I don't like "testing" friendships by cutting off communication. Many of my best friends, and even my boyfriend, have trouble remembering to text me back and it doesn't bother me at all. We arrange times to hang out in person and we evenly plan things and pay for things, so it's really and honestly forgetfulness.
Totally, I hate that too. It's not that I don't want to talk to somebody, it's just that I'm really forgetful and Im really socially awkward and don't know how to start the text. A lot of people are like that
Simping is just one of the many symptoms of the catastrophic decline we've had in our social culture with humans essentially turning social media platforms (also phones and dating apps) into the center point of their life, making narcissism and sociopathy the psychological norm.
"Some people around you are going to celebrate you, some people are just going to tolerate you. And it's a very good idea to figure out who's going to do which." Perfect.
When I was in Middle School, There was a girl I liked a lot and all my friends knew it (Of course they kept it a secret.) I Told my dad about it and he told me to ask her out (like every father would) So the next week comes and I finally ask her to go to the movies with me, and she agrees. I felt so Happy and I wanted it to be perfect, when the movie ended, My father drove her home and I managed to get her Snap. We texted for about 2 weeks until she went dead silent On me. 3 Months Later... Its July and I'm doing my thing and Playing in the summer heat, when out of know where she texts me and asks how I'm doing, I say I'm doing fine and that the summer heat was killing me, She replied same and asked if we could get some Ice Cream, I reluctantly agree and take her, when we got to B.R I order a simple ball of ice cream, While she gets 2 scoops with M&M's, Chocolate Sauce, and Sprinkles (I Paid 18 Dollars for both of us.) I eat mine and she eats hers and after a hour she goes home. I immediately start texting her and what shocks me was that after 1 week she went dead silent AGAIN. 5 Months pass... Its Winter break and I'm at home chilling in my jammies, I get another text from her saying how she wants to "hang" with me and I ask what she wants to do, and she replies with bowling with her friends. When I heard this I was ready for my parents to take me, but my mom stops me and asks "Will she Be Paying for herself" And so being me I text her but she doesn't reply. I say she will and that I will have fun, When I arrive I hope out and meet her 3 other friends (ALL GIRLS BTW) And as where setting up and getting ready I do some math and the total comes to $126.37 for 3 games and pizza, I ask her and her friends for some money so that we can play, but she then whispers in my ear "We Forgot to bring Money" Hearing those words made me snap! I immediately start yapping on how come she didn't bring money and she looks me dead in the eyes and says "Your a Man, Just Pay for it so we can have fun!" I hated hearing that so much, I wiped around and told the man to cancel my order and I walked away to go home. While this is happening she's screaming in the back of my head for being the worst person in the world and how I have no manners for "ladies." I Call my dad and he comes to pick me up, As I hop in she screams at me and my dad "Your Son Is a Piece of $#!%" She continues to insult me until my dad decides to drive off. Half way Home My dad looks and sees that I'm upset and crying, He tells me that life can sometimes be a roller coaster of events and that I cant let any stop me from being happy. I learned that day that in the world there will be cruel people who will lie just so they can use you, and its your job from deciding when you want it to end. -Kelly Dorlon 2018-2019
Bro, I’ve never been in that situation before but, damn, I feel sorry, hopefully your good now, and you definitely are more generous than most people, even if you were getting manipulated-ish
I’m saying I threw breath mints at my ex and broke up with her in front of everyone for cheating that was a month ago till this day she’s still tryna get back together 😌
You sound like a great guy. It's good to have a heart like that and to try to protect it for those who are looking for the same type of thing. You'll find that there aren't that many ppl like you but you also might just change the hearts of those that come into contact with you and that's awesome.
same im like. How many girls does this dude know. And is still single. 12 years ago oki get it but the dude has insta models, buisnesswomen, other youtubers all in california which is a hotspot for girls and is still single.
@@sungod1384 You answered your own question. Why would he tie himself down to one person when he's got a buffet to choose from? Dating doesn't mean you are looking for a relationship.
6:26 This is an extremely great advice. I''ve reached a point whereby I am more happy being on my own and would seriously count who is deserving my attention.
Aye, iv taken the messages to heart and kinda work my life by these tips now swooz. Love your content, glad iv found the ppl who treat me like I treat them
"Some people around you are gonna celebrate you, some people are just gonna tolerate you, and its a very good idea to figure out who's gonna do which." - Swoozie Actual facts.
True, but what if it was a plot to get him to buy the pc later like a "I'ma help him out then hope he helps me out with this more expensive item since I scratched his back". Either way though both were happy in the end.
I think I nodded my head more than laughed because this video made A LOT of sense. The whole seeing how many dead plants you've been watering is something I saw about a year ago, and I was shocked to see how dead the garden I was cultivating really was...
Feel you here buddy. I stopped texting friends and now I have one who consistently messages me and I, in return. Was disappointed, but satisfied to know the truth now
@@vincentgirard4950 seriously, you realize how many people would 'disappear' or almost forget you existed if you didn't make your presence known by starting conversations.
Yeah its so frustrating I always initiate conversations when I connect with someone but they never contact me, it makes me feel sad because I put in the effort to get to know them but they have no interest in me as a person. Ultimately I always just cut it off by not contacting them and giving them the chance to initiate which they never do. I don't care if people don't find me super interesting but I do care that nobody puts in any effort to get to know me even when I dive deep into conversation with them and help them talk out deep stuff.
Yea well simps pay these women so much that they dont need a man. Weather it's on twitch or only fans or snap or anywhere else. These girls make enough to buy houses from simps that they dont care if they are alone. Simps allow them to get away with this stuff
Dude thanks this video helped me realize theres some people who i think are my friends but might be just talking to me because i can do them favors seriously thanks a lot i love your videos
Simping, flirting, and being manipulated/taken advantage of are different things just so you guys know the difference. Simping - Devoting yourself to someone in hopes of holding a small amount of significance in their life. Truth is, you dont. Flirting - When both parties mutually consents to eachother bonding in a romantic physical or verbal way. Manipulative - The other person leading you on by using means of physical or verbal attraction to make you think or act a certain way regardless of whether you're simping or not.
I'm not gonna try and bring too much drama here but. Your definition of manipulative kind of matches what the pride community does. Well at least on Roblox. I see on Roblox these Pride Ads talking about how great it is the be homosexual, yeah that's great but. You're leaving out all the bad stuff about it. Hate speech, discrimination, depression, anxiety, hypocrisy, etc. Like you said for the definition, "other person leading you on by using means of physical or verbal attraction to make you think or act a certain way".
It’s not simping if it’s reciprocated, because if it’s reciprocated then it’s a healthy relationship, but if it isn’t you are just wasting your life on a fraction of a fraction of someone else’s world.
Hold up were you even watching the video swoozie ya sure simp if they simp back to you but it's always good to have a modicum of caution bc you don't know what ppl do did will do i was personally thinking how sus and sketch that is bc a favour is a favor but it's never that simple
@Thats Cap hah now ain't that interesting way to put it but also did the swooze make the moves like reel talk you don't spend that kinda money unless it's on a girl so like was swoozie feeling her i wonder
@@yangosakurai7505 if it hurt your head you read enough to know it hurts your head so why not just say what you really want to say internet is a free and open space ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
I was a total simp in high school. Now I see most women as good looking, but not worth my time. Perhaps one day I'll make a true connection, but not now.
@Black Ninja nah, it's a considerate lifestyle. I got more than one friend circles and they're so active. If I died I do believe I will be missed. Just think of all the hearts you can touch. The more people at ur funeral, the higher ur score 😊
@Black Ninja I was being a dummy at the end sorry for not being wholefully serious. But yeah dude that's a wonderful take on the highs of enjoying life, for us maybe it could take very little to bring happiness, for others it could be a lot of material things, in the end i just hope the regrets don't ever kick in for any of us
2:48 so true bruh, lmao I guess there is no one left anymore in my social circle, I have a feeling all of my so called friendships are unbalanced. I always have to initiate (the whole summer went on like that). "Some people are gonna celebrate you, some are gonna tolerate you." damn thats tough but so true
I legit do that simp binge all the time dude! ... ... ... Totally unrelated. You know when you have a moment where you're all like "aight' dude, I vibe with that" but then you realize you don't actually have anything to say? I'm feeling that hard right now.
I actually have a rule for that. If I start the conversation more than 3 times, means the person its not really intereted in talking to you, so I just dont message them anymore.
That's a very good tactic. I've been the one to usually text first and when I stopped said person would say " we don't talk anymore" and I'm like I wonder why
Let's just wait for the other person to receive the power of foresight and realize, through their immense self-deprecation issues as well, that the conversation a simple "Hey, what's up?" from them would start is eventually fruitless. Thus, they choose to let the other person control the conversation and hope to whatever celestial being out there that the one who kept starting the convo doesn't feel like the friendship (lowballing it for the sake of everyone) isn't going anywhere. The point is, there's a few risks you and the other have to take to better understand each other. I had convos with other people before that I start more than three times. Granted, they're not really my friends, but that's usually the point of a convo, isn't it? To develop a passion for conversing with other people, and to learn from what they can give you?
I used to be a simp. Because people mocking me called me a cuck (which I very much wasn't) I rejected the more obvious point that I was in a horrifically unbalanced relationship.
