Things you should ask your partner Before Marriage - Money ,Sex ,Kids and Everything in Between 

I feel lornzie contributed more as they were two, because she usually give the listener type of vibe in their group. I loved hearing her continously talk❤

Next time bring dee and shiv ..the four of yall won't hurt 😂😂

Lornzie is so underrated, I love how she got to shine on this episode 🤩🤩🤩🤩

Sidenote: the lighting and video quality looks extra good today👌👌👌

Been here since I was 21…5 years ago and finally I am over 25 #turned 26 a week ago and I am glad to be relating more to these convos by the day 🥰

Isn't this the most chill O25 episode ever? I love it

I feel like this is a combo I never expected to enjoy...it feels like the big sisters talking so softly but dropping gems ever so gently!!! The type of episode that can partner so well with a glass of wine! Love love love to Miss Tiramisu and Lornzie

👏👏 Such an important conversation. Good job ladies. I’m also quite green in this but some of the conversations we’ve had are: - How long can we stay apart? - Who does what? - What’s our parenting style? - Where will our kids go to school? And acting towards it. Etc. One thing we’re trying to make a tradition is having a meeting at the beginning of every year to set our family goals. Curious to see what others have to say. ❤️

about debts i remember i had a loan before i got married ,and i was okay paying it on my own but after i got a baby my hubby asked what i would want as a push gift and i said i want my loan cleared and he agreed to pay it.but i was willing to pay it .

Lornzie looks so cute, that outfit was made for her. I love the accessories on Shikie they are screaming money.

Awesome content ladies, really enjoyed it. On debt disclosure , please remember not ALL debt is bad. When I was dating my current husband, he busy paying a mortgage for a home, I found that soooo responsible and attractive! When we wed, I was very happy to to take on the debt as he went on to secure other aspects for our financial stability. It’s been 12 years and no regrets. If you don’t want the debt before marriage, do you want the benefits of what’s he’s acquired before you two were an item? Food for thought …not all debt is bad

Not me watching this being very much single and having no one in mind. This is a great conversation, will come in handy probably in the near future.

Y'all complement each other. This dual are gentle and calm and Jules and Ivy are outspoken I genuinely get the best of both worlds with y'all as a team and as individuals so regardless who is on set I know I will enjoy still.

Shikie must really love and spend much on her hair. she's always saying how she doesnt wanna be asked why she's doing her hair twice a month or spending so much on it! The queen and her crown!😀😇😇

Always have your money as a woman no matter how rich your husband is. Have a will in this day and age. Protect yourself.

😂😂😂When Lornzie said, 'if you're here for Ivy and Jules please stay, you might like us', I felt that... Love love over 25. I missed Ivy and Jules, hope to see them on the next one🥰

The two most calm ladies in the group. I love them.

Totally thrilled by the lighting and picture quality in this video! YUM!

The camera quality and setting of this video is 💯💯💯

This should be a regular segment. Love the synergy between you both, plus the honesty. I enjoyed this episode 🌻 PS you both looked extra beautiful today!

This was so awesome, relaxed and authentic. Great job Ladies 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

I love the lighting and set today. Makes the conversation feel really intimate. I honestly love it!

Lornzie issa vibe. Her points are another level, thinks like a machine

Looooved this. It's great seeing the other side og being in the marathon and talking about stuff some people might not have even when in serious relationships and you both bounce off each other well. Eh, the tree cremation thing is a mood. I love how Shikie does that cute/cool mum close off. Will talk about anything but then get cute as send off.

Personal dynamics will play a huge role. Money is always touchy but honest conversations help in achieving family goals

I've been looking for a comment on their flawless makeup I haven't found not one. Skin goals ladies!!! Wow💝💝 Awesome conversation as always, key pointers to know before marriage.👏🏾👏🏾

I've really enjoyed this episode. I went back so many times just to get a good laugh 😂. And Lornzie is so easy and free around Shikie. You two should definitely do more videos together ❤️❤️

I love this conversation...and you two are so calm. Discussions about your partner's family is paramount, been married over 10years and I'll tell you relatives can really take advantage of you and you can end up breaking ah people just don't know boundaries.

Lonzie it's a trap to be told u don't have worry about money. A time comes when he says this month am not doing well and that thing doesn't leave u the same mentally

run each others credit report prior to getting married. Full disclosure is the way to go financially.

I really really looved this episode, you guys were so genuine and raw, didn't look rehearsed and it was completely natural...Pluuus I learnt a whooole lot, I'm not married yet, but you bet I'll be asking him those questions 😉😉!! You guys should do this more often ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Such a chill, easy and cozy video to watch. Felt like I was listening to my besties❤️‍🔥

I love this video. You two are so chill and calm. ❤️❤️❤️ We need more of these.

Shikie if u were in Zim, the elders would say u have been married for 7 years. This side once u stay with a guy and your family knows he automatically becomes your husband and u his wife. Most especially if there are babies involved. Lobola then becomes a formality.

Very enlightening conversations👏🏾👏🏾Mrs Shikie and Lornzie good vibes😍🔥🔥, happy marriage🙏🏾✨. Jules and Ivy you were missed😘. Monday brighter🌞.

Loved today’s conversation,am here for Lornzie,I actually followed over25 coz of lornzie.

An Important topic that requires more time than the hour. I'd recommend revisiting the same topic with a marriage counselor or with people of different ages in their marriage. On money, I urge complete transparency, even if you maintain different accounts. When you are married you become a team. A lot of things can go wrong in the darkness. It is essential to be accountable to one another over finances. If you don't know how much your partner earns, it creates room for financing wasteful and harmful things like mipango ya kando. Also, wastage can go on undetected.

I find these videos educative&real. Thanks for this chapter, cos a lot of us don't ask them till we are deep in&late. Sex,money&religion are the biggest conflicts in relationships/marriages. Being a little older, single &with kids, the question of do you want more kids is very crucial. What is the money language of each person. as soon as possible. A sobering podcast

It's refreshing to hear Shikie's and Lonzie's POVs. It feels like their voices are hushed up when the whole group shoots

21:47 Shi spoke about compromising in marriage. Would consider doing an episode on Reasonable Compromises in marriage 🙌

The studio set up is fantastic, the lighting is also very good. Loved this episode ladies, really enjoyed it

I love Lornzie’s outspokenness in this episode

This is a really nice episode. Important conversation and the vibe between the two of you is really awesome. Taking notes for when I get there.

The duo I didn't know I needed. I loved this.

This was a lovely convo. As a newly wed, we have discussed most of the things you talked about. I'm lucky my husband and I are on the same page for the most part. About the movie ,'Our Father', the kids found out their father had a disorder, and that's why many of them had issues with their health. They are 94 kids and counting.

The conversations we need to have,so enlightening Thankyou ladies for this it was so calm and very informative.

The episode I needed as a lady retiring from 25 soon ... great episode ladies ❤️

One of the calmest episodes. Love it still:)

Great conversation! I recommend getting the fair play book as well as the accompanying deck of cards. It’s a great deck that allows partners to choose what they want to do in the relationship. Categories include will writing, gift buying, who goes to the hospital with a sick child and who stays with the other/s, who chooses insurance, who opens mail, who sends gifts to family, who responds to invites, who plans holiday trips, who attends pta meetings and so much more. Very informative

I love that intro.. "just chill, you might like us!" Got me smiling n most def had me chilling even though i usually prefer when the entire group is there cz the dynamic is just one of a kind but i love the energy so much, i def wouldnt mind more Shikie n Lonzie vids in the future. 🤩🤩🥰

Notification gang!!!! This is an enlightening episode..thank you ladies . Also consistency👏👏👏👏❤️

This was such a lovely episode.I enjoyed every bit of it.Thank you girls for being so open.

Really nice episode! Raw and clear. On finances, I think it would be nice to also discuss prenup issues if any partner wishes to sign one before marriage.

Just for the record, I think you don't need to be rich to have a will. Just write whatever you have at the moment and keep changing it through a lawyer when need be,maybe every time you get a new asset.

Try us out never felt so intentional Lornzie, might just do that 😅 The convos always feel so real and informative. You complement each other perfectly well!

Two 💜💜 for our two beautiful introverts, such a relaxing and insightful convo. Like watching two girlfriends enjoying some downtime

Great convo Lornzie and Shiks 👌

The introoo 😍and the energy you guy's emit 💎

Great discussion! If I may add: First, a will is important for anyone with assets/money and most importantly kids. Your net worth is basically the cash in your bank,properties, in investment accounts, under mattress, plus assets you own. - there are people who have luxury clothing or classic cars or expensive paintings, those too should be in your will. If something were to happen to you and your spouse, it’s important to have money allocated to take care of your kids and a college fund etc You don’t want your kids or relatives fighting over money. If you were to pass away and leave your spouse, you want to make sure your kids are protected if they remarry or have a difficult family - might take all the money and leave the kids without college funds, a house, and the money you worked hard for. You don’t necessarily have to be rich or wealthy to have a will. If you are bringing in a stable income it’s the reasonable thing to do. It’s more common in the US and first world countries because they are an individual people unlike Africans, we are a communal people. So, when you die the community comes together to help. In the U.S that’s not a common practice but go fund me is changing that - per case basis. Secondly, when it comes to debt. It’s an important topic but your geographical location matters. In the U.S for instance, they have a credit system. Most (not all) people have student loans, mortgages, car loans, credit cards etc. It’s imperative to discuss debt, but somewhat hard to find a partner with no debt. It’s more of finding someone who is working towards paying off their debt and making sure you’re okay with the amount they owe coz that can be a problem. If they have mortgage you may decide to sell the house or refinance under both your names or decide what works best for you. So, again, debt can be tricky but it’s important to know what your partner owes, their credit score, spending habits, have a plan to pay off the debt before getting married if that’s possible or have a plan to pay it off before having kids if you can - it’s not easy but it’s doable.

You have such a refreshing and entertaining way to conversate, pleasure to watch 🌻Thank you for talking about money too. It definitely is a sensitive but also so impactful topic in relationships and marriages. And also, unfortunately, divorces. Maybe go in depth next time about why financial expectation talk is so important and what are ways to handle the subject in a low stress and loving way..? 💛✨

honestly hands down the best episode am watching and I am just smiling.... the calmness and integrity woow....

Perfect duo...I have heard more of lornzie than I have ever heard

My 2 favourites humans in over 25...I over enjoyed the conversation...more of the 2 of you please...

Such an important conversation. I honestly don't mind who can or can't make it. I'm just happy for the consistency. Always looking forward for Mondays.

Love the discussion. A will is not only for the wealthy and you can write a will anytime or any day and keep on changing / updating.( keep one with your lawyer) ensure you have a professional lawyer who will not be easily swindled to pick sides because of $$$$ . It makes it easier to allocate funds and properties for the remaining partner and children just incase there’s any issues arising later. Family members can support and help but remember not all relatives are going to help as needed and sometimes your kids might not have all they need because a family member/ a relative has sold the properties or used the funds that belonged to the kids. It’s wise to have one.🤞🏽

Eye opening and chilled. Thanks ladies❤️

Yeah was here for Jules.. You got me haha 😎

The duo that I didn't think I needed 😊

The thing I needed to hear before saying I do.....thanks for this keep up the excellent work.

This is very insightful, the lighting ✅ . I loved this one 😊

The vibe with you two is on a whole other level. Great job.

I have really enjoyed today's episode.🤩🤩 Good Job 12.5 👏👏👏

I loved this episode. After finishing it, I was asking myself, why was this episode so short? Then I realised it's 59mins!!! Good stuff 👏 👍 👌

This was so wonderful ! I enjoyed every bit

😂😂😂it feels illegal to just come here and not liking all of you

Can't stop smiling throughout this conversation

Congratulations Lornzie!!! 💕🧸🎈🎊🎉

Love the energies of both of you ! You should do this more often ❤️

The duo looks and speaks so elegantly

Miss Tiramisu and Lornzie are so sweet to say that because literally they have entire fandoms, Shikie is this organized darling and Lornzie is the aesthetic qween.

Shikie's voice is so calming and Lornzie's yeahs are so cute

With or without Julia and Ives Over 25 is still amaaaaazzing❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Very important information, I wrote everything down. Asanteni sana and you two looks cute like👌.

This is my first time commenting here. This was so insightful. Thank you guys. I like Lornzie's character😊😊

I like this conversation. I've been married for 8yrs. Going into marriage, we both agreed we didn't want kids. This year, my husband decided he wants kids. Although I love him dearly, I'm willing to leave him as I don't feel i'm willing to compromise such a big thing, and don't want him to be misereable since he wants something I can't give him. I'm in my late 30s.

This is great content. I have just watched it and i have learnt a lot today.

I subscribed long time ago but I have never watched your videos, I must say u r incredibly beautiful and talented. Nice to b here❤️❤️❤️

Thanks for this... Its a very informative session! Am married and i have learnt alot and looking forward to ask some of the questions🙌🙌🙌

On raising kids am a new mum and honestly it feels good to have a present partner night help is really needed with this little beings ❤.

Very informative 👏👏I really enjoyed this episode 🥰 with love from Zambia 🇿🇲🇿🇲

A will is not just for the rich. Esp if you have kids it's important to just write who takes your kids if you pass on. We assume people will care for them in such a situation, but you would be surprised what orphans go through. Make sure it's well dated and signed .

Just discovered this channel and you better Be posting daily. 🔥🔥🔥WAITING

Absolutely Loved this Convo 💯💯

Well done ladies,this was calm and soothing yet enlightening conversation, I feel privileged to know about this before marriage 😍

All your vibes are gr8t. I enjoy all your character speciality.😍

Just remembering how weird it was being called Mrs someone 🤣 My hubby had to have a conversation with the mum who comes First..... God, me(wife), our children and then they fall under the rest. She respected that. This is such a great and timely conversation I have been married for 8 years but I wish I listened to this conversation before I got married. Our finances would be at the top.....

Kenyan ladies so gorgeous. Loved the discussion Ciku and Lonzie . MORE duets please 😄

excellent duo, calm and mature talks.

I am here for both of you....always a pleasure listening to you.

It is important to get tested for suspected genetic diseases as well or just check for the sickle cell gene. 3 of my friends have given birth to kids with sickle cells yet they never knew they were carriers of that gene.