The Psychology of a F*BOY (Emotionally Unavailable) ft ArabellaHair 

Thank you my loves for watching. Just an FYI - FBoys are not gender specific. FGirls exist too! The underlying issue is the same! Hurt people hurting people! I don’t care to bash fBoys but to prevent you guys from entering into a situation with them! Guard your hearts ladies and gentleman! Don’t forget to Like & Subscribe ❤️

I wanna cry watching this. Like why do these men hurt genuine women with good hearts? It’s such a hurtful feeling. Like how could you hurt someone that had no intentions on doing you wrong? You’re literally playing yourself

A strong independent woman who is filled with knowledge and wisdom scares them away ❣️

This sounds like narcissists to me. Ladies once you see the disrespectful behaviour, run! Block, delete and go missing! Guys like that will destroy you

"Never change who you are because of how someone treated you." 💕🙌🏽

He’s like a present but the box is empty! Yes girl !!!

Raise your standards ladies!!! Throw them in the trash!!!!!!

"I am captain save a dude" guilty for doing this! In the past. I am now Captain saving my self 😂😅

These kind of men also attract empaths

Lesson learned, you can’t change them you’ll only end up loosing yourself in the end. Because they’ve made you feel like you need their validation and without it you’re nothing...🙄 In the words of Ariana Grande *Thankyou,Next* 👋🏽🙅🏽‍♀️

They're ABUSIVE with Ladies hearts.

I’m tired of everything. Tired of this sad world that I live in. Tired of being alone. Tired of being played by men. Tired of pouring into cups and I’m left empty. Tired of going days with out my phone ringing, no one to check up on me. Honestly, I’m just tired.

"The guys that are attracted to me are the guys that need therapy I'M TIRED." GIRL me too 😂

Also never feeling good enough, because they always look the other way, chasing other than what they got. Not value you.

So my Sprinkle of Jesus app said "Girl, unless he wears diapers you can't change him..." and then you drop this video well yeah I'll take it as a sign

I wanted to scream when she said "you'll never understand him" omg the sTRESSSS of trying to understand someone who does NOT want to be understood.

Omg everything you said was on point! Been dealing with a fboy for 5 months and I’m finally free from him but it’s hard I miss him everyday but I know it’s for the best, he ain’t shit.

I've met one this year I always felt like maybe he liked me He was always switching up Thank God for discernment

"try being surrounded by love and not being able to feel a thing".... that hit hard Breeny. building a wall of defense to protect yourself from pain and you end up shutting out everything even the very love that could save you

Perfect timing. I just finally rid myself of a f***boy. Unfortunately, I have a child with him but our daughter is the light of my life. I can only focus on being a good parent for her.

15:47 yeah me too! My ex friend even asked me once, Why are you always attracted to a project! (Men that always need to be worked on)

Recently I met a guy with some of this characteristics, but I was believing I was totally wrong in thinking he was a f boy because he treated me well. After 2 months I realised that he was a “master f boy” because every little thing he did was super calculated and just wanted to be in bed. Girls, listen to your intuition, it never lies.

Never give them a chance.

I went through it all... if I could make a list of everything I put up with and the things he said to me, it would just blow y’all mind. Women always want to be the healer & savior for their ‘broken’ man. It isn’t worth your sanity, because I nearly lost mines. You cannot change a grown man. If you feel that conviction or gut feeling that makes you feel uneasy when around him, you know what to do.... just because you love somebody doesn’t mean you gotta stay with them. Thank you for this video!❤️

“Tell him to seek professional help” 😂😂😂😂

I was having this same issue with the guys I’ve dated. And I never came to terms with it until I started back going to therapy. Most of the guys I’ve dated are total narcs & F boys. I’m an empath and it’s completely destructive but we’re like literal magnets. It use to bother me so much that I couldn’t put my finger on it but recognizing the signs helped me better avoid them so I don’t go back down the same road.

if you block hurt, you block love as well..... I really needed to hear that, thank u Breeny!

He called me literally today 😭 thank you sis I needed this

This makes my stomach hurt... to know that I've dealt with a narcissist and noticed it while cutting him off but the behavior is disgusting and the fact that I've actually witnessed this and it makes me feel so hurt. On the other hand, it made me the woman that I am today so I cannot even complain. I love your palace analogy that was very clear and interesting... *noted*

I met a fboy online somehow I fell for him. True they sneak on you.. Ladies guard your hearts.I was a mess after and in pain. confusion is best describes the whole situation and feeling used too.. Prayers for all ladies there to meet true men and feel epic love. 💖

I was recently in a relationship with a toxic man. I listened to him talk about his ex’s and he’s said they’ve all done him wrong. He did all the things you said to me but soo much worse. I called him a narcissist all the time. He would tell me that he didn’t wanna be hurt and blah blah but he cheated on me three different times and this last time he went back to his ex. He would constantly call me the devil and tell me I am evil. He was mentally, emotionally and physically abusive. He was a monster to me and sometimes I became a monster to him. I always thought if I loved him as hard as I could he wouldn’t be hurting so much, I felt like I could save him or protect him. All my efforts blew up in my face. I wanted to change him, hoped he would be better to me but every time I went back to him it got worse and worse. Now we’re broken up only 2 days now and it is a huge relief.

Can you make a video on how to cope with the fact that you were just being used? That he lied about his feelings and wants nothing from you? But after all you still feel like you were not good enough?

definately describing a narcissist .... i went out with a guy that blatantly has NPD obvs he doesn’t realise or admit he has it . worst person i’ve ever had the misfortune to meet! 😑

This is the guy I was dating and I was confused must of that relationship because of mixed messages and the hot and cold attention... thank you explaining because I use to think I was the crazy...

I told myself I will never talk about him. I know God doesn’t want to keep talking about it anymore. Keep rehearsing it. But my ex who left me for someone else, got engaged to this girl and got her pregnant, moved her in the house within a month I went on vacation to the Philippines to minister to sex trafficking children, long story short, he’s been calling me this whole year, he added me on Instagram last week, even called me on his fiancé’s phone but I haven’t answered, rejected him on insta, declined to read his message on insta, Idk y he’s been calling me but he even leaves messages like “ oh I will graduate in the fall semester, I told you it ain’t over yet, after imma come to NY and come get you.” In my mind, I’m like negro, I may be emotionally messed up now but God is bigger than w.e shit he put me through. He wants to throw seven years away? Like really? For a girl you met and known for two days?! Mmmm. I’m very smart but Im not going to be no fool to you anymore. I live in the land of opportunities, NYC. I even compromised my God just for your fuck boy ass. Uhh uhhhhhh. Mmmmmm. It’s been almost a year. It hasn’t been easy but God has given me the strength to not answer the phone. What hurts most is all the lies he told me. I’m so faithful, I don’t mean to brag but I’m told I’m very faithful and at least give me closure but instead I had to get closure from your fiancé. Aight. Imma just leave y’all alone. I tell myself, I’m beautiful, smart, the best is yet to come, God is on my side and this is all a test. Long suffering test:) I’m not the only one going through a damn breakup. my sister in my head. Loved @ don’t change yourself because of the way others treated you.” It’s a waste of time with fboys. But I’m so so thankful to God for showing what I do not want in a man. I don’t want liars, cheaters, stupid men. I want a faithful, wise, smart, serious, God fearing, prayerful man. Everything that I am I’m looking for that in my man. All that 7years I spent stressing myself out, I could have done so much more but God is good. He knew this was going to happen. He’s not shocked:) at least it makes me feel better telling myself these things. My students whom I call my children, have been my light and I think after college God put me there for a reason even though my background is journalism and not education. God works miracles. Even though I don’t see a way out, I know he’s making a way and just possessing that knowledge even though it’s hard to believe gives me hope to endure. All though he treated me like shit, I do feel bad moving on and doing fun stuff but then I let that be a reminder that HE’s the one who left me and treats me like nothing. After the breakup, I was so insecure about myself. Felt like I couldn’t do anything. I was not pretty enough. But God and fashion, dressing up everyday motivates me to not be better than others but to be better for myself and to keep pressing on and fighting the good fight and w.e I want to do I do it NOW because he’s living so there’s no need for me to suffer myself. My grandma didn’t raise no dummy:) and as an African woman and after the whole break up, I find myself being very overprotective of myself cuz ain’t no one going to treat you better than you treat yourself so why not live your best. God wants us to enjoy every bit of life. The enemy comes to kill, and steal and destroy but God came so we may have life and live life to the fullest until it is overflown. So imma just keep meditating, enjoy the lord until he completely heals me. My sister in my head, you’re so sexy💕🔥 and it’s nice to have women out here on RU-vid. Keep fighting the good fight, keep letting your light shine:-)

Just had a lunch date with one this week and I found him annoying. I'm insulted when it comes to men like this that approach me. I feel like what made this "boy" think I want him? You nailed a definition of them! They all have mommy issues and are in search of a woman to mommy them. SMH....

Vulnerability is power 🙏🏾🙏🏾 god is love ..

That cocaine reference was PERFECT!!!!! It’s like an addiction!

The crumbs at the end 😂😂😂 so true

Dealing with and trying to understand a Fboy will stuff you up emotionally, been there and done that, never again! Hurt people definitely hurt people! Thank you for this video and for this wake up call! Please keep these videos coming! ❤️👏

“You think being hurt is bad? Try being surrounded by love and being able to feel nothing at all” 🤯 This resonates with me so deeply, you 👏🏾know 👏🏾it’s 👏🏾God. He speaks through you, Breeny.💯

“My next guy is not going to need therapy. I’m not your therapist!” A WHOLE WORD! Speak it into existence sis! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

I have a 48 yr old FB, who is an emotionally unavailable avoidant attacher. I left him. He can change if he wants to change. But I told him I couldn't save him and he had to do the work himself. I rejected him. Now he's sad. My tip... don't get to 48 without doing any work on yourself .

This is soo true. I have just been through it. they are emotionally unavailable , they starve you off attention and constantly makes you feel like you are not enough and they could leave you anytime. NO woman who truly loves a man has to go through such emotional torment. Now that I am aware, i am gonna keep an eye for it, guard my heart and not ever date with my heart. men out here are smart and broken, if the heard was never given, you cannot break me.

Be careful because some men are just emotionally detach becuz of what they may have went through in the past, but guys like this are faithful and can hold a good convo, they just not emotional🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️ if u have a guy like this, dont force him to open up just let him open up on his own. It's going to take time but itll happen. And u cant change them lol only God can change a person

Listen I loveeeeeee your channel. I really be rewatching your videos because I always forget my worth. Thank you for your videos

I agree with what you said I about mommy issues. The last guy I dated was a huge F boy and he told me several times about how much he hated his mother. He loved his Grandmother a lot (probably the only woman he loved) but had a burning hatred for his mother.

Yess! Rejection is what they need 😩👌🏾

*We are so used to "no love" that when love actually turns out we actually reject it* that is so true

I was LITERALLY thinking how great it would be if you uploaded another video and BOOM! Yaasss law of attraction, thank you Breeny for another great video☺️✨

Sis spoke nothing but the truth 🗣🔥💯

MY CYBER BIG SIS I LOVE YOU X

You can't change nobody. If you ain't feeling right just walk out. Looking beautiful as always breeny😍

You are a queen your analogies are brilliant and the knowledge is so enriching.

You said it Breeny, this video came at the right time. 😢 I felt insecure but when he came back and fed me crumbs I thought his not a bad guy, his Prince Charming his just busy and I'm becoming too needy. But now I'm woke and 💯 over his fboy antics thanks to you. God bless you Big sis ✨

A guy does what he wants, when he wants and goes after what he wants! He can say what you want to hear but that’s all it is.. words! #wasteman #passiveaggressive 😂

Breeny! Not going to lie your videos busted the doors open for trusting my gut this year. It took me 3 years to stand my ground with an f*boy. I previously got on planes, just for a chance to see him at gatherings etc. since I felt so inferior like he was the prize and to get him to choose me was the ultimate feeling of acceptance for me- STUPID. I finally told him never to speak to me again after fooling me multiple times and of Course he played the narcissistic card "I'm so nice to you, I'll always be your friend- I don't know why you're being so cold, etc." meanwhile I'm healing from the wounds he caused while he presents himself innocent. Anyways I'm on top of it now, and won't be blind anymore to his psychological games even if he portrays me stuck up for finally putting my foot down. Thanks Breeny! Stay blessed!

You have literally answered 8 months of my life, thank you 🙌🏻🙌🏻 defo gonna stop losing sleep over him 😩

Breeny I'm literally in tears. Going through this right now and your videos are what's getting me through it. I love you. You inspire me. Never stop making these. You're making a difference. Thank you.

Ohh my gosh, thank you so much, I literally went on RU-vid two weeks ago searching for videos about y some guys attack women. I know someone who speaks badly of women n goes off at them for the simplest things. I'm glad you touched on it because I was searching.

Omg! Thank you so much for this video. I'm going through a bad break up with a fboy/narcissist. It's so hard BUT I finally realized that I am enough. Mommy issues for sure. You made me smile with this video. Thanks again!!!!

Wow Breeny you are on point 100%!!! My ex had a not so great relationship with his mother as a child & it has affected him so much to where he sabotages anything good...really heartbreaking! I gave him all my love & it never seemed enough....i used to tell him "you can't accept love" ....but i didn't realize how bad it was until after the relationship ended. Thanks for this video!❤

"OMG... this video came at the right time..." for real tho! Thanks for sharing. Stay blessed, Queen.

I wont feel bored if u kept talking for 30 mins 😂😍

Girl I’m binging your videos after a very recent break up (he left me) You are literally saving my life and my dignity. I’ve been acting a FOOL the last couple of weeks around him. I’ve made the choice to leave him and block him from my life. Like you said- he made his choice he can lay in it. He is going to be doing some LAYING THE F DOWN REAL SOON. Pray for me sisters- I need to get over a beautiful but emotionally unavailable man. Xxx

Sisssss, this video came at the perfect timing.😭😭😭❤️

TRIGGERED! Breeny girl I spent 10 years of my life with someone like this (5 years married to them!) and it's still painful accepting this truth, but everything you said is so true. And I need to take a look at myself because now that I have moved on, I still attract these sort of guys... But I am woke now! I know this will help someone going through it right now - God bless you girl!

Breeny is comedy for the end of this! I love her 😭❤️ she’s too real, your advice videos are always so on point 😩 speaking from experience!

Narcissist usually... Run🏃

this genuinely helped me so much with understanding why my relationship with my ex boyfriend that i just recently ended never actually made me feel secure. it would always be an on and off game with either me giving all of me and him pulling back or me having to put a guard up for him to make me feel how i knew i deserved to feel and be treated like. he was emotionally in out of the relationship in my opinion and it absolutely drained me and always made me question myself as to “why am i not good enough?”. and you are so right about unresolved motherly and childhood issues affecting the way certain men love and act in relationships because i feel like he never really learned how to truly love and feel love growing up which is why he has done certain things to me that have hurt me. i love him but i feel so much freer now that i have ended things. carrying someone else’s weight on my shoulders is definitely something i’m not ready for. thank you for this video. keep up the amazing content

Honest to God... I NEEDED this video today!

Honestly needed this so much. This has been happening to me now for a month and last night I finally lost it and deleted his number. Love from Cape Town xx

The miss breeny lee does it again. I had to watch this twice bc it hit me so deep to my core. I can’t explain how happy I am to stumble upon all your video. My life has never been better. Thank you.

Blocked him over a week ago, that's what I didn't get and wanted an answer how can he be so heartless and act like not give a dam . The amount be hurt me 😣

Touching on how their mothers hurt them is so accurate. The FBoy I’m dealing with has deep issues with his mother. This resonated with me deeply. Thank you!

This video was very very much needed!!!! I absolutely love you breeny!! This is why I have started praying for my future husband it’s so important ❤️

EVERYTHING YOU SAID WAS SPOT ON.....You can not change these men with unresolved psychological issues...they are scared of love!

you just described my 2 year, on-and-off relationship with my Ex, who just broke my heart AGAIN after crawling back to me, and has moved on with the girl he was seeing secretly during our relationship...he has a lot of emotional issues (because of his mother), and will continue to hurt all the women in his life until he seeks the help he truly needs. it saddens me to see how lost he is, but i've wasted so much time and effort on the situation and have lost so much of myself and have been devastatingly hurt in the process. i'm finally letting go and am seeing him for who he really is, not for the brief glimpses of potential he had. thanks, breeny, for the perspective! you're beautiful inside & out

THIS. This has been something I have experienced in 2019. Everything you have highlighted is SPOT ON and gives me so much reassurance that I was right to delete and block his number. Not even out of hate for him , out of love and respect for myself. Thank you so much for sharing this video, it's given me so much closure and reassurance. I agree with EVERYTHING you have said in this, ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING, GIRL. You are now my new Guru. Thank you.

OMG WHY DO YOU HAVE TO BE SO ICONIC I LOVE IT

wow this is hands down , spot on!!! This is literally a situation I was in and I realised that he had internal issues that he needed to resolve first.

Thanks for your video breeny 💛 Love from Kenya! 🇰🇪

@7:44 'So they grow up rejecting people before they are rejected'... made me think of a line from a poem I like: 'So I leave before they find out I am not worth staying for'.

The “mixed signals” tag line had me. I’m watching this over and over again so it gets cemented inside me. Thank you.

It's mad cause you basically described me, except I don't go round breaking hearts lool

Thank you so much for this! My f boy of an ex cheated on me for 6 months after a 6 year relationship! As I owe it to myself to walk away, I did, however, it has taken me 9 weeks to near enough fully recover emotionally. After what you've said, the traits were there but I was too blind to see it. To make it worse the girl was happy to stay to try and "work things out". It's a grieving kind of hurt I felt but I'm glad it's over and I've seen this video! Some guys really need help! YES ... I edited this because I couldn't make sense out of the issue and you covered that also! I'll find my own closure but I am very very weary from here on out!

BREENY!!!!!! The Volume of TRUTH & QUALITY in this video is LOUUDD!!!!... Sis! Nugget after nugget, full of so much truth, it was genuinely therapeutic to watch it! It brought so much relief mentally and emotionally coz you articulated this issue so well! To the T!! Cheers babe! More Wisdom, More Power, More Grace to YOU!

OMg this video is deep its so deep that it needs to go viral

Tell me more, BREENY! Right on time!! ✨

The way you explain things is always on point. Keep making more videos and inspire us to become strong like you. Much love

your words are so full of wisdom. thank you for opening my eyes. what you’re saying resonates with me and makes so much sense.

You spoke the truth. Praise God I was able to overcome . Never compromise your happiness on any man.

The baggage reclaim blog by Natalie Lue is the best thing I have found on this topic. It was a God send and explained it all. Ladies we are not crazy or insecure!

Oh my goodness gracious. I’m Aquarius and still reeling from my experience w an f boy. Your break down helps me validate the hurt , know I’m not crazy and gives me strength to move on even tho it’s been so longggggg 😖

I needed this. Much loveee 🙏🏽❤️😘

When I tell you I NEEDED THIS, I NEEEEEEDEEEEDDDDDD THIS SIIIISSSSSSS

I’m addicted to your videos..... QUEEN ❤️

youre amazing and your future daughter will be so grateful to have a mom as wise ans strong as you

This video was so powerful, it brought so much enlightenment to me. Thank you breeny😭❤️

oh god baby this came right when i needed it ! thank you so much