Oh yeah, childhood experiences ruin a person. I was told by a girl at the swimming pool that I am ugly and I won't be able to find a woman. She was right. At 47 , I am still single. But I am thankful, looking at my friend's divorce. I don't want to be married anyway.
She is objectively very pretty. If she gets rid of bad people and disorders and apply for marriage to good people she can choose quite well. If she was objectively ugly that would not be possible, except through manipulation which would be kinda social disorder. She deserves the best. She might somehow be asking for help. She deserves a good therapist. Female perhaps not to be too attracted for her. ❤
no she is objectively pretty, I know you're trying to be nice by saying that everyone has value but you're not doing her a favor by not acknowledging that. she has body dysmorphia@@geko9214
@@Noneyettocome What life have teached to me is: the label "you are ugly" is too easily given and often falsely given also. Our judgments should always be: John 7:24 KJV Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment. Lets analyze the judgment "you are ugly" - 1stly it is judgment towards a being, This world sees females as sex toys not as human beings. If the real you ain+t known, then there is nobody to judge. 2ndly - it is judgment towards appearances, we all age every second, what is therefore there truly judge? and what John 7: 24 says? And have we forgotten who we are? DUST, we are dust, directly formed from it. Genesis 3:19 In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return. And to be hurt or not about others opinions = false judgment, about you, you 1st make sure you know from where they take their “judgment”. Often and by many it is taken from movies, from magazines, from hollywood. Well, lets hurt everyone a little more, Hollywood club is filled with “transgender's” who even shave off their own bone anatomy. And normal human with sober mind should not find any living soul “attractive” or we`d be paedophiles, are you? Being single gives us the full freedom to get right with GOD, to build into existence once lost relationship, between GOD and creation, between PARENT and child. 1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV 32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction. this world presents love as lust, and if you`re not always touched, then you are not loved = lies and fear propaganda. All of it because the MK ULTRA PROJECTS from masons. John 15:13 KJV Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. And being ALONE (not on your own) does bring forth sober mind. What I have witness in my short life so far is, souls get together for money and because they are bored and the 3th reason is, the pressure of peers and older generations. “People around me repeated daily, get married and have children and move out, so I did. Am I happily living after? NO, i`m bitter, angry, sad, broken, in fear, heavy leaden, in darkness, always in somewhat contests with people around me, who has something better, something more and so on…, I succumbed to the fear of the opinions about my life of others, thats the hurtful truth.” We start feeling lonely, because we are on our own, lonely comes not from BEING ALONE. We all suffer of something and as we like “diagnoses” then lets diagnose ourselves: too often in the company of people, leading us to fear ALONE TIME, which each soul needeth. The cure for all of our problems are: ALONE TIME AND BIBLE. Hollywood has teached us how to live and love, way too long, lets risk with all that we have and give chance to GOD through His word. KJV Bible says; Matthew 6:31 Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? Luke 12:22 And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on. Matthew 6:25 Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? Matthew 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
what’s even worse is being objectively ugly and not being able to go outside without hiding my face because the issues about my looks are not in my head, rather it’s my reality and also confirmed by society. yep that’s my life. i wish assisted suicide was a real program in the US because i literally have nothing to live for.
When you start to think that have illness this is the problem I have dipolar disorder and I saw that the problem comes when you put high expectation for yourself. When you stop to care you see that the problem doesn't exist. The problem of most of people come when dreams and reality is so different. She is beautiful just maybe she has shit friends :)
That’s the whole point. You don’t owe it to anyone to look any certain way, you don’t have to apologize for the way you look. You didn’t decide to be born into your body. And you have the right to be happy in whatever form you were born in. Regardless of what anyone thinks of you, let that be their problem. I hope you heal from what you’re going through. Much love xx
I’m so sorry that you’re going through all this. I hate seeing you going through so much pain. You don’t deserve any of this. You are so strong. I had a pretty bad breakdown over my appearance last night and didn’t think I’d be here to type this comment. As much as you are hurting right now, I promise, I promise, it will pass. We are here for you. I hope one day you will love yourself as much as we do ❤
I’m so sorry that you feel like this. It’s literally the most terrible feeling to have to want to change something but you feel like it’s either hard or impossible to change it. I at least have a breakdown once a week because of how I look. Last week I cried for a few hours on one day. I know exactly how you feel girl I wish I could hug you :’(
You’re a beautiful girl and I honestly mean it. Please take care of yourself. Everything good and bad ends one day so just try to enjoy the ride even though it might get bumpy ❤
I feel like nothing I say can change your mind but I have to say this, Your teeth look fine you need to understand that people are not seeing what you are seeing, you are a young attractive girl, I just hope that you get well
I mean she is cute and pretty but I totally understand some of her complaints and worries. Also, Losing parts of your body, even teeth, is no joke. The difference afterward is there, and it affects a lot of people negatively. So does being dismissed. People only don’t care on the sense that it’s not their face so not their problem them. They can trivialize it because they’re distant from it.
Ive been suffering from BDD too, and I used to have a severe overbite which became a leading cause of my BDD, also braces indeed ruined my face but I don’t blame my dentist, turns out I blame myself over every mistake I had done in my life, I first had braces at 11 I had a severe overbite because I had allergies so I always breath through my mouth, basically I blame my past, my younger, innocent, ignorant, and stupid phase. Right now i’m still fighting and trying to be positive, i’m trying to improve myself without worrying and complaining, because I didn’t want to waste my life being so sad and miserable, I have to keep thinking about the important things in life especially my future. Girl i’m not lying your beautiful both inside and out, hope you get through with your pains as well, also God bless.
It hurts so bad..being insecure about your whole body it is giving me social anxiety Iam literally afraid to look all the people around me coz I think they will judge my looks..all my friends are pretty they have everything I wished for I dont know how long I can hold up to this pain
To anyone who doesnt know, she has body dysmorphic disorder which causes her to obsess over things she perceives as flaws (which more likely than not arent actual flaws and are delusions caused by her mental illness). So saying things like "girllll just get a man 😫😫" or "you should invest in plastic surgery if youre so insecure 🥺🥺🥺" isnt going to help. She needs therapy. Even if she gets cosmetic work to fix the things shes unhappy with, she will find more. Thats why shes crying about her braces. She hated her teeth, and now that her teeth are fixed she found something else. Are you going to tell a schizophrenic that is having delusions and saying they're God to "omg!!! Go spread the word bestie, start your cult slayyy!!" I'd really hope not. I hope you find a specalist that can help you recover, and be careful with what you post on the internet. Share what you want, but not everyone deserves to see your vulnerability.
orthodontist ruined my face too got 8 teeth extracted. Just recently pieced everything together the breathing issues, sunken face it all makes sense. Felt really betrayed, learned to not trust so called "professionals". Every day is a living hell I regret it so much my temples are sunken my smile line is deep and flat lips from lack of support. It only seems to be getting worse. I have aged so much in such a short amount of time and always feel out of breath. I feel stupid paying for them to ruin my face I don't even smile anymore. Just know that you are not alone. Thank you for posting the video really makes me feel less lonely going through this. Everybody else thinks im crazy, they don't see the damage thats been done. I really wish there was a way to fix all of this but its just simply unaffordable for me ill just have to live with it for now. I can only hope for stemcell teeth regeneration one day. Btw I think you're really pretty I wish I looked as good as you. Sucks having a problem that is out of my control no matter how hard I work it will never get better. I hope you do feel better somehow know that you are not alone.
I don’t wanna say that I understand exactly what you’re going through because everyone’s journey through life is unique. But you remind me a lot of myself when I was younger. I worried about looks and what other people thought all through my 20s. I had BDD. In a way I lost two decades because of how much I feared people, I’d hide so much and only really have courage to socialize when drinking. But I was convinced I was ugly and that the world is all mostly about looks. In reality the real world is mostly about what we do, who we are and our relationships. About climbing mountains together, helping eachother reach our goals together. But unfortunately when you’re convinced that you’re ugly and you carry yourself that way, people sort of act like a mirror. When I’d be super shy and awkward it causes other people to fear socializing too and they get awkward too. My favorite guitarist from the late 60s and early 70s who struggled with confidence and sadly passed at only 25(Paul Kossoff). He could make you cry with just a hand full of notes, he was a beautiful player. But he struggled to believe in himself and he said that talent goes hand in hand with confidence, you lose one you lose the other. You don’t need to believe in yourself for others, but it’s important to be kind to yourself for you. We’re all our own worst bullies. The things we say to ourselves become our truth kind of, I’ve experienced how theres no limit to how dark things can get. It’s an endless pit. Which is why the only thing that works is to be kind to ourselves and therapy really helps and works. Also exercise, it’s not about looks. Exercise helps keep our brains physically healthy, and that goes a long way to help our mental health. Therapy is great but if we take care of the physical health of our brains a lot of our mental health issues improve drastically. It’s a shame that some nowadays bash exercise as some superficial thing it’s not. It’s the most humbling thing, and then it becomes such a wonderful thing when you realize you’re healing because of it. Healthy food is also like medicine, but exercise helps actually even more. I’m only just learning myself due health issues I’m struggling once again how exercise it what will save me. But anyway you are so far from ugly it’s unbelievable that you think this way. You look like someone who could star in a leading role in a new Star Wars movie or something. You could be a badass Jedi. You are far from ugly, you look like a star. The thing is that strangers are quite often and normally quite cold and even rude in everyday life. Everyone has that experience. I used to think that I must be ugly. When I started singing and doing music, whenever I forgot about worrying about looks and just focused on what I was doing, like a passion. Then suddenly people would tell me they thought I’m handsome. I never believed it because of what a hard time I had in everyday life. But now I understand this stuff better. When we’re just focusing on a path on a passion, we forget ourselves we carry ourselves differently, people start to see something about you. People are attracted to what you do, and if you make them feel good. People wanna feel happy and they wanna be around people who make them feel good and also often if they feel safe with you. But when we beat ourselves up and we carry ourselves with self hatred and we lack confidence (real confidence comes from what we do also, our passions, doing things we wanna do, especially our dreams and passions not just like partying that’s more of an escape or a way to celebrate) that makes us harder to approach because other people are also often going through similar things and they also feal socializing. We make it more challenging when we do that. And this was a harsh realization, but some harsh truths are what help. But sometimes I’d dress in a way that I’m hiding, like always a baseball cap or I’d hide behind sunglasses. I wouldn’t always even realize I did that. But when I decided to enjoy expressing myself with clothes (and this doesn’t mean that clothes make you look better than you look or something), but clothes that you love. Like an artist, instead of hiding you might wanna use clothes to express yourself and come out of hiding if that makes sense. Cuz you can be who you wanna be, those dreams and thoughts are actually who you are. And you tend to attract like minded people. People notice when you’re expressing. But what we do is far more important. But then there are many people out there who lack empathy completely who don’t have good intentions, we can’t take them too seriously. There are people who enjoy just being horrible. And they behave that way towards everyone. We can always play the mind game that we can think of people who have what we wish we had and they have more, but that’s an endless game. We can all do that and drive ourselves to dark misery. But there’s so much beauty in life there really is, even just doing things you love alone. Some of my favorite moments in life have just been like doing nature photography for fun alone while biking in the summer and listening to music. In that moment nobody else’s thoughts mattered, I was just enjoying life on this beautiful planet. There’s soooo much to do in life. Just being human in many ways is a lottery ticket because of all the things we get to do and we’re not in constant danger from predators. Although I’m sure other animals have absolutely epic moments in their lives that we could never experience or understand. Sorry for the long message. But I wish you all the best! You are not ugly at all, you’re a very good looking person. Maybe you have BDD like I did. I just hope you’re able to enjoy life like you deserve to 🙏 take care
I am a teenager who's been struggling with low self-esteem for the past few months and I'd just like to thank you for taking the time to write this beautiful message, which I think more people my age should hear. I wish you only the best❤
since highschool i have never been able to be in any social situation without the constant thought of how i look to those around me. its endless. i even feel this dull feeling that kind of hovers in the insecurities on my face. like i hate my right side face and my nose, and i can physically feel that part of my body with a weird numb irritation (which is mostly probably mental) every second of the day because of how insecure i am. i never put my hairup in public because of this. i just wish i could stop caring and live for me, its just not that easy. love u for putting yourself out here btw :) u r an actual fucking hero
Shes a very beautiful young lady and deserves to be happy, its very hard when we feel ugly like this, for young girls and women its harder then us ugly blokes because theres far to much pressure on them in this world. Im ugly as hell but its fine because being bitter is the worst feeling, love yourself most of all, be kind to everyone from humans to animals and keep trying and keep going in life, things can always get better.
This disorder can ruin your life💯 the longer you fixate the worse it will get. I understand her regret for even caring to begin with bc we let it get so far..
I could say you're attractive, which you are, but I know that won't change how you feel about yourself. Only you can change that feeling. I just want to try to make a suggestion that helped me with my self image issues. I try to make my perception of value as a human being about things other than looks. Like your kindness, your integrity, your empathy, your moral and ethical values, your skills and your spirituality. It has helped me to be happy and feel worthy of this life, and I really hope it can help you.
Im so so sorry you're suffering through this. I have BDD aswell and its ruined my self esteem and caused me so much pain just as it has you. Everytime i go out in public, i put on a mask because im too insecure and paranoid about people percieving me as ugly. Your channel makes me feel not as alone in this and reminds me that there's others dealing with this awful disorder. Nobody ever deserves to experience this grief with one's self. I really appreciate your videos. Your fans are here for you and we hope you feel better soon 🌻
Girl people are not seeing what you are seeing. Trust me I know how it feels to feel and think that you are ugly. I have an overbite and while I am getting it fixed it has been my biggest insecurity forever and I was convinced it was the ugliest thing it the world and that it made me hideous. I remember crying to my mum about it and she looked at me like I was the dumbest person she had ever met because she was just not seeing what I was seeing and it’s been the same story with everybody I talk to abt it to because the severity of my overbite was just not as severe as my delusions were convincing me it was. Because of this I began to realise that the only person noticing my mild overbite was me and that the only one making me feel ugly and worthless was me. What I’m trying to say is you are seeing your ‘flaws’ as a lot more severe and a lot more prominent than the rest of the world and truly you are not ugly in the slightest, you are really quite beautiful and I hope one day you can see that
You are not ugly. I'm in my 60's, been around the world a few time and I can say that You are very attractive. We all have flaws. I just had my teeth straightened and now learning to smile. Stay strong my beautiful friend.
I have bdd too. I couldn’t stop comparing myself to other people because my face is asymmetrical. I have a broken nose which is huge and sticks out a lot and my left cheekbone and left side of my jaw are slightly bigger than my right side(although it isn’t really noticeable unless you look closely). I always thought I was a good looking boy but my asymmetrical features are holding me back which is feeding my depression because of the thought I wouldn’t get a girlfriend. :/
I just wanna say how sorry I am that you’re dealing with this I wish I could be there to help you because you’re such a kind person. And I get it I honestly still wear a mask because I don’t think I look like I fit in so I’m sorry that you’re going through this.
Hi sis your very attractive your a honest person keep going I’m an outback truck driver and see about 5 people in a week people don’t know your look if genuine you are strong you don’t need them they are just vine be you sis let them catch up to you They never will
You are not ugly sweetheart you are a beautiful person inside sorry you are going through a touugh you are a beautiful genuine person love you so i look up to you you are a strong woman
its sad that current wave of brainwashing made us think that certain looks are only attractive. its all stupid. if you are reading this please know, you are NOT at all an ugly person. like not even 1% of it. you are hella cute and i know you will grow more cuter if you start working out and love yourself. wish best for you, dont give up ever !!!
I feel like this everytime/everyday, the worst part is when i have to go to work and deal with people, while looking calm outside, but exactly like this inside
I've been hiding my face all my life without posting it anywhere as a profile photo. I still very rarely send my face to people, and if I do, then only those photos where I am made up. I can do doll makeup to appear relatively beautiful to people and not scare them with my ugliness. But at the same time, I will still hate my face.
I almost went down the rabbit hole of getting breast and double chin surgery but luckily the surgeon turned me down at the time. But I have done impulsive things( like giving myself ugly permanent freckle tattoos) and spent so much money on products that I think will make me look less ugly but ultimately make things worse. I know what it's like to let Bdd take over your life and I know it's hard but you need to ask yourself why it is so important to you to look "beautiful even though, from my perspective, you are attractive, you shouldn't even care what I think anyway. I still regress sometimes when I catch myself in the mirror and don't like what I see but I wish you could see your worth outside of your physical looks and put your happiness first like I'm slowly learning to do and I still have a fear of being generally rejected or someone pointing out a flaw but you have to just try and laugh and let it go I guess xd Much love from someone in a similar boat and sorry for rambling and poopy grammar and spelling.
One of my friends is a tattoo artist and he said if you spend time in the sun the tattoos fade dramatically, since they are small freckles I'm assuming they would fade fast.
Just want to chime in and add to the voices that you are heard & have people who want you to thrive :) As another 23 y/o on their own journey with mental illness, please stay safe and keep up with whatever treatment you can!!
Body dysmorphia is a bitch and Im so sorry. I struggle with it too and it hurts to see you in such pain. Just know me and so many others are here for you and you can talk to us whenever you want!
so sorry to see you going through this sweetheart you don't deserve this ive also been struggling with BDD for years and its just so exhausting :( i wish i could give you very big hug i would listen to you talk for hours i really love watching your videos and i hope you get better soon 🤍🤍
You're not ugly. That's for sure. The mind is a powerful thing. Keep the band aids off. You're beautiful the way you are! Start believing it. Don't let the negative thoughts win. Over power them with the truth. Knowing that you are beautiful just way you are. Because it's true if you believe it or not. I'm an outsider looking in being brutally honest.
Girl listen to me ok, you are so gorgeous with or without braces! Im so sorry that this has happened to you! But never be afraid to be yourself and never apologize about the way you look ok? Never forget that. I remember feeling like that because whenever I smile there is a tooth on my gum that shows and I can’t take it out off my mouth and i feel horrible whenever I look in the mirror because of the way I look so I get it. But never ever tell yourself you don’t look pretty because you are pretty on the inside and out please remember that ok?
I’m gonna pray, sweetie, that you heal whether it’s psychological trauma from the past, what people have said which none of it’s true, I think a lot of what people do they say things not because it’s true they don’t feel good about themselves and they see that you’re vulnerable to take their criticism and make you feel bad this is pure evil as far as your appearance,, even without make up, you’re attractive, there’s nothing wrong with any part of your body you are perfectly and wonderfully made by God😊
The " 90% philosophy " helps me a little. It says that everything that happens to us is 10% of the time and the other 90% we spend to react on that things that happens to us. We had no influence on some things. But you are in control of what you do. You can cry. Be angry. Hate yourself. Or say "stupid damn braces and complexes, you may make me feel worse and worse but I won't give up. Not today. Just one day more."
I was just watching one of your videos that you made two years ago.. I’m sorry you’re still feeling this way! Please accept and love yourself, you are your own best friend love fuck society’s standards be kind to yourself! Everyone has a different definition of beauty!
I understand and i feel the same way myself and i hate i dont look like scarlet johanson who looks perfect why do i have to be this ugly its too painful to me
I'm sorry you feel these type a ways you Honestly are really pretty You seem like just a really good person I hate that you have to feel this Things will get better It might not seem like it ever will but it will. Don't give a fuck about what people think of you None of that matters. You look Amazing Don't Worry.
Don't know, how you could't see how pretty you are. Nice, clear skin (the one or other little pimpel, or red spots - thats just a normal thing!!!), full lips, big brown (?) eyes, high cheekbones, silky hair! That's what I see! Me, as a mother, if you wehre one of my daughters, I would say these words every day to you! When I looked these video on RU-vid, my husband walked in and asked me: what is wrong, why does she crying, his words after I explained: "She ist extremely gorgeus, like a model, why she could't see it???" My words from the beginning!!! Go, love yourself! Take care of you! Do your hair, your makeup (if you want to), buy nice clothes and see what happend. I bet there will be a lot of guys there will be with you! 😊❤
From the bottom of my heart , you would be considered a model in my school , genuinely you are very pretty. Attractiveness comes from both outside and inside and you do check all the boxes. Calm down , its okay , look at me I am not that attractive myself but hey! its not the end of the world! Lets improve our other features and skills and leave a topic in which we cannot excel. Hope that helps
One, people can and will be cruel. They should not be taken seriously. I myself was never comfortable with how I look, and it’s done nothing but make me feel anxious and depressed. I have no confidence. I just subscribed to your channel because I want to see how you have been doing. I do not think you are ugly at all, and I mean that. I hope you are doing better, and I will try and catch up with your content.
I know not easy to believe, but you are so pretty, what you need is to see it on the inside, put your focus on doing good else, help others, look at your strong sides, and smile about the things you have to smile about! It helped me.
@@lianadotjpeg I know who he is, but don't watch because it's easy to get sucked into negativity, but at least he tells stories and is somewhat entertaining instead of sobbing in every video while the comments are telling you the opposite of what she's saying. Dbdr is probably a 99% male echo chamber, so he gets no positive feedback, while this is just a kind of narcissism
@@lianadotjpeg The difference being that Dbdr has never had a girl interested in him for his entire life. Crooked lady obviously had people interested in her, and she would do awesome on Tinder
Unpopular opinion: you're Sydney Sweeny level pretty and I personally prefer brunettes. You're not even wearing makeup and you're shooting with a bad camera and yet you still you look gorgeous in a video, imagine how gorgeous you would look in real life. I swear you're so natural and pretty you're so anime/k-drama female lead material. Every detail about your face is so peaceful and the last thing you'd ever be is bad looking. It really breaks my heart that you can't see that.
You're not ugly, and there is nothing to be sorry about. You made the right decision. I don't see the lines. But I can totally relate to how you feel. You're really pretty, don't let anyone tell you differently, including yourself. Sometimes, we are our own worst enemy. When I hear my inner critic, I tell it to stfu try it, it works tell yours the same. 😎
Maybe something I could suggest is to stop identifying with your body. Truthfully, the sense of I is grounded in our awareness, but we add our body and mind along to that. I know it’s super difficult, society can be cruel and difficult to navigate through. U aren’t alone ❤
you are also talking in confusing ways there, our mind is who we are, basically our consciousness/soul of which being aware is only one part of, we should embrace all our being which inhabits our body in this world and yes the body is not of course who we are but can make it nicer in order to live better in this world as through our bodies we interact with this world here
@@dreamthedream8929 Hi there, I'm sorry if I came across confusing, sometimes I don't word things in the best manner. But I would like the challenge the notion that our mind is who we are. You make the assumption that consciousness is part of the mind, however, even scientists aren't sure whether consciousness arises out of the mind or whether the mind arises out of consciousness. However, through our own experiences, we can each observe changes in our thoughts, emotions, perceptions and feelings. Considering that we can observe these events that occur as parts of the mind, it indicates the possibility of a subject which observes an object. In this case, the subject being consciousness (who we are) and the object being the mind. This is similar to how we observe changes in our bodies. Therefore, this possibly indicates a separation between who we are and our minds. Of course this is just a theory, nothing concrete here, just food for thought. 😃
@@vipraalbudhram2235 hi, ive heard that theory before however if you reflect on it you will quickly realize that its all one and the same thing, the same being. our soul, consciousness, spirit, mind, mental energy/activity. in my experience all these are words for one and the same thing. its not an assumption, its a direct experience, it just is. you kow it too. its not similar to observing the body and what not as clearly we are not them but we are our mental activity of which observing is only one side of it whereas thinking is also just another expression of your being, you may as well think of your observing and so on. to me there is no distinction between mind and consciousness, its all mental or soul activity and its important to embrace our entire beings instead of supressing or ignoring certain parts of it. Subject and object in your example are just words and in this case they are irrelevant to the experience of your being. And you clearly wrote this statement here didnt you? Thinking of it and willing to write and so on, many things perhaps happened within you in order to write this apart from just watching or observing
@@vipraalbudhram2235 yes language can be confusing and limiting at times, nevertheless to me and being true to the experience there is no difference between mind, consciousness, soul, spirit or being, its all mental processes/expression/activity or mental energy. Just as well as you can watch your thinking you may think of your watching and so on. To watch or observe is just one expression of ourselves just as thinking or loving or willing or being sad or others are. Its one and the same, all are expressions of our being and its important to embrace or acknowledge all of your being without supressing, rejecting or ignoring any of it. Your example of object and subject is irrelevant to the actual experience, you can easily watch yourself or be your own object but its just words. There is no such distinction in the actual experience and this description isnt useful then. In addition its clearly not the same as watching your body as you mentioned. We all know this, including you. You also wrote the response didnt you? Thus you expressed yourself in some way and not just through watching or observing. You watched, you thought, you willed, you imagined and so on, many things perhaps were going on within you when you wrote the response. Another clear example of what I mentioned before
@@dreamthedream8929 I see, so you still believe that observing is a mental expression. Even while you are thinking of your watching, you are still observing that thinking, although heavily identified with it through thought. Therefore, since every thought, and perception is being observed, it is possible that only through the power of thought that awareness of our observing arises. In reality there is a distinct experience of subject and object. Every change in your mind or body that is observed is an object of your observation. Every identification you may have is still an object within your observation. Every thought that arises and disappears is an object within your observation. If there is an observation there must be an observer. If thinking, feeling, wondering, breathing or any other change happens within my perception, then it cannot be me. I can write something, have a will to accomplish something, direct my attention to a certain event, cry about an event or be super ecstatic, however, each of these changes in my emotion, thought and attention are still objects that I can observe. However, I cannot observe my observing. As you said, I can think about my observing and therefore observe that, but that would still be observing a thought. I want to make a clear distinction between attention and observing. Observing being the fundamental witness to everything which takes place within our lives which includes changes in attention which can be characterized as an aspect of the mind. Even expressions as you mentioned, such as thinking, loving, willing or being sad are all within our observation, meaning that our observing cannot be grouped as an expression. Therefore, just as we observe our bodies and its changes, we also observe our thoughts and expressions and their changes.
PLEASE KEEP GOING U CAN DO THIS I FEEL THE EXACT FREAKING WAY I CRY SO MUCH IM FEEL THE URGE TO JUST CUT MY FACE PLEASE YOUR NOT ALONE. I’ll tell you something too,one of my biggest insecurities is my thinning hair omg idk what’s going on but I have bald spots everywhere I can’t even style my thin-ass hair it get the urge to just rip it off or cut it. AAAAHHH YOU RELATE SO MUCH TO ME I PROMISE I FEEL JUST LIKE YOUUUU sorry for shouting but,it relates ok.
not ugly more like possibly depressed. Try working out at the gym for about a month. Do more cardio than any other exercise. If walking is too hard, then try cycling or the ski-walking machine (burns more calories faster.) Don't give up, maybe take up a new trade, go into public places do some site seeing, visit family, ride a bicycle through town. Make your favorite dish, meet new people (introduce yourself to the man you find attractive.) Go shopping. One of my favorites, visiting a local Church (prayer time). And of course "sleeping" (napping.) Try to stay away from Television, Social Media, or Porn and of course Smoking. If you drink make it occasional or when it's needed yet don't become reluctant to it. ❤
Not only are you pretty you're clean and not a trashy woman... you're top quality.... you're what a lot of rich guys really want...you need to snap out if this shit 💯❤️😍
Comparing how you look in your first video compared to this - and I understand if you were attached to how you used to look - but you are definitely more conventionally attractive now. I've been through a similar situation with braces over the past few years (though not as severe), and I also struggle sometimes with wondering whether I'm just attached to how I used to look or if I actually look worse, but trust me when I tell you that more people would think you're hotter now than you were before. That doesn't mean there weren't people who would've liked the particular look you had 2 years ago, just that more people would like this current look. BTW your overbite, while according to you may not be completely corrected, has been very much attenuated.
you are a very beautiful person and stay strong, i agree with the comment on mental illness it's no joke i have dealt with mental illness also and i know i'm not the only one who has, I don't smile much either but it will get better before it gets worse ❤
I know how much it hurts when you fight for something for many years and it's worse than if you didn't do anything. To us, you're a pretty nice girl, but from your perspective, you've failed. Don't blame yourself. It's not your fault. You made decisions about braces because you believed it. You're not a doctor. You couldn't predict everything. Even they couldn't. You had courage and took up the fight for a healthy smile. You are a hero. You have great character. I wish you someday stop feeling judged. Stop being under this pressure. May you ever laugh with joy. Just that. But you must forgive yourself. You did everything to make good. It's not your fault that some things fucked up. Thank you for being here, thank you for sharing your story with us. You will sensitize people to this problem. I have BDD for over 20 years. Today I look at the old photos and I think I looked good. But then I hated myself. You have maybe same, you think your appearance before braces was better. But then you don't like your look also. It's all in the head in the emotions. After years, you'll will see this video and say, "I wasn't that ugly." That becouse you dont.
This video touches my heart you're the type of woman that I would love to date simple, I don't like makeup, I don't like women that dress up to seek attention. Basically I love traditional woman and you have all these values... You should be very proud of yourself ❤ woman these days are lost souls. Real talk...
I really wish you could see how beautiful you are, I wish there was something I could do to show you just how beautiful and wonderful and amazing you are. I'm sorry I don't have the words or ability to show you how amazing and beautiful you are. Never forget that you are loved and mean the entire world to us!!!!
Your environment could be a reason why you feel this way, even if it’s from your perspective. For some, looks aren’t everything even if you look bad in your opinion. In the grand scheme of things look at what’s important, is it looking good? Or having a purpose, if you make some homeless person or someone in need happy for a day or make them smile then you won’t care about how you look. they keep teaching don’t expect anything. Scars actually are nice for many people. Even if there’s 2 people who love you as you are they won’t care about your looks.
I lived most of my life the same way and I know nobody is going to convince you that you're not ugly, but let me tell you one thing, that I have learned way too late in life. People are not noticing and focusing on it as much as you think. They generally don't at all. They're generally thinking about themselves and how they look and what you think of them.
I struggle with BDD too! 😞 My biggest insecurity is a small brown raised mole under my nose and I feel like a hideous monster. A lot of my life is just not socializing because I’m scared what people will think of me and my appearance. I don’t have the funds to remove the mole and if it was removed I feel like i would finally be beautiful. 😖 I thought I was alone in these feelings but seeing you share your story doesn’t make me happy but it makes me relieved that I’m not the only one with this. Also I don’t know if you believe this but i think your very pretty but I know that with BDD it’s hard to take compliments but just letting you know ❤ take care and thank you for inspiring me
Have you considered drugs like Klonopin or Valium? I know benzodiazepines have a bad rep and can be very addicting, but I have extreme anxiety and they have helped me tremendously. It numbs your emotions. Sure it’s a temporary fix, but in a situation like you’re in now it’s worth it. You won’t give a damn what other people think. You can feel normal.
I am 24 year i feel same like you, its hard to watch into mirror i dont want to hate my own face, thats my identity but I can't help myself, I wasted my precious time because of BDD, now when i look back i feel like disgusting, i am still yound i just want to live like others peacefully it hurts hating urself in everymove of life, anyway all i can say is trust in God may be God will help us dear stay strong.
You've actually grown into a young beautiful woman thru yr videos and given that i deal with this issue aswell i know you cant take me seriously but i genuinely do think yr very pretty. Again just keep goin hun an remember their are others who know yr struggle including me
No way. Natural beauty is always beautiful. I used to feel I'm ugly. You are exquisite. Super fabulousness. Pretty smile. Don't put yourself down again. Keep your head up❤
They say that a person who has not seen love since childhood suffers from self-esteem and searches for love in the wrong place The girl in the video looks like the moon because of her beauty
girl, honestly.. i've been watching you for some time now, since i was literally searching 'im ugly' titles on yt just to not feel so damn alone. for half of my life i was struggling with a facial deformity that caused my jaw to be dislocated and my overall facial structures to be asymmetrical, which led me to developing bdd. every single aspect of my life was determined by it, i had terrible panic attacks, could not go anywhere, could not see people, could not make friendships, even to call myself a girl was, to me, an exaggeration, cause i legit thought in my head i was too disgusting to even put myself in that category. the last few years were hell! a year ago i finally went under the knife and the results partially calmed my nerves.. however i learned that it all won't go away, no matter how many surgeries i get. i thought this was a way to end my suffering for good, but no. it still lives in my head, i still can't look people in the eyes, i still feel ugly, but now in comparison to other girls. i thought all i needed was to feel normal. not be disfigured, but i was completely wrong. when you're sick mentally it's never enough. now that i'm finally normal looking, i have to be beautiful, i have to be praised, i have to be more. my new normal turned out to be my old ugly. it's terrible.
Ah.. I have suffered from this too.. your perception of yourself is something far worse inside your head than what anyone else thinks. I would take you out and show you the beauty of the world if our lives crossed paths someday
Theres no need to say sorry its not your fault you look how you look no one can tell you that you look ugly just ignore those that hate you im new and you are beautiful the way you are❤
Not telling you how to feel, our experiences shape our reality. But and I'm sure I'm not the only person in the comment thread that believes this but you are not ugly, not even in the slightest. You are indeed very pretty. Anyone that say otherwise just has a messed up view what ugly is. I've seen women who are average (size wise) or a little thick claim that they are fat when they are in fact a healthy weight. America just has messed up views when it comes to weight and beauty standards. Just know you're beautiful.
Any person you guys can recommend to help this young beautiful lady who's going through so much just because of what people have said about her looks. Pls, I would like to see a video of her one day complementing how beautiful she is! 🙏🙏🙏
