My Daughter Just Got Married . . . but I’m Unhappy

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My Daughter Just Got Married . . . but I’m Unhappy
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@lindawilson4625 6 месяцев назад

Listen to John. He nailed it. A chapter of your life closed, you are grieving that loss, but a new chapter is starting. Your daughter will always be around, but the relationship is going to be different...because you did a good job.

@ma_ncube 6 месяцев назад

"If her life was gonna be short it was gonna be great." What a selfless way to parent in such a fragile situation. May God bless Marie for her beautiful heart ❤

@blueStarKitt7924 2 месяца назад

😌 Amen.

@JustinCase780 6 месяцев назад

Having friends that lost daughters at that age makes it pretty obvious why this stage is an emotional stage in her/their lives. Her daughter lived through miracles. She's an awesome mother that is a rock star and the people that comment otherwise can step off.

@joeriveracomedy 6 месяцев назад

They broke the mold when they made this lady. Her husband is a lucky man.

@kristiiiiiiiii 6 месяцев назад

Parenting is just one long process of milestones, and while we’re SO happy that our children meet these milestones, no one tells you what a grief process it is. We raise them to let them go, but it sure is hard. Hugs, Mama. ♥️

@tinamariedemerath7689 6 месяцев назад

Well stated. I am SO glad for my two grown children who are married. (One is unmarried, working, and living with us.) Love their spouses. Proud of them all. But they live far away. We seldom get to see them. They're busy. We rarely hear from them. I keep telling myself this is "normal" but have many bouts of depression and loneliness, missing them so much I can hardly breathe. I have gone on...am living...doing what needs to be done. But a part of it doesn't feel right. I anticipated all of us being in each others' lives a lot more than we are. It feels so sad.

@cpirtle 6 месяцев назад

This is so true. My son is only 3 and I am already feeling this. I can't imagine him leaving home or getting married.

@squeezybearr5337 6 месяцев назад

This momma loves her daughters so dearly. This is beautiful.

@thebiggerreality18 6 месяцев назад

I agree

@parkerskeeper9621 6 месяцев назад

My god this call made me weep. I'm blessed that my mom is just like this wonderful lady. I know it was hard for her when I moved out and got married but she's always been my cheerleader. She was diagnosed with breast cancer this past year and it's been rough. Thankfully she's doing well and about to have surgery in a few weeks. Moms can really be angels. I'm very lucky and so is this caller's Daughter.

@queenbee3647 5 месяцев назад

Im my daughters rock. Whatever it is, whenever or wherever she needs me, Im in. Shes the best thing Ive done in my entire life. A beautiful human being. 💖

@karenhultgren7810 6 месяцев назад

I sending my support to the caller. It must be so hard but I hope she can celebrate what a great job she did and is still doing with her daughter. I wish her daughter a happy fulfilling life and blissful marriage.

@thisis.michelletorres444 6 месяцев назад

I was prepared to dislike this person, thinking she would be an annoying narcissist. WRONG! I totally get why she's going through this; I feel compassion for her. I hope she forges a new relationship with her daughter and can find new ways to invest her time and find purpose! And I pray her daughter is able to live life to the full!!!

@tracyaf6084 6 месяцев назад

Raising children is bittersweet. There is always the loss of different stages. I heard someone point out you lose your baby but get a toddler. Then you lose your toddler and get a kid. Then lose the kid for a teenager. Your teenager is lost when they become an adult and leave the nest. Then you’re so proud but do have to feel a little loss at that child who is gone. ❤😢

@Totaltwist 6 месяцев назад

As a mum of a toddler and kid... This hit hard. I got a large lump in my throat and pain in my stomach with the thought my job was done.

@vivianworden2706 6 месяцев назад

I applaud parents who give the gift of independence to their kids. ❤

@jimv77 6 месяцев назад

My wife will suffer from this.....both are college age and she still wants to know if they are coming for supper...... won't go out to eat without them..... vacations without them--no way! I am the opposite, I love they can drive and have their own life..... Empty Nester Woo-Hoo!!

@neisci 6 месяцев назад

What you are describing is very unhealthy. This woman is going through the normal changes of grieve. It's actually sweet.

@neisci 6 месяцев назад

This is such sweet call. Go mom, dad and daughter. This is how family relationships should evolve.

@ninamom1008 6 месяцев назад

This resonates so much. It is so hard when your kids get to where youve been preparing them for. When you invest so much for so long, you end up in a place you didnt know was in your path. But you got them to where they needed to be. Plus this mom had all the extra of getting her daughter to even experience childhood, teenage years, and marriage. A great thing to celebrate.

@Theklay1354 6 месяцев назад

I teared up when I listened to this. I hope I can be as good of a mom as you, Marie.

@mmbovilladardh 6 месяцев назад

In my culture when we get married, the bride has a morning party where her family gives her away. Traditionally, the bride is solemn and weeps as she leaves. My American friends are always confused. They thought I was being forced to get married. Nope! It’s supposed to be sad when you leave your parents. The happy part comes after.

@jamyengland8895 6 месяцев назад

I love this caller and her whole family including the son-in-law. Yes we need more parents like this one.

@AnthonyMcNeil 6 месяцев назад

She's a great mom. She knows her daughter's time is short but she has to let her go and know that she (mom) will always be there. She's definitely grieving the loss of her relationship/role that has defined her for 26 years.

@kristibost5723 5 месяцев назад

It is also very “normal” to feel a lot of grief after a wedding. It’s the build up, the hype, and the job of creating such a special day for this wonderful girl, that you’ve obviously loved through some horrendous health issues. But great loves crests great grief. And Mama.. you love your girl!! So feel what you feel. And enjoy your baby girl And her boy!! And continue to run with her to the finish line ♥️

@emmaphilo4049 6 месяцев назад

Empty nest syndrom. Classic.

@joanb4456 6 месяцев назад

This got me Deloney and company!! I thought it was going to go one way and then boom! Totally not what i thought! Never judge a book by it's cover. To the mom, so thankful for you to air this. You are awesome!

@bahwickee 6 месяцев назад

If you are a mom, you'll understand this call.

@miltoncat 6 месяцев назад

No. Those of us who aren’t moms can understand too.

@andrewheffel3565 6 месяцев назад

What a wonderful mother.

@kathylovesmk 6 месяцев назад

"Empty nest" is so freakin difficult! We have to completely change our mindset and it's absolutely a loss of what was.💔

@suestewart6590 6 месяцев назад

What a fantastic, wonderful mother, as a mom of adults too. Go, Marie. Hugs from Michigan.

@sydguitar99 6 месяцев назад

I love how he sings the John Mayer song every time someone named Marie comes up

@annettehennesey9508 6 месяцев назад

I feel this on SOOOO many levels! My kid has been medically fragile for the past 13-years. She was cured this fall and is preparing for a healthy life. I am over-the-moon happy for her and I am ecstatic that she can live a healthy life. I am also struggling with what the rest of my life looks like and where I should focus my energy and experience.

@BoyMama87 6 месяцев назад

I wish I had a mom like you! I’m 36. Cut my mom off 2 weeks ago. You’re a good mama!! This is good advice. She will always need you and you’re a safe person she will come too. After you feel the sadness, and regain a different identity, you’ll have a few beautiful appreciation for the next phase❤

@joannawert3095 6 месяцев назад

I home educated my seven kids for twenty nine years. I've gone back to work part time. I love my job. I do volunteer work for my church,; but there is still somewhat of an empty spot and it has been seven years since my "baby" graduated.

@LeeLee-mn4dv 6 месяцев назад

Neither mentioned her married daughter possibly wanting a child someday and what that may do to her already fragile body. What a lovely family. I wish them happiness and health.

@42Ccastro 6 месяцев назад

After having lived with an abusive and violent mother myself, it's so refreshing and heartwarming to hear that there are wonderful mothers like this one out there. God bless this mom and all the wonderful mothers out there doing their best. 💕

@kathirodden6109 6 месяцев назад

I raised 2 boys into great men and sometimes I miss them when they were little. It’s so hard to let them go but something would be wrong if they didn’t-

@deathnotelover11 6 месяцев назад

You want her to run part made me cry 😭

@juicysmith38235 6 месяцев назад

As a parent, if you don't allow your children to become full adults there are consequences. If you stunt their growth or shame them for growing up the psychological and self esteem impacts are huge. I am the product of this. I am 35, college educated, work a 6 figure corporate job, however for so long I was ridiculed and beat down that now I am struggling to finally start adulthood and find a home of my own, knowing that when I leave all hell will break loose from my mother. I grieve and cry a lot knowing I am now probably too old to meet a man and have a family of my own. Caller, your world and identity should be more than just being a "mother." You need hobbies, education, career, etc. Good luck

@mariastathopoulos744 6 месяцев назад

@juicysmith38235 Be proud of your achievements. So you're a late bloomer and that's OK because you have the desire for full independence. I suggest finding a rental, even shared, to start off. Give yourself 3-6 months to find a small unit / home to purchase. Apply for a mortgage loan etc. I had my first child at 37 and my second child at 39. It's not too late to get the life you want. Just do it.

@signalfire15 6 месяцев назад

35 is not too late to find a husband and have a family. If it’s something you truly desire, go after it and you’ll be surprised what’s waiting for you.

@abigailloar956 6 месяцев назад

I mean, if she were a lawyer and lost that career there would be a morning period. She was a mom full time and it is a lot of hard work and dedication. The job is over, and it takes time to figure out, "what now?"

@Kristen-ek9rz 6 месяцев назад

Just being a "mother"....it's an amazing gift from God (as is a career, or pet parent).

@Bethben6 6 месяцев назад

I have talked to other parents who mourn after their child gets married. It’s a common feeling regardless of their growing up.

@somewhrntm 6 месяцев назад

Lady, what you’re feeling is COMPLETELY UNDERSTANDABLE❣️ You LOVE her so much! Plan little outings with her, such as lunch and then window shopping. FaceTime her, etc. ALSO, tell her how you are feeling. I’m sure talking to her about it will make your relationship stronger and she will have empathy for you because she loves you too! 😊

@thebiggerreality18 6 месяцев назад

This was so sweet and wholesome

@allydea 6 месяцев назад

I wish you'd be my mom, I wish to be the mom you are.

@foxxybrown291 6 месяцев назад

As a mum of 3 grown children and a 14yr old who aren’t sick and feel my purpose in life is to be a mother, it’s hard enough to let them go. But now I’m a grandmother 😊 I get to love on my genes for a lil longer 😅. I will always be a mother. I get phone calls about baby constipation remedies and did they do the same thing? I send caller Love and Hugs 💓💛💓

@juancarlosmontes 6 месяцев назад

Mom, if you're reading this, I was really, really blessed by your story. I'm glad John was touched because I was all teared up by the time he spoke up. Your daughter is never going to stop reaching out to you as an anchor and as a rock. She's just in her honeymoon phase right now but she'll soon be knocking on your door because she knows you are the only one in the world who can give the kind of comfort she will need in that moment.

@vhol93 6 месяцев назад

beautiful call

@shiamaxwell3482 6 месяцев назад

Mom is suffering from “ empty nest syndrome “ during all of this too. I pray they find love and happiness, and may God bless them both and be ever so merciful be easy when the time comes. In the name of Jesus, AMEN 🙏🏽♥️♥️

@yent.7707 6 месяцев назад

What a refreshing call... as a mom of 2 under 3, with the youngest having Down syndrome, I aspire to be this kind of mom. ❤

@musicbrazilian7065 6 месяцев назад

Some people despise being a parent and pay no attention to their children the kids have all material things but zero emotional support it is really sad. I think some folks have kids to keep their so in disconected partnerships for facade and money.

@9liveslisa 6 месяцев назад

Hit the nail on the head.

@jacalyn153 6 месяцев назад

I have 4wonderful children. And each one I had to morn the loss of the relationship to evolve into another but it is so worth it to let it evolve into something better.

@lyndaslocs 6 месяцев назад

It's normal to feel a sense of loss when a major life change occurs. As long as she doesn't resent her daughter's success she's all right!

@hannahw4769 6 месяцев назад

I wish that was my mother, not everyone is fortunate to have a mother like that.

@42Ccastro 6 месяцев назад

💯

@jsvoight52 6 месяцев назад

I have a granddaughter who will hopefully go through this process. This mom may have stepped back to allow her daughters husband to experience the last years closest to her daughter. To be the second one called to the hospital. After all those years. Yeah, I can see how she'll need time to heal. Sending this to my daughter and praying my granddaughter makes it this far! ❤

@fmp7733 2 месяца назад

❤💕love this entire episode 💕❤

@jeanlaubenthal698 6 месяцев назад

Yes and giving up being close to protect her and now not so much is hard…thank God for the son in law.

@mamadoom9724 5 месяцев назад

My daughter is a teenager (sometimes a difficult one) and I so often think back to when she was a sweet little baby girl and it feels like she’s a different person. I sometimes get this sad feeling of grief when I think about her younger years. I imagine I’ll be feeling more grief when she’s grown and moves out on her own. I think as a parent we always feel some kind of grief as they move through different stages of life because everything continuously changes as they grow up. I feel like I’m not explaining this very well but hopefully people get it 😩 bless this lady. She’s a good mama.

@flashthecorgi2053 6 месяцев назад

13:11 “oh you tell him to park it” 😂 YES Delony!!!

@Veracityseeker7 6 месяцев назад

This young woman is blessed to have this woman as a mother. My mother could have cared less about my health or happiness. This sweet lady will get past this, and learn how to live this new life. If her daughter has grandbabies, she will probably be the best grandmother!

@daisy520-uy6sk 6 месяцев назад

I mourned my perfectly healthy daughter after she got married, too. I'd just go cry in her room for weeks. It didn't help that she was also moving halfway across the country. Everything was so exciting before -- the engagement, bridal shower, the wedding ... what a giant letdown when it was all over and she was just GONE. But I promise you, this will pass! Make use of facetime, visit as often as is reasonable and rejoice that you have another child now -- her husband! Dote on him and make sure he is thrilled to see you always so that he encourages your daughter to keep your relationship close. And btw, my husband DID NOT mourn anything about this at all -- which made me feel more alone. Strengthen your relationship with your girlfriends and confide in them. Decide to get some new hobbies, book club, photography, quilting, anything to get you out there and thinking of something else. Again, this is normal and will pass with time. Blessing to you!

@libertyna933 6 месяцев назад

That daughter is just so lucky to be so loved. You have to grieve your losses but just wait. There will be so much more waiting for you in your relationship with her and her husband. There is something very special about a mother's love that men don't quite know. Even the enlightened Deloney here doesn't quite know. He did a great job on this call though.

@PeaceCorpsDR2022 6 месяцев назад

Lol y'all haters clearly didn't watch the video

@raesully2615 6 месяцев назад

I GOT DEPRESSED WHEN MY DAUGHTER MOVED OUT💔😔 IT WAS REALLY HARD, WE ARE ONLY 17 YEARS APART AND VERY CLOSE. SHE'S MY ENTIRE LIFE.

@designshop7264 6 месяцев назад

Anticlimax is normal after a wedding

@judybaker3196 6 месяцев назад

Good job mom!

@AVONbeautiful 6 месяцев назад

I thought I was the only Mom who feels like I'm overly grieving my kids all moving out. I stayed home for the last 26 years, and though I know that them leaving is what they're supposed to do, I am SO SAD😢. I don't know who I am anymore or what I'm supposed to do now. I cry alot. Nobody ever told me it was going to be this hard.

@BoyMama87 6 месяцев назад

A quote that hit me hard, “A mother’s job is to teach her children not to need her anymore. The hardest part of that job is accepting success.”❤❤

@Mint-kj9kw 6 месяцев назад

Are u a born again Christian? Your identity is supposed to be in Him.

@roselolagne6642 6 месяцев назад

OMG My mommy heart is crying

@Red-rose-garden 6 месяцев назад

It’s the hardest transition for most parents to say goodbye to their adult children! But Dr.Johns great advice soothes our souls to let go and find new adventures in life and new exciting goals! Husbands get their wives exclusive attention back too! That’s another focus…eachother!

@kschrop 6 месяцев назад

She will low key get her daughter back, I promise you that

@jaypowers2258 5 месяцев назад

Very emotional

@mistermanman 6 месяцев назад

The comments?? Geez people, watch the video before you comment.

@MrTmenzo 6 месяцев назад

This is how monster in laws are created, this man/woman is trying to steal my son/daughter!!

@Lalo-ik4zg 6 месяцев назад

I'm gonna have to give my kids (if I ever have any) to this lady to raise 😅 That's a joke guys, this lady is a gem!!!

@Mila808g 5 месяцев назад

I just want to say that people in long-term serious relationships shouldn't be focused on other people like this.. I've been with the same man for 8 years now. Not married, just committed and doing life together. We trust each other and both have friends of the opposite sex. HOWEVER, we do not have "best friends" that are a different gender.. I know he's coming home to me at the end of the night (and vice versa) so my guy is allowed to see other females in a friendly capacity but I do reserve the right to ask where they're going/ why this lady needs him alone lol. Things have worked out so far 🤷🏽‍♀️ Communication is key and if you want to fck someone else, PLEASE have the decency of breaking up with your significant other first. Don't be lowkey running around behind your partners back 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

@robynjefferson4779 6 месяцев назад

Watch Steel Magnolias.

@jungersrules 6 месяцев назад

People forget that being a parent is a role, not an identity. It's a type of codependency that many modern parents deal with letting go off when their children are no longer children. Her response is very normal. Your whole life is pretty much child centered, so of course once they are gone and living adult lives, it's going to be tough to not feel emptiness.

@talkindurinthemovie 6 месяцев назад

Shes sad she's a big girl now. Its ok mom.

@bc19957 6 месяцев назад

What poet is he talking about?

@Slim032910 6 месяцев назад

David Kessler? Not a poet, but a writer. He writes about death & the grieving process.

@bc19957 6 месяцев назад

@@Slim032910 Thanks so much!

@Giannisdad 6 месяцев назад

“We had a great wedding” it’s not her wedding. Language matters

@bethl 6 месяцев назад

When you pay for it & do a lot of the planning, it’s a “we!”

@ashleysalazar2012 6 месяцев назад

@@bethl No it was weird for her to say we.

@JustinCase780 6 месяцев назад

Oh brother 😮 She obviously meant "all of us" had a fantastic time & celebration. Yea, it'a a big friggin' deal for her and she expressed it well. Step off.

@kristencobb230 6 месяцев назад

A wedding is a FAMILY affair. Whether you like that or not. She sounded awesome. And unless you’ve ever had a child with complex medical issues you can’t fully comprehend. Lighten up a little… 😊

@hansonallie 6 месяцев назад

I get you - but in this particular scenario, I’m sure Mom did a LOT of the heavy lifting.

@mariastathopoulos744 6 месяцев назад

Self pity is seductive. My best friend in university died when she was 19 because of a car accident. My sister died at 24 from Multiple Sclerosis. My daughter died when she was 4 years old due to a neurological disease. My take is this: mum has to sidestep now and that is challenging her, that her daughter has left home and is married. Part empty nest blues and part of mum's realisation that her youth is gone. Mum is also probably going through menopause/ post menopausal and the hormonal shift is tricky to navigate. Its an even chance that parents could die before daughter so why speak of daughter as being terminal? Anyway celebrate that your daughter is experiencing her life to the fullest. Now Mum has to redefine herself living in her new chapter of life.

@joannawert3095 6 месяцев назад

I don' t think she is indulging in self pity and it is completely normal to grieve the loss. The opposite is the parent who won't cut the apron strings.

@MN-br5nb 6 месяцев назад

You have been through a lot. Prayers for you mom. 🙏

@mariastathopoulos744 6 месяцев назад

@@MN-br5nb You are very kind. Thank you.

@diggernash1 6 месяцев назад

She should have let her daughter go years earlier. Fulfill your parental responsibilities(read as age 18)and then let them live their lives. Love them and talk a couple of times a week, but try to purposely create distance. Like the mother bird flying away at some point.

@mistermanman 6 месяцев назад

Her daughter has been severely ill for most of her life

@diggernash1 6 месяцев назад

@@mistermanman No one chooses their cards and should play their own hand.

@ashleysalazar2012 6 месяцев назад

@@diggernash1agreed

@mistermanman 6 месяцев назад

@@diggernash1 IDK what your point is in relation to the mom being sad

@ashleysalazar2012 6 месяцев назад

@@diggernash1 agreed

@lindsay3793 6 месяцев назад

Empty nester. Enmeshment.

@johnlanier3616 6 месяцев назад

I wonder if she feels safe

@hansonallie 6 месяцев назад

🤭

@fullmetal_neet2288 5 месяцев назад

This mother is crazy

@franziskani 6 месяцев назад

There are foster kids out there ....

@BarnzTT 6 месяцев назад

Just wait until she becomes a granda 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

@arbitrarylib 6 месяцев назад

Just let her go, she's not a baby

@elizabethpieters7798 6 месяцев назад

She loved through her daughter. Very unhealthy.

@JustinCase780 6 месяцев назад

Your perspective is unhealthy. Step off.

@RepentImmediately 6 месяцев назад

@@JustinCase780"Step off?" 😂 Ok commander 🙄

@kekejefferson9219 6 месяцев назад

Hunny, get a life!

@Alvin-xs7db 6 месяцев назад

Her kid was her life lol

@lot2196 6 месяцев назад

After my kids all moved on, I bought a BMW motorcycle. And got cancer. I still have the motorcycle 😊

@gbear34 6 месяцев назад

@@lot2196 Glad you're feeling better! Haha. I like to think the motorcycle had something to do with your recovery

@franziskani 6 месяцев назад

@@lot2196 Bravo on both account. Drive cautiously !

@jaredandallie1681 6 месяцев назад

@@lot2196😂😂

@isay207 6 месяцев назад

Selfish doesn't want daughter to have a life😢

@Rene-cn4jc 6 месяцев назад

It’s better to actually listen than come up with an assumption based off of narrow viewpoints or personal experiences. Critical thinking is imperative.