How Often Do Exes Come Back After No Contact? 

Exes leave you because they are unhappy and you become miserable. They come back when you are happy and they become miserable.

To all those who say dont take an ex back and find better...here is a warning. Modern dating is SO shallow and fake. The new people you date may not be better than your ex. Its also why your ex came back in the first place. If an ex comes back? At least try to make it work if you love them.

My ex came back after close to six months of strict no contact. I even moved four hours away. Now we’re back together planning our future.

I’m on no contact for more than 2 months now. It’s getting easier everyday. For those going through a breakup, stay strong!

Y’all they be coming back! How quickly depends a lot on what you do. You have to act completely unbothered. That means no subs on social media. No sad post. No looking like you are try to overdue it. Then when they come back act like you ain’t even thinking about a relationship. Make them convince you. Just control your anxiety and be patient. You have a lifetime to be in love.

By the time an ex comes back, you don’t want them anymore. I figured if someone could abandon you so easily will most likely do it to you again. So stop making space for someone in your life if they don’t want to stay.

Sending my regards to everyone who is in no contact on Valentine's day. It's difficult, but we're doing the right thing. I wanted to reach out to my ex today but I've learned enough from Coach Lee to understand the importance of giving my ex space, especially on special occasions like today. Whether my ex comes back or not, respecting myself in his absence and growing from this experience will make me a better partner in the future and I believe the same to be true for everyone else experiencing my pain right now. Stay blessed and keep thriving.

Heartbreaks are literally life changing. Especially when you heal in the right way. After a 6 year relationship I'm down 100 ibs and I'm 100x better than I was before. So grateful I got to experience focusing on myself.

I decided I don’t want my ex back anymore. I decided I deserve and need and want better....to the future.

They say after 1 month it’s lost. It was one year and 5 months and she finally reached out. In fact I knew a week earlier she was looking me up online. Asked if I still hate her. The odds of me thinking I would ever hear from her. Were zero. Letting go and accepting their decision works a lot. She’s back in my life. And yes, she still has feelings for me in case anyone is wondering. Where is it going now? I don’t know. And I’m okay with that. I do know the mistakes I made before I won’t make again. Mainly respecting her decisions which what set her off in the end

Everytime I want to break no contact I just watch Coach Lee. He is helping me through this tough time.

Sometimes a great person has to teach their ex that they have remained high value.

Fam, I’m 3/3 after using no contact after breaking up. Watch this guy’s videos and really understand them. Don’t give in to temptation to reach out

I'm going to need a prayer for tomorrow. I haven't talked to my ex for 25 days. She has a new guy, but I'm going to step back. Tomorrow is going to be very difficult for me. Thank you for the video Coach Lee.

We were divorced and it took 3 years for him to come back. It was a bad divorce. I was finally getting over him and finally healing. Out of nowhere he begged to come back. I'm keeping my sanity and not making it easy for him

Anybody that can leave you , let them leave! I Invite you to dare your ex to find someone better!!!!!! Push your chest out ,go and grab life by the horns! Confidence attracts!!! Stay strong and take care of numero uno!!!!

I'm addicted to these videos because it gives me hope, very well knowing she won't come back. 90 days of no contact and I come here for a hit everyday. How do I kill the hope?

Maya Angelou said it best, " when they show you who they are believe them the first time."

Thank you for these videos. When I first started watching them not long ago, my husband and I were ending a 7 year marriage. I felt helpless and distraught and was looking for a way to win him back. I remember reading the comments of other viewers stating even though they didn't get their ex back, your video's had helped them. I didnt understand that at the time, and was solely focused on winning the love of my life back. It still hurts and months later I still cry, but I understand now what was meant by your other viewers. Watching your videos has helped me tremendously. It gave me the strength to cut contact between us so that we wouldn't further hurt one another and to allow me time to start healing. For anyone else going through losing a partner, please remember to put YOURSELF first and reevaluate whether the relationship should be saved or if its time to let go. Its hard, but the heartache doesn't last forever and it will get easier everyday.

I've let her go and I'm not holding out anymore for getting back together. But your videos are still therapeutic 🙂

I watched your videos all summer, it’s crazy to come back and watch one😂 Yes, he does know what he is talking about

This deserves a million views. You're such a great guy for posting these

Guys I failed. So please don’t be me. I texted my ex. She responded and I thought wrong. It’s not worth it. If they left you. They need to text you first. Keep holding in. Trust me. Join the gym love yourself. Just be happy. It just takes time be patient and I was impatient. I took one for the team and guys just don’t do it. Stick through. Honestly now I say don’t get back with an ex. It’s all about the struggle you need to face it together and if they left then there’s no going back. It’s over. Just move on, easier said then done of course. Also guys have feelings to because I usually see women talk about how men are trash. We have feelings to. Just time man so keep busy. Gym, friends, job. Wishing you guys success it’ll be worth it in the long run. Like this comment so everyone can see this and not text their ex! You are worth it and someone will give you their all when they see your value.

11 year relationship yes ups and downs and we finally called it quits 8 mos ago then he got into a relationship w another, now they’ve broken up his choice and we’ve talked and talked for hours I don’t feel jealous or mad. We talk about everything. Idk where we are going as I’ve had 8 mos to myself and he needs time which I’m encouraging he do. It feels real good and time will tell. Don’t listen to those who say DONT BE SLOPPY SECONDS. I LOVE this man and I’m here for him, call me crazy but I have peace and no matter what happens I am at a good place, the past 8 mos as been hell for me especially at first but it also i has helped me grow as an an independent woman.

Taking Coach Lees advice along with leaving my relationship in the hands of God, while moving on with my life during NC. Honestly I only cry maybe 1 a day if that and Im doing amazing! Gym, my paintings, dogs, trails n adventures, family time, friends, and going out even solo just to enjoy the day, not to mention my confidence is way up! My ex doesnt know me anymore , i shed myself! As i always say, if the current you isnt cutting it, its time to evolve💪🏼 Im not regretting my breakup at all! Im thriving!!! I do love and care for my SO but I care and love myself and life way too much to even consider it! If they arent in your day, dont worry, focus on what is and can be in your day that will amke it count! BTW i was the dumpee, in a 3yr + relationship, over a text, and my first relationship (im in my late 20s)! Yall can do this! It sucks n hurts but get driven!!!!

Thank you! I keep replaying videos! for some reason it makes me feel better even though I don't know if my ex will come back watching ur videos have helped me a lot!!!! makes me feel more confident in myself and feeling that I am worthy no matter if i got dumped

Happy Valentine’s Day Coach Lee. Thanks for being here for us. God bless you for your work.

This is so hard for me right now... The pain to be dumped, mostly the way it was done to me, makes me never want a relationship again. The crazy thing is I still love her... and I still hope.... I must be crazy....

Happiest Valentine to the best Coach! You're a blessing to many... keep well ⚘

Its been 4 months and i really dont want her back now. Finally im over, she wasnt worth it

Happy valentines coach Lee and thank you for your dating advice. Please do a video on ghosting. So many of us have requested it

Goodluck to everyone today‼️ You got this

Thank you for being a beacon of light to many of us, Coach. Ex recently & suddenly broke things off after a 3-year stable relationship w/o problems. Although I took the breakup like a champ and did not beg, plead or negotiate, deep inside, there had been so many bad days where the pain & anxiety eats me up---I did everything right and was all in w/ him. Almost a month of NC, but I am coming to terms w/ the fact he might never want to get back together (bec. of the type of person he is). I just watch your videos to ease anxiety, but I don't think it'll happen for me. I just hope when I come back to this comment of mine, I've gotten to a healthier and better state.

Awesome video! Love how you explain three attractions: emotional, physical, and intellectual connection. It made me realized and amazed that there's a lot more to learn to grow a healthy relationship and to be a great partner.

Happy Valentine’s Day coach lee.. ur my favourite thank you for generous advice it’s really helpful

Coach Lee has helped me keep my texty fingers to myself. I don't know what mess I would create without this great advice❣

Happy Valentine's Day Coach Lee. 24 years i was in an abusive and disrespectful relationship 2 months my ex just walked out. I am the happiest woman now thanks to you.Blessings.

Luckily breakups are those types of things in life that break you down so you can rebuild yourself, especially if you improve and learn from it in a healthy way. I've been working out, eating less junk food, started college again, and been hanging out with friends more. Time and patience heals everything. I've been in no contact for about 5 months now and it really does get easier everyone. You're worth it, don't give up on yourself.

Be blessed everyone 😊

I am gonna start posting this on every video I watch about exes. But please if your Ex comes back what ever you do DO NOT RUSH THINGS. Start again from the ground up. My ex moved out the first time she broke up with me. then I decided to get a new apartment I didn’t want to live in the old apartment because of memories and it was time for a fresh start it was the best decision I could had made moving to a new place. Then a month passed and we got back together she wanted to try it again. And then she moved back in to my new place and we only lasted a month and a half it was the worse decision ever. If I could give to the best advice. if you get back together start from the ground up slow and steady and make the relationship very strong before any big moves and make sure it’s gonna work out for a long time to come because you will fall back again and it sucks bad. She abandoned me the 2nd time again and now I am done. I gave this woman the moon the sun and the stars and she was never happy she still wanted me to get Pluto for her yea one of those types of people. I know right now she is going through a hard time and is not happy realizing what she lost.

I think it's a matter of being at peace with it. Thank you, Coach Lee, for helping me come to terms with it. I don't want to reconcile with him because I can't trust him, but I sometimes miss him. Your videos help a lot.

I'm married, so that gives me hope, especially since we've been interacting off-and-on.

When you have a vindictive mate ; they would rather hurt you than see how bad they treated you. They will want to just hurt their ex.

I just want to say hello to coach😀and all those who are looking for inner peace after lot of temptations and great personal changes.

I never remembered our anniversary, but now I remember it was a year ago when she decided to separate from me. I had made so many mistakes in the relationship... Good luck to you all and thanks Coach!

Just entered and got this recomendation. What a pleasant surprise.

Today is 4 months post breakup and 34 days of NC. I started NC waaaaay late lol however I think I am ready to move on and leave him in the past. I still love him and miss him (it was a 6.5 year relationship so how can I not?) but I am in a great place and have learned to love myself even more. Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone!💕

More people would come back if they listened to the advice you're giving. It's unnatural and hard to do - but it's wise, and it gives the best chance.

Yes, exactly this. Not every relationship should be saved or rekindled, but at the same time, unless it was your first relationship, then your ex at one point was the "someone better" that people tell you to move on to. The next "someone better" may not actually end up being that good, it can be hard to tell in the beginning. If you had a good relationship with your ex, trying again might not be a bad idea. At least you both know what you're getting into and where it went wrong the last time.

Look here, it’s a 50/50% chance, they come back or they don’t ...

Happy valentine's day coach!

Coach Lee got me through on my first breakup, it was roughly 2 weeks of being numb. 7 months later, that ex came back asking for forgiveness, but my heart was already given to someone else. This someone else is a committed man as Ive discovered. I dont know about romance anymore.

In my 40s I got frustrated with meeting people who were shallow and carried no hope or values. I started leaving the country and did a few dates with people in Montreal, Buenos ARies, Copenhagen, etc…… Americans are damaged and traumatized. My dates with people from other countries were vibrant and happy. I’ll never forget them. Good people with values.

It works , did no contact he called me after 18days. I have binged watched your video .you give us hope Thankyou

Coach Lee is a incredible Coach, his videos give so much confidence and comfort! I wish everyone good luck and happy Valentines😘

Thank goodness I started watching your videos last year, i was just broken up with 3 days ago.. I went immediately into no contact.. gave him a soft push back but I respected his wants and walked away. It was only a 5 month relationship but it was intense and we care a lot about each other. I am hoping he realizes his mistake and I’m open for now to rekindling . It’s not easy though. I am hurting.

They always come back... sooner or later!!

Been watching your videos a lot and they’ve really been helping. I’m 27 days in of NC and it’s been 35 days total since the break up. I had only reached out once in the beginning but had stopped since. Hoping for the best!

No conducts works, yes they do come. Thank you coach Lee for your advice, I loved my exe soo much and I still feel I love him, but now that we are in conduct again am not sure if I should take him back again. I see a different person, he looks even old and not glowing like before

I was just thinking I could really use a coach Lee video 🥲❤️

My breakup was rather clean. In the two weeks that we have separated, we've had a few conversations about the breakup. First one, we just talked and I asked the questions that I wasn't supposed to and she got annoyed. My response was to tell her that I wasn't giving up. This was the worst one. The second convo was more of me telling her what I missed, she thanked me with teary eyes and then sent me links of apartments. The third one came before we told our children. This one was me letting her know that basically as of today (28th) my door remains open for reconciliation but that she needs to initiate that conversation, not me. Any acts of kindness will be received as being civil for the kids. We have slept together, all initiated by her. I don't cross that line unless she hints or initiates (rape purposes). How should I apply the no contact rule when we have kids? We've been together almost 13 years

I admire Lee Wilson for his great common sense and his abilities to help others. My ex was drunk 90% of the time and was a_ _ b from hell.

Though I appreciate the information. The time served is key. We were together 8 months total she got pregnant but I was not home because of work. I would say truly 3 months relationship. But no true building or bonding. 8 months pregnant she had moved on with another man. I have not seen our over a year now. I just suggest that everyone be honest to yourself as Coach Lee states. I wish mental strength and the ability to progress healthy to all viewers here.

Coach Lee is on point as always

My boyfriend lost his attraction towards me and he dumped me by saying he has to figure out about his life..so I respected him and let him go with strict no contact rule..he kept posting things on social media as he was going through realization phase..and quickly after 4 days of strict no contact rule he came back..he apologized and opened up emotionally and said he can't live with me and pleaded me back..and he's treating me even better now...Thanks to you Coach Lee..

Valentine's is stupid!

Thank you for all you do Coach Lee! Your advice are the best. Can you make a video about an ex that keep breaking up with you and always chase you, would love a similar videon on that. If that’s possible of course ❤️

I left my ex due to major issues in the relationship, he ended up contacting me and we got back together but to be honest, getting back with them was not what I thought it was going to be. Attention and attraction is just gone. Time to move on.

Please scammers are here don't fall for them please 🙏

I miss her. She was such a good partner, and I blew it by making her feel neglected. I could've just been a little more attentive and warm and it would've never ended this way. Been on day 33 of no contact. I'm mentally moving on, but hopeful she'll reach out someday soon.

I took the get your ex back quiz and scored 76.5%.

Amazing video so helpful thanks Coach Lee !! Can you do a video of an ex that broke up with you and left to another country but we lived together in America for 1 year. What’s the chances ?

I was engaged to my x we built a house . We broke up 5 months ago . Now he is in a rebound relationship.. after me being in no contact for 6 weeks . He started texting me almost every day. I texted back and told him as long as he is in a relationship to stop communicating.. and I started no contact again couple days ago ..

I was giving a second chance and blew it!! I am single guy and she was younger than me with two kids 6 and 8 which I got along great! After a year dating, she was talking about moving in together and I panic! We broke up, but I really love this woman, and when I was ready to give another try, she back off and said she is moving one without me😭😢🥺 I been in no contact for three weeks now, and losing hope a bit to be honest, but I’ll keep going Coach Lee. I am working on myself, health wise, been exercising and taking care off myself. I missed her so bad😣🥺

Guys I just want to say trust God and what Coach Lee is saying. I just got a check up call from my ex after leaving her on read. Thank you!! ✝️

He contacted me but 2 days later he called me afterwards to tell me he had been seeing someone and he yelled at me LOL I’ve moved on after this... I’m dating again and I’ve learned a lot!!

And I think I am seeing someone. Been talking a long time and it is nice. We are old friends and we talk daily. We make time for the other. We are waiting until my second shot to be in person. It is at least good in this way.

Although it was extremely painful at the time, I'm so glad that my ex broke up with me (even over the text). This gave me a chance to developed myself, learned new hobbies, met new people... I recently met a new friend at a dog park, and we are developing a new relationship. In a mean time, my ex tried to text me again and acted like nothing ever happened after 14 months. After 6 days of thinking, I texted him back saying "Hope all is well". I hope he got an idea.

Scored high on the test 🙌🏼

My ex and I broke up for a month and a half, but we continued seeing each other and enjoying each other's company. She did have a one time stint, with her previous ex, but here's to the future!

Well, today is a week ago she broke up with me. We had a great relationship but she had to do LDR for two months. We were so close before she left. She gave me a mug with our picture on it as well as a jar with love notes for every day she was away. Then a week ago she came back I picked her up from the airport with flowers. We spent the weekend together but I could notice something was a little off. The last month of the LDR she was neglecting me a little and when I brought this up she said that she really fell in love with me and she was sorry and she never want to break up with me and correct her mistake. I really thought she was sincere. I was her first boyfriend and she never was in love before she said. She also said it was a little scary for her to fall in love with me. But that doesn’t matter anymore, I thought everything would be better when she would finally come back and our LDR ended and we were close again. But she decided to break up because all of the sudden she said she lost her feeling for me. I was baffled because I never saw it coming but I think it’s better now. She also had pretty big issues with her self esteem she said and she had a tendency to self sabotage herself she told me the when she broke up. But she didn’t want to fix anything. When I left in tears and said goodbye she said she also just needed to process some things implying the breakup was not definite. But I’ve decided to move on now. I don’t deserve to be treated like this. She can go solve her issues on her own. Thanks coach lee

Coach Lee your videos are insightful. Helped me a lot during tough times. Thank you 🙏

I really don't care if I get my ex back anymore, iv walked away with my respect so iv won 🥰

They always come back time after time again and again over and over when they expect you pick them up clean them up brush the dirt off their knees don't then see the real person the person they really are when you are only seen for your resources and potential provision supply you know what they are truly about.

Been practising no contact because i have been watching your video for about 6 months Coach. He keeps on coming back 😍. Early on Valentines day, he left me a voice message checking how I am. It's a LDR , it's kinda crazy how it works. He said he really miss me and we had a long video call. My Valentine's day is so happy and im feel beautiful and content. I let go of him and he came back and i will continue doing so. He said " I love you" more lately than before. It shocked me

I just want him back as a friend. He was my closest friend as well as lover for five years but has found someone new (he lives in a different country) and has been virtually silent for a few weeks. I understand he needs time to get the new relationship established, and I’m fine with that, but we clicked on so many levels and I miss him like hell

Happy Valentine's Coach Lee ❤️

We were together for 3 years and we argued a lot. But there were many happy moments too. He broke up with me 4 months ago, because He wanted to be alone and after no contact (3months) He asked me out. So I went to the meet up and everything was good and He kissed me out of the blue, but also said that he doesn't know what he wants. After that I am in no contact again. I think that he only play with my feelings. :(

I've just come out of a 5 month relationship, my ex gf broke up with me due to small arguments we were having, she also said she needed to fix herself which i tried helping her with but apparently I was the reason she couldnt fix herself, so she broke up with me after a little argument. I really care about her and we had a lot of happy memories, I didnt think lockdown and coronavirus helped at all. I even gave her her birthday presents to her after the day we broke up which was hard. Im currently 10 days into no contact, its been difficult but coach lee you have really helped me. Im going to work on myself for myself and hopefully she feels the loss later in the no contact stage and decides to reach out to me as I think we could of had something very special. Who knows I might have even moved on my then but whatever happens happens

I didn’t give them the breakup until a bit later, that explains a lot 👍

That's a very high percentage. Both my ex’s never came back. I recently got broken up with with someone new I’s been seeing, completely out of the blue. It was going so well and completely blind sided me. His reasons were he couldn't see it long term and he's thinking of moving country full time. He previously called me his future wife and the one. He dropped my things back to me today. I was shaking but acted nonchalant. He kissed me on the cheek goodbye. I miss him so much and dont know it no contact will work from here since it was only a month. But an intense month.

I'm 3 days in NC my fiance I was with for 8 years left me soon before our anniversary and its been misery I feel my whole world is over I moved here away from family and friends and planned my whole life around here and couldn't imagine it any other way I hope there's a way

It's been 1 year y'day since my breakup wit my Ex. It wil b 7mths tomoro since i started No contact...and i'm goin strong. We both hav moved on. I stil tink back at times...but i kinda lost d hope now since his new gf is pregnant. But i stil watch ALL Coach Lee's videos and ALWAYS lookin forward 2 new ones. Keep it comin Coach👍! And good luck 2 u guys who r lucky enough 2 get your Ex back.

Family and friends say oh this happen for a reason. There’s more women out there. Somehow this isn’t make situation any better, Specially when you’re 50 years old and time feels like it’s running out

Hi coach lee, can you make a video about ex that’s experiencing depression?

18 days of no contact, I’m so confuse why she broke up with me. Currently talking to someone new but I think about my ex every second 😭 I hope she comes back before I fall for the new girl

Damn, I was just looking at my call log to see the amount of times and time period he came back

Was married 31.5 years, 4 children. Divorced 10 years. He has started making efforts to communicate. He is a narcissist and is with the woman he left me for. Don't want him back. Afraid he heard I'm inheriting some money soon.

If she's doesn't have a better deal, she'll be back.

I wish I came across coach Lee as soon as it happened. For the first month from an 8 year relationship I was in shock and got so sick and just didn't know how to cope. It did get messy. It didn't help that they also gave me covid too and they've still been living here for 3 months. They wanted to still live together and I realised it wasn't going to be healthy for me so I told them no they need to move