For me, science was truly a resurrection. Once I started studying stuff like female sexual attraction and stuff it kinda enlightened me because I realized the truth even if it's not very appealing to hear. Edit: I don't mean just size but lots of other things. It's just important to educate yourself.
Far from the truth actually. Im a psychologist, too, and the realization, how unreliable studies and statistical data are is disheartening. I have somewhat arrived at the conclusion that objective fact is something that does not exist within social sciences. I miss how easy that was with my biology degree.
@@matthiwi6901 You can't know the objective truth, not even in natural sciences. A pillar of science is that it leaves room to be false or disproven. You can only come close to the truth. Sometimes I believe we come very close (natural science), sometimes we are far from it (social "science").
I just remember that when we were 13 to 14 years old we had a "Life orientation" course with a feminist psychologist. That woman told us that the average penis size was 17cm (6.69 inches). I'm wondering if she did that on purpose to destroy our self-esteem (the self-esteem of guys taking the course).
That was average among men she's been with. Not the average for men period. Women do that and not on purpose. They truly believe ALL men are just like the ones they chose to be with.
That's well above average. The average would be 5.2 inches to be exact, which is approximately 13cm. Great start to a Life Orientation course by making more than half the men in the room feel insecure.
The first women i ever slept with laughed at my size. It gave me a big confidence issue. My now fiance thinks it's big and it hurts her sometimes. The thing guys need to realize is its also a compatibility issue. Doesn't t matter if your hotdog 8 inch or 4 inch if you're throwing down a train tunnel
@@_Lumiere_ I don't think I've ever seen a proper discussion of that. I am familiar with statistics on the male member, but I've seen any data on the female counter part. It would be fascinating if there was some asymmetry in the averages.
@@aleterra there's no reason. They do it because they were most likely hurt by men in the past, funniest thing is that was most likely their problem since they attracted that kind of men in the first place.
@@aleterra on the one side it doesn’t make sense, because it’s not your mistake, on the other side your genetics are a huge factor in reproduction and so the shame you feel about your genetics could be interpreted as an evolutionary reaction, that means you are less likely to procreate or maybe even shouldn’t procreate since your bad genetics aren’t wanted in human genpool. This shiat keeps me up at night.
I never measured it, but I believe it’s smaller than average. That being said, it really doesn’t matter as no woman has ever seen it. I’m almost 30 and I’m a virgin, so having a small D is the least of my problems. Managing to get a date or even just a kiss would already be one hell of an achievement for me.
Damn. I'm 6'4" and 8"+ and I've had many women throw themselves at me over my life. Mother nature is not kind nor fair to us apes, and it seems winner really does take all.
@@intravena congrats bro you’re part of the top 10%, enjoy, not all of us were as lucky as you. In terms of height I can’t complain tho as I’m 6’2 myself
Keep being yourself. But do work on yourself. Practice social skills and make yourself look presentable. I'm not assuming you're not doing that. Just that, in general, that's good advice. And go out to places and do activities where you can meet people. Staying home won't help you meet people. Stay off the dating apps, waste of time. You meet real people in real life. Good luck! Wishing you the best!
@@Fred-zt5ky if you are over 6' it is all on you. Focus on yourself, get in shape, make yourself the best version of yourself you can be, and women will flock to you. But you also need to get good at listening, because women are not overt and in general will assume you always pick up on their asininely subtle and nearly impossible to get clues. In general, if a women is trying to converse with you for more than a second or two she is interested in you.
Thanks for all the great advice guys, appreciate it! I’m already in good shape (physically I mean), but I do need to take more initiative with women for sure.
It's like Men wishing for thicker bottoms in women, not all women have them but it's what most guys wanna climb on, but at the end of the day they stick to reality and are satisfied with what their female partners have.
@@gj9157 Lol...Of course you "love it"...why wouldn't you ? You possess something that the vast majority of straight women desire and have something that serves as a constant source of validation.
Important notes: 1. Cervical depth. Many women experience pain when matched with a penis that is longer than the depth to her cervix. Because of this, there a many women who are comfortable or ''perfectly matched'' to the 4 inch range. 2. Overall health - A man who is fit, healthy, tone, and clean will be attractive to many women in ways that surpass gross body measurements. 3. Learning about massage, human anatomy, human psychology, and bringing an attitude of positivity in these areas will make a woman much happier as a lover than concerns about gross measurements ever will.
I am perfectly average sized , but my first gf complained about me being too long and felt pain during intercourse... so what matters is cock and pussy fit together not the guy being above average.
that is very true. women are much more attracted to who you are and how you are than the instrument size, which by the time you got into her vagina, it doesn't really matter if it's 4,5,6 inches, she'll enjoy it.
I saw an interesting video once, a guy who was insecure about his size (he said his GF broke up with him for his small size) underwent surgery to increase his size and still thought his life had not drastically improved. Whereas this other guy who actually won a competition in his local bar for having the smallest penis (lol? why are their competitions for this?) actually had a very active dating life. Bottomline, if you're insecure about something others will feed on that weakness.
He was just cut. Ive seen girls awe and beg a male stripper even after bein told he went ass up for hundreds of men to pay for a Mazerati and prob had something that wouldnt wash off.
It's honestly a shame that youtube demonetize videos like this. They are so informational, educational and they help a lot. Please keep up the good work. With that being said, I think men are desperately in need to gain their power and confidence back. In a time where men were the sole provider to a woman I assume penis length, height and so on were not a problem at all. Now since more and more women are emancipated, they start to get picky and if you don't belong to the like top 3% of men, it's inevitable that you'll have to work for it if you want to get laid.
Here's another perspective for you. If your girl "requires" a huge schmeat to be totally satisfied, you're probably with someone that has been run through by a significant number of men and you are NOT the problem.
@@endlessthoughtspartitionma1349 That's not the point actually. The more men a woman has, the more likely it is she scored a hung guy. If she is that way inclined, that now changes her standard. It has nothing to do with stretching organs.
@@nikolauspon8266 the number of partners DOES matter. If a woman has such low value that they have numerous partners, those women shouldn't be worth your time. Let me ask you this, would you buy a 1985 model car or truck with 20 owners? how about the same vehicle with 80 owners? I'd bet not.
Man, Love yourself, nobody is going love you if you don't love yourself, take that advice from me, 27 years old, as if i am an older brother. Don't let anyone shame you for anything you don't control, it's not your fault. Stand for yourself, nobody is gonna treat you fairly if you don't make them do so. Love your mother and father IF they sacrificed for you, cared and made you a man, and never forget that one day they will rely on you, because they also are humans with weaknesses. And finally, never, NEVER lose focus on your dreams, no woman, object, job, idk...is worth forgetting and giving up your dreams, cuz they are what makes us going. Take it easy, life isn't that serious...peace.
Also ironic all this talk of no body shaming yet when it comes to males literally every form of media has made jokes about it, from artists in music to actors in film and television, even the MCU & shows made for kids have made fun of it.
Yeah that has always struck me as incredibly strange in an era of supposed body positivity. "Small dick energy" and "big dick energy" literally became slogans in recent years and part of a progressive movement no less. Have you also noticed that it is also pretty much the only body part where mutilation is used as a lighthearted joke? I cant think of any other appendage that you can universally joke about cutting it off and most people wouldnt even consider it to be a dark joke. There was even a morning talk show where some women joked about it when they talked about a real case of a gf mutilating her bf. I think that it being so normal to joke about it and to dismiss any insecurity about it as childish has done a lot to increase anxiety about size, especially in boys.
When have men NOT been the exemption to these “progressive” rules? We’re always going to be left out, doubly so if you’re straight, triply so if you’re white too. So best to just ignore all that crap and just do your own thing. Screw ‘em.
Its all hypocritical and double standards to them. Flip the script immediately and if it sounds wrong one way but not the other, its a double standard and hypocrisy. "Rules for thee, not for me" mentality with all this "pro-whatever" flavor of the day it is.
My ex when she wanted to leave me told me. " You are great at sex, but your penis doesn't feel big enough" I got traumatized, I went to see a urologist, and asked him about my size. He told me that my penis was the average size of males around the world. I had to go to therapy, when I was with a women I couldn't get it up, and I can still hear my ex's words all over.
Vaginas come in different sizes as well. Some women have bigger vaginas and need a bigger penis. But even a bigger penis doesn't guarantee orgasm. To achieve orgasm there needs to be consistent rhythmic hit on the g-spot of a woman and that can be achieved even with a smaller penis. Bigger penis may feel more full to a woman or even satisfactory but orgasm is a very different concept from that. Also, your ex was toxic. There are much much better women
Try focusing on them. Forget yourself and your body in the moment. Focus on how great their body looks and feels. Before you know it, it'll be throbbing.
Dude forget about your ex. It truly is about the motion in the ocean. And like the comment before me if your ex's ocean is the size of the Pacific that's her problem. Tell her to go _____ a donkey. Keep going to your therapist and focus on the things you can change and forget about the rest.
It was so hard to fight off the cringe and click on this video but im happy that i did, feel A LOT better about myself now, liked and subbed, as a 5th year med school student i love and respect your dedication to evidance based studies!
thats like body building. when i was 22-25 I was activelly lifting weights. Never took steroids or anything from that stuff. Always looked at big guys who lifted heavy in the gym and thought damn I am so small compared to them. Until one day a couple of guys in the dressing room asked me "what steroids do you take so you look that big and muscular". I was so confused at that moment like "really?". And blushed =)
Not true at all for me. I am 30 and 140 lbs on 6 feet and I gain muscles painfully slow. Lean people often have ektromorph body type that does not develop muscles mass well at all.
@@yd8104 no, it wasn't the beginning. He posted a long video 4 days ago that addressed this. He also mentioned that he is posting some explicit content and flags it for yt to gain trust.
God damn it man. I'm 5 seconds in and I feel called out. I've seen this on my feed for weeks and refused to click it. (You can extrapolate my reason idrc) but I finally click on it and he gives me a "good job" at the beginning. Jesus Christ.
@ICEcold VON the old adage also applies. A bad craftsman blames his tool. So having a good tool is not all that is required. Knowing how to use it, and other tools (tongue, hands etc...) is more important. 😉
You can't compete with her 11'' Silicone thruster with tripple speed settings and 4 mode vibratation with built in heat up feature and swivel swavel head rotation
Yes you can. You learn how to give cunnilingus and use her vibrator so she associates the experience to you. What’s missing is the human connection and it’s up to you to create one for her.
I’m a young woman and I don’t care about size. No one should feel insecure about themselves. If someone makes you feel that way, then they aren’t the right person.
why would I feel insecure or be ashamed of something that I can not change while women on the other hand have the ability to not turn their v@gin@ into a cave?
@@igorkochnev5097from your perspective then shrimps shouldn’t reproduce. If they are unable to remain with their partner, it’s enough single parent households no need to add to the problem because of ego! Use your hands, mouth or get a sleeve and man up. I’m so glad I got a c section cause I’d punch my husband in his smug face if he leaves me because I’m not the same as when he married me because I birthed HIS children!!! Wreck my body and leave!?! And now I know why women go for half😮 I almost died bringing these kids in this world. He better not!
"Women like above average"....well i like above average looking women. Stand your ground guys and dont be pathetic simps... if yourr going to be not in a relationship then so be it. Modern women are definitely not worth stressing over
You have to take into account that 84% of women said they were satisfied with their partners penis size because they don't want to be be seen as shallow. Women always feel the pressure to maintain their self image as a nice person so they won't want to come across as being judgemental of men's penis size
It bothered me years ago, I am average/ little above average. I came to the conclusion that it is what it is and will never change. Made peace with it. All I can say is it always made me feel good and I have never had any complaints.
Thank you for your video. I've quit watching porn because it made me insecure. Even to the point that I've experienced ED, because my penis looked small when having sex with my wife. I have 6 inches and it looked so small. It even had an impact on my life. I'm a big, strong guy, but thinking about it made me feel like a lesser man. It's not only porn, but also the reaction of some females on sociale media. Women can enlarge breasts, hair extensions, lip fillers, etc. But a man has to live with the penis he was born with. It's a form of body shaming that is very unhealthy.
10s of millions of American men do NOT live with the penis they were born with. Why? Because they were circumcised in infancy. Before 1990 or so, there was very little awareness that his and/or her sexual satisfaction could vary with his circ status. Since 1990, Americans and Canadians have slowly become more aware of the sexual value of a motile foreskin.
stop complaining about how women can improve their looks when you can too. penis enlargement exists. i'm planning to integrate penis enlargement into my life as i believe i have a small penis (I will not state the size but it is 'above average'). I know that even though my size is 'above average' or even 'big', i cannot look at it that way. i am stuck looking at it believing deep down that it is small even if it is counter-intuitive. but my point is that penis enlargement does exist and not all hope is lost
Vvomen want features around the 85th percentile and up. Every man below the 85th percentile in looks is uglier than vvomen’s preference. Every man below the 85th percentile in height is shorter than vvomen’s preference. Every man below the 85th percentile in income is poorer than vvomen’s preference. The same is true for p- size. Being average is never enough. Even if you are above average, she may still consider you inadequate, especially in the open mating market where she has experienced better.
@@mouseutopiadystopia24601 yeah but the guy knowing he wasn't her fired choice and the girl knowing she settled. That gonna make for a shitty relationship
I had a huge anxiety over the size of my dick. Needless to say, pron consumption only reinforced this stereotype in my head, my self esteem was on the lows for all my adolescence and when i started having some dating life in my early 20s - this fear of a woman rejecting me for my size never left me. HOWEVER! That also forced meto learn how to make women just melt from my touches, from how attentive I am to her body and to herself, how to properly use my tongue and fingers - and that had a phenomenal effect. By the time it was actually getting to the whole "put it in" deal - she was so warmed up that sex was never an issue. Slowly my confidence started to increase. I was never told that my dick was too small, so I started asking what they think. And none of them had issues. They started saying this golden phrase "It gets things done" and it completely took down the rest of the fear that I had in me. Great sex is not about in/out friction. It's about the attention you show to a woman you're with. And if you're doing it right - you can get her to be euphoric with you, so that the dick job only compliments the rest of what you're doing to her
This should be pinned. It's the guys who know how to use their tongues and fingers, the ones who genuinely live to see their partners writhing in a state of bliss, who are the real "Mr.-Steal-Your-Girl" mvps!
My friend Billy had a ten foot willy and he showed it to the neighbour next door. She thought it was a snake so she hit it with a rake and now it's only five foot four. Seriously though folks, if she laughs at what you've got then she's no stranger to plenty of Chads and Tyrones in her past, so you may well be dodging a dose of the old clap, or worse 🙄
Nofap, losing the belly fat, and adding more red meat and eggs actually does help. Along with cutting out excess sugar. I noticed a slight but noticeable girth increase when I did this and others have as well. Bottom line, keep your testosterone levels up.
It's really just the belly fat part, and that only gives you more usable dick, other than that it's pure placebo bud That said getting healthier will make you look more attractive, so you'll wind up with more luck anyways
@@leonrussell9607 you better utilize testosterone. Our androgen receptors soak up more testosterone due to less dopamine swimming around in our systems from the porn/jerking off. You will notice better muscle definition as well. It's nothing like steroids but it is noticeable. Better circulation and skin too. Cortisol levels come down when you abstain.
I used to think I wanted a 9 or even 10-inch penis. I consulted a number of medical experts, but changed my mind after learning how painful the reduction surgery would be.
This video is very educational, everyone teenager/young adult should really watch this to feel more comfortable and proud of themselves Edit: thank you
Interesting topic. I'm surprised you haven't made a video about it before since it's a really important and sensitive topic that a lot of men deal with. As a scientific guy, I was insecure about my size as well although I've learned to live with myself and accept my body the way it was given to me. Penis size and height are some of the things we can't change on our bodies, unless we do dangerous scientifically unproved exercises such as jelqing or even more dangerous surgeries that are extremely expensive. Women shame and judge men based on size because they know how important it is to them, why's it that important? Well according to latest research we're so subconsciously stressed about our size because of women. There are actually a lot viable studies how women actually caused our evolution of penis size directly through sexual selection. Yes, you heard me right. There's a very high chance women hand-picked men to breed with or at least it was something that they consider a highly qualified trait for breeding in early humans. That is one of the reasons why other primates have such a different penises than humans. We lack penis bone and we have 5-7 inch penises on average while other primates have 2 inches. Also humans are the only species where size of the penis is so drastically different between people. Although there are no clear correlations between ethnicity and penis sizez, some people have definitely longer penises while others have them short. This is also because of sexual selection and heavily depends on the period when people started wearing clothes. In African countries it was very hot and a lot of men are completely naked causing women to directly see what they're working with at the very start. That's also why there's almost no cases of micropenis in Nigerians, count Nigerians not African-Americans :) Women are generally attracted to things a man can't change because they see that as a genetic superiority. Penis size is one of those things. Evolutionary women don't really love a man and it's unnatural. Simply because children are their top priority and we shouldn't take that emotionally. We should accept it the way it is. A man is always replaceable in their eyes and usually used first for genetic material and then a supporter aka money bank, status etc. In our past muscles were basically nowadays money. That's why a lot of women feel attraction towards muscles because it offers them protection, similarly what money does today. Now onto the topic why do women say size doesn't matter but yet their actions show otherwise? Psychologically women usually always want men to think they have a chance with them so women give them a feeling they have a chance, so they could get more attention and feel wanted. Truth is, you can see the truth in hookups or one night stands. Vast majority of women are into big phalluses, maybe they can't handle them but that still doesn't change the fact they're into it. What they really mean is: "size doesn't matter if it's average or above". But they will never say it like that. "Size doesn't matter! Look at the lesbians, they are reported to have more pleasurable sex than straight couples." It's a valid point and would be absolutely correct if we didn't know the evolutionary side of female thought. You see, majority of women are attracted to masculine men if not appearance wise then definitely sex wise. Lesbian sex is very feminine and if a man is included in that picture a lot of women would lose attraction because he'd appear more sexually feminine. There's a reason why there's a thing called "dick appointment" and yes it's made by women. Because when a woman is having sex with a man she's prepared for penetration. Not for eating out, or fingering or toys. That's just the rough reality of most women. Solution, what can you do about it? A lot of things. To majority of the women it won't be a deal breaker if you have other things to offer. To homo erectus women or early humans it'd definitely be a deal breaker since it's assumed people were much more animalistic back in the day. Since humans evolved compassion, empathy, and rational thinking. Women aren't exempt from that, at least majority. They aren't pure animals that base their thoughts on primitive instincts. They wouldn't reject a guy who has other things to offer because their logic considers it a bad deal, their empathy also concludes similar thing. So work on yourself and get better at other things to compensate for lack of your penile length. Yes, life isn't fair. But you have to ruthless about it and take the best slice of the pie you can. Here, I'm talking about majorities. I understand humans are individuals and they differ in almost every way. There are women who prefer small penises, but they're extremely rare. Human sexuality is extremely vast, but some of the primitive attraction never change.
Interesting points. I am a woman ame some of the points you made are why i wouldn't get breast implants to change my small breasts. Maybe this is kind of similar 'issue' for different genders idk
Dude, thank you for your comment. I had to take a print because you gave relevant informations. But I strongly disagree with the final part. We as humans like to think about ouselves as different from other animals. But accordingly to my personal experiences, we are just as animalistic as the others animals. The only difference is the fact that we make excuses about our instincts in order to portray ouselves as superior the other animals.
I didn’t read all of your thesis but woman in Africa, back then and even in many cases now, don’t have a choice on what man they want..they by no means were/are selecting anything
"Being less than perfect doesn't necessarily mean bad" It absolutely does when you're dealing with women. Hell, sometimes even perfection isn't good enough, and the worst of it is knowing that it's not even a minority of women that are like that; It's gotten very much out of control.
@@SPACEDOUT19 neither are men, but look how thats working out. besides, exceptions do not disprove the rule, since in any given group there are invariably outliers, but genetics being what they are, human nature being what it is, nothing ive said is wrong. if it werent a consistent, widespread issue, things wouldn't be the way they are. But they are.
@@omegaxx7777 You should see the list of deal-breakers women have for men. Men have things like "not be too fat, dont have a bad personality", etc etc, and even some of those are negotiable. Women have a list of like 500 things that are total deal-breakers and most of them are superficial, petty things only a spoiled brat would care about. Delude yourself if you want but don't bother thinking I'm going to humor you.
It's interesting and slightly comic to see that neither the author, nor apparently Alexander himself, had noticed that, about the 10.00 minute mark , 'respectfully'' appears in the passage quoted where the context indicates that 'respectively' was what the author had intended to say ...
Being pretty large myself, I can say it usually only makes a difference for the 1st couple weeks or so with a woman. After that she adjusts and it's just like any other. After a while even guys who are large feel they need to be bigger. Women can just accommodate a lot more than you think.
Ikr? Some dudes are in denial about how much a woman can take. Then they cry and get hella mad when they find out she can take something big on the regular.
@@tygobermind3640 yeah once or twice, biting punching screaming anything BUT enjoyment really. Just commenting on dude's in denial about how much a woman can take, quite alot.
Something never mentioned is that these studies are done using the bone pressed method, pressing the ruler slightly toward the pubic bone. However for the women's ideal of 6.3-6.4, that was non bone pressed so one can assume a woman's ideal is really 7inches bone pressed.
@ICEcold VON The reason for that is it is more scientific as some men have more fat deposits in the groin over other men. Also, fat is something that changes over time, but your actual penis length does not. So if you are fat, the best way for you to grow your cock is to lose weight. As in a 600 lbs man may have a 1inch cock visually, but if he starved himself down to 180 lbs it may actually be a gargantuan one footer. hence why they should use the bone in method. Because a 12 inch cock is a 12 inch cock. Even if it is hidden inside 420 lbs of fat folds.
They used 3d imaging, so they didn't actually have the women report numbers. The results are based on image reviews, thus the conductors made sure to report the corresponding numbers to those images that we're probably all obtained by a single method of measuring. Again and again in these comments I see guys unnecessarily catastrophising these topics like bro chill it's not all that bad.
Although I must mention that I do think also the average woman agrees that size is only one factor. Women are super complicated, also when it comes to sex. Not only physical sensation doesn't rely solely on size because obviously.. pressure speed shape etc. But the mental aspects are ten times more relevant. Most women need a lot of mental prepping like long foreplay and even general treatment by the partner needs to be right. To get my point across I'll mention a study I found a while ago about orgasm frequency. 86% of lesbian women always orgasm with their partner per one session. Last on the list was heterosexual women with 65%. I mean, if women come more often during sex with other women who have NO PENIS AT ALL, consider to yourself how much the size of yours is going to matter in bed. I hope I was able to set some perceptions straight and that this helped some men out here to feel less self conscious. No need to be insecure about this!
One of my ex’s had a huge vagina. It was so big my d went in and decided to go on in adventure. She says how come your d is moving around all inside of me. I wanted to say it’s never been in a vag so large so it wanted to check it all out and report back to HQ lol
Listen it is the same with breasts, my ideal size would be like a c cup, but this does not mean i cannot be aroused by something smaller or bigger. Actually i would prefere smaller. Of course if a woman can chise she would like to have a man who is 6+ feet and is 6+ inches (but this is like 10% of men for each category). Now if you are smaller i don t think it is that big of a deal, expecially if we are talking about the dick. But it goes for both sexes, our ideal is not what we would settle for, there are a lot of other factors like charisma and so on (exoecially girls tend to look less at aesthetics)
Now ask men the average boob and butt size we want, it’s the same thing, never blame them for their shallowness when we are the same. In fact 99% of a woman’s value to a man initially is just looks so more so
@@johnniewalker230 yeah I like average sized boobs average looks but I didn't used to took getting older breasts get saggy over pretty women tend to be shallow and difficult
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A few honest thoughts on this: 1. the average penis is probably smaller than you think (about 5.5 inches) 2. to the extent it matters, it is just one factor among many (i.e. comparable to overall height, wealth, looks, charisma). There are plenty of shorter, poorer, less attractive, awkward guys getting laid, married + having kids. Unless you have a real genetic deformity (
The issue with comparing dicks to breasts etc. is that I can tell how large a woman's breasts are as soon as I see her, whereas a woman doesn't see your dick until later. So there's an element of facing her disappointment when she first see's it. That's something women don't deal with.
@@bobbyz9052 But we deal with the disappointment of shape. Men talk a lot about breast size but the reality is that what matters is shape. Saggy, tuberous or assymetrical breasts are definetely not considered pretty. And also aureola size is important, small aureolas are liked more. So yeah, you see the size, but that's all. Two women with the same bra size could have very very different breasts underneath.
@@ale4315 You're absolutely right, I never thought of that. But I will still argue that the size of a penis is still more relevant to the overall sexual experience than breast and nipple shape and size, especially with the prevalence of ass-men in modern society. But I recognize that that wouldn't affect a woman's anxiety over showing her body to a new partner.
@@bobbyz9052 Yes, I agree with penis size being more relevant in the overall sexual experience as you say. But well, we all have our insecurities no matter the gender. They're just different.
That's because men are not being accurate in their reporting and women are just throwing a number out there. It's the men in the spotlight in this regard.
@@demonicaxeman7264 In this regard, men’s size is being compared to what vvomen prefer. Distrust the self report of each. Ultimately, his conclusion was based more on vvomen’s self report than the non-self-report size data. VVomen self report it doesn’t matter much, so he concludes it doesn’t matter much.
@@mouseutopiadystopia24601 When it comes to something as private and intimate as sex, it generally comes down to "self-reports", which are always very sketchy.
We need to acknowledge that women , being primarily relational/emotional beings, would not mention penis size as being important simply because they wouldn't want to hurt men's feelings or be seen as shallow. I have no doubt it's important to a lot of women. That's just my opinion
While that is true for the most part, the moment women have an issue with you or are not in good terms with you for one reason or another, that whole mentality completely shifts and not wanting to hurt men's feelings or be seen as as shallow goes out the window.
@@bartimaeu1 Oh, many of them absolutely do; at least the ones that enjoy the bedroom fun. That being said, bigger is not always better. Much like the Kama Sutra suggests, you need a hare for a hare, a horse for a horse and an elephant for an elephant. The key needs to match the lock. When it doesn't though, it's better to have a larger key and a smaller lock than have a larger lock and a smaller key; which I guess is where that analogy breaks apart :-)
Honestly, big sizes can actually hurt in certain women's anatomy. That's why some of us don't prefer it and want an attentive partner. What matters the most, is that both sides are equally willing to please each other & have mutual physical / mental attraction. Certain women "demand" something big, because it was over hyped by the media. However, true bliss comes when you are appreciated as a whole and not seen just as a peace of meat for your "member". Same goes for both genders. Men have feelings, too. We should not pass / toss them like they are dolls. They are human with experiences and not tools. I've been watching your videos for some months now and I really like your open minded perspective. Keep up the good work!
Depends on women. Overweight women generally have very loose so they have to have big one. While skinny women are usually very tight so it becomes nightmare of trying to penetrate them if you have a thick one (comes from experience).
@@Tespri Weight in general can be a factor, yes. But in the end it's up to her own "capacity". If a woman can't take a certain man's size because of her anatomy, she won't take it at 45, 65, or 85 kg. I know because I've been through major weight loss and it didn't really change anything in terms of "female capacity". So, just experiment with what attracts you and hopefully you'll be compatible on that aspect!
I'm average, maybe even below a bit, and have had multiple relationships with no issues or complications. A couple even saying that they loved my size. Most say they hate larger because it hurts or gets old after a while. So it all depends on the girl and how shallow/immature she is. It certainly doesn't matter to wife material. Speaking from experience.
True story: I used to work at a nightclub that had stripping cages. There were very buff dudes that you can clearly see the tiniest little acorn in their thongs..lol.. yet the girls were screaming and wetting themselves. I’d see girls waiting for them when they got out the cage and sometimes they would walk out with a girl in each arm. That is when I knew for sure size doesn’t matter. Then there would be nights when there would be a guys with big ones dancing but was not so buff and the reaction was never the same and when they got out the cage they were basically ignored.
At the end of the day, we are born with what we have down there. It's not like we did something right or wrong, it's just genetics and basically luck. The main problem is that in today's society, every single aspect of life is oversexualised, when in reality, it doesn't need to be. Just live your life with respect for each other, because not everything has to be a competition.
Other than having a sub 4 face this is THE MOST devastating physical flaw for a man’s romantic prospect. I was an average looking lad. Ladies had crushes on me and strangers even hit on me more than once. It all meant zero because of inches. It matters as much as the dark matter at the center of the universe. It will completely destroy your love life even if you’re a normal dude in every other way.
@@PED922 over and a half. People really need to talk about this more because you’re screwed anyway so no reason to care about embarrassment. Your female friends will white lie and say that some girls don’t care but good luck finding one. I’m old now so it’s a moot point but a pox on anyone who ever blamed a man’s insecurity or attitude for this. In a candid situation all women will say below six is a dealbreaker.
It makes NO difference if 5 inches is ‘enough’ to satisfy a woman. That’s not the point. A woman looks at a 4 - 5 inch penis, they WILL talk about you to their friends, and not in a positive light. It’s how the penis LOOKS to her. She wants a BIG one. Something she can hold with 2 hands - NOT 2 fingers. Porn AND women in general made us so paranoid and self-loathing, that we avoid sexual situations.
@@SmitePlayz1 men just accept reality and live with it, while women can't and they always try to live in fantasy land, that's why they cheat they always searching for that perfect man
A common mistake is that people forget that women come in all sizes too. There are women who are so big that they have to have a large member in order to feel it, and the opposite of those who are small who can't handle the large guys. Moral of the story, it is not just about men and their size!
Quick question Alexander. Is it not possible that women could be untruthful in saying what their desires are? Much like the self reported penis length studies, could it also be that many women will say it doesn't matter to them, so as not to seem shallow; as it may conflict with what is socially acceptable?
Dude, chill, they don't really care until its too small (like clinically small) or too big. Some likes big, but they have fkin gapes and you don't really want to stick it in there.
The girl I lost my virginity to would always tell me about what her friends said about other guys penis lengths and I’d laugh and tell her “I don’t want to hear that,”. She always had a way of making me feel insecure about my penis size. After about 2-3 years of dating her we broke up and she hooked up with a guy she’d been friends with since they were babies. She came over my house one night after that, crying, and complained to me about how she regretted it and that he had a tiny dick. Every sexual partner I’ve had since this first girl has always complimented my penis specifically and it’s boosted my confidence, but the lasting impact the first girl had on my self esteem will never go away.
That’s on you. I mean, she basically came back crying about the other guy which would suggest you’re fine let alone with all the other partners saying you’re good.
No, it isn’t on him. It’s not his fault. The point he’s making is that this kind of anxiety is very real. It’s so real that even when presented with the facts which argue counter to men’s fears, that initial anxiety is so strong it never goes away. QUOTE: “Every sexual partner I’ve had since this first girl has always complimented my penis specifically and it’s boosted my confidence, but the lasting impact the first girl had on my self esteem will never go away”
I'm about 4 inches and all I can really hope coming out of this video is that I can find someone who can love me for me despite my size I need to do some real self reflection and try to learn to love myself even if others won't accept me
Fact: most women prefer more girth than length and many women prefer average length or even below. It’s always the most vocal ones that say bigger is better. I am not well endowed myself, but most of the time my wife finds it satisfying and sometimes even uncomfortable, because I can unintentionally hit her cervix. You have the ability to impress and satisfy them in other ways, for example knowing where to touch them with fingers and your tongue. Learn how and you can keep them satisfied.
I have a 7.35” penis, and even *I* have anxiety after a previous love interest criticized me for being “small”. She was 5’4” and 102 lbs. Some women just say things to hurt men, and unfortunately for me that time it worked. She also confessed to trying to make me depressed enough to off myself over her, but that’s a whole other saga.
That volunteer bias would also happen in the female samples, for example, they would certainly feel reluctant to call our size as the most important thing in sex. And so on.
As a man in possession of the precise average or thereabouts, I have long found myself in a minority of men who's never been that concerned or worried about my size. This contrasts sharply with my paranoia as a boy, but at some point in my teens I simply stop caring as I guess I knew that my junk was at least reasonable. In the time since, I've always had generally good reactions from females and although I have insecurities in other ways, I'm glad this is not one of them. I've even had reactions that attest to it being so big or large when I know it's objectively not. A lot of females' perception is not in line with reality, therefore why stress about it? They really don't know the difference between 5 inches and 6 inches.
Not anxiety, just curiosity. Erect, full strength: 5.4 inches (13.5 cm)... 4.2 inches (11 cm) (girth). Satisfied. Honest self-report.🎉 ( She said hitting her wall for 5 plus minutes is a discomfort... that means even 5 inches would be perfectly alright...😂😂😂).
Only 21% of women say penis size matters to them- the other 79% are looking for a guy with a good sense of humor. Since when do we believe women tell the truth about what matters- I expected you to know better.
Its never really been taboo to talk about penis size or even to brazenly and openly use it for mockery. As usual we have a double standard because its the female equivalent that is forbidden to discuss and thats tightness or looseness of a womans vagina which varies just as much as penis size and has just as much impact if not more on a mans pleasure.
I don’t care how big you are. Odds are that she has an electromechanical device hidden under the box springs that is twice your size. Women can ruin themselves in future relationships with big toy dependency. No one talks about that. By the time that you’re able to squat down to the base of that orange traffic cone, it’s all over ...
