, you should feel confident and be like the sun. Fascinating.
I got over 90% in the quiz but lot points for begging to get him back. I have been in no contact for 2 weeks and I hope he sees how amazing we were and comes back to me
Even though I spent over a MONTH doing all the wrong things (begging, pleading, crying over the phone), as soon as I started actually following coach Lee's advice, my ex began responding. Texting me at first then calling, telling me he missed me, then inviting me to do things. Coach Lee's advice SEEMS counterintuitive and that makes doing it difficult but it works! If I had not found coach Lee I have no doubt I would have driven him away completely.
So he broke up with me on January. A few days after that he texted me saying he still loved me and that he wanted us to be good friends, but I said to him that I needed time (a mistake, I know) and we haven't talk since that. He also said to me that he would consider coming back together in the future if we were single and still love each other, but that's not a yes... We used to have a good relationship but I fell into depression and we started fighting a lot. Things were never the same after that. Things got to a point where we weren't happy and I do not know if it was because of me and because I fell bad with myself. He even started liking another girl, he fell in love with someone else; I think he was looking in her what he couldn't find in me: a woman that love herself and was confident (I think they are not together, but I'm not sure). Anyway, he wasn't a perfect human being. He made some mistakes too. I think that sometimes what I wanted wasn't important for him. But I miss what we used to be before I got depressed and I think that he stopped valuing me bc I didn't value myself. I've been into no contact for about one month and a half. He likes my Instagram posts, watch my stories... but I don't know 😔. I just want to stop feeling, I just want to get over him. I have to admit that I am waiting for him to come back, because I feel like my dignity was beaten and I cannot believe he doesn't think I am worth it, because even though I was depressed I gave him all the love I could.
Ok you need an exercise regimen!!! That’ll help fight depression, you gotta force urself!!! Do any of ur friends exercise? Ask them if you can tag along Force urself
I know what it felt like to be in a relationship with her, it was so right! People are telling me to move on but I know what I’ll be walking away from. She dumped me in lockdown, which we did separately. Can’t help but think all this covid crisis has clouded her judgement of us, as she’s a paramedic and was under a lot of stress.
I don’t even want my ex back now coz he’s a prick and didn’t deserve me but I just love watching your videos!! 😍😍 your voice is so soothing!! I fall asleep to it!! 🥰
I really can’t eat anything. My anxiety is so high and I’m having very important exams on the way and I can’t even begin studying. I really love him. He is such an amazing person. Every day this videos are my motivation. I managed to form a positive mindset but I just can’t focus on studying
I took the quiz just for fun and I got 80% which gave me a bit of hope that he would Change his mind. We had a great relationship for 6-7 months. We click right away. He was like my best friend and a boyfriend on the same time. That’s why it surprise me that he broke up with me when I was insecure. Just like that..
By doing NC u r in a way doing something significant.. It's a manifestation u have set and then just forget abt it.. I'm writing this after doing NC rigidly..and he has still kept me blocked.. But some important lessons I've learnt and that has changed my outlook regarding relationships.. It's not your fault that someone broke up with you.. This is the most important and lingering feeling which sticks with u after u get dumped.. But this is the moment of courage where we can rise from ashes and shine like stars.. Whether u fight for ur ex or move on just be truthful to yourself.. Cz u have to start loving and taking care of yourself first then only u can give love to other person.. 💫🌟.. Sending all of u ❤.. And also sending my ex ❤😘💞 and courage..
It's not about giving up. Just move on with your life. If they come back, you can hear them out and make a decision depending on where you're at at the time, pretty simple, really.
Once it's done... There's nothing left to fight for. The funny thing is in the future you may still fight but in the end you will feel nothing. Whether you want it back and nothing can compare to what you had, It's kinda crippling 😔
That's the part I'm scared of I'm scared of becoming numb towards her, mine was a long distance relationship and she lived in another state. We were together year and a half. It ended February 2nd the day before her birthday I can tell it kill her too but she had to choose her career, but then after two weeks of me doing no contact successfully, while she's breadcrumbing me to find out how my knee is doing I injured my ACL 5 days after The Break-Up, I went ahead and contacted her the week after Valentine's just to find out exactly what it was since I was more calm. And it turned out that she thought I still love my toxic ex which wasn't even the case. I wouldn't even be with this woman if I still had feelings for my ex.. my original ex left me for one of my closest friends and is still with him. Why would I want someone like that? She said what triggered her to make the jump was me wishing my ex a happy birthday and thanking her for being a mother she us to our kids. But I didn't mean anything by it I wasn't even hiding it the anniversary of our son passing away is a day before her birthday all I was trying to do was keep her spirits up it's hard to wish you a happy birthday with such a tragedy the day before. An honest mistake I guess I'm not sure...I was looking forward to having a new family my daughter (9) a lonely child now because of her little brother not being here and my recent ex has a daughter that was looked upon as her sister already.. I hope she comes back. I don't want to be indifferent towards her.. that's what's killing me now. But I'm doing my no contact and giving her The Break-Up like coach Lee sais
Well I've been in both scenarios. And really, when somebody tells you directly, after a year long relationship that they feel nothing towards you and there's no spark you can easily move on, been there - I was hurting for some time but it went away pretty fast. Right now I'm in a point when there's no significant reason, the relationship was flourishing really, it was a matter of days and then boom, suddenly he changed a lot, been down for a few days and finally said that he can't be with me due to his mental condition. It's been a month and I absolutely can't imagine letting this connection go.
@@filipvragolovic1175I'm in no contact since the middle of February. I'm definitely more peaceful these days. Time does heal wounds, it's common knowledge. He reached out to wish me happy birthday a week ago, I thanked him politely and didn't carry on a conversation. I'll update everything here if someting changes :)
yeah its more complicated than that. It's kind of as dumb as "you'll meet someone when you stop looking". Just dumb feel good sentiments that have no bearing on the real world in a way. There's some truth to those statements, but they're oversimplifications
@@TheCc064 yeah, but I'm not taking about those relationships. I'm taking about all the people who use this statement w/e anyone brings up reconciling w/an ex. It's just a lazy statement, and I'm so tired of hearing it.
Me and my “ex” had a really good relationship overall. Sure, we had some problems like anyone else. I honestly don’t understand the separation, and I think divorce sounds like such a radical idea. I want her back, and I’m working on myself in hopes she’ll come back. We had such an amazing emotional connection, such a perfect first date, amazing sexual connection. And got MARRIED.
Impressive knowledge of human emotions Lee. Not only you know why humans behave but you try not to judge them and accept them as they are which is what i aspire to do. I hope you are as great a human as u are a coach.
Coach Lee I’m very miserable without my ex. I want to keep fighting for my ex and I don’t know how to without being harassing . Thank you for this video
It's been over two months since the breakup. She still doesn't want to see me. She told me she's been giving us both time to heal and that she's been working on herself. I feel she won't want to see me until she's completely over me, if she sees me at all. And this is counter-intuitive because if she's "over me" when I finally see her, everything will be for nothing. And I feel I can't trigger that spark without being in-person...
I have a bad habit of trying to make unrequited love relationships work. And, I have a hard time giving up on unrequited love relationships when they unsurprisingly don't work out in my favor.
I’ll say this. Sometimes it’s not worth it to get your ex back. Your ex is an ex for a reason. If they truly loved you, they would have never left.. who wants to be with someone that they have to intentionally stay away from in order to get them back? What if they leave you again? Are you going to continue to practice no contact? You get tired after a while. I’m someone who practiced the no context method at least 5 times with one person. Yes they came back but they would always leave again! Have some dignity and self worth and leave them where they left you ✌🏿
Araba Apau but what if it’s because you (as in me) screwed up so bad and took her for granted and made her feel unwanted and now you (as in me) hate yourself for it. That’s why I’m here, cuz she’s my ex cuz i f’d up
Joshua Pierce I understand , we all make mistakes . And if you truly love her , and if she wants you back too, don’t mess up the next time . Show her you appreciate her and you’ll never let her go. Please go into it with good intentions. Nothing worse than a heart that breaks twice.
Araba Apau I will if I ever get that chance but... she just got engaged after 5 months with him. I honestly feel like I killed her self esteem so bad that I’m the reason for that crazy decision to say yes after such a short time. I feel like she’s the love of my life and I felt I had for her life and that she’d never leave and now this, I’m not mad at her or him I feel like I deserve what I’m going through. I never ever verbally or physically abused her or put her down. I just stopped showing her she was the most important thing in my life and that ultimately led to my downfall and I hate myself for being that stupid.
Joshua Pierce you need to forgive yourself and take this as a lesson. What you did was wrong, YES. But use this as a lesson to NEVER make that same mistake . You may have lost an amazing thing , but everything happens for a reason and if you two are meant to be together , you two will find your way back to each other . If not , forgive yourself and move on. I pray everything works out for you
First of all no contact isn’t for getting an ex back. It’s for giving you distance from the situation so you can use the break up as energy to get better(mentally/physically/spiritually).
It's been a month and a week of no contact for me. Today I have felt really sad as if it were the first day, I even was tempted to break NC but watching you videos really calm me down. Really thank you Coach, I have watched other coaches, but I can see you have more experience and what you say it's totally true.
@@ricolinii Yes, I feel super good now. We never came back together, but I realized that it wasn't worth it at all. So in all this time, I met new people, visited new places, (even had a reborn). I can tell you now that it all depends on you, in my case if we hadn't broken up, I would remain the same person (chaos in my life) but now I have improved like I never did before. If you need any advice don't hesitate to email me bro, I know it is really painful at first.
Not walking away from 25 years without at least trying. It makes no sense why he left without any notice. I''m not giving up without a fight. Started NC after 2 weeks. It's been almost 3 mos.
I got week and almost broke the no contact rule until I heard "Let it be" by the Beatles on the radio. Thanks to Coach Lee videos and listening to the Beatles gave me enough strength to not call or text my Lady.( I was the one that was Dumped.) 💔
1. Your point about limerance is superb, it's a misplaced desiring desire itself. I feel instead we make a commitment to love an imperfect person imperfectly. 2 . My ex and I had a great relationship and were very close to one another, she dumped me because someone else came on the scene and he played on her personal issues. We even went to Paris a week before she dumped me, and it was a great holiday but I could tell something was wrong. Dumping me totally came out of the blue and I've felt left dangling ever since. Everyone was utterly surprised including her family. She was two faced and hid any feeling of unhappiness from me. Looking back it was as though she was conflicted between him and me for a while. The man she left for me is a counsellor and very manipulative. He's significantly older too. He called her repressed and made her feel very anxious but he caught her imagination.i had the misfortune of meeting him before I realised what was happening, and he probed into our relationship and used the 7 love languages to split her and I apart. They're still together now.
Can you do more videos on trying to get your ex back when you dumped them. I have shown complete humility and admitted I was wrong and suffering from depression. We split just over 5 months ago, he got into a relationship 7 weeks later, I poured my heart out a month ago and he still cannot tell me how he feels. We were together for 7 years
You’re good at what you do sir Hats off. I can’t stand that my ex lady just needed a little bit of your mentality she’s 36 with such immature mentality it killed our relationship. She broke up with me because she gave up easy it’s been a long road for me. If she were to come back she’s going to have to work on her self A lot. Thank you again master Lee.
I'm not begging him to come back to me. It's up to him if he wants to come back or not. He can make a decision to stay with me or not me. It's time for me heal my heart broken and self caring.
Just came across my ex at work for the 1st time yesterday since NC about 40 days now and about 3 months since I was ghosted. Went about my day, made sure to look good bc I knew they would be at the job site. Laughed with everyone said hello and made sure to say hello to her as well with a smile and kept it moving. She looked nervous and startled when i approached to say hello. Guess she expected for me to be bitter or mad. Then said goodbye at the emd of the day and again she looked nervous fumbling a box she had in hand. Hope that was a good thing n puts that doubt in her head and curiosity that brings her back lol. No lie it killed me inside a bit when I left. Thought I was going to be just fine.
Just got a text. Says that they are sorry about yesterday for not saying hello but they just trying to do right and not be unkind at the same time. She said hope I understand. Not worth responding IMO. Doing right as in living by our religious beliefs as we both should be.
This was by far the best video of coach lee. It’s like a win win situation for the dumped. You wait for them to contact you. Either she comes back you or you have already moved on by then. Either way, you, who have been dumped, feel cheated with a pathetic rebound, and hurt, you win either way. You’re not losing anything in this life, my kings and queens, all you’re doing from now on is winning in life, getting stronger and pulling big life flexes that will DEFINITELY make your ex jealous 😉.
We’ve been broken up for 3 months and 10 weeks of no contact. I have hope, but feel discouraged at times. I’m tempted to reach out but I’m still hurting. He’s a confusing person which makes it harder. I’m still going to wait and work on myself.
Flora Kim I learned a lot about my attachment style & theirs also. It explains a lot. There are 4 styles. I’m secure so I attract anxious attachment styles.
At this point I dont even think he will come back because I called him out on his lies 4 months after the breakup. I started NC immediately, day 4 now. Whatever it is, I will be strong.
I gave my all to my relationship i fought hard to try to understand why would he want to all the sudden sabotage what he had am not waiting on nobody i was in deep depression💔💔💔but now i realized that i dint loose him he lost me🌹💁 And now well i heard KARMA🖤 has been giving him a taste of his own medicine
Definietly move on, if breakup is irrelevant it means they had another option and were waiting for u to give them reason to blame you for everything and leave
My ex Robert loved to blame,accused and assumed stuff on me a lot. I even noticed Narcissist traits in him. I had to breakup the relationship and I also had to end the Friends With Benefits situation with him. He was causing me stress.
Thank you Coach Lee, your videos keep me inspired, I would've broken NC ages ago if not for your vids but so far I'm 2 weeks in and feel 200x better than I did a week ago. Cheers from England man.
I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 months recently. I really loved her and she told me that she really loved me too. We were both unknowingly hurting each other until it was too much. She eventually decided to break it off telling me how she truly felt and that she needed time to find herself and heal. It seemed like we ended on a neutral note. I was so shocked and speechless that I didn't even get a chance to tell her how I truly felt. Ironically we both felt the same things. Not worth it to the other person, sad, lonely, and lost. I truly do want to get back with her and talk things more thoroughly but that won't come to fruition. It has been about 3 weeks now. It is really tempting to break the no contact rule but I know that it will only make things worse if I try to get in contact to say something as simple as "hi". I am going to keep on no contact and see what it develops into. Honestly if we don't get back together it isn't the end of the world. I'm not going to lie that I wont be sad if she does move on. I will be, but that just means that I have to move one too. I truly wish her the best and want her to be happy.
This is exactly what goes through my mind, I do look back at my relationship, and we did have a good one, yes we had ups and downs but we hardly argued, I did make all the mistakes of txting her out after the relationship, I broke nc and have gone back into it, people just keep saying move on, but I just have this gut feeling and I just think deep down she still thinking of me, only coz I know what we had, and yes It does feel confusing to me, as iv not really had a proper reason for the split, I hope she does come back, and I could move on but, I think il ruin my chances, and people say as soon as u get with someone else she will come running back, but I honestly don't want to do that, I love her very much, but this gut feeling could just be wishful thinking, ur mind thinks all sorts, when u split up, and it is effecting my job, as she is on my mind all the time, I'm in my 3rd month of the break up and 3 weeks of my 2nd attempt of nc, I'm a strong guy but wow a woman is my weakness
@@jacksonmichael3074 I'm actually alright, mentally, just miss her but what is meant to be, will be, if she reaches out, great if not, well I got to be strong, but I won't be reaching out to her now, I made that mistake
In my case I broke up with my avoidant ex because he pushed me to it by shutting down, and withdrawing. I told him I’m in love with him, but he felt there was a gap and imbalance which was tolerable for me until he disrespected me three or four times and I had to break up for my self-respect. I worked and was committed, for weeks he kept saying he was tired, he was burnt out, he was drained. I took him literally and started helping him with chores thought I was supporting him. He kept saying he felt guilty and overwhelmed by my support and I tried to communicate to understand him. Until he shouted at me that he needed space and he shut down. After that he started bread crumbing me for a week. I did not know about attachment styles then so I understand now why my efforts didn’t work. But I did my best at the time and he started to lose respect for me but not breaking up with me either. So I had to leave with so much love for him and an aching heart. In this situation I had the last words and I broke up with him. But he left me no other choice. So who would you suggest should reach out? 😢
Thank you so much for this advices , i feel better and refreshing ur advices keeps me strong in NC rule, iam in the real fighting now with my self , we had something special and beautiful i dont want to move on still want her back always , always , Thank Coach Lee
I am in a somewhat unique situation. She broke up with me. I went NC. She contacted me on our anniversary and I ended up going up to see her and stayed 3 nights. We had a wonderful time with no fights and no heavy talk. As I was leaving I told her we should do that again sometime. I was keeping it light. She got it and smiled and said sure. We texted each other a couple of times the next day. The day after that I texted her and said we should do that again. She didn't answer back and we are entering week two now. There doesn't seem to be any reason for no contact other than I did text her last and never heard from her. All I know is that we are both very stubborn and prideful. But I have swallowed my pride so many times with her . I wish I knew what was going on in her mind.
I took your quiz and got an 85%. But at this point I’ve given up. I asked him if he still loves me. He said he loves me as a person and for being a good contribution to his life, but not in a relationship type of way. Update : I’m over him he said that because he didn’t want to let me go.
I got 70.9% on the quiz. Honestly, I really want him back but I think working on myself so I can be a better me is more important. I love this man, but self love is going to benefit us or another man, if neccessary
Coach Lee... after 3.5 months there were moments that she had contacted me and she told me she Loved me and hated me... it was hard but i never responded negatively... always in a positive light.. she had dated many times over since, and i had as well as many as 6 dates in feb... the final moment was last week when she contacted me... and i suggested we meet up, not as a date but to talk, to think about. but that was the last message i sent.. then out of the blue a week later, after no contact.. she suggested we meet up.. that same day.. we had dinner.. we talk about her fears and i listened... important part.. then she suggested maybe we do something else.. i said what about dancing.. and that’s what we did.. for 3.5 hours Salsa dancing.. laughing and hold each other.. no contact works... she also told me that her dates were boring and that no one was like me.. i told her the same about mine.. Fighting for the woman i love is best thing to show her that i would never give up on myself and us and life... thanks Coach Lee..
Edited to add: I got back with my boyfriend 10/26. We were broken up one month. What if they told you that in the last few weeks they stopped being in love with you because they were emotionally drained by having to constantly reassuring you..but they still loved you , didn't want to lose you, but I said I don't want to be with someone who isn't in love with me. .. so I told him I had to unfriend him and block him for a bit.. to heal...but before this he stonewalled me for almost two weeks and really changed how I used to feel about him safe, secure, he said he still was those things for me, but I said no, you didn't even tell me you were falling out of love with me because of what ever I was doing...we had a great beautiful loving incredibly passionate relationship...I was totally taken back by him saying he was not in love...he didn't Straight tell me , I asked him... and he was like I don't want to talk about that... that's when I knew. Just a few weeks ago he said I was his Everything , he loved me more than his own life, I was his queen... That I wasn't going ANYWHERE. this was literally weeks ago!!! So technically I broke up with him, but he's the one who said he isn't IN LOVE with me. I'm always the one who's done the chasing. He was my teenage sweetheart..I'm his first love. He says he always wants me in his life but I want him to be In love with me. What do I do Coach Lee?
A man told me ' the next man will do for you the things the LAST man did not' save this. 'Trust money NOT men' from a 70+ year old psychologist. memorize this ladies!
So I took the quiz out of curiosity. Some of the questions were hard for me to answer, haha. They were seemingly straightforward, but gave me pause, because of the situation my breakup had been. Was the ex angry when they broke up with you? Well, no. We didn't argue during the actual breakup. But we rarely argued. But I felt an underlying resentment, and he made some comments like he had some resentment, but he wasn't technically angry. (I answered yes.) Was long distance one of the reasons the ex gave? No, he didn't explicitly say so, but I always felt it was because it was long distance that was the root cause of his growing resentment. (I answered no.) For those curious, I scored a 84.3% chance of getting them back. For those wondering, no, I don't intend to do anything about it. At the time I felt I would have been able to get him back if I wanted to fight for the relationship, but also at the time the way he broke up with me made me question if I did want to fight. I still loved him, missed him, but I didn't want him back under those circumstances of our breakup, because it would have made for an unhealthy relationship down the road.
@@danieltome6540 Hi, I just took the quiz out of curiosity, no intention or expectation that there would be a reconciliation. We broke up 17 years ago. And frankly, right now anytime I think of him, I get angry. He humiliated me and was just plain cruel in how he dumped me (he cheated on me, then ignored my calls for days, didn't even call me to tell me he wanted to break up, only told me when I sent a friend over to see if he was dead in a ditch. Actually wanted to keep the engagement ring "for if he wants to get back together, he can give it to me again." What a joke. I wanted to hit him when he said that. There were other things he did that I don't want to share with the internet.). In the beginning I was just hurt, and I was stupid to have still loved him for a while afterwards, after what he did to me. I only thought of him recently because PTSD was triggered from that breakup. Yes, it was so bad I legit have PTSD from it. Let's just say only a miracle would make me take him back.
I've been doing no contact w/my ex for 3 weeks while living together with our son. We were a couple for 12 years. I normally stay in the kitchen while she's in the living room if I'm home. Other than that, I'm normally out with friends or I take my son out. Lately, she has been asking questions around the house; it seems like she has been making efforts to get a response from me. She'll walk by and ask if I'd like a cupcake etc. I always respectfully answer her questions with a short reply, and I keep my distance. About fifteen minutes ago she asked if I'm still going to move out (as we discussed weeks ago). I told her that I am still waiting for a response from the complex. Then she said, 'I was just wondering.' I then made a quick comment like 'It could take longer but we'll see.' Then she said 'Because it's been weird with you still here.' Would really appreciate some input - do you all think that she said that to get a rise from me, or maybe this was a test? I kept my cool and was pleasant. Hope I responded correctly?
Dean F love is sweet when you're with the right person, life is too short to be sad I want to direct you to someone who can help you get back your ex back
Corey Wayne+Coach Lee+Develop Attraction+Dating Advice+Enterprenuer in car+33secrets=the best combination ever! Watch them guys and you will not be screwed up. No wussy stuff. Thanks to them I dumped my gf as she had no f...en respect whatsoever. Now she is bombing me with calls and messages I miss I apologise I am not stable... makes me vomit. As Corey says and I love it: the strongest negotiation position is being able to walk away and MEAN IT! Good luck my friends. This stuff IS working.
Day 42 NC... I feel like giving up. I feel like having this hope is just going to hurt me in the long run. If he loved me like he said he did, he would have contacted me by now 😓
Maya love is sweet when you're with the right person and the right person loves you, I want to direct you to someone who can help you get back your ex back without stress he's real and genie.....
My relationship was long distance, and things ended over the phone. I haven’t had contact since the break up and I sent flowers today to let her know that I want to talk in person when ever she’s ready, and to take all the time she needs. I wanted to put myself out there to let her know I wasn’t happy how things ended to let her know that I haven’t forgotten about us. Because the way things ended was very confusing to me, I honestly don’t want to talk about it, but from this day forward I’m doing no contact until she’s ready and I want to work on myself and push to become a better person inside and out wish me luck.
When they disappear and ghost you, they destroy the secure foundation of the relationship. You can't have a SECURE relationship, family unit, etc. With someone who doesn't want to communicate. How do you take someone back putting you thru extra bs? PHUCK them, move on, and free yourself!
@@skatonio Yes but this is the best way. Don't stick to one person, live for youself. Then u will find better person just like me and you will take a look at past and say how stupid was I.
