I am a survivor of narcissistic individuals and a diligent researcher of cluster B disorders and the effects of trauma.
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Hey! Really difficult to offer even just an educated view without context and insight, but I definitely wouldn't rule them out based on that; absent overt stalking behaviour.
That's lovely to hear, thank you for listening, and continuing to support. Really appreciate it. And yes! There's a couple of opportunities I've got in the pipeline for us to be able to connect more closely, and I know you did ask before 😊 stay tuned over the next few weeks, and in the meantime, feel free to email me at charmainez.83@googlemail.com if you'd like to have a chat, I'm happy to see where we can best arrange something 💜
Your vedio on we attract who we are. We're wounded so we attract people who wound us .totally agree. But the narc is wounded also but he attracts givers while we attract takers. The solution lies in the self concept. We have opposite self concepts WHO AM I .WE NEED TO STOP PROJECTING.we see only the positive in others and the negative in ourselves. The narc sees the opposite. So when we see the negative in others and the positive in ourselves we come into balance. When we're in balance we hear our higher centers. We're all one sided so we cannot here God. Binary thinking is not thinking.we know the problem and it can't be solved with binary thinking. You and me not you or me. The law of assumption helps.you are very educated .these narc don't see others value. I recognized your value immediately. You are a very valuable. Enough!! Thanks I appreciate your value. I can see you were deeply wounded. Good luck❤❤❤
Thank you so much for such a thoughtful note 💜 I appreciate your kind words, and I love your take on the topic - a great analysis. Thanks for being a part of the community, stay safe 🙏
Mine moved on but he still wanted me without the commitment , the abuse continues well after the separation, constantly Goading then recording me , showing up at my home , expecting to stay and bath , using my address to commit fraud when he knew it would get me in trouble... the verbal abuse on a daily basis , watching me from a distance. We have a child together autistic and he intentionally makes life harder trying to push me into a mental unit. I have no choice but to stand my ground and report harassment Good luck to anyone suffering through this they make life unbearable. Don't let them break you 🫶
@@yvonnewilliams7022 Ahh, I'm so glad. Comments like this make producing the content even more worth it 💜 I'm glad you found value in the video and thank you for supporting Yvonne!
I've noticed a certain type of man is generally attracted to me or should I say the men who will most often approach me. I can sense the energy now. It is most time men who want to be centre of attention (Im nothing like that).. I definitely draw in egotistical (narcissistic inclined) men. Im also a good looking woman. Men have objectified me in the past and refuse to be in that situation again. I now believe my worth, from the inside. My vibration has changed but same men come and but now I won't entertain it. I hope to me meet a good match for me, where I am at today.
Thank you for sharing 😊 I love this, and can relate to your story so much. Self worth is powerful and it's interesting to see the difference in our choices and behaviour, as begin to change as we heal and increase our awareness. Thank you for tuning in. Stay safe ❤
6:58 My ex narc methodically, meticulously, and strategically planned my discard but I ended up discarding them before the plan could be fully executed because I’m more insightful as an individual than my ex is manipulative as a person. I met the replacement supply on my way out the door and pitied them both. I already knew ahead of time to anticipate the inevitable hoover, post discard, and had already positioned myself to reject it. Less than 48hrs post discard I was being hoovered via text, then came the phone calls and outpouring of pseudo-concern & support. I went full blown 🖐🏽 NoContact knowing good and well it would not only narcissistically injure my ex, but also because those negative emotions associated with the Hoover rejection would definitely need to be conveniently dumped elsewhere, elsewhere being onto the new supply. My unplanned absence and/or loss of my control of me to the narc would force the narc to emotionally dump on the new supply, effectively putting a huge dent thus dampening the honeymoon phase of their new relationship. I’m not a vindictive person but the new supply was complicit with the narc’s destruction of our relationship, so in knowing that, essentially removing myself from their relationship equation will either inevitably precipitate its demise or accelerate the devalue/discard phase of it. The new supply isn’t Grade A and he was also back for seconds or thirds, who cares, so I know he’s probably about to get it 10 times worse than I did. You cannot win whenever you play dirty(NeNe Leakes) and you can’t build a strong relationship foundation on the back of someone else’s emotional pain and/or turmoil. Good Luck 2 them both because they’re going to need it 😉
In 18 months after getting kicked out my ex-wife narc invited herself to my hotel room when I went to visit my son. Keep in mind she was married to the new supply. I told her no and to keep it about my son only. She was tired of him in less than two years and if I didn't cheat with her I am sure she found someone that would.
@@charmainespeaks Yes, the cycle continued with her calling me up complaining about how the new supply was treating her bad. I told her I don't care and keep it about my son. Then if I didn't show any concern she would just cuss me out and call my new wife a Bitch. She tried that many times over the years to see if I would fall for that trap. I found out she has several domestic violence charges against her for hitting her husband. She use to hit on me so I knew it was only a matter of time before it went to hell for him. Eventually he divorced her. When they were having their affair I warned him and told him see what she is doing to me and you will be next. But, I supposed he was on his ego trip thinking he is taking another man wife. LOL, she walked him right into her honey pot trap. Over the years when I called to speak to my son he would sometimes answer the phone. I would troll him asking if he has learned to duck and dodge flying plates? Or has she started spending the entire night away from the home? Or, has she stopped wearing her wedding ring? He would not say a word but I knew he felt stupid. I told him about how his wife invited herself back to my hotel room when he was deployed with the military. I told him whenever he wanted me to take a polygraph test about turning down his wife's invitation to sleep together just let me know. I suppose I can be very petty when it is called for and he deserved all of it. I am sure she found a a divorce lawyer with low morals to bleed him for as much as she could get. He deserves that as well. Yes, I got away with my sanity and life got a hundred times better away from her.
I quickly discarded the narc who moved in next door and thought she had a slave because I was helpful and polite. The depth of toxicity in her is something beyond anything I had ever seen. That was 5 years ago. The predator has since laid countless traps, baits and provocations, lied to police about me, constantly slandered me everywhere to anyone who would listen and stalked me cunningly and relentlessly. Her rage - self loathing - is volcanic and I am the target she projects onto. I have spent the last three years keeping careful Journals and photo/video evidence of her obsession. I realise that obsession will never end and that my best response is no response at all. Not a word, not a glance. It can sometimes be difficult not to give her a lesson she'll never forget, but I know that's just getting stuck down in the mud with a pig - it will never end. The obsessed enraged narc is a stain on our lives.
Oh wow! This is possibly one of the worst accounts of obsession that I've heard, it's definitely up there. I can only imagine how mentally and emotionally draining all this has been for you Wayne. You're a VERY strong person to keep composure through it all, and you are 100% correct - no response is the best response - the pig absolutely loves to play in the mud, even better with another. They are relentless, consumed by the need to 'win' their own twisted mind games, and totally preoccupied with manipulation, power and control. I really appreciate you sharing your story with us, God bless you and keep you safe. Welcome to our community <3
Narcacissm is not a defence mechanism, they are on the offence. They plot, scheme, destroy many lives, deceive, abuse without batting an eyelash. NarcDojo explains this disorder to a T. They prey on people, they are predator’s not victims.
I understand how they navigate life as it pertains to interactions with other people, I speak about this in my other videos. Narcissistic personality disorder is not a defence mechanism used to defend against other people, the mechanism of defence is used to shield the narcassist from their true self. The false self (defence) is born out of trauma.
Your message was spot on for me Charmaine. Thank you for sharing. Please feel better soon. To know that if I gave into this hoover, I would invite more chaos, confusion, and destruction into my life, tightening my resolve to never experience that nightmare again! So appreciative of your work.❤🎉
Thank you for this comment, and yes you're definitely doing the right thing by resisting the lure of the hoover - there is nothing good behind that. Keep yourself safe and stay strong 💜 I hope you're well.
The most self-destructive thing you can possibly do is allow a narcissist in your life. Please recognize the early warning signs and go zero contact asap. These people are NOT human. Seriously. They will destroy you both physically, mentally, and spiritually,...then move on to the next victim.
Wow, this made me feel uneasy to be honest. Quite unnerving for you I can imagine. Stay strong in your position and prioritize your safety, these people can be relentless in their pursuit to regain control. I hope you're well ❤ thank you for sharing x
Yes. Exactly. Because to us empaths, every moment is a celebration. As you say, even serving them breakfast-we cannot but help make it a celebration because we love life and more importantly, we love them. 😐. Now if we could only learn to treat OURSELVES the same way. 🫤. It takes a lot of trauma until we can do that for ourselves.
Perfectly articulated 💜 thank you for such a thoughtful and ACCURATE comment 💫 we do rock! And it takes a heap of learning, experience and pain to become an empath with healthy boundaries xx I hope you're well.
I like that analogy about the pig and the mudd we deserve better all of us,and you nailed it about the power need for control over us mine even used a car as a weapon they are dangerous stay safe and free of the baiters
They really will try ANYTHING! And they'll go do far below the belt it's sickening 🙄 Thanks for listening and for your continued support of the channel, I hope you're doing well? Keep safe lovely 💜
Wow! Did i just go throuh THAT!! Something happened on the phone where i made it clear that I WILL NEVER BE WITH HIM AGAIN!!! Will probably be hoovered again. This time i will block him..or maybe NOW...YES. ..NOW...! Thank you for this!
Being with an empath, is a pleasure, going the extra mile. A narcissist loves an empath to enjoy that supply, but because they are greedy demon, they will suck dry the empath partner. Prayers for Empath against serving our caring souls to the wrong person, aka, narcissist Melford Morris Psalm 23 -73🙏🇯🇲🫅
I was recently grey rocking my sister. She keeps getting more and more verbally abusive, trying to provoke a reaction. I am now no contact. Hopefully she will move on. ❤
As the saying goes... and is particularly fitting in this conversation... it gets worse before it gets better. Stay strong, they need to know that supply don't live here anymore 💜 Thank you for tuning in and sharing your experience with us here. Stay safe X
Hey Janet, I empathise completely with the feeling of loneliness, and breaking from abuse after such a long history of being mistreated. It can feel like you have a feeling of emptiness, and a mountain to climb to heal and experience life in a different way. A healthy and healed way. But you CAN move forward and achieve the life you deserve, I'm.not saying its going to be easy, but I promise you it's going to be worth it. And furthermore, you've now made space for this transformation to take place 💜💫 Take one day at a time and focus on consuming content/books that allows you to learn about yourself, your past experiences, your childhood and how this may have effected your relationship as an adult, learn about the healing process after abuse, join communities of like-minded people, amd if possible seek some therapy to have important conversations about whats happened to you x Practice self care, exercise, see friends and family who you trust, do the little things you enjoy and with a bit of time and consistency, you'll gain more strength, understanding and clarity. Be patient with yourself, you've been through a lot and recovery takes time 🙏 Please do join my upcoming live streams aswell, ill be speaking about healing, rebuilding, and becoming the person that we want to attract in our lives when the time is right. Thank you for being part of our community. Please stay safe 💜
That's why narcs are so good with babies and pets. A baby is an accesory the narc uses to get supply with from others. When the child gets older and has their own thoughts, feelings, needs, a mind of their own. That's when the narc parent devalues and abuses their child.
