She looks like a model! This is honestly shocking to me... She could be in a "lookmaxxing" video and I've seen ladies who look like her being in these edits!!
You guys don't understand female mating stratedgy. She considers herself ugly because the attractive men she likes don't want her It doesn't mean how you say that she is beautiful.
Seeing a pretty girl make a video about calling herself ugly and her experience breaks me. Now that I've seen a pretty girl call herself ugly makes me understand why I was always treated so horribly in my life. You're so much prettier than me and I wish you the best in feeling better with yourself, you deserve it.
I relate to this heavily. When im at my worst i search for vids like this and its always a girl prettier than me. Always. And im not talking abt this specific vid when i say this, but in general in these vids theyll mention things like being approached less than their friends, feeling less pretty than before, being influenced by unrealistic standards on the internet, and for me, i just cant relate. I dont compare myself to models or internet personalities or my past self or my most gorgeous friends. I genuineky have never seen a woman look worse than me. Genuinely. So i feel like i cant fukky relate to them. I think i would be ugly even in their eyes, even by their standards id be uglier than them. Like they feel less pretty than other ppl but im on a whole different level, i am actually kne of the ugliest people in the world, lol. And i dont mean to dismiss their feelings and i genuinely want to believe their experiences (although its pretty hard when its a gorgeous woman saying all those things about her), i believe its how she feels, i do. But to me it feels like she jist *feels* this way and i *am* this way, kike for me its not a feeling, not dysmorphia, its a natural reaction to a fact, similar to hiw anxiety and depression are natural reactions to the current state of the world and not actually an individual problem, if u see what j mean. My ugliness is a fact, not a feeling.
@@3choblast3r4Romans 10:9-11 says, "If you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved".Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone. 18 Yea, a man may say, Thou hast faith, and I have works: shew me thy faith without thy works, and I will shew thee my faith by my works. 19 Thou believest that there is one God; thou doest well: the devils also believe, and tremble.❤❤😊
@@Ravioli-uw9uy😊😊Romans 10:9-11 says, "If you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved".
"Being ugly is one of the most painful things in the entire world" Real Edit: So for the people who are disagreeing in the comments, please don't take this way too seriously. I wrote this comment a while ago without expecting it to get this many attention (Which I should've). And it's based on what I've experienced with feeling ugly. As for me feeling ugly was extremely painful, yet I won't deny that there are other things that are much more painful than that, but I can say I've gotten over it (Feeling ugly). I don't know if I should keep the comment or not, maybe I shouldn't. You can suggest what I should do in the comments. Have a nice day :).
I think that's very sad. But look nobody is perfect. Look at some of the videos of famous women with out make up, hairstyles etc.. You will see they are not as beautiful as Hollywood, and the media want people to believe.
Well why do that? If you want to feel like a woman? Dress like one. Don't put yourself down or feel sorry for yourself?. If you keep dressing like a man? Then they win? Don't let them win .
Dude, im just so tired... For me, its not just a feeling "im ugly", I consider a fact. People arent "mean" to me, but unconsciously they treat me different. I do skincare, sleep early, eat healthy, and I'm trying to go to the gym. But genetics are cruel. I cant even look in the mirror without crying, lol.
I have deep respect of you. I'm not so disciplined. I don't do much scincare, I don't eat healthy, I don't sleep early and I'm not trying to go to gym. Nevertheless I'm complaining sometimes. How do you find this discipline ? I think you are stronger than you think you are. Maybe other people see this obsession and keep their distance. But obsession over something is a very great trait, I personally think. Maybe you just focus a little too much on other expectations ( Beaty standards) and not on the things you want to do for yourself. You don't need to focus too much on those expectations, learn instead turning your strength into something you really want to reach.
@@pardemeia Honey, I'm tired too. Whether I do beautiful hair, put on makeup, or whatever makes me feel my best. People still treat me differently than other people. It's not because I have a bad personality, but it's the way I look. Receptionists, teachers, friends, even my closest friends have chosen to treat me badly too. I may not be ugly all the time. I can look good but I have to work hard. Many times more than others I don't understand if it's necessary to look good all the time. Like, is it necessary? I can definitely tell you that it is. The older I get, the more pain I get. New friends with me soon disappear. People who gossip about me The older I get, the crazier I get. I'm constantly afraid that other people will judge me. Is my hair oily? Are my glasses ugly? Is my makeup dirty? Do I look bad all the time? Yes, no matter how hard I try
I find this bewildering because you are so pretty. You have beautiful clear skin, red lips, a naturally pretty and symmetrical face...you are slender and attractive....You are very pretty. You don't even need any makeup, you are already pretty. The reason people don't tell you you are pretty is because they are jealous of you and don't want to inflame your ego.
Thats major gaslighting. The question of whether ugly or beautiful is decided by people and their reactions. You may say that you don't care about what others say, but sorry, we live in a society, sadly. As an ugly guy, women gaslight me with, "you are ok" but you are not my type.
@@5678plm that's not gaslighting, it's called letting you down gently. Instead of blaming others for why they don't find you attractive, work on making yourself a good catch. Dress better, groom better, work out, take pride and passion in your work & hobbies, work on your confidence and social skills, get out and enjoy life without wondering why girls don't like you - if they see you as someone enjoying their life without a care of what others think, that gives you value. This is what I've learned over the past few years and wish to god I could go back and teach it to my teenage self, as someone who grew up 'ugly'.
@@5678plm Just because you’re not someone’s type specifically, doesn’t mean you’re ugly. Everyone has their own type and what that type is, varies a lot from person to person.
I clicked on this video for comfort about my looks, but I kinda realized, we look so hideous to ourselves. We surround ourselves with people who judge based on looks, which is most people, and tell ourselves we are ugly. In reality, we arent as ugly as we think. Im watching the video as i type this because I find her so attractive, I saw her, Im watching her rant about being ugly, and I think she's stunningly gorgeous. It makes me think I have a chance of being as pretty as her. If this is how she looks at her worst, then i can't imagine how beautiful she is when she's thriving. Thank you for giving me hope in myself. You are genuinely so beautiful, hearing you talk about feeling this way made me realize how society fucks us up. Also you dont look 30, I honestly thought you were in highschool still.
Regardless of how pretty u are, this video resonates with me so much. people are so shallow. so superficial. it breaks my heart. I actually love u for posting this
People ignore ugly girls that’s the truth. My first day of college this beautiful rich girl said that she was shy as me.. literally the next day she became friends with the popular girls.
i felt this. the popular girls only befriend other attractive girls. i tried to hang out with a group because of my friend who was familiar with one of them and they just looked at me really awkwardly, didn’t say a word to me and clearly didn’t want me in their presence. in high school, I remember this popular pretty girl who sat next to me in class to be closer to her boyfriend and she whipped her hair in my face twice and always looked at me like i was inferior to her. and it’s not just popular people, virtually every friend group i was in, i was always replaced, someone didn’t like me and tried to get the person i was closest away from me, etc i also get bad customer service. I went to a thai restaurant and the worker upfront didn't even greet me, had no expression on her face and looked at me like she was just annoyed by my existence. I ordered something, then sat down at a table. it took 8 minutes to serve me a glass of water when there was no one else in the restaurant. Then later two women come in and the same worker immediately and joyfully greets them with a big smile on her face and got them their waters in 2 seconds. almost every employee i encounter treats me like sh*t.
strange. My wife is the most beautiful woman I've ever seen in my life and she was typically ignored in high school. It's just a matter of different experiences.
@@MoonlightrainsI can attest to this, I'm very imtroverted and was shy as a kid, been to 3 highschool, the popular girls basically always chased me to be their friend, I always wondered why..
"I just want to be normal" i felt that. For the longest time i craved for plastic surguries and now for the first time in my life that i have a boyfriend he tells me that even objectively i am one of the prittiest women he has ever met.
I’m a guy and RU-vid recommended your channel. I watch DBDR as well. You talked about the phase where you were kind of cute and it really struck a nerve. But it also leads me to believe that all of this may be much more than just skin deep. In HS I regularly got the lead in Theatre productions and I was constantly called cute, women asking to touch my hair etc. Now at 35 I genuinely think I terrify women, I don’t even bother engaging and have suffered from severe social anxiety most of my life. I’ve just decided to entirely focus on myself and hopefully at least have a life where I can be financially stable. You’ll likely just write me off as one of those online creeps, id likely do the same if I did a face reveal… I simply wouldn’t believe someone telling me I was attractive. I think you’re cute, and I’m not dismissing what you’re saying. There will be people out there that find you attractive but ultimately you’re not going to take their word for it if your mind isn’t in the right place. Don’t let this control your life, you’re going to be fine dude.
Try going to different places to meet new people. Sometimes it depends on the area you live in ngl. Your only 35 though so you still have lots of time. You could also try dating websites but I would be careful cus there might be some weird people on those. You will most likely find someone eventually if you still want to be with someone. All that matters is that your happy with your own life
you’re not ugly, you’re perfectly normal/above average. i have ethnic features that society deems unattractive and i hide my face every time i go outside. i don’t even have a job because of this and for other reasons.
@@nainsivarshney7704. Yea but you can wear that face covering… so it works out well.. I’d have to become a ninja. Literally. or wear those covid masks..
i felt this video heavily. i used to get bullied when i was younger, but it sorta stopped as i gradually got older. i’m now in sophomore year in highschool, nobody bullies me anymore (i hope nobody does as this is the start of the year) but i can easily tell how i get treated differently from others. for example i’m in need of a pencil or any sort of that, i ask a guy for one and he completely ignores me. but when a pretty girl asks for one it’s like right away he hands her one. i’m always embarrassed of my ugly face at school or even in public, but manly school is when it gets worse. people my age or around my age looking 10x better than me guy or girl. i feel like the ugliest person at my whole school, it’s embarrassing to look the way i look, i often hide my face looking down at my phone. it’s these double standards, it’s like when you’re born pretty you’re born with a automatic advantage, it’s like you’re one step ahead of anyone else. i can see how everyone treats me differently, how teachers ignore you or pick favorites, how guys ignore you and talk to your attractive friend instead. i will NEVER feel pretty with or without makeup, i’ve tried doing skincare, working out, eating healthy, but all those things never help and i eventually gave up. i learned to learn that i’m forever gonna look this way for the rest of my life, i came to learn that i just have to accept myself for being a ugly girl. i know what people might think, “you’re only in highschool! you’ve got the rest of your life!” yes i’m aware of that. but this generation especially with social media it raises beauty standards, and if you don’t fit any of those standards you’ll feel uglier. i don’t have big lips, a small nose, a slim face, with small cheeks, or a good body either. i know i’ve got somewhat a ‘good’ personality, but no guy will ever get to know you if he doesn’t find you pretty so my personality is basically useless. i already planned on getting plastic surgery when i’m older, all i can do is just cry and cry until i cant and fully accept that i’m ugly, i just hope one day i’ll look in the mirror and be happy with what i see.
I don't get it though, you are not ugly, you are beautiful! 😮 If that really is your profile picture, I don't know why your crying? Edit: Please please please, don't get plastic surgery 😢 Don't ruin your face ):
I completely get what you're saying. I had really bad body dysmorphia too when I was younger and I experienced much of the stuff you did. I won't tell you you're not ugly because I know from plenty of experience that doesn't make any difference whatsoever, but what I will say is what helped me was I stopped focusing on what I thought others thought of me-- which was mostly in my head-- and started thinking about what I thought of me. This actually changed my life because I learned to love myself, which led me to personal development, which ultimately led to me realizing was never ugly. I just lacked confidence. Hope that kind of helps 🙏 🙏 🙏
This honestly was very comforting for me. I've grown up ugly. Yet as everyone says. 'Youre not THAT ugly' or 'There's people far worse then you.' it hurts. It really does. I strive to be like other people. I want to be other people. I struggle a lot with my body. I honestly hate it so much. I can really relate to this video. Even if you find people who are 'uglier' than you. (in my experience) They strive to be like 'you' which hurts. For I strive to be like others yet I find people who claim to want to be me. I hate it. They should never want to be as disgusting and gut wrenching as me. I really have low self esteem and people claim I'm attractive yet I don't feel it. I look in the mirror and see a figure I hate from head to toe. I really hope you do better though. (to the girl in the video) I doubt you'll read this but as weird as it may seem, I would really like to be friends. You seem like a person I can find comfort and relate too.
@@mrkite89 Chad is a selfish bastard who girls love because he would never say that, I'm not talking about a guy who suffocates girls with compliments, but a guy who is real with her and tell her she is attractive.
@@mrkite89 Don't assume things. Body dysphoria is real phenomenon that twists your self-image badly, especially if others enforce it by saying mean things. Then the positive comments won't matter, regradless from who they are coming from.
She has a body dysmorphic disorder. It's not easily fixed by compliments. You can compare it to an ED. No matter how many people say the person is too thin they will see themselves as fat.
She has BDD. The best way to describe it is like anorexia when no matter how many people tell you you’re not fat, your brain will always convince yourself that you are. This is the case except she believes she’s ugly because her brain has made her think that. compliments won’t really help
@@4nniwentmiayep, that’s the thing She’s a very very beautiful girl, but like someone with anorexia, even though she’s beautiful she thinks she’s ugly, like a person with anorexia will think they’re fat even though they are very thin
@@4nniwentmia Thank you for explaining. This channel has periodically come up as a suggestion for me and I have been at a loss because she very obviously is not ugly. She has very nice features and her hair looks full and lovely. It's just messy in this video I hope someone can help her to figure this out
Thank you for being so brave and posting this. This is something I’ve also dealt with for many years and it breaks my heart to know that so many other women and girls go through it too 😢
girl you are literally not ugly ppl on the internet will say anything to make someone insecure and i know it’s hard to realize but you are literally so pretty and have beautiful pale skin a small nose high cheekbones good forward facial growth and pretty eyes. People are so horrible and I rly wish you could see the truth in your own beauty
As a girl who is actually ugly and used to make youtube videos as well about it i have the exact same thought processes and thoughts as you but i am genuinely ugly i think your genuinely very pretty societal standard wise but know i hear you
I feel you, for me what gets me the most is that I used to be beautiful as a little girl. The older I got the uglier I became, even looking at old photos is enough to break me. I can’t face a camera without breaking down. I’m no longer photogenic, I look very bad whenever I try to take selfies. I barely have any photos of myself. I also struggle with facial eczema, it came out of no where in middle school, I’m now 22 and I wish it would go away. I hate it when my skin flares up and gets red. I look disgusting. I’ve had to deal with people staring at me and stop smiling whenever they had to look at me. I look worse when I smile, I’ve caught people looking almost shocked when I do so instead I keep a straight face. If I do smile it’ll be a small smirk and that’s it. It’s hard and it’s made me want to cry because I go out and see girls who are gorgeous and it makes me feel inferior. I feel bad for anyone who has to see me.
Girl I don't know how u look lyk but imma tell u I'm worse and feel pity as well for those who see me Ive learned to live as an ugly girl treated differently and I've been called ugly but the girl in this video is drop dead gorgeous😢
same for me but i’m male, used to be pretty good/average as a child but as i entered the teenage ages, it pretty much became my downfall. today i suffer from it everyday. yup, truly awesome… either way, i hope things will go better for all of you. as someone who’s in a similar position, i know how hard it is and how heavy it feels. take care yall
I struggle with really bad eczema and I know how it feels I used to be so much prettier before it, but I’ve been eating healthier for a while and it’s helped the inflammation a lot!
girl i understand you so bad. don’t even have any good photos to post & always struggling with social interactions. people don’t even get how hurtful it is
What most dont understand is it isnt about how others perceive you, its how you perceive yourself. No matter how many horny dudes call her pretty that ugly image in her head wont go away. I really hope this young woman gets the help she needs.
Girl my friend’s little sister looked over my shoulder while I watched this, and she said exactly- “She looks like Belle!! She’s princess-y!!! Pretty!!”
I just wanted to say that all the comments saying “you’re not even ugly”, that may be true but it doesn’t help. I have BDD and it is so embedded in me that anytime I get a compliment I see it as pity or lies. BDD is your mind betraying itself and demonizing you for everything you are. It’s hell. The best thing you can say is that she’s strong for dealing with this. Getting up day to day, looking in the mirror, and looking at other people is hard. BDD is a mental illness that can be in any body, and should be treated as such. Anyway, thank you for making this video. Even though it feels like no one understands the constant war and anguish that goes on inside you, I do and so many others. You are a silent champion, and you should be proud you made it this far. Keep going, girl.
Yes this what I was hoping someone would say that, because on my experience and others Ik, compliments sadly have a reverse effect , or somthing in the way they say the compliment never seems genuine
I relate so hard to your comment. I’m a guy and I’m 60% sure that I have this awful illness because I always find reasons to shoot down compliments. Like, my friends and family say I’m a handsome bloke, but of course THEY are going to think that, right? If they tell me what they actually think, they would be bad friends, so they are lying to me to keep my self esteem up. I get frustrated whenever I get compliments because I just can’t see them and it feels like they are just saying it to be polite. I just wish I was different, y’know? More traditionally attractive, or at the very least able to see what others see in me. God it’s so draining.
@@avocadeous I’m so sorry you have to deal with that. I think dealing with mental illnesses is particularly difficult because it’s not as present to human eye. It’s hard taking compliments because it feels like everyone’s lying to you. I know very personally how you feel. I’m at a grace period right now with not as many self deprecating thoughts but it is crucial to remain vigilant. The negative thoughts you have are still you, but that doesn’t mean you have to accept them. Whenever a thought like that comes up, even if it’s mundane, counter it immediately. Whenever you feel the urge to dismiss a compliment, or that self doubt bubbles up, try your darndest to stop and let your mind settle. I understand how you feel. It’s so hard and it feels like no one understands. And I’m sorry I’m so serious, I had struggles with suicidal thoughts because of this disorder. And I know how it gets when you let those emotions and thoughts control you. You can fight yourself, and still fight for yourself. Don’t give up.
@@teakettle5194 The worst part about mental illnesses for me, especially this one, is the fact that they use my voice to tell me all these awful things. I’m sure you can relate, it’s so crushing when your own voice is constantly trying it’s hardest to destroy you from the inside out and you’re the only one who can fight it because it’s YOUR brain and YOUR voice. There’s no surgery or medication that can fix our issue; it’s quite literally a civil war within your own mind. Mine’s been particularly bad lately, hencewhy I’m here. This girl reminds me that I’m not the only person suffering with this, which gives me some comfort, because if she’s managed to get to her late teens with this awful, awful mental illness, maybe little 16 year old me stands a fighting chance, y’know? I do try to counter the negative thoughts when they come. Like I say though, it’s been particularly rough especially since I feel like I have nobody to go to. I’m male, a boy. Boys don’t cry. We’re the strong ones, and we’re mocked and heckled and cast out when we are not. I just kind of have to bottle it up even though I know it’s bad for me. But yes, I’m sorry you had to deal with suicidal thoughts and I’m glad you’re in a grace period right now. The world is a better place with you in it, trust me on that. Also don’t apologise for being serious, this is a serious topic and should be treated as such. Plus it’s nice to have these little 1:1s with other people. The gravity of these talks reminds me that the intensity of this condition isn’t exclusive to me, which makes me feel just a little less alone. I don’t plan on losing my mental health battle any time soon, so I hope you don’t either. Thanks for existing by the way, that made my day. Greetings from Great Britain, I’ll send you a teabag or something when I overcome this.
thanks so much for posting. i never talk to people about the way i feel bc i feel like theyd never understand/distance themselves from me. this makes me feel less alone in this. your channel is comforting
Girl what? You are beautiful. At the first minute I wasn't sure if you're going to talk about yourself because there is no way. You literally look like a model. From this video I assume people in your society look different than you but how you or anyone else could call you ugly? You have an ethereal and romantic type of beauty. People have different types of beauty, different skintones, different body types etc. To enhance your beauty sometimes you need to find what you feel good wearing, what colours, shapes etc. You need to learn about your features, if they are sharp or soft because if you try to present yourself in a different light than the one which is really shining from within you then you'll look like a bad copy of someone else. But if you learn about yourself and start to be in harmony with your outside appearance then everyone are going to want to look like you and start consider themselves boring because they look like everyone else. You need to see yourself in artistic kind of way. Having people interested in you romantically is not only about the appearance because people are also drawn to your energy (which is beautiful if you feel good about yourself), to your personality etc. I'll tell you something personal. I heard my boyfriend of 2 years saying to his brother that when he compare me to the other girls at the gym I don't look very good. I went furious, I was so mad he thinks about me like that and he's saying it behind my back. I've cried many hours because can you imagine hearing this from the person whom the opinion of matters the most? Also at the beginning of our relation I saw how the women he follow on ig look like. Nothing like me. Cried about this too. Someone can say it's a redflag toxic etc so I shouldn't use it as an example here. But I'm using anyway. Because it taught me to not put my worth into other people's opinions/perspective and feel more free. The reality is that you can try to prove your worth to others over and over - your bf/parents/employer but you need to accept that they can just not see it and treat you not fair no matter how hard you try. The only thing worth trying is to accept that you need to feel worthy no matter who says what and respect and take care of yourself. To learn about your beauty type I recommend for you two yt channels - Aly Art for body types and Carol Brailey for colour analysis.
I feel everything you’re saying. Also-I’m always the ugly friend. Doesn’t matter who I am with. People don’t even acknowledge I’m there or make eye contact with me. It feels horrible. I hope you get to see your true beauty some day! ❤ please keep making videos ! I hope you smile today :)
It sucks to be ugly. I hate going outside because people are so rude to me for no reason even if I’m nice because of my appearance. Men constantly harass me on the street they like to devalue me by telling me im ugly. I can’t date. It’s a miserable experience. I feel for anyone going through this. Society is nasty and they will treat you based on your looks. Looks shouldn’t matter and aren’t everything but unfortunately they matter.
I think you have a very soothing quality and you are not ugly physically or otherwise. Just pray to God you find someone that apreciates you for who you are and has good values.
No matter how untidy your hair is you look gorgeous! I am an artist and I do know what beauty is. When I was younger I looked very awkward. Nothing was as I thought should be. Nobody was interested in talking to me, I had a feeling, that looking ugly I had no worth. But in the end, I realised I was surrounded by narrow-minded people. It all changed when started an art school. Even though I didn't change much, new friends were all new and many of them were feeling different from everyone else and we all treated each other friendly and without any judgment. I got my self-confidence back, and now much older, even not looking lovely anymore I just don't care. Answering your question about how old you look, I don't know your age, but you look to be between 14-19. Whoever said you look like 34 maybe he/she meant that you behave maturely.
ive always been horrendously ugly, my whole life. really bad acne (largely hormonal, too) and really thin lips. my hair was always matted just cause i couldnt bring myself to brush it. i couldn't take myself seriously whenever i tried taking care of myself. even wearing makeup sucked -- "a pig is always a pig, no matter how much you try to dress it like a swan." in my youth, i was always very very skinny -- bones visible and all. i gained a little bit of weight going into middle school (though i never exceeded 120 pounds) and began to think myself without any value at all. i realized at a point that i would never be pretty. i'd be butterface ("her bodys cute .. butherface") or witch-chin or dead-eyed no matter what i did. my lips would never get bigger and my nose would never get smaller and my skin would never get clear and my forehead would stay the size of the burj khalifa. now, watching this video is an experience to say the least. especially cause this is like, the prettiest woman i've ever seen in my life. like, seriously, i would go through a lot to look like that. it makes me wonder if maybe i also don't look as bad as the world and myself is wont to believe.
Being ugly sucks a lot. I'm a 20 yo girl, coming from a relatively poor family and I grew up being ugly. My face is asymmetrical, my nose is really long and my teeth are crooked. Like really bad. Never had the money to fix them, so I just grew up like that. Always felt ugly and unworthy of anything. Like I don't even deserve to get out and show my face to the others, like I should just hide behind a mask so that I can live in peace, without the burden or the fear that I'm grossing people out when they see me or when I smile to them. Boys never really looked at me regardless of how much effort I've put to look decently. In my country, when you turn 18 you throw a big party, so when my classmates got to this age, I got to go to such parties with my friends and classmates. I always wanted to be seen, to be admired. I know that you're worth shouldn't be based on this, but yk when you go out as a woman and people admire you, it can help your self esteem a bit. So, at first I was hesitating. I didn't feel "worthy of" wearing pretty dresses and heels and having my makeup done. So I was somehow plain at the first parties. I thought that maybe if I stay "natural" and try to accept myself with no other "enhancements", some boy might look at me. But boys didn't look at me. Moreover, they all seemed to be attracted to my friends. I have really gorgeous friends: pretty hair, very nice constructed face and perfect teeth (the pain of my existence). So, obviously, I felt terrible, extremely ugly, next to them. Always. Then, I thought that I should try the "enhancements" after all, so I did my makeup, dressed pretty. And, obviously, before leaving home, I felt pretty. But again and again, no one looked at me. So I felt, once again, extremely ugly. And you know, people somehow never really told this in my face, but I could understand it from anyone's behaviour: my middle school classmate laughing about my teeth smile, my mom telling me my teeth developed bad, my high-school classmate making a grossed out face when he saw I was the only available girl for a pair dance and thus, abandoning the action. All of this made me feel ashamed with my looks. So ashamed that I didn't even have the courage to admit my feelings to my high-school crush, a classmate that I liked a lot for two years and who was also someone really close to me. I was ugly, so he never looked at me. I was only the funny friend I guess. My best friend liked him also, so I just suppressed my feelings and encourage her to try things with him. She was pretty, she had a chance. But I was not. And now, in college, I still think the same about myself. The only difference is that I started to realise how fucked up the beauty standards are, and how it made many people at any age go crazy about how they look. And that is sad. I'm frustrated that nowadays looks matter a lot, and I can't leave in peace with my appearance because I know I have no chance of finding someone to love me as I am, and to choose me from a room full of gorgeous girls. And before you tell me that personality is way more important than looks, yes, it is. But if you're a very ugly girl with a horrible smile, very few to no people actually give you a chance of showing them your personality. If you're ugly and unattractive, people don't come to you and don't get to know you. If you're gorgeous and have a beautiful smile, people are drawn to you, they become interested in you and get to know your splendid personality. Of course, I'm talking about interactions with strangers here. And being beautiful brings you an advantage here. Recently I searched for yt videos to see experiences of other ugly people. But, of course, no one is as ugly as me. Most of the videos have people who are beautiful in them. And I've never seen a video with an ugly person who has more crooked teeth than I. And that makes me feel more miserable, as if no one understands my struggle, since they have nice teeth that lets them smile wide. My obsession with my appearance got so bad that I don't even think I'll ever marry. And I try to make myself understand this every day, that no one might actually look at me in this lifetime. Sounds sad, I know. And it's just a coping mechanism, a way to cope with this "drama" of mine. I pray every day to God to help me accept myself as He created me, but of course, the devil never sleeps, and I find myself frustrated each time I open social media and see all those beautiful people. It's like everyone else has such perfect imperfections, but only my imperfections are horrible. So that's basically my life. I really needed to write this somewhere and get this off my chest at least a little bit. If you read this far, I thank you.
I read all what you said, I really feel what you feel, because I have a friend who has the same story. I advise you to study well or work well so that you have money. So you have a position and you can also go with money to beauty centers to repair teeth and some other things. Although I am beautiful, this society focuses on ugliness a lot, I mean even a beautiful girl is not completely beautiful, we all have a deficiency or ugliness....
It is so easy to fall down this spiral. There are times that I don't care about my looks, but sometimes something seemingly small will throw me back down. For example I usually avoid looking at myself in a camera during work meetings at all cost, because when I do, I start comparing myself to other people on the screen and unfortunately for my inner (and outer) monster they are all extremely pretty. Just truly a set of beautiful faces. This time (and probably why I am watching this video right now) it's the fact that a recent house guest has compared me to a movie character that was "the ugly cheated on wife". I don't even think it was supposed to be malicious, but it hurt me so much I can't stop thinking about it. And I don't have the courage to share this with any of my friends because it seems so stupid, silly and shallow for a working, healthy, happily married woman in her thirties to be so obsessed with her looks that she cries in the corners for three days now and can't look at herself in a mirror.
this has helped me so much. I have BDD, I don’t go to family functions or hang out with friends bc I gained weight and I don’t want pictures taken of me at all, or anyone to think “damn she got fat” so I just hide away from the world. But seeing you speak about yourself the way I do, and seeing how truley beautiful you actually are dispite your beliefs makes me think maybe I don’t look as bad as my stupid brain is making me think. I said to myself shes so pretty and it’s so sad that she doesn’t see it and it made me kinda realize that I am the same way and maybe I see myself differently. I hope things get better for you, I hope you can overcome this disease, you’re worth it, you deserve a good life❤
Similar situation. I've been the same height and weight since middle school, so I easily fit into old clothes. I prefer tight clothing but since quarantine I've gained over 20+ lbs due to depression I think. Some clothing is uncomfortable to wear now so I'm not comfy with tight clothing now. Even online shopping, I want to have a style but don't feel confident. I also avoid shorts/skirts etc. due to my legs where all the weight goes. I am dieting and working out to hopefully change that, still some parts of me I won't ever like. But this girl is average, not below average, and thin, esp as her face is pretty thin, so to me it shows how BDD is not about how society sees you but self-perception.
@@bunnywavyxx9524t starts as self-perception but then society makes the rest, with bullying and discrimination, if a person feels ugly other people will treat him that way, and the persons confidence will get even lower
Same. I think a lot of people gain weight while covid... And because I gain nearly 20 kg, it affects so many things. I have social anxiety now. I lost many friends. My collage life is affected sooo much. I dont make a single friend in collage. I dont like to wear things, going out ect. Its really hard stuff. I hope everbody will be okay soon...❤
“You feel like you’re not a woman” oh wow, this really resonates. A man I really cared about told me he didn’t even consider me a woman, and it’s always stuck with me. I wish things were different for us, being an ugly woman is very tough.
You're not unattractive, you're pretty and intelligent!! Don't listen to those who put you down. You don't have to live in the world standards, just simple be who you are!
Literally I thought I wasn't a woman for four years until I realised I was a woman...but since everybody kept making me believe I wasn't "pretty" I didn't act "feminine" and wasn't "feminine enough" I kept changing my gender ☠️
As a teenage male, I can't really "relate" to women, but what i can relate to is to human feelings, Everyone sometimes finds themselves "unattractive," even celebrities, trust me, you're not ugly, if people call you "ugly" it's them, not you. Try not to take it too personal and change the people around you, because that can often help you realize that you're actually beautiful. (very beautiful)
Girl I relate to you, I emphasise with you wholeheartedly. I was considered ugly even at the so called peak age of so called beauty in my mid 20s. I just want to give you a huge hug!!! Sending my love to you. Don’t let these bullies bring you down! You’re more than your looks! You’re so much more than what society’s superficial standards set for women. I can’t imagine it’s all roses for attractive women who attract monsters who feel entitled to them. Sending my hugs, love and support to you. Ps: from another woman, you have such beautiful hair and eyes :)! 💜💜
Yeah they're stupid. And it's usually guys that don't even interact with girls ever in their life so they're telling themselves every girl they see isn't good enough but it's really cause they are afraid to talk to anyone. They're coping and making other feel bad which is terrible.
Girl, I know very well how you feel, I have been feeling really bad about my physical appearance for a long time because I have always thought that I was not very attractive or pretty and that the people who I said yes it was for the simple fact that they liked me, but little by little I have been working on my self-esteem, I know that my experience will not matter to anyone but what I want to say is that YOU ARE NOT UGLY. You just need self-love to see the beauty you have and I really mean it, you are VERY BEAUTIFUL even with your hair disheveled.
Regarding 1:20-1:31: this is a big part of the problem, wanting to fit in with people who look down on you. I'd say to anyone in that situation (which included me in high school, mind you): ask yourself what made you like them in the first place for you to even WANT their approval, let alone so much that it's worth mentally harming yourself over. For me the answer was that I didn't love and value myself enough. Once you feel sufficiently comfortable in your own skin, what others think won't mean squat to you. I hope you get rid of the BDD sooner rather than later; can't even imagine how hard it must be to deal with. You're clearly a real sweetheart and deserve so much more, and I for one would consider it a privilege to have someone like you as a friend.
As a guy who has body dysmorphia I want you to know you're not alone. Sometimes I hate looking at myself in the mirror so much that I'll sit in the bathroom with the lights off just so I didn't have to look at myself. I never understand why anyone has ever been attracted to me. No one really gets why it bothers me when someone says something about my body or face. It just seems like no matter how much work I put in the gym, I always see that skinny kid that no one wants. I constantly criticize my body and I seem to torture myself everyday for it. It's not as bad as it used to be but It also doesn't seem to be getting much better. I just want you to know that you are a very beautiful girl! People are cruel because they project their own insecurities on others, so don't let those people on reddit decide your self-worth!
I'm 33 and my body dysmorphia has really faded away completely. Trust me, as you grow older and other things in your life become more important, you grow to appreciate your body more and your perception of how it looks and how important it is to be muscular or whatever, just becomes less and less important
I honestly don't even like dressing up or wearing makeup anymore, it won't do anything for me, I feel. And on top of that, people treat ugly people like shit for just EXISTING. It's horrible and I am now anti-social due to bullying.
I'm 14-years-old, and I can greatly empathize with you. I have always been so self-conscious about the way I look and am constantly feeling the need to check in a mirror and look for any mistakes. Though, I've learned not to care about what other people think of me. Because no matter how pretty, chubby, skinny, tall, short, girly, or tom-boyish you are; or whether you have straight hair, curly hair, wavy hair, it's never good enough. And standards are always changing. Always. And with that many standards applied, it's not even worth wasting your mental health and well-being just to be beautiful, even when you already are. And I am saying this out of all honesty, I don't find you ugly at all. In your eyes, you may perceive yourself as this hideous monster, but that is completely far from the truth. Besides, as Poe once said, "There is no exquisite beauty without some strangeness in the proportion". Our flaws create our uniqueness. Without them, it would be a boring and colorless world. And honestly, I'd definitely be best friends with you if it was possible because you seem so beautiful, genuine, and kind-hearted. I just wanted to share this with you because I feel very deeply for the pain you are going through. Everyone with a good heart and soul deserves to feel loved and appreciated. I wish you the best. :)
No cap, i think you find pleasure, comfort, and reassurance in you remindimg yourself you're ugly. I did this a lot in high school. Comments would make my days worst to wear i would eat. Comments wasnt hidden from me, but i remember feeling comfortable wirh being depressed Beause it was so normal it became a neutral state of mind. Me personally i was getting tired of being sad.
You’re actually so pretty and I hate what you’re going through because i honestly would love to look like you. You have long beautiful hair, good lips, super clear skin, good nose, cute eyes, good face shape you’re gorgeous
beauty is absolutely in the eye of the beholder and this gets proven to me time and time again, and now another time with this video. Im not sure if this is just baiting for compliments or genuine but if it is genuine you should know that you are genuinely beautiful to me and also conventionally attractive as well (I literally laughed when you said you're an ugly women because you are so beautiful that sentence was so silly to me).
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I wish I could bestow the gift of you being able to step outside of your body and see yourself as others see you. From my point of view, you are a beautiful young woman with your entire future and endless possibilities in front of you. Please get the help you need and embrace love and happiness.
you are in so much pain. I see that. I've been through a lot of shit in my life. A lot. BDD was fucking hard. i'm mostly past it at this point I think but I feel for you. Please work on your mental health and other areas of your life and I believe things will eventually get better for you and you'll realise there are more than enough attractive people who are attracted to you as well. Not going to find them when you barely try while at home though. Or if you don't take care of yourself. Maintenance is a massive thing. not just because it improves your appearance, but because it gives you peace of mind knowing you're doing everything you can do to improve yourself, and signals that you care about yourself to other people. It can help confidence a lot. if you can get to the point where that mindset makes sense to you, I believe your symptoms will slowly start to reduce. I really wish you all the best and believe you'll get better soon
Totally feel this. It sucks being treated badly and ignored because of your looks. It’s especially hard when people treat you like you’re Guly then lie to your face that you’re not. Btw I don’t think you’re ugly at all and you genuinely deserve the best
I sympathize with your feelings. With anyone feeling this way. I feel this way. Some days I wake up and look in the mirror and see only flaws. Sure there are things I like about myself, but it's so easy focusing on the flaws. All the things that stick out to me that aren't obvious to everyone else, or maybe they are. I'm hard on myself. I tell myself that I should work out because it will make me better looking, that I should work on improving all my physical deficiencies, that I have to dress better or do all these things to "fit in" better and be more desirable. I look at all these other guys and go "Damn, wish I'd been born that lucky." Ultimately I end up at the same conclusion. "Wait, why am I striving towards someone else's goals? Someone else's standards? Why would I wanna be someone I'm not?" I shouldn't work out because gym = handsome, i should do it for my own health, or because I genuinely want to. I shouldn't dress a certain way because that's the trend, but because it's my style. People can be superficial. They always will be. Ultimately, I think the best thing anyone can do is be themselves as best as they can, because no one is better at being you than you. I wish you the best, wherever in life you may find yourself, and to anyone reading this. I still struggle with these feelings too. It gets better, I promise. You will never be perfect, but you can be better, not more or less than anyone else, but better than you.
Your videos make me feel so much better, this is exactly what I think about all day every day and it drives me crazy Also no you 100% don't look 30 lol
If that's you in your profile, you actually look very pretty. You must have some form of mental illness if you think you're ugly. You're well above average. At least the person in your avatar is.
I read a magazine article, some years ago. There was a woman in it, who had strangers come up to her in the street telling her she was ugly and had people laugh at her in a restaurant. This woman wasn't ugly, but it showed in her face that she felt ugly. People pick up on this and because they're vile, they called her ugly. They go for the weakness. They seem to have a radar for it.
defnitely. i work custoner serivce and i find people treat me worse when im at my lowest(while trying my best to just do my job and keep them happy). when i feel confident people are much kinder. its funny bc i find the people who need kindess the most are ones that struggle...
what the...actual fuck? people do this?! I have picked up on this but wasn't sure...I'm sure I have the same complexe. Because some days I can be very confident and it seems the world just opens up, other days I feel like people are literally being mean and I already feel vulnerable like wtf...
im someone who grew up super young. im still young; yet i had acne at the ripe age of 7, was crying over my looks at 10, wearing makeup from 10 to 13; i sometimes think im pretty, yet not in the way society wants me to be. brunette hair, grey/green/blue eyes, wolfcut, usually dressing coquette. but no, the second i arrive to school i am constantly called emo for how i look, im the confident, loud one in my friend group and ive been ugly for so long, its not fair because no girl in my class has acne, no one is perceived in my class like i am. so many people are so gorgeous, the girls in my class are so beautiful and im just there. sorry for the rant, but this is really relatable.
i, a complete stranger, can say with all my heart and honesty that i think you are really, really pretty!!!! thought i needed to say that, we never compliment people :(
most people here don't understand the main topic of this video so badly it gives me an actual headache, my god, why are you commenting like "you're not ugly you're beautiful" then it's not only about how you look but also about how you FEEL when you don't fit into the society on some primordial level (english not my first language ok)
I totally feel you, I have had very similar experiences as well. Experiences and BDD make you feel like you are ugly. I know because people's stupidty, and when you don't fit their beauty standarts, they can tell things without understanding it's influence to you. I just want to say that you fit in my beauty standarts perfectly, and you are one of the most attractive women I've ever seen. I am not judging you for how you feel but I just want you to know that there are people out there who finds you so gorgeously beautiful. ❤
Not only that? but with the hook up culture , that has so many women with body counts of one night stands over 100 or more? . A lot of guys would love to have a women like her.
this video has helped me so much in feeling less alone. i feel like I cant relate to anyone in my real life when it comes to this stuff so thank you for sharing. and PS I hope this doesn't come across as me just trying to comfort you for the sake of comforting you but I genuinely think that you're very very beautiful.
Self loathing affects all parts of your life. Please, don't seek validation from people. If all of your friends are calling you unattractive, keep your distance. Be prepared for solitude. Its scary but I went theough it and it is so worth it. In solitude you can build confidence, independent from others. Beauty on your own terms.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! Whoever is telling you that you are ugly or look old is JEALOUS. You are even beautiful crying and with messy hair. I know it’s hard to change your perspective, but please be nicer to yourself. When you talk to yourself, think “would I tell a little girl this?”. That little girl is still there. YOU ARE NOT UGLY.
I really like your honest addresses of your experiences, but it's important to remember that the desire to be "normal" or conform to societal expectations is not an inherent force of human nature. Rather, it stems from a person's acceptance of the hierarchical social structure that permeates our society. This structure often prioritizes certain traits, appearances, and behaviors, perpetuating a narrow definition of beauty and success. It is crucial to recognize that these standards are often praised and upheld by those who hold privilege and benefit from the status quo. True, meaningful relationships are built on the foundation of character and shared values, where inner qualities and genuine connections are valued over superficial appearances. It's also important to realize that distorted self-perception, such as in the case of BDD, not only affects how you see yourself but also distorts the way you perceive others, potentially hindering the formation of deep and meaningful connections'. You should focus what little energy you have into gaining active self-perception, and discipline. This can make you happier and develop your character giving you access to truly meaningful relationships.
I don't know what is like to experience BDD, but believe me when I tell you that, as a man, I think that you are not unatractive at all, but quite beautiful...I guess you just can't see it. First of all, whoever told you that you are ugly should not be considered friends....or people who care for you at all, for that matter. Also, I have the feeling that you are really hard on yourself (again, I don't know what is like to live with BDD). You could start by treating yourself like you would with a person that you really care about; certainly you wouldn't call them ugly everyday, right? Social media doesn't really help at all when feeling down. As a person who experiences depressive episodes from time to time, I can only tell you that taking care about yourself (sporting, eating healthy, sleeping enough, not isolating, etc.) really does help. Finally, comparing yourself to other people or to the younger self, or asking people online to rate you is not going to make you feel any better. Every person is just different, and even those imaginary perfect looking people you talk about...they go through their own shit as well, don't kid yourself, everybody fights their own demons, just some people are better at pretending.
You are not unattractive at all! When I looked at the thumb nail I was like, “why is she making a video like this?” the people that say those things to you are the unattractive ones because they don’t value people by who they truly are, and that’s not ever defined by looks ❤ God bless! (Also, I’ve dealt with a similar life so far, so I do completely understand how you feel) 😢
It is actually unfortunate that you feel this way because you are actually beautiful, but i understand its all in the head (perception).. The trick is to truly believe it, believe it make it your reality. We all have something we dont like about our body, literally everyone, just never forget that. They might hide it but they do... You here being transparent about how you feel about yourself, this is beautiful itself. Trust me you are beautifuly intelligent give yourself a fews years, thing will turn mark my word and when it does, hope you remember this lil comment from me 😊
I personally feel like it would be helpful if you’d stop saying “being an ugly person” and replacing it with “feeling like an ugly person”. You are not ugly, by any means. But I understand that having BDD, as I do myself, my saying that simply isn’t going to be helpful to you. Another thing I want to say, as an older person (I’m 46), is to consider the alternative. Get this figured out while you’re still young because aging doesn’t do us any favors. But helpful or not, I want to say that I think you’re an attractive person, as is your vulnerability. Never give up the fight to love and accept yourself fully.
although i have empathy for you bc i agree and relate a lot to what you are saying, you are literally conventionally attractive, which totally is fair if you do not believe that bc of your dysmorphia, but you really look normal/avarage. which is what a lot of “ugly people” envy. so its kind of hard watching this. maybe i am biased bc i am a woman of color on top of being unattractive so our struggle differs there.
I’m actually fugly. Like seriously, the kindest boy I ever met thought I was retarted based on how I looked. But this girl, straight brown hair, muddy brown eyes, and symmetrical eyebrows. With a good brush, she’d be a knockout.
But you girl are not even ugly, you feel that way and other people end up treating you that way. Can relate so much 😞 we the “ugly” people have to endure so many bad experiences, even the not mean people use to treat us differently, sometimes unconsciously, but we end up discriminated or bullied easily. It’s hard but our only option is to accept it and try to live our lives.
No decent good person is ugly, no animal is ugly nothing made in mother nature is ugly, no sky no bird, no ocean, mountain, only hate and evil can be ugly, you and everyone who has goodness in your heart is more beautiful than we can ever comprehend 💕💜✨
Oh my god. I keep commenting as I go forward. You are such a bright and wonderful person. You're one of the few people that'd make everyone feel safe and included.
Wtf she is so damn beautiful So people see .the thoughts you have about your appearance is more important than how you actually look . If this beautiful and super attractive lady saw herself as i do she could live happier. I learned so much from you . I would never feel ugly again . Thank you
Girl for me it has been a weird experience. Like my daddy very much loved me and obsessed over me. He called me beautiful all the time. So at some level I always felt attractive. But looking in the mirror and comparing myself to other girls, I just felt like you...and some people have also been calling me ugly. But then when I do my make up and dress up, I will also get compliments, but more like by friends than by strangers. I don't know, maybe I'm just beautiful for people who know me, you know? It's been really weird being in this twilight-zone. And I think tbh parents should always call their children beautiful because I think it makes them not accept shit in relationships later on.
Oh god how I relate to this so much. I have bullied my entire life. And I absolutely HATE my entire existence. Some people tell me I’m pretty but I absolutely DO NOT believe them. You aren’t alone!❤️
Girl the problem is others have big beauty standards, u look absolutly gorgeous and dont let anyone tell u otherwise, cause u are unique girl. They want change but u dont need to change, u should start loving yourself!
I really really don’t mean to invalidate your feelings at all, but I personally would look at you and think you’re so pretty. You’re a beautiful person, and I’m so sorry you struggle with this.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with BDD. You are NOT ugly and i genuinely think that youre very pretty, i hope that one day you will be able to realise that too. All the best to you ❤
You have so much more going on for you than you even realize. You are NOT ugly. Youre a sweet, down to earth, fit, intelligent, beautiful woman and someone is going to recognize that and things will change. Just give it a little time. Youre only 23 and a man your age would be lucky to have you, trust me. Keep your head up.
Dear your not a ugly. Your beautiful woman. Dear remember one thing, Don't listen to toxic people. Because they really wants to hurt you. So gets stronger. You will find a lot of good people and someone who will love you. Everything will be fine. God bless you Dear ❤🙏
I had similar features like you.. and girl I did feel ugly.. I called myself ugly.. my mom called me ugly.. and my dad dissed me. It really messed me up. And now I'm beautiful+handsome now.. I think it comes from taking care of myself for like 3 years .
