What Women Don't Understand About Successful Men 

Never marry or produce children a woman who isn't willing to get in the game and help you win. My woman has a career but she helps me work and that is the way it should be. If a woman is not your helpmate then she is purely a liability.

Another classic. Way too much game on this one. I agree 100% with this. The older I get the more I test women all the time. The smallest flag could turn me off and have me fall back. My peace of mind is so important to me that I refuse to let a woman or anyone for that matter disturb it. As for women wanting a complete man once he's successful its simple. Like my mother always said "women want to play house with a man but dont want to put in the work to build one with a man."

Had a chick tell me she wants the right now. But she never understood you can't just jump in and out of a mans life then expect to be taken serious when he makes it to the top.

Woman don't want to go thru the trails and tribulations of a season. They just want to ride in the victory parade front and center.

Some women get too brave. You can't trick a man thats had to hustle all his life. He'll give you that look you haven't seen before. fym

That woman's comment was very short-sighted to say the least. Not being a man myself, I am not always so keenly aware of the whole boundaries thing. As a woman, I don't even think we need to fully understand it. Being in order as a woman, will more often than not take care of that issue. The reason why many women don't "get" men, is because they don't "get" being women. Too often, womanhood is broken down into its superficial components. A woman's worth is often deemed to rest between her legs, and this idea is propagated by women more often than men in my opinion. If any lady is reading this, a little tip. One of the first tests men establish before they decide if and how to approach you, is how you present yourself. Got on a whore uniform? Expect to be treated as such. Also expect that he does NOT want you aside from that, and does NOT take you seriously. Are over-aggressive? Know everything, and he already can't impart simple tidbits of knowledge without push back? You won't be in his circle for very long, IF you get invited to the table again. In short, if you want a man to take you seriously, and really invest his time and money (two things he cared about well before you came along), be careful of how you present. Can't be out of order as a woman, and want an in-order man. More to the point of this video, I 100% agree with everything the brother said. Sisters, before you scroll past in an effort to disagree, just think for a second. The brother is telling us something about the way men think and perceive the world around them, and the women in their space. We aren't men, so we're not in position to argue the point. It's really some valuable insight. If you are single and want a serious relationship, it may behoove you to truly listen and take into consideration how men are directly saying what is needed for them to feel comfortable with you, and take you seriously as a partner/wife. *quietly turns around, and gently closes the door behind herself*

Rom keeping it 💯! If she didn't build with me, she hasn't proven herself. The more successful I BECOME, the more the woman has to bring to the table. Women are supposedly smarter, more perceptive, and better communicators. Yet they miss the basics! Even though men are DIRECT!

A "successful" man isn't worried about a woman violating his "boundaries;" he didn't just fall into success by accident

Smh, I wonder if the woman in the video is single or with a wealthy Prince Charming? When you build together you form a bond, and show your worth to each other.

Her money means nothing to me, she can keep dem crumbs. I need feet n hands on deck

Sacrifice is not bringing repeat leftovers to a million dollar table and expect a man to eat and be satisfied with the cook😒

PURE GOLD. "It's actually smart for a women to get a man before he reaches a level of success. To recognize and ride with him. And go through the times of sleeping on an air mattress, or go through the times when the only thing you had in your Cabinets is some spagettior popcorn kernels" WOW!

I don't want no girl that's not with me during the struggle

Ive been watching RU-vid since 2006 I never comment on my videos EVER, until today... The absolute truth Classic Rom Wills...you damned near started preaching. Thank you brother.

And that boundary becomes even more difficult for a woman when a men wasn’t getting no play from women before he became successful.

No wonder all those Cinderella-type movies are blockbusters! You don't trust someone who never worked along with you to build something... Since when did logical and critically thinking went out of style??

#GREAT COMMENTARY ROM# Any man sharing his success but not his struggle is a fool.

Big bro I will never understand why sisters don't see the error of their thinking. In Hispanic cultures specifically Mexican I have seen families literally building businesses together as a unit. The scenario I would give to the young lady on face book is to think of a person who wants to build a house. If that person asks a friend to help and that friend refuses to help but the house still gets built then who's house is it really. But if they both build it together and put in an equal amount of work then it becomes their house. Sisters today don't even realize how building as a couple can strengthen the bond in a relationship. I even heard a sister on you tube who fancies herself as a relationship guru say never date potential date actual. She's homeless and single by the way.

Rom you said a mouthful. You said a man will never put his hands on a woman who is in his boundary. I went thru sooo many years of hard trials with my husband and he still would hit me and kicked me out our home in a play for dominance. I just now understand that my husband never trusted me or loved me. Thank you

That's why I never been married and never will. Something else you said Rom that was profound. Woman taking on a hyfanated last name. I would want my wife to have my name only.

That boundary you described is called respect, selflessness and understanding.

Uncle Rom...i could listen to your wise words all day....keep up the awesome work...much love from South Africa

Such insightful gems!!! I was just making the association of how some people get offended about stepping on their shoes just like some get offended when someone steps on their lawn... Boundaries 👌🏾

Sir you have some profound wisdom.

Good teaching Mr. Rom. You are right on point. The boundary thing is serious when it comes men even when it come to a conversation between two people. Women typically don't understand because they never had to earn anything when it comes to dealing with men.

Another gem from the master teacher. And the classic composition "Manteca" in the background as a bonus!

I been feeling this way for a long time and didn’t know if I was right to feel that way thank you

This is nothing but truth...Thank you for this.

I can go from extremely high to extremely low in a second. Scary savage person. Closed book period and defensive from nature. Don't like to be touch for no reason. It's always funny when people look in my eyes and they know what's up. You need to test women as a strong man and i do it all the time.

Rom Wills you just earned yourself a new sub. This video was simply superb. It's something that I feel like I've always at least halfway understood subconsciously, but hearing your take on it has not only brought some insight and clarity into a lot of things I've seen and hear of, but even recent decisions I've made in my own life. About a month ago, I came across a crowd in the street surrounding two cats literally trying to tear each other apart over some Jordan's. I didn't hang around to get all of the specifics but I remember thinking to myself: "Damn, I know Jordan's aren't cheap, but FFS, they're just SHOES! Y'all really going hammer each other over this?" After watching you video and now thinking back to that, I still don't condone the fight at all - let alone the level it had escalate to - but taken from your particular perspective: I moreso "get it" now.

Reverend Rom hitting the nail on the head again.

Men sometimes leave women who go through the struggle with them for someone younger and/or prettier. This is why many women are no longer willing to sacrifice. This has been noted by statistics on 1st and 2nd marriages in America, that sociologists have analyzed.

Your explanations and insights shared in this video have revealed a lot to me about my previous relationships. Thankyou

Rom you should to start a woman's channel. So many women need to hear this message big bro.

Another masterpiece brother Rom, thank you.

It was Patrice O'Neal who often said that women always come, think and/or speak from a place of entitlement. He also mentioned that women fail to tap into a man's desires as they are unable/unwilling to understand a man. Usually a woman will assume that all she has to do is show up or resort to deceptive means to get with a select man like the "bait 'n switch" approach and what not. This also reflects Tom Leykis' assessment of women being "dream killers" as they don't want to build with a man. However, BGS has explained this perfectly in his esoteric wisdom series about how a woman is the recipients of a man's light. As a successful man, one must put a woman to the test to be certain if she is down with the program and so on. However, there are no guarantees as loyalty and trust are two things women don't value as much as men do. Speaking of women crossing a man's boundaries, I'll let my man Jamie Foxx break it down as such... ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-HRblc43QTbU.html

Man... I'm glad I stumbled upon this channel 🤗

Great points Rom as usual! Women understand this concept on some level. However, this would require a woman to put in work with their man, and some women are unwilling to put in the work. By put in the work, I mean, be with an average man who is on the way to success but has not achieved it yet. This way she is a part of his success. When I was in college working on my degree in Mathematics, the women I dated did not care, and gave me shyt because I didn't have much money back then, and I was in my mid 20s, with student loan debt. Fast forward to me becoming an Actuary five years ago (A Mathematician who works with insurance companies). Which again, when I tell a woman this they do not care initially. Until they look it up that is; and find out that I make over 140. It's sad, I consider myself an average looking black man, and when I hit the gym a lot I can upgrade some, so I attract a lot of average looking women. The only time successful or very hot women pay attention to me is when they either see my home, or see my car. And then they expect me to be loyal to them, take care of their kids, and fly them around the country? So basically they qualify me by my tangible things, and have done nothing to help me get here. What reality are they living in because it's obviously not mine. This is why I used to be a nice guy, but pretty much now, I am just a selfish asshole. And women consider me as a good man, when there are plenty of men who make average incomes or are on their way to success who would treat them better than I am willing to at this point.

Brother, inspiring stuff!

I just discovered your channel. This video was very well said and very well done. Salute.

You earned my subscribe! Awesome stuff right there.

what happens in the situation that in their older age the man drops the wife that had his back 100% for the superficial gold digger and marries her? .. this happen often.. that is treason

You've just gain another subscriber! I've watched a few of your video and damnn you're spot on brother on everything. I'll recommend this channel to all my homie! Keep up the good work brother 👊

Rom Thank You for putting me up on game.I always thought this to be true.

One of the best videos you've done, it takes ALOT for a man to become truly successful, especially a black man living in this society. When you make an INVESTMENT in something you become attached and work hard to maintain that as much as you can, that's why it's so easy for alot of women to leave dudes and take half their shit. There's alot more I want to say on this topic but I don't wanna ramble

Uncle Rom, you’re always on point!

one thing i was taught about relationships is having a relationship quick to forgive. it is so much deeper than what the eyes can see.

Glad you gave a shout out to Ashanti people. One can learn a lot from reading about the tribe.

*Dear Lord this some heavy chit Mr Rom* #💒CHUUUCH💒

The way you describe it, very few women make it within the man's boundary in life, it is a cherished and sacred place. Some men do not recognize the worth oc their boundary and its easily pebetrated and unfortunately pillaged. The Boundary is Real.

Man Uncle Rom this is high level Macking...U should put this in a book and let it florish into a movie on your own platform man...shit..this game you just dropped flew over alot of heads man... JD in AtL

Rom, so much gold in this one, they're gonna have to call you LR - Leprechaun Rom ! Great advice about building towards that future. Black community would excel with the mindset in this video. That imprint often hurts a woman's chances with the guy that's been hustling and dedicated to building his network, reputation, and resources.

Very true. There's Rules, Regulations, Boundaries and Standards. That, Come with a Successful Man.

Good one this morning brother Rom

I notice the longer it takes for some men to find true companionship,the more successful they become.at least thats the way it should be.

Another Slow Clap Video Rom! We've definitely talked about this before in a couple of your other videos you mentioned! That boundary thing is definitely real because that's always a successful man's perspective when it comes to dealing with certain women. Deep down inside, these successful men know these women's intentions regardless of whatever that woman tells that successful men out of her mouth, he's only taking it with a grain of salt. That's why he just deal with her for pleasure reasons, hit it and have a good time and maybe even spend a couple of dollars on the woman but he's doing it within boundary, his boundary. The man is not going to give her any more than what she's worth. That's just the nature of women, having that self-entitlement thinking that they can just come right on in after a man have went through all the turmoil, head aches and pains along with Blood Sweat and Tears after that successful man made it to the top and they just think they're supposed to just reap the benefits off of this man's hard earned money that he went through hell to get! Like I said before, these successful man is not going for that s*** when it comes to these women no matter what they tell that man because all it's going to do is go through one ear and out the other of that successful man's ear and he's going to keep on giving her that raw sex, having fun and a good time with her and that's it! No way in the hell that man is going to make that woman a part of his lifestyle and officially bring her into his camp and enjoy the fruits of his labor , it's just not going to happen and that woman have to understand that and even if she don't, the successful man could care less. At the end of the day, all that woman going to end up being is disappointed and looking stupid once she realize that she don't have anything coming on that end of that man's well stick but a good time, some pleasure and some good dick. That's it! LOL! Plus the wealthy man's going to do it within limits on his boundaries, not up to her expectations, that's far as it's going to go and marriage is not even an option for them kind of women from certain successful men, I will say most of them!!!!!!!

Preach Brother!

This man is speaking the truth!!!

Master Rom... One word... Epic.

That idea of boundaries is something I ran into with another student. She had no sense of boundaries and said so.

Those of you raising your sons, teach them what a real woman looks like so they dont settle for scraps. Teach them that playing with their food will cause them to choke on it later. Either eat the meal or wait and order something better.

U exactly right! Love ur videos ur like the yoda of the negromanosphere

Sooooooo on point brother Room.

Women being in touch with , at peace with and without contempt of their femininity will go a long ways. A woman that understands men and knows how to interact with men and doesn't want to control or shame them for being men , who enjoys men not just for extracting resources or status, she will be crowned with glory.

My wife left us because "i didnt have it together". She wanted everything laid out for her. She was looking for perfection. Im far from that.

Lower class women can successfully date up if they are willing to, FIRST, spend the time developing and improving themselves, so they have something worthwhile to offer.

all facts! subscribed.

Rom this is deep..a man's boundary is similar to the human immune system and how it is careful on allowing certain things into the body and how eliminates threats to The body... A man have to be careful what kind of woman and which woman he allows into his boundary.. by being selective a successful man is protecting his Assets from possible threats..Initiation to me is like knowing the secret password

Every man wants a "ride or die" chick. PERIOD! Another gem Bro Rom! Thanks!

I'm mexican and a lot of things that you mention about black people reflect alot in our community as well (Especially with WOMEN) Keep preachin' brotha!

Okay lets be serious People need to really observe and analyze people period! Men - you need a ride or die that understands you and want to be with you and isnt there for just the money! Women- you need a man who will be the rock of the family that you can build a legacy with And you both need to respect and love each other unconditionally and be willing to work through anything together.... life will not always be roses and sunshine ... I swear all these shows, drama , social media, comparisons and daily fuckery got people jaded as fuck ... like an upgrade is the only option.... The ones that have amazed me relationship wise were those who stay married over 25 years and built a legacy .... People people people if you want it all ... you got to be very precise and accurate in how you assess people ! I cant tell how many times people miss this and pay for it later !

I see I am going to upset some women come dating. I ain't compromising shit! This reminded of a comment I posted under a FB video with Tyrese explaining his ex girl wasn't there for him and to be wife material, women need to be there for their men in tough times. Some Black women in the comments said its his fault because he chose the Hollywood super fine chick who was self centered anyway ( They were trying to flip the argument what men say to women: "You knew he was no good but you still went with him" ). Then I basically said Tyrese would not have chosen her if she was selfish otherwise he wouldnt have said what he said. And in a relationship, it goes without saying that you should go through the trenches together. So far no one challenged my comment.

much respect

Couldn't have said it better myself. As a man, I respect a woman who uphold traditional values such as loyalty and respect. Gold diggers and feminists have neither. Successful men could never genuinely love them for who they are.

Eloquent and accurate.

ALL FACTSSSSSSSS!!!!

I love how women shame you into not accepting their shortcomings all the while boasting about their expectations of men.

Good stuff...

this video deserve a 🏆 n three 💯 million likes

Very very good insight shared. The question is how many woman will appreciate and apply this knowledge?

Wow nice points

Tell 'em!

Subbed.

First time hearing, I enjoyed listening. I believe a smart woman would be able to apply this to her man as well.

But Rom, I've always heard stories about women who build with their man, been there for them Day 1, but end up leaving them for a younger, more attractive woman? Am I wrong?! I feel like once a man reaches a certain level in his life/career he feels he's ENTITLED to having the woman who is externally beautiful... I assume for validation...Am I wrong? From what I see living in Atlanta , that's what it's about... being able to have the most attractive woman on their arm? Am I wrong? So what's the point of being a Day 1 when he's probably going to dip sooner or later?

Completely agree. Dealing with a woman and seemingly temporarily let her into your boundary just for sex or for the public image. Another thing I would add is that: Women don’t understand that a successful man is busy! He might not always have the time to meet up for croissants and scones every morning like they want. Some people really don’t understand that. Thanks for the video and it’s nice to meet you. I’m Bruno

POWERFUL

Women want without regard which is selfish.women want whats at the end of book but will pretend they was there at the beginning 😂😂😂

You wasnt with me shooting in the gym.....nor was you with me in the trenches, when I had to dig myself out the ditch.

I have a girl now she want me to do this and do that but u ain't put in no work steady talking she has responsibilities who doesn't

Classic!

P.S I don't know if you listen to Sargent Willie Pete, but his stance from listening to alot of his videos are that he doesn't want men to want women before successful cause in his mind he thinks it isn't "manly" and plus he says the men will be endeaded to her and she'll having bragging rights. I would be interested to see how you view his opinions.

Boom!!!

Rom.. You shoulda charged women for this one... You should replace Steve Havery on his show with this one... You giving them the "real" and not what they just want to hear... Good words.

But what about if she's a successful woman in her own right?

That's Game..!!!🤗🤗🤗🤔😥

ROM I have a situation in an ordeal you know me being an aspiring political figure and politician I find it very very hard to meet a woman who isn't coming to me with an ulterior motive whether it be Financial whether to be seen with me or what have you I have had women just throw themselves on me bring drugs Etc and I don't know who I'm dealing with now I don't know who's my friend who's my phone even old acquaintances and friends have turned a negative eye towards me not even really believing in my dreams and so it is a very very lonely journey and die sometimes I just wish that I had somebody that I can really really talk to God bless

Yep, they CAN'T distinguish between a man's boundary and him being selfish. It's a difference.

If you admonish women who act privileged without proof they deserve it. That is their fault for entertaining those type of women at all. Making it hard for the woman you really want to get to you.

Oscar wilde said," 20 years of romance makes a women look like ruin, but 20 years of marriage makes her look like a public building"