The elderly gentleman at the beginning of the video and the end is the young man who was the love of the other young man who succumbed to Black Lung Disease. He found a 4 leaf clover, and was thinking back to when the guy he loved gave him a 4 leaf clover, which started a love between them.
The significance of this song for Appalachia is huge. The song of course, written by Tyler, who is from kentucky, whose father worked in the coal mines. He asked Silas House, who is Kentucky’s poet laureate, a phenomenal writer, and a gay man living with his husband and raising a family in Kentucky, to write the story for the video. They used Appalachian actors as well. Tyler had stated that he has a cousin who is gay, who he is very close to, who moved away from Kentucky and never looked back. He wanted something on CMT to represent him. For me, it’s a beautiful love song, I can definitely apply it to my own life. The video, is a tragic, beautiful, sad, and all too true love story in Appalachia. We all love, live, and die, just the same.
I actually had Silas House as a professor at Berea College years ago. He's a phenomenal poet, writer, and teacher. Just an overall great person, very dedicated. Glad to see his work on this project getting a Grammy nomination.
@@billyboy2285should you feel ashamed of something you can’t control? you can’t be ashamed of your life choices but you should never feel shame about who you are
As far as the 2 main actors.. they both have many acting credits.. but they are both gay.. Haynes came out as gay at the age of 14. He has said that he experienced bullying due to his sexuality, and that he ran away from home for a time due to his mother's negative reaction to it.His father died by suicide during Haynes's teen years, and Haynes was told that his being gay is what drove his father to kill himself. Author Silas House wrote the storyline for Childers’ “In Your Love” music video. “He [Childers] said he would like to have it be a gay love story, mainly because his first cousin who’s like a brother to him is gay, and he wanted him to see himself in a country music video. When he said that, I just thought, ‘So many other people have never seen themselves in a country music video. This would be pretty incredible, to have that kind of representation,’” the author told the outlet. And that’s how House and his journalist husband, Jason Kyle Howard, came up with the moving love story of two coal miners in 1950s Appalachia…
The beauty of this song to me is that Tyler has his story to go along with it but it is conspicuous enough to apply it to any relationship. Glad you touched on it
As a gay man who lost his life's love back in 1993 to AIDS, I can so relate to this video and message. Oddly, men who fight gay men are often dealing with internal gay issues and they are trying to prove to others and to themselves they aren't gay. There is some jealousy there in them as they see how others are free to express themselves and the homophobe is trapped by his own internal prejudice and internal disgust about their own feelings. This is a beautiful song. I just stumbled across it yesterday and cannot believe I missed this. Great review!
I am so incredibly sorry for the loss you’ve endured and for the hardships the gay community has constantly been going through. My brother is gay and I’m worried he’s had the same internal struggles you mentioned. All I can do is show my unconditional love for him. I truly hope the world can one day see that we are all humans in this together and that who we love doesn’t make us any less of a human being.
Tyler said that this story was dedicated to his first cousin, who was more like a brother to him and first critic, was gay. He’d left home and moved away and hasn’t come back. He said that there being zero videos on CMT that he could relate to made him want to do this one. Silas House (KY’s poet laureate) was obliged to write it for him.
You are right. It’s a love song that anyone can relate to. If you just watched a live version then you probably would have thought of your wife or maybe your parents in love. I think this particular story is important though. He wanted a country music video his gay cousin could see himself in. It’s a beautiful song that anyone can relate too but it’s also nice having a song that is representative of a non heterosexual relationship.
If anything you have to respect Tyler’s ability to keep his fans thinking/adapting. He’s pushing that proverbial envelope in country music - albeit in any genre, the envelope needs to be pushed. Each of his albums are different than the next. It’s a great thing to witness.
I cannot tell you how good Tyler and his band is live. What an experience. Amazing players!!! Dude risking a lot in current bans, much respect to Tyler!
He done an interview about this. Said he had a cousin that he was close to from eastern Kentucky that was gay. Said the hate and not feeling welcome made him move to Chicago in order to be accepted.
Michael, been a fan for a looong time but typically I have stayed away from putting any comments out to the world...but when you mentioned Peter Santenello I just about fell out of the chair. You and Peter make up about 99.9% of all the youtube videos I watch, so it is awesome to hear that you are a fan of his as well. And I agree, his recent videos of Appalachia are truly breathtaking. Just felt compelled to tell you that. Thanks for all the knowledge. Onward.
I too am a huge fan of Santenello's documentaries, but having grown up in the Appalachia mountains, that is my favorite. It's both beautiful and tragic and true and I cried more than a little bit watching it, but also felt the deep connection to the mountains I left many years ago in my soul. The mountains have been calling softly to me ever since.
I love your channel. I’m from the same are as Tyler. My dad and grandfathers were coal miners. I was raised in a coal camp. I lost my mom and dad within a few months of one another last year. My dad had black lung but losing both of them has been so awful. My friend sang follow you to Virgie by Tyler childers for both graveside services. Will you please do a reaction to that song one day? I’d love to see it. I love watching your reactions and how you appreciate the meanings of songs. You are a true artist. Thank you for all you do.
I mean I jump at any of your videos however seeing your fondness of Tyler grow over time and now doing an official video of him shows just how much the video needs to be seen. hard to watch without shedding a few. great stuff man. as always
A beautiful song with a video that portrays a message of love, compassion, overcoming stereotypes, and being comfortable with who you are as a person. Compared to other recent videos, I much prefer the message in this video about a small town.
This is the best and my favorite music reaction page, Michael is such a good musician that he can truly acknowledge and point out the brilliant musicianship but he’s also human that appreciates great artistic story telling, best bang for your buck YT music channel and please keep doing you.
Hey Mike, just wanted to let you know that I really love and appreciate what u do here on this channel and videos like these are why you're unique and special from other youtubers. Reminds me that music is more than just the chords and the licks. It's the lyrics and the story, that guitarists like me often forget to look at. ❤
Wait, did you really just win a guitar? Congrats! That’s awesome! But damn I wish it was me.🤣 I don’t play guitar yet, but I’ve been watching Michael for a few years now, and need to pull the trigger on buying a guitar and doing his online classes… or maybe I’ll win one soon. Also, I was about to make the same comment about Silas House, but you beat me to it by 3hrs. Great author!
Historic! Welcome everybody’s new wedding song. Now this is a song deserving to be #ONE! 💯....And GRAMMY material. Powerful video! It has it all …..great vocals, story, lyrics, acting.🏆👍🏼❤️ Will Homophobic Country music play it?? Get the Kleenex ready. Gay love story by Grammy nominated country artist Tyler Childer called, "In Your Love", first song released off his album due in September. What makes this so powerful is gay people have such a challenging time finding "the one" compared to the larger heterosexual community. And to finally find it and then to lose it, is just devastating. Along with Childers amazing ache in his vocals. Great contrast to Aldeans.👍🏼 "One reason Childers wanted to do this music video, he told Ann Powers of NPR, "was my cousin growing up, who's like my big brother, is gay." Please like it and support him, and write a positive comment. Thank you ❤️
The fact that a guy felt comfortable enough and felt supported enough by the audience to propose to his boyfriend at the Grand Ole Opry while Tyler sang this song says all that needs to be said about the impact this song, this video, and Tyler myself has made in a 2023 America. An America where it is no longer as safe as it used to be to be apart of the LGBTQIA+ community. The importance of this song given what is and was happening to the 🌈community is worth talking about.....
I just don’t get why people are hating, it’s just a music video and for a friend. If your a true fan of Tyler u wouldn’t care about this song even if your against stuff it’s a very good song
In a recent interview with NPR, Tyler said he wanted to make a 90s style country love song video for his cousin who is gay and never got to have a video to connect with like he did.
on the subject of Coal Miners my grandfather had his pay books that had his tonnage and pay from each day he worked in the mine. I used to love looking at them and trying to fathom getting paid in cents per ton. Love Tyler, love that he does what he wants with his art without caring what people think he is supposed to do with it.
I’ve just recently discovered this channel. I’m hooked. Michael has a magnetic personality that draws you in as a viewer to make a connection. Loving the channel, been watching tons of your vids. Now I’m off the buy myself a new PRS. 😀
This song is as beautiful as the video. Its not my place to judge others people's lifestyle. This is a song I'd sing to my wife. Music is universal and knows no boundaries.
It makes me think of my kids and grandkids, for whom I'd walk over hot coals. It makes me think of my parents' 63 yr long marriage before they passed away 7 yrs apart, and how long that wait felt to the one left behind to 'keep working'. It's such a powerful and beautiful song, one about commitment and enduring love.
There is tremendous power in the personal capacity of growth that emerges from that open endedness, the mirror. And sometimes, we look to the mirror and we are shocked when we see a surprising image - and it’s that image the shows us the true ‘tracks of our tears’. We learn about ourselves by seeing the humanity in that image. What a song. What an unexpected turn.
I think the song by itself tells a different story than it does with the video. When I hear it in the car I hear Tyler singing to Senora, or I think of my love for my wife. But with the video Tyler shows that love is universal and should be able to be shared and expressed by everyone. Great breakdown as always!
Tyler has a cousin who is like a brother, and wanted to produce a product that his Gay cousin could relate to. A strong statement, deep love, the tragedy of the self loathing sitting at the end of the bar, alone.
Peter Santenello's channel is amazing! To see so many different walks of life all over the country is immensely valuable for everyone to watch and learn from.
Despite what some people might want to tell you, not everyone in a small town thinks the same way. There's this other country song that's gotten a lot of attention lately. It claims that in small towns "we care for our own" but all it offers is threats and anger. This song may never top the charts but it will touch hearts in a way that that other song never will.
Peter Santenello is the one currently making the coal mining/Appalachian documentary series. Look it up everyone it is deeply fascinating! Tyler is just truly amazing as always! Just the best…. That voice will always give me chills. Thank you Michael you’re a true gem!! ❤
Mr. Palmisano, this is great. I’m literally at 5:54 and stopped because I know all too well what is going on in your mind (I think). As this is “ice cold” for me watching what seems to be “ice cold” for you and reacting to the video. Just now discovering Tyler and have also had a couple “real time” reactions this week at work (on camera) but not in front of half a million people. Great job. I’ll keep watching now 😊 Finally had time to sit and finish. Bravo Mike, well done. We are all Human ❤
Tyler made quite a few huge statements with the song, and the video. The horrors of the coal mines, a love dedicated to his cousin who taught him the music business, and the tragedy of the self loathing left behind at the end of the bar all alone. Though a period piece, definately pertinent to what is going on this very day. He took quite a bit of heat for this video, but he 'stands his gournd'. Wow, destined to be a classic!
@michael Thank you for the great content!! I’m glad you shared your thoughts on the artistic aspect of the video. I really dig that PRS!!! I’ve never played a PRS I’ve got to try one! - T -
Just found your channel via your video of Shakey Graves "Roll the Bones". He did a collaboration with Sierra Ferrell. She is amazing. Also originally from West Virginia. Trying to decide on a song to request. Her vocal and musical range is so unique and amazing. Really enjoying your channel 😊
Supposedly tyler has a family member that is gay. An tyler wanted to make something That people like his family member and others can relate to. I completely agree with you about music videos guiding and taking your own interpretation of the lyrics. Tyler and everyone else knocked this out of the park. Lyrics, video, actor, directing, writing, issues. This story is an absolutely beautiful to the t. An he brings up alot of issues in this video. Black lung, alot of gay stereotypes, there is alot of irony in the video as well. They went from coal country to tobacco country. I'm in ky In tobacco country Close to coal country. Lung cancer and Black lung Are so common in this state. Everybody has one known or had someone close die from that.
So I've watched several of your reviews on TC. I'm not much on the music theory side of what you present, you're much more talented than I. However, the way you lean into and appreciate the words and the depth of what Tyler is trying to convey is something we share. The way he conveys a thought to words, then to lyrics, then to music is really inspiring. Your physical and emotional reaction to much of what he says through his songs I feel are often overlooked in some circles. I feel that to most it's just another song and it's cool because he uses the "F" word or whatever. Thank you for sharing the same deep appreciation I do in what's behind the lyrics. Well Done on all counts. Merry Christmas.
Please do The Tragically Hip. Ahead by a century, gift shop, locked in the trunk of a car, Fiddlers Green, 38 Years Old. If you like Canadian bands, the singer Gordon Downie has our hearts. RIP Wicapi Omani
@michaelpalmisano what you're doing for music (and, inner life, emotional life itself) is so special and so beautiful. Good lawd, I'm all verklempt. Long time fan of you, and new fan of Tyler Childers. So. many. thanks!
Oh boy…..the old timers who are stuck in their ways are going to come out of the woodwork on this one. To anyone growing up in Appalachia who is not the status quo or just wants to achieve more and has to leave the area I support you along with my wife and kids. Good on you, keep going.
@@AirsoftStriker That just means you are uneducated honestly. When is the last time you saw Jesus in person? Living in the belly of a whale is physically impossible. If you are pro life explain the entire world being murdered off except Noah, his family and a bunch of animals not indigenous to the area.
Michael, any chance you could pick a song off of Jason Isbell and the 400 Units new album, Weathervanes, and react to it. Man, the album is so solid from top to bottom. I'd love to hear your take on a song from it. I'd suggest Volunteer, Cast Iron Skillet, If you Insist or Death Wish. But honestly you could pick any song and you can't go wrong.
The song is based on his cousin that is gay. In Tylers words he taught him a lot about music, and he wanted to do something for him. Not a fan of the video even though it is tastefully done. But a great love song. Brought me to tears about my own love. My wife.
Totally get what you're saying. Kinda. Cuz in my opinion this song can still be played at a straight wedding. If its about the music than let it be about the music you should be about to see past it. But right now in this country were in THIS VIDEO NEEDED TO BE OUT THERE! That my community arent sinners/evil/dirty they are people just like everyone else. This needed to be said!
I get what you are saying, but sometimes an artist wants to say something explicitly with no room for interpretation. The good thing is art can mean anything you want for yourself.
Why tell this story? I think it is because this story is one that country music doesn’t tell very often. It is a story that exists and deserves to be told, to be heard, and to be felt. When we value the differences , we often find we aren’t really different.
I agree with leaving music to be interpreted, that’s how a song you hear becomes your own. That why Robert Hunter wouldn’t let people know what songs were written about. In this case however, I believe he did the video as a tribute to a relative.
Frankly, after the last album, the video just feels like pandering. The song is fine, although I prefer his earlier music. It wasn't over-produced, just plain raw.
@@randytrashcan I don't think it was pandering at all, he has always been vocal about his beliefs and he is using his platform to speak for people who have no voice in this genre of music
As the only music maker in a big music family, ita pretty common for me to watch your videos but then share the video you are watching w the family. Your verbal riff on life makes this one different. Ill have to share this video with my family instead, thanks!
The guy in the bar is the guy who outed the two gay men and I think by him being alone in the bar might be a way to show that he's alone in his hatred of those different from himself.
