we’re in a sassy man apocalypse BUT still thriving and vibing 

“Until You Find A Good One, Men Are Optional” I FELT THIS 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

“Just because you’re an independent woman doesn’t mean you have to be with a dependent man” yes sing it baby!

I remember meeting a ‘sassy’ guy at salsa recently. He tried to pull the ‘what do you bring to the table card,’ and when I said… ‘uhh myself,’ (because I knew not to play that game) he acted all smug and nasty like ‘that’s it?’ ‘Just yourself lol?’ You’d think after that, he’d leave me alone right? No! He KEPT asking me to dance And kept trying to squeeze out all my attention for the rest of the night. Proof that men who try devalue you totally know you have worth. They’ll just try talk you out of realising it. #ick

I had a man tell me he has extremely bad financial habits. That "He might have six figures one day and he might be penniless in three days" I told him I need a man that understand finances...he said since I'm there I'll cover for him. I said I can't be keeping finances in check and you're ruining it...then I peaced the fvck out

I'd rather grow old with my cat than be a married single mother.

The bee doesnt come to the flower then ask it "what do u bring to the table" 😂

The reason men were courting women back in the day (and even being selective about women), instead of sitting on their high horse crying about 'yOu hIt ThE WaLl aT 30' like MoDeRN men today, is bc only a few decades ago, they HAD to marry the girl if they got her pregnant. For life.

I was seeing a guy who was fine, tall and handsome but was expecting me to be happy if I just spend time with him / cook for him / give him massages - literally give him more than i recieve. That was exhausting. And he used to brag how he is such a man, a keeper, the one who protects cuz he used to be in military 😂😂 GIRLS dont trust what a guy says - trust what your gut says. If its draining, RUN

These men are raised to be mommy’s boys 😢

This is the most empowering channel on RU-vid. The world would be so much better for everyone if women had never lowered their standards in the first place. 🎉

'In his divine feminine receiving mode era' is bloody hilarious 😅

I have a cousin who is a "sassy man" and now he is single and miserable. He has a whole host of psychological problems and he was actually healthy and okay to begin with. He has done this to himself.

Avoid mean, sassy, dusty & evil men xxxxx protect yourselves ladies. I like women opening up we need each other 👊🏾.

And they're also quick to call WOMEN entitled for just having standards

I’ve been saying this for years. Women run the dating market. We control who gets action and who gets shut out. It’s why they hate us. It’s why incels and their various spin offs hate us.

My uncle told me my dad would've died eventually anyways because of drinking due to living with 4 women (no other men). Why the absolute fuck would he tell me that? Placing that blame on me hurt so much. If men suffer from and hate women so much, why are they around them?

The mindset of "I can make my own money. But when im with my men, I dont have to" have to spread more louder

"You can tell when they're energy is depleted." FELT THIS. Whenever I look at pictures from when I was in a relationship with a sassy narcissist that did not even want to buy a pizza for $30 unless we split it, but was benefitting from all my feminine energy, I can literally see how different my aura is. I don't have that glow in my eyes and aura, I was completely depleted, exhausted and in fact I ended up burning out. It was like a grey veil was over me. Whereas today, even though my life is not perfect, the results of being alone and getting rid of that narcissist are OBVIOUS. My eyes GLOW, my aura is VIBRANT. I feel like MYSELF again. All I´m saying there is truth in this, energy is real. Trust what you feel. If you feel like you´re being depleted of your energy, DUMP HIM as soon as you can. I wish I did that sooner, as I remember I always wondered why I felt drained around him, but did not understand why. I did not understand energy back then and wasn't into spirituality.

Honestly very true! my ex lied about his degree and career and bummed in MY apartment, used my car, and financially/physically abused me. It was the biggest mistake and learning lesson i had in my life. He tried to hold me back in MY thriving career due to his insecurities.

I know a woman who came out of an abusive relationship. She waited a year to "heal" but still ended up being in a relationship with a man who gave her the bare minimum. She doesn't see it as the bare minimum, to her he is a saint who would save her from her misery. 2 months into their relationship, she got pregnant, and engaged to him. She doesn't see the financial and life difficulties ahead. She is a well-educated woman who earns more than him, yet they can't move in together because no landlord wants to rent them a 2-bedroom house. Once the baby is born, the sassy boy plans to work part-time to be the "main carer" of the child, while the wife would work full time + overtime to make ends meet. She must work 12-hour shifts, six times a week just to support this sassy man she chose as her baby daddy. All this suffering just because she didn't see her worth. That she was worth more than this. She just rushed into the next man who showed her a bit of basic human decency. I wish I could tell her all of this and show her this video (and most of your videos), but she had cut me off from her life. It's safe to say she didn't want me to burst her bubble. To all women out there who accept the bare minimum from a sassy man, I really feel for them. I hope more people see your videos. This should be a wake-up call to all women who can't see their worth.

My brother is a mommy's boy he's old and still want to be a mama's boy I can't. He does nothing for my mom

you are just my RU-vid mom, thank you for existing, really! 😭🙏🏻

Advice for young women: when you introduce the idea of not sharing 50/50 to a man, mind you that he might say "that's a great idea!" because he wants all that honey and will agree to anything. Happened to me twice in my life, and now I have a vengeful ex-husband blaming me for stealing all his money and using him, spreading gossip amongst our families and in our friend group. If a man doesn't get this naturally and shows that he is willing to spend on you naturally, don't go there. You shouldn't have to educate a man on the basic economics of being a woman: if he doesn't see it, you will not change his mind by sheer force.

My childhood bestfriend wound up having a sassy man’s child. They split up and wound up back together- he watches my IG stories more than she does 🤮

My 20 year old little brother sent me a message from a girl who asked him to give her something to remember him by and he said he's tired of giving girls things😂 I told him then he should consider dating men because women are receivers while men are providers I honestly blame the red pill movement and the effect it's having on these young men Thanks Elle, for this video. I'll encourage him to join a positive male group or club of some sort

As a woman of 50, who understands the lesson Elle is talking about, the hardest way possible, I am so glad you get women know this decades before I did! Women don’t tear each other down, we clear the path for everyone in the future! People (men) are NOT a project!🔥

Lets keep those standards high girls

I loved this video. Especially the last sentence: "You are the source. You are the creation. You are the prize. You have so much inherent worth and value, and everyone else is working overtime so you don't see that."⚡✨

YES! I have been having this conversation with people for the last year. So many men talkin outta their necks about all the things women should be and do while simultaneously doing less and less of the bare minimum male tasks 🙄🙄🙄

Testosterone levels in men are at an all time low. That may explain a few things.

The title of the video is so accurate! I've been noticing this a lot lately.

The intro is too accurate😂 She’s hilarious! But seriously though. We should leave those sassy men alone and let them find their inner goddess. Until they finally realise nothing inside them is goddessing

we have high standards babyyyyyyy

This was GOOD Elle! I literally just had to get rid of 2 "sassy" men...both wanting me to get dressed up/look good (for them), wanted me to pay for dates (for them), and let them use me for my resources (for them). You did a great job addressing why the men are not "men-ing" in today's culture. I agree that the lack of manhood traditions/rituals and fathers who "checked out" early played a big part. Add the whole manosphere/red pill/incel culture and us spoiled girlies are set up to fail! Keep exposing this so all women can benefit💕

Let’s leave all those red pillers alone. Yes, even the hot ones.

Damn, this is relatable. My recent ex is a sassy man and it felt like he was an energy vampire. I was suffocated for 1.5 years with him and now that we are apart I’m starting to get my energy back. I’m so glad I found your channel today. ❤

I used to think it was normal to go 50/50 on everything with a man. Now men still ask me if I want to go 50/50 and I simply say "no" and "I wasn't raised like that." And then they pay. Men have no problem with providing for a woman. You woke me up haha

When elle said her “THAT IS NOT MY TASK” quote, i litterally yelled out loud “YEAAAA!” 👏😂💖✨ Elle thank you for my reup of girl power energy!💕

It’s not nice or fair but some men hate their moms because he blames her for spoiling him. I had an ex who even stated he dislike that his parents made him the way he was. I read a book that stated in order to not turn into a masculine woman and create a feminine son you literally have to stop catering to your son’s needs after 5 years old. This doesn’t mean neglecting them of course but they are suppose to be given chores. You aren’t suppose to adhere to their cries when they demand wanting something (or everything when it comes to my kid) when you go to the store. If you choose to buy them something it has to be tied to a reward system. They have to actually earn whatever item they want so you basically start the allowance routine very very early for your boys. Meanwhile you give freely to your girls so they don’t feel they have to bring something to the table later. I feel the roles of how we raise boys and girls have been flipped by women that wanted approval from their spouse so they spoil the boys and punish the girls (thinking this is what they should have done in their relationship) when in reality they chose the wrong mate. Plenty of single women have raised healthy adjusted men (just think of the countless widows left after multiple wars). So this topic is so much more complicated than the whole men are this way because they are fatherless. It’s more about the culture of women for some odd reason that continue to raise their son’s like surrogate spouses even when they are married thinking these boys will magically become men that understand women and their needs in the future. Not going to happen, they just get worse the older they get. then due to guilt as well as how mothers are wired we just keep giving to them until they have turned into whole sassy men. So unless there is a man (husband, brother, father, even an uncle) around that can stop that mom from giving into that child/ boy without her flipping out or going into overprotective mode those men child are going to continue ruining our life/ society as a whole.

It's so heartwarming to watch this video + read the comments and see women lifting each other up.

I literally have an uncle (grown, in his 40s) and his mother (my granny who is 64) is still working nultiple jobs to pay his bills. SMH, when I learned this, i realized how pervasive mooch men were 😔

The way this video opened, she’s so passionate ahhaa - I love

my dad been a sassy man nearly my entire life (just recently he starts to provide financially, when we're all grown and sick of him lol). my ex also had this disease, and i was like "nah, not gonna suffer from this disease again" rather be single than interact w these men again

The sound effect of “divine feminine receiving era” cracks me up! 😂 sassy man sound effect hahaha

Yess! The title alone is a statement. We needed this session bad bestie 🙌🏽💛

Love this coined term “Sassy men” that perfectly described the blocked men in my life 😂

The “man” who raised me also ab**ed me, mentally & physically. Looking back, he was the sassiest man I’ve ever known. My mother worked full time. 😒

The feminist movement changed the guardian of a woman's body from her father, to herself. Back when women were owned by their father's, even the father would not allow his daughter to marry a man who could not provide for her financially. So just because the guardian has changed, does not mean, the transaction is now free and a woman should allow herself to be with a man who cannot fend for himself or her and their offspring. Being a married woman, means you are denying yourself the pleasures of other men ravishing your body with pleasure and showering you with gifts. It is more of a sacrifice for a woman because were she to have a child, she could die. Men do not die when their wives give birth. Therefore women should not cheapen the transaction of relationships, by giving themselves over to silly, immature men who cannot provide and if she MUST give herself over to an immature man, there had better be the best financial incentive in doing so.

I love this channel. It makes me appreciate the man I have while also holding him to a standard that allows him to be deserving of me. Thank you for your wise words, bestie ❤

I love to se guys in healthy “bro groups “ too

Maybe men are acting how they truly are. They are done acting how patriarchy wants them to act 😅 men are sassy

thank you soo much elle, watching your videos has slowly been changing me to the woman i really want to be. Im extremely driven, proactive and independent but because of your videos i realized that's what made me depleted and in a horrible relationship before. I coddled my ex because i thought it was love and all he did was become a parasite in my life.and in no way im saying i want to or need to change but im learning how to act on dates so that i can attract the right man. Things are so much clearer to me now,. I know im capable of doing everything for myself, i work and provide for myself, im very career driven but i want a man to take care of me and take charge. ANd i realize now thats its okay for me to do nothing and let the man take charge. Im the type to take care of things if they arent gettign done, but now im using my resting ability to just let things happen and i feel so empowered in a way. Youve made me feel like its okay to be to expect things from men, and its taught me to attract the kind of men im looking for. It may be so small but i went on a date yesterday and didnt feel like ordering so i just told the guy to order for me and it felt so good. But it just goes to show i have a longway to go to find a balance. I just really wanted to thank you

The men are not adulting. And keep expecting adult women to be their new mom so they can keep on living as a dependent child having his mom provide for him.

They are haggling your worth and you are letting them, BESTIE WAKE UP! Hell yeah! ❤ Excellent video lovely!

Had to immediately come and give it a like. But I'll watch after my shift is over.

Having a son at a young age and his dad passing away at a young age while looking around and u realizing most of the ‘males’ aren’t actually grounded in there masculinity.. aka sassy but pretending to be mucho.. 😢 no choice but to do it until a good father figure is seen.. protecting his masculine energy

There are so many “married” single mothers out here. We need an AA group…Hi.. my name is _____, and I used to lower my standards b/c I didn’t know my worth at the time … Group: Hi ____!

Sis, if you work your butt off so that you can have the power to purchase your own assets (vehicle, place to live, etc.), and he wants to move in with you, or use your car while you're at work, or have you pay his phone bill because it's "cheaper" for you to be on the same contract.... Sis, just let him go. I don't care how sweet or sexy he his. He will use you-either intentionally or unintentionally-by taking advantage of your natural feminine tendency and desire to nurture and nourish. He NEEDS to learn how to nuture himself. A man needs to learn how to hear his own needs. And he needs to learn how to honor those needs by responding to them in whatever way is most nourishing to him. (NOT by reacting impulsively to his feelings, or acting on some compulsion to smother a feeling). Because here's the thing-he can't treat you with the love and respect you deserve if he doesn't know how to treat himself.

😲 Oh my goodness! I just had an epiphany: Buddhism solved the “men who are in receiving mode” problem by enticing them to be celibate monks! I mean, being a Buddhist monk is literally the highest form of receiving mode because everything they have must be given to them by laypeople. BUT it also solves the Incel problem by giving those men a higher goal to boost their self-esteem, methods to develop some real wisdom, and group living with other like-minded men to provide the social support that is essential for human happiness. Yet again, the wisdom of the Buddha can continue to solve “modern” problems!

I swear it’s something In the water. They don’t want to do NUTHIN😭

Keep high standards we carry life 🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶💗💗💗

This was sooooo good and clear: “It is wonderful to have a good male partner. It is equally devastating to have a bad one.” That was a brain explosion in the best way. The next best thing to having a good male partner is being alone; NOT having a ‘meh’ or a bad partner.

These dudes need the YMCA 🤣

Wishing for 100 000 subscribers very soon for you, Queen Elle! You deserve it - you practically gave me knowledge I never would have known otherwise!

The opening statements and the dramatic music, I hit like STRAIGHT AWAY

Listening to you teach literally makes my spirits soar! Thank you for speaking truth!!!!!!!!

I just want to say that entering the millitary isn't an indicator of a good man or a "ritual of manhood" that is and indicator that he has improved or is somehow more competent as other men. Some of the most selfish and misogonystic men I've met, have been in the millitary. The millitary might teach them dicipline etc. but most of the guys I've met only applies these teachings to themselves and doesn't change their view of women. The one's that I have met have horrible self-control when it comes to women and s*x. If they go in to the millitary having allready been taught sexist beliefs from their cultureb or at home it's not likely to change after. More likely it just becomes worse if the men around them thinks and acts the same, so they don't think there's anything wrong with it, so they don't change how they treat women. This is just speaking from personal experience - people I've known from the millitary (men and women) and the stories they've told. Ont time this guy told me how their friend got kicked out of the millitary for SA, and how he is scared that he might do something like it tpo at one of their parties when he gets drunk - IDK why he felt comfortable telling that, but he did. This also shows in the statistics of SA and R*pe of women in the US forces. www.rand.org/pubs/tools/TLA746-2/handbook/resources/data-on-sexual-assault-in-the-military.html So just please don't go around saying that the millitary is somehow a manhood ritual which imrpoves men/the quality of men and how they think of and treat women. But I do agree that something needs to change for men to grow up and start treating women better, and I think that you're spot on that it starts with what is being normalized and allowed in our culture by women.

Bestie is so fiery today🔥! I missed this energy. Hope we can see more of this.

The music you play when you talk about divine feminine energy in men takes me out every time 😭😂

I been thinking these same about biological changes in women make us grow up in this reality we live, like using it for good affording our lifes wherever we are, all in a natural way, and men don't grow too much if they don't put their will into it. I'm out of a years long draining relationship with this type of man who also got into drugs. And bestie u can even imagine, that was hell teaching! Love your content! Hugs from Uruguay! Tani.

thank you elle ❤ i was so confused about wtf a sassy man was and um....nope nope nope really appreciate the captioning too!

Men cant complain about being used, when they are the ones approaching you first, with an intent. Its transactional, thats playing the game. Men start the game, the moment men approach a woman who’s minding her business. Men approach women with the intent to use them.

Entitled incels basically

😢😢😢 I needed you like 15 years ago. Thanks for your videos, you are literally the best.

Period bestie you said everything every woman need to hear

I can’t 😂 “the pickmeishas” 😂 Her descriptions are a whole Mood.

Question: are you in America? I'm just wondering because you spoke about freedoms like women have equal rights in America. They don't. The equal rights amendment was never ratified. Therefore, all you have are equal privileges that can basically be rescinded at any time. So I'm just curious why that's never the thing that's mentioned or fought for. You'd think that constitutionally protected equal rights would be a much higher priority than the privilege, masquerading as rights, to be treated a certain way in the dating scene.

This is true and you can tell when a man has had positive guidance from an older man

thanks so much Elle, this should be taught to all girlies by their moms. to see all my friends married sassy men, the more i enjoy being single. can you imagine being a mum, taking care of two kids, still on maternity leave making more money than husband (because of income from you properties, side hustles) and still you give him money to support his business? so you take care of household (i mean mowing the lawn, taking care of garden and house and all the bills) and husband just works, thats all he does, he goes to work....? sassy men, all my friends. husbands get treatments, breakfast to bed, cooking, paid holidays..... woooow never ever.

Lord! My favorite RU-vid channel. “Don’t get mad, get paid” Elle. 🎉

My family tolerates this and I am FED UP! My mom’s therapist said she had that issue of married single mother because all she got from him was money. Everything else was her job or it didn’t get done. She is just glad at least she got money but in reality the world won’t evolve if men don’t evolve. My dad is an adult child to this day and it’s horrible. We need to stop letting boys be boys that never grow into men. I think we should also see the sassy women that are helping those men get too far. I had a relative that groomed and raped me at 14 and found out his mom was for it so I will never forget! My self-esteem is high now and it’s amazing!!!!!!!

I missed you! Thanks for posting ❤

Why do I sometimes feel you're about to slap me 😂

Dang sista, this one hits home. I've been pondering breaking up w my 5-mo bf for a while & even initiated one time but he talked me out of it. I'm far from the Nelly's or Pickies, but the reason I struggle w leaving is because we go way back (karmic rls type thing) so he knows how to give me the right nuggets to make me think he's different while downplaying his sassy male tendencies really well. It also helps that he's exactly my type physically & emotionally. We might share a very special bond & are madly in love, but as always my hunch about this rls was spot on. This video is such a wake up call for me so I guess five months is long enough! #DECENTERED #justanotherone

I have to comment one more time for the algorithm because she is literally on it. Some women could teach men but most men will not respect a woman in that aspect especially if she's not his mother. Only other men can teach each other and hold each other accountable. Please, any man that watches this, make your own podcast or video. Idc if you have to copy this amazing women because the messages are so detrimental for society to socialize better. We need men to have healthy family dinamics. Women can't be blamed for everything by these men anymore because we are supposed to be led and submit. Healthy men create healthy men and women period. There will always be bad apples of course. Men have to start really talking like this because women can not lead men into a healthier culture. It has to be men holding each other accountable. ❤

the ottoman took me out 🤣

This channel changed my life. Thank you so much❤

You're on point with this!! Great job.

I know you’re an Academia girlie. Pls make a video on tips to do well in any career as a girl.

Spoiled girlies unite! 👑💕💫

Elle, what did we do to deserve you 😭🙏💕 thank you for sharing your wisdom with us ✨

"They are HAGGLING you!! Bestie, wake up !" Boom 💥!

"BESTIE WAKE UP!" I dont know why but that hit me. I just discovered your channel and I like your vibe and your loving way of speaking to us (your subs). Keep it up with the topics. I love it!

This is actually almost word for word what Tate is telling men but the RP clan don't wanna hear this part of the message.

Sassy is a feminine trait. Somehow in my 20s all i attracted were sassyy, whiny, feminine men just because I had my stuff together and was the level-headed one. It's like they attach themselves to stable people like me. How do I stop them from even talking to me? I do vetting now but it's too late for me maybe

love your videossssss

Elle becoming my favorite youtuber

12:46 😂girl stahhhhp!! I know a few girls that are just trading money back and forth with their (sassy) bfs and I get insane second hand embarrassment from seeing those public payments to each other! humiliating

i’m a man, and a gay one, but you’re so mother for this

The sound effect at 14:29🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 . 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️ BESTY IV woken up.... Thank you 💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓