Top 10 Ways to Love an Enneagram Type Two 

Any partners of Type 2s who have more tips for us? Please share! 💙

You know you're a 2 when you watch this and go to send it to your boyfriend to help him out a little, then end up wondering what type he is so you can love him better 😅😂💖

As a 2, this video legit made me cry?? That would all be so nice??

I will summarize the advices in simple sentences: If you got into a relationship with a Two, it means you love them. So, MAKE THAT CLEAR. We often feel that you are taking pity on us and that we are not worthy of you. We rarely will talk about how we feel because we don't want to overwhelm you with our bad feelings and want to be there for you as a reliable shoulder to cry on when needed. If you don't reassure us that you love us, we might think you're taking us for granted. If we show how sad we are, then be there for us, because it is something you are rarely going to see, and we might think you don't care about us if you can't do that for that one moment.

*taking notes for loving my gf better*

Ah yes, physical affection and verbal confirmation is my absolute weakness. And #6 is literally me whenever someone tells me they appreciate me or compliments me cause i feel needed lmao

I started crying at the part about expressing gratitude because I've never been told that before and I didn't realize how much it affected me until hearing it out loud

Hi Abbey, I am a very strong Type 2 personality and would like to share the below: 1. Number 1 thing which we expect or need is "Understanding". It means, that when we have helped you cleaning dishes for 7 days one after other, it doesn't mean that we will help you on 8th day. Maybe we are tired or just don't feel to help on the 8th day, but rather read a newspaper. This time, don't force us, or yell at us for not helping, because then, we will get up and work like a robot (heartlessly) or feel to be treated like a robot. Be thankful and grateful, that we helped you for 7 days. Understand that we are not here to serve you always. 2. When we do so much for everyone, and specially family, can the family do something for us? This is not being selfish, but we have a heart of ourselves too, and want to have good cakes, good shirts, good perfumes. Here, when we are taking care of ourselves, don't punish us by taunting or making jokes, don't shout on us and in my words, don't make us stand in a witness box in a court where you are about to sentence a death to us. 3. Don't try to bind us. If we want to help someone, let us help! If you feel that we should not help, its your choice. We can help you too when it is needed. We find happiness in helping others, and we cannot be your way all the time. 4. Type 2 people need freedom. Freedom of thinking, freedom to sleep at any time, freedom to do whatever we want sometimes. We cannot be your way all the time. So, if you try to bind us with love, forcefulness, or responsibilities. We will only go away from them. 5. If you want us to make dishes at home, never complain that we don't do it. This will only make us not do it anytime. Make us feel good and make us remember - 5 years before, you washed dishes and you really did it well. Listening to this, we will get up and get the dishes washed immediately. So, complains don't work for us. Same for blaming us, scolding us, or resentment to us (giving it a shit) or taking us for granted. 6. Physical touch is very important. Hold our hands when saying Thanks to us. Even an eye contact or giving undivided attention to us will do magic. 7. We want importance by being patient with us. We have difficulty in telling what we feel or need and it takes time to come to the center of the circle. We may go round and round sometimes. So, be present till we come to the center. Don't rush or ask us to tell the main thought behind making the story. 8. We are not saying the world to be our way, but at least you can say that my way of showing love is discussing a problem with you, whereas your way of showing love is shaking hands or hugging. This will make us feel that we are loved and important for you and we will feel happy for it. 9. We are very possessive for friends and partners. Tell us often that you still love us and will be there for us even if you have many friends and family members.

And never tell a 2 that their love is inferior. 😭 I had someone tell me that once, and it truly broke my heart in half.

Girl I’m a two and this was SCARY accurate. To be specific, wanting someone to force me into doing things I want to do was like healing balm hahaha this weekend I was so hurt because my husband made an off comment about not wanting to hike long but I’d been waiting to go hiking with him for so long! After watching this video he was like oh no!! He totally got it and apologized for the weekend because he finally understood why I was so hurt. (And I finally understood too! I was like why is this hurting me so bad lol??) pretty much everything else to was crazy accurate for me and opened my eyes so much. OH ALSO - feeling other people’s feelings in a fight. LIKE YES. As I’m getting healthier, I can actually say what I’m feeling in a fight which is so great because before I’d just try to empathize and never share how I was hurting. But most of the time I feel such deep hurts in a fight especially if what I’m saying hurts the other person! Knowing that really really helps. 😊 You are the first enneagram video person to actually accurately capture the two even in a funny way, but not in an annoyingly unhelpful way. I was frustrated with other videos (maybe it’s my pride 😆) just because it was always so shallow. But you CAPTURED IT SO WELL!!! You KNOW your enneagram numbers lol!!! Just wanted to say thank you, I sent this to my husband and my dad (my moms a two) and they both love it. Keep being you girl!! This is so helpful!! Can’t wait for your 8 video to come out because my sisters an 8! And 9, my dads a 9. 🥰😆❤️❤️❤️

Wow this was totally accurate. Especially the needing physical affection and feeling loved without having to do things for people lol

So on point!! I am a 2w3, and so is a close friend. So you can imagine how that goes, we are always pouring into each other. We also tend to communicate and talk about feelings a lot, as well as issues affecting others. Please be expressive when dealing with 2s! Let us know how much you appreciate us

As a 2, I once told a friend that I wrote things down about a previous conflict and ways that I felt hurt so we can process things easier. She rolled her eyes at me, and to this day, we haven't talked. But if she saw my intention, perhaps she would've acted differently. It has been half a year and I still feel the pain from that friendship loss. Type 2's want to feel understood for their motif beneath the things they're doing for others. If they don't feel validated for any of that, they will either force validation as an 8 or validate themselves as a 4. If you want to learn how to love a 2, how about this: Let. Them. Talk. Especially if their love language is Quality Time... and ESPECIALLY if they're an extrovert, which they probably are.

There's a great book about a 2. It's called "The Giving Tree."

I’m a 2 and my love language is words of affirmation! Everything you said is right on the nose!

Really enjoyed this, Im a Type 2 and my wife is a Type 6. I always go above and beyond to do things for her, but I do it just because I love taking care of her and she shows me so much appreciation. Would love to see how to love a type 6!

#2 is so right on. I totally take on the emotions of everyone in the room and it doesn’t help me go to crazy 8 when my needs are not being met and everyone is screaming.

"Don't let them give the gift card to someone else because I know they will." Lol one of my best friends is a 2. I bought her lunch one time and she wanted to give me a gift card she had received for Christmas to pay me back because she didn't have any cash. smh

I cried along with "Thank you for saying that...😭😭😭😭😭"

I love words of Affermation more then anything. If someone will leave me a note telling me they love me and that I am enough or they will sneak a note in my lunch or something I cherish that. As a 2 that is my love language...and physical touch as well. That is accurate.

My wife is a 5 and I am a 2. I have to admit that I almost destroyed my marriage by my unhealthy 2 tendencies. Fortunately, she is also interested in learning from the Enneagram and loved your video on the 5. Thank you Abbey!

Emotional Rescue by The Rolling Stones is the national anthem of Enneagram 2’s.

OMG! Yes, yes, and yes!! I am a 2 and this HITS HOME COMPLETELY! Every single one!! My husband and I are learning about the types more and how to support each other.

I'm a 2 but am single, I've realized these are true for a lot of friendships in my life. But I think part of that is because 2s are such relationship driven that this applies to everyone in our lives!

My best friend just took an Enneagram quiz and I sent her the links to your videos. She said this video brought her to tears because it was so SPOT ON! I really appreciate your videos and the way you humorously and seriously bring to light the truths of the different Enneagrams! Thank You for your videos!! 😊

This is eerily accurate to me-a 2. Thank you for this making this video! I’m learning to better recognize what I need to feel loved.

I'm so glad I found this channel. I'm a 2 trying to get healthy and it is so much easier to hear about my fears and weaknesses the way you present them. thank you.

As a fairly well adjusted two, integrating into 4, I have yet to find any one thoughtful enough who would take the time to listen to all 10. 😂 That’s why I’m now single, a writer learning to enjoy my own company. But there are days I do get lonely and need a warm touch or at least a phone call. NOT a Fing text! Yes it stirs my T8 into a burn. Thank you Abbey for listening ❣️

Yes!! I love this!! I need this

This is perfect! I'm a 2, aaaaand I'm a physical touch, every single thing resonated with me! Sooooo ready to see my husband's type! #7!! 😬😬😬

this video series is an excellent ressource

You have just gained a new subscriber! 🙏 Keep up the great work

This was really well done and detailed! How long does it take you to make your videos (because it definitely seems like you put a lot of work into them!)? Thank you for making this; my sister's a 2 and this'll be very helpful. I've subbed now and I look forward to the rest of the series! (Type 6 here)

This resonated with me so much 😭🥺

Thank you very much for all the work and effort you have put in this work! This series has finally helped me to really see - and feel - the difference between a 2 and a 4 and to (gladly) accept that I am a 2.

Infj type 2 here, being vulnerable. I saw this video and was like ooh click, got halfway through was not prepared to relate so hard and tear up. Maybe I should take some me time..... if I can squeeze it in. Thanks for the eye opener!

omg. straight to my heart. I can't.

I like this new series! Basically the type 2 tips would be great for all types haha be a good human!

This is so spot on!!!

I cried before you did in the video. Omg 🥺

Yyyeeeesss ❤️💕 I’m a type 2 and this is so true

perfect. this perfectly describes what i need. it actually made me cry bc i feel actually seen and understood…which is a very 2 response i guess. Thank you so much

I'm a type 8. Thank you so much for this video!

I'm a 2 dating a 5... it's challenging some days because I feel everyone's emotions while he tends to feel more detached emotionally from the people around him. We still struggle everyday to figure out how to make each other feel valued and listened to. I feel like his interests and hobbies are given more attention than mine, and I struggle to keep him interested in the things that I am interested in. I'm getting more and more into reading enneagrams to see if it can help our relationship get better.

Type 2 here and I loved this list! Accurate. New subscriber here.

Thank you Abby! I'm a type 8 male. My woman is a type 2.

I just learned of enneagrams a few months ago, this video is quite accurate. I am an extrovert 2, my main love language is physical touch but words of affirmation are important to me, also acts of service - I noticed one day that I felt really loved when I went to top up the sugar jar and my husband had already filled it up. I have trouble with receiving and asking for what what I need and I know I don't take care of myself like I should, I hardly ever buy anything for myself & I have a huge issue with rejection and not feeling good enough (not hearing back from job applications is a huge trigger for that one, growing up with a narcissistic mother doesn't help either) Last week my daughter asked me why I wanted to work when I already do so much (the wisdom of children) and I said that I need to be needed & involved, to be part of a team doing something & I realized that I really needed to take another look into the enneagram. I also cry at the drop of a hat, feel things deeply, emphasize with others, listen & look to help out where I can. I want to know that my contribution is seen, appreciated and valued.

It’s funny because I already know about these things but hearing someone else say the right ways to love me (Type 2) made me cry on the spot LOOOL

Another way to show love to a 2 is to help them complete their to-do list. This will make them feel like they are seen and all of the hard work they do is acknowledged. And then they will not have any excuse to take that much needed break! When I come home and my husband has started washing clothes I instantly feel so loved and appreciated because he knows it was on my mind and I needed help but wouldn't ask 🥰.

I'm an 8 married to a 2. We are learning lots about each other everyday.

married to a Two, these are great. so true

Can you do one that puts a focus on the male two. There aren't many of us but we could use the help.

Watching this video to improve my self love

Abbey, I feel called out as the Type 2

Thanks. My dad is a 2 and yeah, needed to see this.

3 is so me lmao. I got really burnt out a couple months ago, so my friends forced me to take a break for a week.

I am a 2. This was good!

As a 2 these are great!!

Wow! This was spot on. This is so me. 🤣😊😳

In high school I was mis-typed as a 9. All the tests I took there after were a tie for 2 or 9. Your videos are the first to break the tie. I believe I’m a 2

Please finish 6-9😊 I’m desperate to show love to my teenage 8 daughter! It’s so hard!!

When are you going to post about the other numbers? 5,6,7,8,&9? Dying to see 6 & 8! :)

Will you please do one for type 5s?

I am a two and I long for this type of love. all I want is for someone to be intentional with me and not overwhelm those in my life. I hate physical touch but the rest of this is me af. I don't have a partner right now and I don't want one for a while but i'm struggling with expressing my needs in my close friendships. I would love if you could do a video on friendships if possible! I'm soaking up all of this knowledge ❤

I am type 5 and this helped me a lot about my boyfriend. Thank you!

Yes Yes Yes! I am a 2 and will be showing this to my husband! However, for me, my love language is not physical touch but words of affirmation!

omggg ❤️ true

Does this count for friends as well? I have several type 2 friends that I'm trying to be intentional with. 😊 I'm a 9 and can relate to 2s a lot, so I can understand and sympathize with them.

YOU are Brilliant!! Thanks, Have you seen the work of Richard Rohr - He had been my mentor years ago!!

I feel like a lot of this applies to anybody in a true relationship.

I feel like these "How to love a x" videos are basically telling you to act as the other person would. The two is thoughtful, therefore they likewise appreciate thoughtfulness, so thus be thoughtful.

I'm a two and number 2 hit me hard. It is true atheist for me.

2 here and oof...I felt point #6. Y'all don't know what it means to hear you're lovable without doing anything at all. Like salve to the wound. Another tip-really really try to refrain being critical. 2's work incredibly hard to make their partners happy, so be sure to take extra care when bringing an issue to the table.

Which ennegram type is the best partner to type 2?

wow. female 8 and male 2...It's only the Grace of God that we stayed together long enough to discover the enneagram. I appreciate this video, but some of those little things don't apply ( no way is he going for a massage or spa day. LOL) However, I heard you and I know where I am missing the mark.

im a 2 and this made me cry xd

Seeing this for myself

I feel so seen. Ha!

thumbs up

As a 2, i kinda wanna give this to my person ,,, but i don't wanna be appear too needy or demanding :< HELP

I am a two and this is all true.. just listen to us and don't make a fuss 😁 k thx bye 👋

I'm a type 2 watching this

They don't want to be seen as TWO much work??

*2 Um....you aren't supposed to give gift cards away :)????

I feel SEEN. Is it common to only have one 2 in a friend group? Because I can think of literally only one other person who might be a 2 who I'm very close to but we're not part of the same circle, it's just the two of us who spend a lot of time together and sometimes with my 5 wife. She plays video games and chimes in once in a while while he and I talk about deep emotions 😂

I cried while she pretend cried during the skit, yikes