I swear I’m not just saying this to make you feel any better, but you ARE NOT unattractive. You are genuinely very pretty, just objectively. I can’t believe there aren’t more comments saying this.
To be honest, she is above average. Are you looking at the people walking around you? She isn’t wearing any make up either.I think she is just doing this to get attention and having people tell her that she is pretty. Female nature
Is it just me who thinks everyones all "body positivity" until someone has an ugly face. Like it's mainly body positive when the girls have unattractive bodies but beautiful facial features. (no crooked teeth ect)
It´s massively hypocritical and absurd because body weight can be influenced with diet and doing some sports, while face can´t. Except of people who suffer from some disease like thyroidism there´s no reason to be obese, so it´s a choice to big extent (laziness, weak will, untreated depression...). You can´t turn ugly face into beautiful one with exercise and healthy diet.
@@QC._ yeah exactly, also i really hate it when people are horrible to pretty people because of something they can't control, jealousy is very bad. It goes both ways but mainly hits ugly people. I'm gonna make some comments on how i'm treated differently after i get a nose job, as my nose is my main unattractive feature, it'll be interesting to see what changes.
Nothing about your face is unattractive, nice symmetry, nice skin tone, full lips. All women look plain without makeup, and your face looks like a nice, normal attractive human face like most women. It’s really things like makeup, clothes, jewelry etc that up the game in terms of confidence but you’re already starting out at a great place in terms of looks
I love your channel! Literally almost nobody talks about their experience being unattractive as a woman. Thank you for helping me feel less alone in this
Same. I just found this channel and this was literally me growing up. My parents never understood why I was such a shut in but now I can underatand why I was like that. Its honestly refreshing to see im not the only one that experienced this.
People so pretty like you need extra protection besides all the support you need if you have been having mental or psychological issues. For relationships you have to have value, luck, wisdom, health. Beauty is an objective value. You start light years ahead of the ugly on this market. Yet, envy, bullies, bad people in general focus their harm more on you than the ugly and even your attractiveness will bring many undesirable people desiring you. Seek: 1- psychiatrist evaluation 2- therapist 3- health 5- Sun and gym 4- Course or job at home or at a safe environment 5- business for wealth. If you have no money for any of that it will be much harder. In this case you had better start searching all the above for free on internet. Y
It’s not about being ugly or dating other ugly people-I find all kinds of people attractive. It’s when people expect you to settle for someone that is a user/bad person because that’s “all you can get.”
I do think unattractive women have it harder than unattractive men. It's also less socially acceptable for women to be unattractive. I will probably make a video on this if I ever start my channel. The only reason why so many incels exist now is because a lot of men nowadays are socially inept due to social media. You see a lot of couples where the man is ugly while the woman is good looking, but you never see a good looking man give an ugly woman a chance. That is honestly pretty sad.
I have noticed unattractive and average men have it SO easy they have a level of delusion, and they often will not date a woman if she is not very attractive AND slim etc etc etc when they are not particularly attractive or fit themselves
Being the place holder for the guys I've dated, has never been a more true statement. I am good enough to hook up with and mess around with, but I'm not pretty enough to be posted online and have millions of other people comment how lucky my boyfriend got with me. I am always there until a more prettier girl comes along and I'm thrown into the trash. They love what I can provide them, with love,care,support,acceptance,handmade gifts and baking. But all of those things never matter or mean anything because at the end of the day I'm ugly. At the end of the day, that's all people see.
As a trans woman, I see so many other trans women in this situation to the extreme. They're able to find hookups sometimes with desperate guys but even then, it's because that guy has a fetish or something for trans women and she ends up feeling like after the encounter she never really got treated like a complete human. They never want to make it into a relationship either because they're embarrassed to be seen with her in public or have their friends know that he's in a relationship with a trans woman. Even when there is an actual relationship, we're seen as fundamentally lesser and something to settle for and as soon as the desperate guy gets even a shred of affection from a "real" girl, we're immediately discarded, shed like a temporary exoskeleton for an insect that has finally grown big enough that the shell now serves as nothing but a hinderance. Disposable girlfriend. I'm always wondering how hard I should try in dating. I don't want to wind up in that situation. I'm not a sexual outlet object and I'm not a disposable plastic bag of a partner and I'm tired of being told by people and the media that I'm acting entitled for wanting anything more out of my relationship.
I'm a guy and girls have only ever treated me the same way. Except none ever try to go on a date with me. They just try to use me as an attention/ validation/ compliment/ cash machine (although I make sure not to give any of these easily to start with). Honestly heart braking in those rare chances where I think me and a girl are getting to know eachother in a deep, genuine way and then some douchebag, tall, drug abusing, rich parent, meme guy with ADHD comes along and I'm no longer a human/ exist in her eyes 😞
I'm a silent viewer. But I've decided to comment in this video because I relate to this so much. Literally, no one has ever like me or has gotten to the point that they have a crush on me since elementary school until now that I'm in college.
I FEEL YOU!! i never had any person, who really had a crush on me, no matter how hard id try to look better. for my entire life, i never heard anyone saying, they found me romantically attractive, lolol. i personally wish, personality was beauty standard instead of looks, ill be honest with you.
Same , once I was made fun of for reasons I do nt know by a guy telling me he wants to be my boyfriend and whenever I would cry he would be laughing.This happened like when I was 8.Now taht I am 15 and still ugly I have not ever been approached by a guy.I have got no friends either.I am just too weird for people.I am trying to accept this fact but I know I will never and might end up doing some pretty messed up things.Like why do I have to be ugly……
@@eugenealtaccnoo people having a crush on you doesn't define your beauty. Not everyone has a crush on the same people but it doesn't mean that that person isn't beautiful. A crush and being attracted to someone is quite different I feel. Crushes are so random and looking at someone and saying they're attractive is different
I used to be handsome in the past, but certain problems and accidents made me ugly. People treat me really bad now, and that sucks. If you are handsome you will have more advantage in all areas of life. I hope you understand, because I'm from Mexico and my language is Spanish.
I’m so sorry. I think people don’t truly understand the difference in treatment until they experience it. I hope you’ve at least kept some self esteem.
Cómo vas ahora¿? Y desgraciadamente es cierto, hay una gran diferencia en el trato que la gente tiene con alguien atractivo que con alguien quien no lo es, y es una mierda ser así de menospreciado por algo que no puedes evitar
Let’s face it. The absolute lowest level of the hierarchy is being an ugly woman. And with ugly I truly mean never being approached by a guy. All we can do is sympathize with each other.
Nah it’s definitely ugly man. Both have literally the exact same struggles but look at the standards for both and it’s definitely ugly man. Beauty standards are arguably much harder for men to obtain and getting money is heavily pressured on men already so they’ll need to put in double that effort
I don't like to interact with people I meet too much, as I don't want to get a crush on anyone. It's too painful, when they don't feel the same and have chosen someone else instead. I've had to accept the brutal truth that I'm too ugly to be accepted. I get very depressed about it, but that's how it is. It's awful if I have chemistry with someone, then remember I'm ugly and realise it can never go any further because of that. I've been crying a lot about it today. I've had to accept that I'm rejected, because it's not going to change. I just have to cope the best I can and wait for the day I die. I can't commit suicide, as I'm too scared to do that.
Look at how much beauty is focused on in the media. That's why there is this expectation. It's culture. It should not be this way. Good people is ultimately what will make someone happy, but people can't get britney spears attractiveness out of their mind.
i feel the pain and it is soul crushing to me to the point of my esteem being completely destroyed and gone and never existing. and as a result i developed social anxiety... im going to give some of my personal experiences as an average or unattractive woman (coupled with having autism, having a permanent weird posture and a weird voice) being basically undesired by most men... im so fukin over and done with even bothering to have faith that ill ever even get into a relationship. like as if, ive never even been in one my entire goddam life. i remember when i was at HS, there was a boy i kind of liked and he was a new student there. at the time i was practically bullied by my entire class. so this new boy looked friendly and i thought he was cute so i had a crush on him without saying anything and showing it because i was depressed that he wouldn't give a second of his day to notice me. then a couple of months later i saw the little hints and bread crums indicating that he might actually like me and after some time, he did actually like me. i asked him why does he have a crush on me and he said "it's because of ur personality" and NOTHING about how he was physically attracted to me to be in a relationship. now at the time, i looked like garbage. my hair was very short and messy, my face was round and fat and i always wore baggy school uniform pants and jersey instead of just a skirt and blazer. Ppl wondered whether i was boy or a girl. (my hair grew and i lost weight and now i actually LOOK like a girl, but im still not even close to being attractive) the guy who i had feelings for at the time paid more attention to his sister than to me. what broke me even more was that he told me that he doesn't want to have a relationship with me. He ignored me, ghosted me and then blocked me at the end of the day. i was very mad because i feel like my feelings were played with and manipulated the whole time and he was just fake trash all along. I was lied to. if i looked attractive, he would still want me and stick around and from then till college, i had no male interest and i only had a gay male friend and even then, i lost contact with that particular person, he doesn't talk to me anymore and at that point i officially don't have any friends. cuz ppl will only give 2 cents about u based on ur looks. fast forward to the present in college. and it's worse than it ever was. worse than i thought. in college, i no longer wore school uniform to not have the stress of picking what to wear everyday. so not only did my looks count, but what clothes i was wearing. and i really do not look good in anything because i got no attractive face or body. i never felt comfortable to bother trying on anything. And why? i dnt have any motivation to do such things.... so just recently, i went on a trip to a water theme park with a friend group i randomly and awkwardly picked because i didnt wanna be alone and i was so sick of no one approaching me and wanting to be my friend. And even then, those "friends" didn't care enough to notice me nor want to know me anyways. When it comes to swimwear, i rarely show my skin in public. but for the 1st time in 8 yrs i wore a swimsuit and i was feeling so mush discomfort. i felt ugly and disgusting because of how much i hate my body. no boobs and no feminine curves. just nothing to show. here's the real tea: i accidentally evesdropped on a group of boys talking about what girls they think are hot and which ones are not, and whichever girl walks past them, they will ask for their name and number and the not so hot girls get ignored. now i walked past them and none of them looked at me. the 2nd girl behind me got the guys' heads turning and they all tried to get her attention and her number and threw compliments at her. i got none of that and i was about to cry and throw a fit i felt so crushed and worthless. it was huge hit to my self-worth another thing that bothered me to death: i was with the group of girls i was hanging out with and out of nowhere, this incredibly hot guy came from behind the girl sitting next to me and he started talking to her. (but she was also attractive as well and i felt a bit envious of her) shes a lucky bitch. That guy looked like he came straight out of a vampire movie. at the time i was shaking with anxiety while at same time i felt a wave of worthlessness and my self esteem was already burried. i felt so intimidated by his presence. i wasnt suprised he paid no attention to me whatsoever. he already has too many girls on his plate to even take a second of his day to notice me. im already unattractive as it is. And plus he might even have a cocky and pathetic personality, a douchebag according to my observations of him. And so was other men never acknowledging my existence. by the end of the trip, i went home and cried so hard in my bed. i was contemplating suicide. so i feel as though im just fated to be alone, manless and miserable. and no one has mercy on average or unattractive ppl who are neurodivergent or on the autism spectrum.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Guys can be real jerks in general. The older you get, the less douchey they are I think. Don't lose hope, maybe one day you'll find someone who is not vain and will love you no matter what.
Idk how you look like. But as a guy, im telling you, have experienced tons of times how an ugly girl became hotter and hotter after she started working at herself. Not sugar coating here
@@emionyx1585 Not really. The older people are just better at masking their bully behavior. Little kids name call with stupid nicknames, adults sabotage you at work, spread lies about you, don´t communicate important stuff with you, so you make mistakes accidentally and get fired... Both men and women act terribly to ugly people. We are the defective animals in the pack who have to be kicked out and get eaten by predators, so the healthy, attractive ones would be safe. It´s purely animalistic, subconscious, instinctive, irrational hatred.
Oh i feel you, i too have had the pleasure of being part of the 'hot girl count down' at work. Thing is they always say they like natural girls then proceed to pick the most make up wearing/ clinically enhanced girls.... As you get older you realize they arnt the type of guys you want to attract and you'll be glad you dodged them when you start hearing sh!t about them and how many single mothers they created. Feeling attractive is great but is that all you want? Do you really want that guy who rates with his mates? Is that something you would do? What would the ideal guy for you be like? Is it just to be gorgeous? Then you're no different from those beach bums lol Think about the person you WANT to attract and how they would be attracted to you.
“If they like you you’ll know” It took me way too long to realize this. Would’ve saved me a lot of pain had I known sooner. I guess my brain just didn’t want to accept that absolutely no one has ever liked me in that way
I've had to give up on dating. Sometimes it's best just to give up, rather than face the rejection. It's kind of sad, but also liberating in a way. I don't want my life to be like this. It's horrible being so unwanted, but that's the harsh reality. I don't want to kill myself, so I will just have to find a way to live with it.
Bruh just don’t give up. I totally went from a 0 to almost an 8 and maybe 9 (If I REALLY take care of my skin and get braces ) but I’ll never judge a person based on looks cus Ive been un lovable to eh to goddamn he’s hawt and seen people treat me differently time and time. I will only date girls who are conventionally ‘unattractive’ not out of pity but cause I really understand them.
@@ravikiran4495 I can never be an 8 or 9. I've mostly given up. But sometimes I get a glimmer of hope. Hope is cruel though, because it's usually delusion.
@@Chocolate-vr9cm bro trust me I know its hard even now I think like an In/cell some times because of my past and the way I was treated and people are even surprised I’m not interested in girls (for now) but I’m trying to heal and when I do I’ll give my best and all my love to one and only girl who’s the most deserving and I can say she’ll not be the ‘hot girl’ cause most of them get plenty of love and attention but my love is for the most deserving and that too not out of pity but by seeing them in myself ❤️
@@Chocolate-vr9cm haha no problem 👍 but it’s still kind of same stuff that unattractive men are faced with which I can relate to but glad you understood 😄
Personally, I think personality can make someone look more attractive over time. But the thing is, most people immediately go for the person with better looks, and take more time get to know that person better, rather than spending an equal amount of time with the less attractive person- putting them at an immediate disadvantage. I’m not gonna lie, I’ve been guilty of it before, but I didn’t actually spend more time with that more attractive person than I did with the less attractive person, I just simply let the more attractive person float in my thoughts for a longer time. That sounds equally as bad, but it’s true, sad and true. Life isn’t fair. - Coming from the ‘not most graceful nor beautiful thing to touch this land, but it’ll do’ kinda gal.
Tbh, i think im the only one at this point whos completey broken away from the "having crushes from looks" thing. I value people for how they respect me and how they treat others, now i've broken away from it my life feels so much less full of judgement. Looks are bs, I think someones values are enough for me to like them.
@Daniel Rumbacher you want to stay alone, but she wants to stay with a human in whom she sees a person, not a picture. It's ok, not everyone needs the same thing
@Daniel Rumbacher I think what you missed about relationships is emotional connection. For example, there are a lot of girls I know that are both nice to be around and physically attractive to me, but I probably wouldn't want to date them because the emotional connection would likely be missing. People fall in love for many different reasons, though I won't deny looks likely get the ball rolling more than anything else. That said, if you're with someone and there's mutual care, sex will be more about giving than getting. I think however these relationships are rare regardless of how good looking you are. 😞
I AM SO GLAD I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO FELT LIKE THIS!!! As a guy, it's very interesting that there are similarities between unattractive men and women.
Your looks also determine the kind of life you are going to live most unattractive people don’t have the best personalities but how can they? Attractive people are always in social settings they have normal dating lives they go through the steps in life to make you a normal functioning human you can’t miss out on expiernces and expect to live a normal life
There's no real ugly ones talking about realities of being ugly. Because real uglies can't upload their videos. Being ugly isn't even about relations. I don't love anyone and I don't want anyone to love me too. I just want to can walk without being judging like a monster. One day, I was going to shop, a woman said to her doughter "Watchout that man, don't let him come to you" I don't even know them. they are in same apartmant with me. I'm scaring. I'm 23 years old and I spend all it in my room. Life is bad at itself and this make it worst.
People's told me I look like a trans or ex drug addict. It pisses me off that I can't have ugly girl privileges and I mean where people leave me alone and mind their own business. Hugs.
@@heatherchristenson187 One day, a police official stopped me for ID control. He told me the same. He was keeping asking me "What did you use" even when i told him i don't. he started to say "It's not my first day at work" I have problems with talking because i almost doesn't talk. It make me looks and sound like mentally ill. I talking to myself mostly but it's not enough for practing it. I left high school in 2016 from that year i just sitting in my room. Humans ruined my years that supposed to be best years. They won't stop. I'm almost not going out, but they always harassing me with their acts and the way they talk to me. Even my family think i'm mentally ill but i'm not
@@heatherchristenson187I can be friends with ugly girls.But girls who find me ugly they just ignore me like we cant be friends if she doesnt find me sexually attractive
Its so annoying when men are ugly they can still get rich and have that going on for them, when i as a woman am ugly if i dont have loads of money to spend on surgery its game over
@@55CINCO55 I'm tall but average and just accept that I'll live a simple life alone and pay bills and taxes. Women are too hypergamous these days for the average guys to have a chance.
Me figuring out why not EVERONE is mentioning that you're actually dropdead gorgeous and model-level attractive. I don't know many girls who are as attractive as you with so little make-up. I hope one day you will be able to see this radiant beauty in yourself as well. The journey towards healing our self-love is hard but life didn't give you these challenges if you're not able to face them. I am proud of you and I know that you got this. Lots of love and strength ✨♥ -- As a reference: you remind me of Alanna from Alanna and Ivor.
Exactly how I feel and I really hate when people are like “you’re so this- you’re that- lol you’ll have no problem finding the right one.” Like if I wanted to be lied to I wouldn’t be here just tell me the truth
No one ever told me to my face that I'm ugly, well apart from one person who said I only look good in candle light instead day light. So I wish people would be more direct with it and straight up stated I'm ugly,because I wasted years in my life thinking I may actually be attractive every one is just mean to me. But then years went by and I was never asked out,besides it being a joke or spoken to on dating sites. Now I'm 36 and have to come to terms with it, but it's hard to accept. Also in years I gained lots of weight and lost a tooth and I also smoke. I look like I'm 35 and 55 at the same time. I stopped wearing make up and I'm dressing so I don't bring any attention to myself at all. It's difficult. I'm surrounded at work(because I have no friends) with people who are attractive and have good life and also attractive spouses. I live in shared flat with benefit frauds. That's life of an ugly person compared to attractive one.
These are the rules girl. I'm 6,2 feet tall, have a seven figures on my account, but unattractive for the 99,9% of the ladies, because of my 47 shoe size and skinny appearance. I'm ugly and nothing is gonna change it. Face and embrace your shortcomings. Live your daily life without the opposite partner. That's the only one you'll ever have. Don't waste it !
Hi I just wanted to tell you about what I experienced too. Since high school I've realized that I'm not an attractive person, I see classmates with attractive faces it's very easy to get a person she likes too, and every time I like someone, then that person realizes it, that person will slowly walk away because I'm ugly, besides that I'm also aware of how the environment responds to me compared to those who are attractive. When I was in college I couldn't believe that I had a boyfriend, he was a very handsome and confident person, until now we are still in a relationship, but it's very difficult, it's very hard to believe, because my face is ugly, I always think negatively of him, sometimes I feel he's just pitying, or maybe taking advantage of me. I feel inferior when I see his good looks, I feel unworthy, he will be surrounded by similar people, so I'm afraid because I'm ugly, indirectly I'm not considered. I often think about plastic surgery, now I'm better because I have money and am doing braces treatment, but I thought about doing plastic surgery on some parts of me, but I still feel scared, but it's very hard to always be in this state.
I think like you. Unless someone gives you very clear signs that they're interested, don't make a move. I used to like a guy who rejected me many times but kept talking to me because he wanted attention, don't be like me. I regret it, I should have stopped talking to him as soon as he rejected me. I'm far less good looking than you (I don't think you're ugly btw) and I managed to have my first, and only, bf when I was 24. He's a good guy but he doesn't think I'm pretty, no one does. I'm still constantly laughed at, stared at and insulted (mostly by men). I've traveled to many countries so it's not a cultural thing. I'm ugly everywhere. I was very lucky to find someone who loves me but it doesn't fix my problems. I rarely go out because people still mistreat me in front of him so it's even more humiliating. I try to get better but because of it it's hard to find the strength and I often think about ending it. I talked to you on Reddit and I think you blocked me, which is too bad. You thought I was lying and I wasn't ugly based on my photo. I'd like to believe that but my reality is different. Some photos are just good, some people look better on them (which is not even my case in general). Actually my experiences are far worse than yours. Don't judge a book by its cover, even less when you just had a blurry image of the cover.
as much as I understand and really relate to how u feel, it does not change the fact that you are not ugly. you are not OBJECTIVELY ugly. I really do not like how I look and I feel like I am THE worst looking person but that doesn't change the fact that in societal standards, I may be objectively considered average. I think It is always important to differentiate the feelings that we have of our own bodies and the truth (and that is that we are not as worse as we think we may be -- that it really is just the bdd talking).
@@CrookedLady were i live in England, you would really be considered pretty, i think American has really strange and harsh beauty standards that often times dont make sense...
As a guy who's considered attractive, the first thing I thought when I clicked on the video was how attractive you are. I'd literally blush if I were to ask you out. It's all in your head.
How do you feel about TikTok? I feel like it’s a great way to make people feel insecure… social media was bad before but TikTok has made things 1000x worse Beauty standards keep going up
I’m a guy and I think you’re pretty. Sometimes I see a girl and she’s not particularly pretty to me but when she smiles it’s like she becomes 8x prettier. Your smile is nice in the thumbnail
Unfortunately I have no sense of whether I am attractive or not. I have to rely on other people telling me. Its one extreme to the other. I either think I am stunningly gorgeous to the point where I feel everyone is admiring me, to feeling so ugly that I feel everyone is looking at me with disgust and I keep my head down. I think its due to my mental disorder. My brain just cannot accept average ad a possibility..
The worst parts of being an ugly duckling to me is being 100% convinced that they're playing a cruel prank or a dare when someone voices their "interest" in me and being convinced that any compliment is just condescending mockery It really sucks but hey, it is what it is. I can't morph my facial structure into something more desirable
She’s sooo beautiful, like if she said she was a model i wouldn’t be surprised!? I AM NOT NOT NOT KIDDING. After seeing these videos I looked at pictures of myself and wondered if i am unattractive for a short time. I hope she get help for the body dysmorfia.
@@astridolin2306 she'd legit look like a slavic supermodel if she wore a sleek black dress and did her hair nicely. it's truly tragic how beautiful women are made to believe we're not pretty in a heteropatriarchal sexist society that implies the highest value a woman can have is be dollish-looking and nearly ill-thin. it was hard to even include myself here due to my low self-confidence & body dysmorphia. thankfully I'm a lesbian lol and never have to put up with shallow misogynistic men but due to a statistically tiny dating pool and constant societal homophobia, finding someone to even go on a single date with is even harder. not to mention all of the crushes on women in a similar or even lower league of conventional attractiveness who end up with some of the least attractive and most unkempt men I've seen even when the women are bi and hence able to be attracted to me. I know it's just about them preferring men and in reality barely liking women but it doesn't exactly raise my self-confidence. I have been compared to Scarlett Johansson (it's the big lips & an hourglass figure), I'm a university lecturer & have my own company while in my 20s, have a decent personality and yet there's not a single woman who likes me back? yet unlike entitled and much more societally privileged hetero male inc3ls, I'm not sitting here cursing all women for not wanting me like a pathetic wimp lol. it is what it is, I've become accustomed to and comfortable with loneliness so even if my luck in love remains poor I at least won't hurt others (or myself) over it.
I clicked on this thinking it would be relatable but GIRL YOU ARE PRETTY 😂😂 you have great a jawline and facial harmony. have you seen that TikTok video that conceptualised jojo siwa with Victoria's Secret bombshell makeup? I imagine you'd look super pretty with that kind of makeup.
The most humiliating and utterly degrading thing about being a woman like us is that men lie and say they want to be asked out, but actually don't unless you're a White blonde. As a woman, being openly rejected by average men multiple times when they're supposed to be the ones pursuing us is mortifying.
I always gave a chance to girls who approached me in highschool. I don't know a single man in the world who refused to go on a date when asked out. Someone must be very unattractive or have a "crazy chick" reputation for a man to turn down a free meal or a fun time and it usually doesn't happen. The only reason I turned down a girl in my entire life was the fact she went on a date with one of my close friends. But I've been on a date with a fat chick too. Male standards are not so high as you may think
I'm calling BS. What you consider "average" guys are attractive enough to get your attention, meaning they're above average. Be honest. You're not attracted to average guys. You're attracted to guys that are out of reach. It's the same way with men. A lot of them don't qualify for the women they want. Therefore, they get angry because they feel entitled.
Just wanna throw this out there. I remember back when I used to work at a grocery store, I worked with a lady who I didn't initially find attractive. I worked as a cashier and she was a bagger. It wasn't till after a few months of working with her that I began to find her attractive. I'm not sure how it happened but I suppose it was her kindness that did it for me. She'd always go out of her way to help me out at work and be around me to the point where it was obvious that she wanted to be around me. One time a customer spent a good 5-9 minutes berating me over an honest mistake that I made. As soon as that interaction was over, she walked over to me and asked if I was okay. She also knew I was notorious for pretending like I didn't care to socialize with people even though I did. Sometimes I'd be listening to my co-workers talk and she'd notice, she'd say: "I know you're listening!.......what do you think about xyz?" It's like this lady could see right through me and that really made me start liking her. The sad thing is, I didn't even really realize that I liked her until it was too late. On her last day of work, she came over to me at self-checkout and gave me her phone number on a piece of paper. At first I was confused but she said, she was quitting that job. Didn't say much after that but she stood there waiting for a good while as if she was waiting for me to say something. Eventually she left and I pretended to not care even then because of my Avoidant Personality Disorder. I remember leaving that piece of paper with her phone number in my car on the passenger seat for weeks. A few weeks later I decided to take my car to the car wash. About 2 days after that car wash, I decided I'd give her a call because I was feeling lonely. Unfortunately, that's when I realized that I had vacuumed her phone number at the car wash 2 days prior. That phone number was lost in some It really made me feel like an idiot for never having called her. There's been a few ladies who've made the first move on me but this one is truly the one I regret the most in terms of not reciprocating admiration and that's not to say that I get hit on a bunch but out of the 8 times, this is the one that I still think about to this day. And like I said before, initially I didn't find her attractive but I eventually did, her curly brunette hair, her dorky clothing style, those nerdy glasses that she wore. She did have acne often but that didn't matter to me because she was one of the sweetest lady's I'd ever met.
I felt the same way when I was in my 20s, to later realize in my 30s, it wasn't true at all. I was good looking, but needed to learn to endorse it. Same will happen to you. I have eyes to see! But beeing relatively pretty don't mean you'll get no rejections. I know that as well. With time, rejection is less painful. You will be amazed, if you want to, how successful you'll be, in regards to attraction. I'm now 57 and aging. Learning to deal with that...
It is not, and nothing will convince me, because it is an ugly duckling. The model will be constantly depressed with even one pimple on her forehead !!! : D
You look better than usual in this video... Life is truly unfair, yes we all know this but it's just so crazy how a person is just Born into the world and live such a sad life just because of the genes theyy inherited and they have no control over that
Sad to how this young generation is finding it so hard to gain companionship. I never considered myself handsome but never had issues dating. I think you guys are to hard on yourself. The main source of attraction is confidence
POV: i was a senior in highschool and I told myself for valentine's day I would tell my crush I liked him. I bought a thing of chocolates and I was going to ask him out. I ended up chickening out and ate the chocolate and never told him I was interested in him. #whatitslikebeingtheuglygirl 🤣🤣🤣 #iunderstandyou
You are genuinely very attractive and a model type. Jeez... Your full lips, big white teeth, harmonious feminine structured face shape, harmonious ears. The contrasted eyes and hair color is like number one. The contrasted hair color. If you are it pretty. Then who is pretty... My sister looks like you. She has the world at her feet
Hello there it's me again hahaha I still remember your first videos nowadays you are a different person more wiser and with clearer ideas , I like that you take this with a smile even if it is not something good because you see the true and most people don't
Why would you or anyone else want to be with someone who doesn’t love you for who you are and see you as attractive and beautiful, inside and out? Maybe THEY are outside YOUR league. Because I’ve lost 100 pounds twice and genetics I have big fat floppy arms. I also have a small mothers apron and lots of old stretch marks. These are things I am really self-conscious about. I finally realized about a year ago if someone is going to love me they are going to love even my big fat floppy arms, my mothers apron, and my old stretch marks. My eight-year-old wraps her loving arms around me and tells me how much she loves my fluffy arms and my fluffy belly, how soft I am, and how good she feels to snuggle with me. I cannot tell you how much I just can’t hate my body anymore when I see how much happiness and joy it brings to my child. Fuck societal standards. I deserve someone who loves me. And so do you.
I get this! Once I actually began to fit the beauty standards. I was SHOCKED at how many people thought I was stuck up, when in reality I’m introverted. I’m considered vain now when I complain about something. It’s astonishing at how many people expect me to be friends with certain people. I cling more to authentic people that has a great personality.
Im disgusted with how selfish and superficial men are with womens looks. And the fastest way to piss me off is telling me to go for for an "ok" average or ugly man because they think thats all I can get. I gave up decades ago. People only care about looks. I hate it when I get ghosted or get mixed messages because a guy is too chicken s$$t to say I look like a dog. I feel ya. Same goes for if youre young with a pretty face, but youre too short with no curves.
Hi my love, I just wanted to say you are STUNNING from your eyes, your brows, your nose, your lips gorgeous. Honey if you wanna see ugly you should've seen my pictures when I was 14 🤣 but I just wanted to say as someone who was in your shoes thinking i was ugly it took me a while to love myself and most importantly to take care of myself. I put more attention to myself and I started doing my hair and little bit of makeup and nails things that enhances beauty and it made me feel so good about myself you should really treat yourself because you don't realize how beautiful you are.
Exactly. “Don’t date people who you’re not attracted to. Be a decent person. Don’t use people to sleep with, when you don’t think they are attractive enough to get into a relationship with.”
I understand that everyone's view of themselves is incredibly personal and subjective but I can't help but think you look like a model for real! Like catwalk or editorial
Where was this video before I confessed to my crush 😭. I knew there wasn't a chance he could ever like me since he's super gorgeous and I'm ugly af. And the girls he date are super hot blonde sorority girls, and I'm dark and nerdy. But I stupidly followed through
I agree 100%. That's why I get so pissed at myself for even HAVING crushes at this point. I'm now treating myself getting a crush much the same way I treat myself when I feel like I'm getting depressed or anxious. I'm learning to identify the thoughts that typically precede it, and try everything in my power to get them out of my head. If anyone has any tricks or techniques for stopping a developing crush, please let me know!
Most of my crushes didnt like me back. Since I am so bad of showing people my feelings, I also didnt give them any chance to meet them half way by that. And, maybe... maybe they were shy too, or scared shitless, and didnt approach me because of that. So, we both lost at that time. Now, years later, I wished I would have stepped up to the plate, and then we might have had a chance between winning, or just me losing (and bleeding my heart for the next 3 months). 🙄
@@valentingartner3793 By that time yes. My feelings on people were pretty black and white back then. Looking back, I feel also sadness but understanding, because I can now see where I did come from, and remembering that even for those rare moments, where someone approached me and I was able to smile at them and just say something, feels like a grand victory knowing how reserved, withdrawing and introverted I was back then.
@@valentingartner3793 Yes. I learned to speak from my heart, even with the risk being stabbed right through it. After being suppressed and hidden for so long, now it only wants to be seen, regardless of being foolish or too open. It is like a being a kid again, with a very few restraints. 😊 It is probably because I tried it a few times, and didnt die, so I know now that when being genuine, I will be carried and accepted, no matter what.
@@Solacium-dt1epas someone who was raised by a feminist mother I’ve always wondered where girls still get this idea from that they’re supposed to be passive. 🤷🏻♂️
I’m a guy, and I find you attractive. Your not bad looking at all in my opinion and the fact that your down to earth and your humble makes you even better. You seem like the type of girl who values love and Also would enjoy something as simple as a walk in the park with a nice view and a picnic or something. All these “popular hot girls” almost all of them have the worst personalities, they act so entitled, think their the best and set absolute unrealistic standards with who they date. Ik it’s rough for you, otherwise you wouldn’t make this video, but just know people will look past looks, you gotta search for them, and remove yourself from all the shallow people. Good luck out there :)
omg as a girl, i wish all the best for your future life with someone! that girl is one of the luckiest women out there. i'm so happy to see a guy like you speak this sincerely and wholeheartedly, especially nowadays with these red pill/alpha male guys walking around now who genuinely just see only hot women and don't even consider ugly women, because they make everything materialistic.
@@drvren030 Thank you I appreciate it. Although I believe there is lots of truth to redpill/blackpill knowledge, with the facts that looks, gym, money and confidence matters a lot when getting a girlfriend, it creates an unhealthy mindset for men and they will have zero emotional intelligence, and gives masculinity a toxic look. Real masculinity is about treating your girl with respect and protecting and providing. Not just being some fake alpha trying to be tough to just pump and dump women with huge ass and tits. But sadly that’s what most men are thinking.
@@drvren030he can look better with a good hairstyle,makeup.And red pill guys encourage to date hot girls because of womens standards for dating is too high nowadays.Most guys can't impress girls with anything other than being tall and good looking and have high status.Thats why
Im not saying this to make you feel better, but in minutes I already see you are an interesting person, probably smart and you are beautiful. I completely understand but really, mi advice, don’t let stereotypes or past bad experiences make you feel like you are less valuable.
I don't know how old you are but I can see you're young. I promise you, you won't feel this way forever. With age we accept who we are and our flaws. I think you're very pretty but whether you ever see it or not, I'm telling you with age you will not be worried about things you were once worried about. I'm a bit older than you and I couldn't go out without makeup for years, not even to throw out garbage or check the mail. And one day I broke out in hives and my face was swollen. It was only for a few days but I didn't go to work. The morning it cleared up I looked in the mirror and I felt like I looked pretty. I had never felt pretty before. After that day I started appreciating my face. I don't think I'm gorgeous but I definitely don't feel ugly like I once did. And I also don't care. Perspective is everything. Time and perspective will change the way you feel. Your life is so much more than your face and body and you are so much more than it.
If you think you're unattractive and undesirable, why are you going at attractive and popular people? This is the same thing guys are told; you're not in a position to be picky. There are plenty of average/below average looking guys who would be with you, if you put your ego down and stop self-sabotaging yourself then complain about being single. Again, beggars can't be choosers.
I mean, not trying to sound rude, but we have to deal with it. Im not that attractive either, and as a short man you just feel so emasculated, weak and less of a man, figuratively and literally. There's people who are ugly, really ugly and trust me you are not one of them. And hey at least we have healthy bodies, we can walk, we can talk, you can make youtube videos, you are fine. There's hot people with cancer. Sometimes we become so invested in these superficial things like looks and without realizing we can become shallow and even egoistic. I have gotten so angry and just mad about my looks that I have tought "I'd rather have cancer or any disease being a hot person than being ugly and healthy". This things make us irrational. There's more important things to focus on. There's a decaying earth. If reminding yourself that “someone else has it worse” makes you feel good it is okay to use it in-that-moment. But I'm aware is not a long term solution and makes you compare yourself to other. I know some people say that we all suffer differently and that all suffering is valid, but sometimes we get so carried away and complain of so many stuff that it feels almost bad to do it, while knowing that other people are suffering in worse ways. When I feel bumed out or I'm having a sort of tantrum about my looks, I just remember there's somebody living in North Korea or Saudi, or some African vilalge and their looks are useless because there's much more important stuff to care about than looks. Our privileged societies mold us into believing this is just so important. It really isn't. Beauty will fade away eventually. Just look at Jane Birkin or paulina Porizkova before and after. The only eternal thing (at least from my biased religious point of view) is our souls and working so that we can go to heaven and not hell is far more important, and your looks won't help. Just pray to Jesus that he will take you focus out of these issues. Im struggling with it too, but i have nothing to lose by praying for it to go away, not even time, because one can do so much stuff in 24 hrs, we just don't know how to manage our time. I KNOW IT SUCKS. TRUST ME. IT'S A VERY SHITTY FEELING, BUT WE HAVE TO WORK TO NOT LET US CONSUME US. We have to be smart so that people won't use us.
I don't like the part where you put yourself down so much but this video has really good advice. If someone likes you they will tell you. Plain and simple. Don't waste your time and self esteem looking for signs. You will drive yourself crazy. More than likely if the person is "bread crumbing" you or acting friendly and flirtatious at times it's because they enjoy the ego boost of you liking them.
