The ONLY Time You Should Believe A Woman 

In my 56 years I have learned 3 immutable truths. 1) True love is much rarer than you think. 2) The vast majority of people will never find it. 3) The person who cares the least in a relationship will always have the most power. Good luck.

"Women have boyfriends and they have girlfriends. If you're not sleeping with her, you're a girlfriend" -Rollo Tomassi. Truest statement I've ever heard on this topic.

Ladies, if you’re offended by this then you’re one of the low quality women he is talking about

Trust a woman only when a horse is grazing on her grave. - Hungarian wisdom

I'm utterly shocked that some guys still don't realize this *Respect yourself men*

"Life is too short to spend with someone who doesn't care about you" I wish I know this in 2005.

at least the girl in the interview is being honest, i give her credit for that

The deal is, sexual attraction is based on CONFLICT, not sweetness. Flowers and candy are BORING. She needs a CHALLENGE. Argue with her a little bit, don't let her push you around.

Actions speak louder than words and that goes for all people. *Watch what they do, not what they say.*

I was the first love of my gf. She gave me money and gifts. She cut her arm twice then she left all her friends and broke her phone. Before she did that she deleted all her social media and she cried blood for me. Although she did all that, she managed to cheat on me 5 times with 3 different guys 🤣. Don't believe women at all guys .

I cut everyone away that makes me feel like they are just using me to fill up time. And now I'm most times all alone.

Don't forget the supplement to that: "you're too good for me". And she's absolutely right, move on immediately upon hearing that.

I can see why this dude gets no female viewers. They know.

If she says she's not interested ... you can believe her. Better to be rejected than to have a girl lead you on.

This is needed! The general population assumes that women are more agreeable than men but the truth is the opposite. It's intentional behavior. Awesome video!

I reversed the friend zone card once. It was the 19 yo friend of a FWB. She's gorgeous but highly insecure. Treats her "partners" like dirt, apparently never experienced much rejection. She was physically very attractive, though not attractive enough to bear her character. You guys should try it some time in being the more active friendzoning part on a woman like that. Slip into some sort of close situation, like watching movies together in bed, give her the "You know, this is really nice. I need a girl like you in my life. Not you of course, but someone like you. I mean she'd need to be less difficult and cook for me but otherwise just like you. You are a great friend. One day you're gonna make some guy very happy. Not me of course, but someone." And watch the whole dynamic shift. Guess who got a freshly cooked meal everytime he visited afterwards? Guess who got tested on the "just friends" part by provoking behaviour? Women love to friend zone but hate it being done to them. I had her quickly turned into what male beta orbiters do... She would cook for me, clean my laundry, pay for dinners, and get suspiciously upset when I talked about women and told me how I deserve so much better women, "women like me". Dont ask me why I did it, I guess it was my own psychology experiment. It was fun to watch how quickly women utilize the least effort thing to get you to break frame, the thing they usually withhold: Sex. Don't give in though. Gain profit indirectly: EVERY female friend of hers opened with some sort of "Oh, I heard so much about you, I hear about how great you are all the time..." That friendzoned girl will do the marketing / advertisement / social proof for you in her female friend circle for you. If you do it right, it's an all you can F* buffet for you. Prepared and served by her.

You have to internalize that being an orbiter is a lost cause, and demeaning to you as a man, BEFORE you are put in a situation where a woman seduces you into becoming an orbiter. Alexander is performing a public service for men, here.

I did this mistake 2 times. Never again. Woman can break a man if you let them..

If I saw this in 2009, I would have avoided being friends with a lot of women. I’ve always felt this way since I was a kid.

I didn't have a dad. So learning from all y'all. I wanna be a great woman of compassion and wisdom to teach my nieces and nephews. Thank you.

Patrice O’neal said: A happy man is a happy relationship, a happy woman is a miserable man.

It's funny, because I used to be friends with a girl I liked for years. I knew I was in the friendzone and it bothered me to be her emotional pillow but couldn't help it. One day when when we were having lunch with a group of friends and the topic was brought up by a mutual friend, I replied that I never thought of her anything more than a good friend. In her face. I don't know what went through her head but it must have done something, we had sex that same night.

The more of Alexanders videos I watch, the more convinced I am that staying single is the way to go. I wished I was this intelligent and informed at his age.

Orbiters have existed across every culture and period in time. Know that if you have fallen victim to this trap, you are not alone. Thank you Alexander for bringing this fact to the light. We are witnessing the greatest shift in male self-awareness history has ever seen.

"There is a lot of low-value women out there who have to be avoided at all cost". WOW! Now that's a statement. I appreciate the frankness, so refreshing in this politically correct world of censorship. More of this please!

If she wants you as a friend, she should do the right thing and introduce you to her female friends.

This is called, "Toxic Femininity." But we ain't ever allowed to have that conversation...are we?

Simple solution: Don't try to get a girlfriend by putting yourself in the "friend zone". You can be a friend to a woman, but if you want more than that, it's on you to make your intentions known. If she turns you down, take it as a win - now you can move on and not waste your time orbiting her. If she does reciprocate your interest, that's obviously also a win for you. So it's a win-win to be direct with your feelings towards her.

Wish I had watched this about 20 years ago. Much more painful to learn on your own. If you are young and watching this, listen up. This guy is talking sense.

Some women want you to like them, but reserve the right not to like you back.

"Women who happily exploit you", I didn't believe it until it happened to me. Don't do like me kids.

once i caught myself doing the same thing, i was speaking to a girl who i had no interest meeting with, but it felt nice too have someone to talk too, and felt nice to know that someone actually wants me. i realized what i was doing, and i felt ashamed of myself. what kind of disgusting behaviour is that, i was thinkin. i know a have no interest in her, i was just keeping her around so that i felt a bit better.. at what cost ? me feeling better about myself at the cost of others feelings ? i told her right away in a nice way that i have no interest in her. i really did feel ashamed when i realized how selfish i was, but guess what, women have no problem doing that. and i wasnt even manipulative, i just did not tell that i was not interested, thats all. and women keep telling lies in order for you to stay there and make them feel better about themselves. this is beyond words disgusting. they are childish, narcissistic beyond imagination therefore i have a huge amount of despite againts them

In Germany (roughly translated) we are saying: TRUE friendship is only common under men. Also meaning you cannot be friends with a woman.

3:19 “I’d rather string them along and still have the friend” Who intentionally deceives friends and just how many women are doing this?

This has been my experience my whole life girls/ women just stringing me along, getting my hopes up, wasting my time, to the point where I'm so cynical that if a girl is actually interested in me, I don't believe it. And the question is, and this really blows my mind, how can they not know the resentment they are causing? Even actual hatred. Personally, when I figure out their game I leave the situation and ghost them, but a lot of guys don't, and they could do something drastic.

Knew a pretty girl in high school that proudly bragged about this sort of behavior. It was like a badge of honor for her, boasting about how much money and time she extracted from her hangers on.. Many, MANY women don't see any problem with it as it's seen at their version of men using women for sex, or something. Two wrongs make a right apparently.

Only believe a woman IF she DOESN'T want something from you. _"How can you tell that she doesn't want something from you?"_ you ask? Easy; do not provide ANYTHING to her and see what she does. That way she will reveal the answer to you and it didn't cost you anything~

As the saying goes, she's not yours, it's just your turn.

"You need to get over this illusion that women are angelic beings who can do no harm." @1:43 As a woman, this honestly can't be stated enough. For some reason, cultures around the world seem to believe this myth and it's simply just not true Given the right circumstances, most of us can do very dark deeds.

If only these videos had been around 30 years ago. Would have basically saved my life from being wasted from ages 14-26 and even beyond. Thankful I can at least teach my sons the truth. Keep up the great work!

I like how she just: "You ask sensitive stuff. I know it's true and I know that you know it is true so I can't lie about it, thus I am awkwardly laughing because I feel busted."

I just want to say, that in a culture where social media and youtubers are orientated towards females and their feelings, you sir are a breath of a fresh air. Thank you for that

I've heard it put once: "I would rather have a male friend who secretly loves me, than a female friend who secretly hates me". It's up to the man to have some self respect and walk.

Not completely true, at least in my experience. When I met the love of my life, (I'm a girl.) I knew I liked him and saw I could have a future with him. I respected him, but also myself to not immediately sleep with him just because I see potential and he's attractive. That's not smart. But in saying that, he was the only one I was focused on. In my mind, even if I wasn't explicit about my feelings towards him, I was already loyal to him. And so I waited 9 months in total (of learning about him)to even kiss him. Because I wanted to learn about him before jumping in. Intimacy and sex is sacred. Some girls are aware of this. A girl can truly be interested in you without having sex with you as soon as possible.

The manipulation doesn't stop when the the sex begins. Now it's the next level

Was in an "orbiter" friendship with a woman for 7 years. It became pretty clear she only wanted me around for emotional support and occasionally to make her boyfriend(s) jealous. What's interesting is that the guys she was in relationships with were all fairly unattractive, but unlike me they all had decent apartments. She tended to move in with them very quickly since she was constantly between jobs with no chance of renting or buying an apartment of her own. Now looking back at it she was the perfect example of a low-quality dating prospect, and a valuable lesson for me. Me not being able to date her wasn't because I was unattractive, it was simply due to the fact that I didn't fit her specific requirements. All those years I was confused since objectively, we were in the same league so to speak. I failed to take into account the wonders of female hypergamy, the benefits of which I now enjoy a few years later...

This describes something i went through for a long time when i was younger but was never really able to put it into words. i used to be a sucker for this girl and i let her use me while she pretended she genuinely cared for me. I found out later she was sleeping around and then chose to be with another guy. It really broke me at the at the time but looking back I feel like it was good for me to go through it because I learned a valuable lesson. I didn't realize until I saw this that it was actually common at all. I always thought that this situation was unique to me.

I am a woman and I 100% approve this message! He is exactly correct - PLEASE LISTEN TO HIM!!! Especially the part where he says that chasing after someone who doesn't want you will block you from having a relationship with someone who actually does want you. I have been blocked, so I've seen how that plays out first hand Last year I was deeply in love with a man. We started out as friends, he asked me out, I said yes. We were in a relationship, I was sleeping with him (the sex was amazing)... and yet he was in his head convinced that I wasn't serious about him because I wasn't asking him to do things for me 🙄 When you allow yourself to get played, your thinking becomes backwards Why did he think that way? Because his ex-gf from 5 years ago (who is now his "closest friend") was always asking him to do stuff for her. He would jump to her rescue anytime she needed something and she is a train wreck of a person so that was often. I told him a couple of times that I hated watching her manipulate him like that and he refused to acknowledge that's what was going on. After 2 months I ended up leaving that relationship because it was hurting me too much. He wasn't bonding with me because he was still so emotionally attached to her and they didn't have proper friend boundaries in place He could have had a beautiful, loving relationship with me but he chose to give his energy to a sexless pseudo relationship with her instead... at least until she finds someone to marry her and then she'll likely never speak to him again I am NOT one of the women who keeps orbiters and I never have been. I think that's a seriously gross way to behave. However, I know other women who are exactly as he describes and I watch men falling all over themselves doing all kinds of favors, giving them money, protecting them, running around town picking stuff up, fixing their house, etc... and I can never understand how these men don't see that they're just being used! If you're NOT in a committed relationship and you're doing things like that, they she is not interested in more and you are being used! Seriously, have some self respect! ...and then look for a woman who respects herself as well... because women with self respect don't act like emotional prostitutes for money or favors

When a woman is free to choose whatever she wishes,she chooses what's most bad for her.Here's a tip as well:If she verbally describes you as good then she's not into you.

Never go out of your way to do something for a female friend that you wouldn’t do for one of your bros.

the most authentic channel in this platform, keep up dud men need you!

You the man keep making this content much love brotha!

If offered a choice between being alone or being an orbiter, thruth is always the better way to go.

Thank God for your work. This type of typical exploitative behaviour needs to be exposed and publicly shamed, just as male manipulative behaviour should. We as a society need to be consistent and accountable for our conduct as men and women for us to have mature relationships, whether platonic or sexual. Exploitative behaviour is abusive, no matter what the exploiter has been through or frames their reality to be. Alexander, your explanations are very fair and zen like in their clarity.

She said “it’s nice to know you’re appreciated & wanted” haha

I think the only time you should believe her is when she tells you how she doesnt like you when she's mad. Especially when not getting their way. Like these borderline women yelling "I hate you, I wish I'd have never met you" when mad about something minor. Believe it when they tell you. Even and especially if she then goes back into lovebombing afterwards. Doesn't matter if she's your FWB, GF or wife, if she indicates she hates you when she is mad, absolutely take her word for it.

"but ask your self this question: is she sleeping with you?" hahahaha amazing.

She says "Any girl would be lucky to have you". *FLASH ANNOUNCEMENT This is new!* This behavior is called pa-fall. She feels that being nice is not an indication she wants you attracted to her. She feels completely entitled to attraction without reciprocation. And she's totally aware of the hypocrisy, but she doesn't care.

This guy is so upfront and real, like damn. I have to subscribe after this video being the third one that I’ve seen so far.

That helped me see my recent situation clearly. Thanks a lot , these videos are really valuable for me and my fellow men.

It is not just women, humans in general do not respect men who act as emotional sponges. A strong confident man would never kowtow to women wishes as an desperate attempt gain relation with her.

I have learned this the hard way, and only once or twice was a woman honest enough to say "sorry, not interested," upfront. This video needs to be shown to boys so they won't waste years of their lives on women who do this. This is why men can't be friends with women.

In this video, you talk to me. Straight on. Thanks for this video. I needed to hear this. Keep up the great content.

Totally TRUE! This analysis was very good & correct. Good job & thanks for sharing.

The most liberating thing a man can learn and embrace is that women are here to help us, not the other way around. If she's unwilling to be your helper you shouldn't have anything to do with her. If that means staying single then so be it.

Elderly men in my country always say there is NO friendship with women. If you do that, you must be gay. No other option available. But today's culture says there is friendship between men and women, so I believed it. I was a beta orbiter my entire life, never capable to understand why I couldn't "do the next step".

This video is ABSOLUTE gold! Very well done video! Thank you.

This is one of MOST USEFUL videos simply because this is the plight of probably 90% of men, and the first time I have ever heard it stated so fully. (Wellll...there is that scene in When Harry Met Sally about men and women can never be friends...) but this is the first time I have heard the word orbiter. And how about that cliche about the "only true love is unrequited love."? And yes, they ALL do it. The tragedy is so many men don't believe it. This is a case where hope is not a good thing but a waste of time at the very least. Nice job, Alexander.

Just understand and ignore women. Focus on your work, hobbies, and self improvement. And just ignore women and be distant from them MOST women are cold and calloused.

"Rather string him along" - Complete deception and lies is their game...Narcissism at it's finest!

The truth is spoken! Great vid, thank you Alexander!

Thank you Alex you were talking directly to me in so many ways. Damn the truth hurts!

This video is so cruel and though... I agree 100% but oh man reality is just hitting you just in the face, we need to wake up

Alan Roger Currie has written a book titled "The Possibility of Sex: How Naïve and Lustful Men are Manipulated by Women Regularly", recommended reading.

I've been watching your channel for a few months now, and it changed my life for the better, if I knew about all of this earlier my (love) life would have been different. Thanks for all the great conent and advice. Cheers mate.

I wish that I had this advise 15 years ago!!! Keep up the good work with your videos and spreading this type of knowledge

100% correct If she (really) likes you, she WILL fark you without hesitation. No if, buts or maybe. Well said Alex

If you have a moment of doubt/misery where you think she's using you... she is. The question is: are you using her? For companionship, as a crush, to feel complete? If you are both using each other for your own benefits, then you need to be aware of the reality of your situation and that it could change (negatively) in a heartbeat. You are *only* friends. Or you need to walk away. Stop wasting your time and energy on something that won't happen (as it hasn't so far, has it?) Have a clean break. Focus on yourself. Build your life. Then when you meet that "special someone" you'll have so much more to you, and so much more to share. Being an orbiter can make you feel wanted, but really you aren't. You are just a *tool* to be used.

One of the best channels on this topic on RU-vid!! Thanks @alexander

Alex: "No. Snap out of it." I lol'd!!!!

I've left a lot women behind because they were getting all the emotional support you'd get from a relationship from me and when I said something they would always say that they love me, but as a brother. I've heard all the "any woman would be lucky to be with you" trope. I got it very quickly what was going on so I stopped and left, I've only had 2 women actual come back and attack me for not giving them what they wanted, I told them I made my intentions clear. I've found a lot of women can't handle rejection, not being in control or even being told no. Maybe it's because a lot of women are told all the time how amazing and beautiful they are and don't have to chase most of the time. Anyway that was my story 😂

Alexander this may be the most important video to an Orbiter that he'll ever see !! I'm 70 years old I've seen a lot !! Definitely spot on !! I think to really make it strike home even more ( if that is possible ?? ) ,... would be to interview "several orbiters" .... and have them admit to this fear of losing the friendship of whom they are attracted to !! Otherwise it requires new thinking and hard work !! But there is real Beauty in working with the TRUTH !!! Dudes don't miss the boat !! BTW ... EXCELLENT INTERVIEW !!! She is a "perfect example" !!

Excellent Alexander!!

You're really kind to help men like this, sir. Good on ya!

Great video, Alex puts out another insightful piece of content that literally every young guy on the planet needs to hear. I had to learn this the hard way from my last "girlfriend" after we were "seeing each other" for most of a year. I eventually put all the red flags together and just stopped talking to her. You can learn this lesson the hard way as I did, but it would be better for you to learn it the easy way by just paying attention to this fine lad right here.

Was orbiter before of one girl, the thing is i knew it wasnt good... But desire for love and affection overwhelmed me, and the little romantic and beautiful (if u can say that) moments we had kept me going.. I was deluding myself that probably we will be together.. *Spoiler alert * we didnt.. And the worst part was that i blamed and unconsciously was punishing myself for it(doing drugs, escapism etc) . I putted so much meaning in my life to this girl and once we broke up, i was very depressed.its a dangerous route, and guys who are still orbiting around some girl. Dont!! Learn from my mistakes.

A woman who is a true Christian can have genuine desire and love for a man AND not give herself physically. She will wait for a commitment of marriage. Rare as it may be these days it is the proper choice.

I dated a pretty woman in College and was laughing at how she had a Corral of Orbiters...Dave fixes her car, Mike (with a truck) helped her move her refrigerator and Steve, from one of her study groups, helped her to do her research paper. You get the picture. I was getting her in my bed, but got tired of wondering if any of these "Male Friends" would get "upgraded" to receiving her sexual favors. One day she came to me really butt-hurt angry. I asked her what was wrong. She said she was asking her Professor for advice on completing an assignment, and he insulted her by saying, "I know what you're trying to do, and it's not going to work." She said she was incensed he would say something like that, when all she did was ask for help/advice. Now let's get real folks. We all know why her Professor said what he said...she no doubt (1.) Wore a very sexy, revealing outfit (she wore those quite often...smiles!). (2.) Was unabashedly flirty. and (3.) Was hoping her cute, sexy, "damsel in distress" mode could get him to cut her a break. Instead, he called her out, which really teed her off. LOL!

I had this happen to me and when I confronted her abo to liking her she tried to blame me for having ulterior motives. I’m like I can be friends and not get laid with guy friends. Also why do women try to blame us for that when they are selfish enough to leave us hanging around just for there own validation it’s ridiculous

As a bisexual guy, women can't pull this crap with me. I think straight guys are more susceptible to this behavior. Guys, seriously make some gay/bisexual male friends and they'll help you with understanding women better. And help make sure you don't fall for the mind games women sometimes like to play.

Thanks. I needed that.

In summary: if a woman tells you you're a great guy, desirable, lucky to be with you, etc..., you should believe her only if she sleeps with you.

Her: Johnny cheated on me yesterday. 😭 Me: aww that’s okay Cindy, your so smart and pretty. Johnny is a jerk. Her: I know. Why do I always fall for the bad boys. I wish I could find a good guy. Me: well I’m a good guy, I would love to date you. Her: oh sorry billy but your like my brother. Me: 🤔

The truth is, we know if we want intimacy/romantic involvement with a man within the first few minutes. Personally, I do not care to have men buzzing around who I have no attraction for. But...that's just me. If I am dating a man I am attracted to I am usually comfortable with intimacy by the third date. If I am not attracted to a man, I do not keep him around because that behavior serves no one ...

I was romantically involved with a woman we dated for a year. Some stuff happened then we were just friends and even after all the stuff she did to me I still wanted to be with her. We tried being friends and I just couldn’t emotionally take it anymore. She was so manipulative and I still miss her even today.

Loved this video. Made a lot of sense

Beware of the narcissist. "If it's benefiting them, they don't care how it impacts you". The only time to believe a woman is when her actions match with her mouth. Good luck with that! This is a very good well presented video that offers good instruction for unwary men.

Even the term “friend-zone” is misleading. Is she really treating you as she would one of her real friends?

Thanks a lot, I needed this.

Man you;ve just nailed my last 2 years!~ It was only that she deliberately tried to get me up to 14 years gaol for no reason at all other than "I deserved her to do what she did"because of doing for her something she's always praised me for doing for her for almost the whole 2 years! The whole thing was a lie & I haven't spoken to her for 3 months now & never will again as i despise traitors!~