Thank you for speaking up so openly about self pleasure! No one should be ashamed or embarrassed for learning about their bodies and experiencing pleasure. It is a fundamental part of being alive. I LOVE what you said about god and how god wants us to be happy and enjoy all the wonderful things our bodies can do! Keep speaking out and normalizing self love!
@@Ze_Hans Wow, I feel sorry for you and what you must have gone through as a teenager but even more so now when you should be smart enough to know better.
Thank you for making these videos and being so open about self pleasure. At my school they haven’t really given us sex ed and I get too scared to ask my parents about these things because it feels very “taboo”
Just so you're aware I am a guy and I'm not gay, trans, fluid or anything of the sort. However I know nothing about people, nothing at all, diddly squat. But I do enjoy learning about other people, no matter what shape, size or gender. It doesn't matter what area it's about it's still part of a human mindset and your videos are very informative. I know it probably awkward that a 2/4 straight guy is watching queer videos but honestly I'm not here to troll or anything, I have a lot of respect for gays/lesbians, trans and anyone else who identify as something else, they're interesting and they're still people and some my good friends are either gay or gender fluid. Anyway sorry for the long comment I just wanted to say I enjoy your videos they are super informative and they make me think of human beings as more than frightening, untrustworthy strangers to avoid. It makes me want to understand people more, so thank you.
its not awkward at all as long as its not in a fetishizing weird typa way honestly!! its so nice knowing there are ppl willing to educate themselves and learn more about others and communities they r not in themselves, so ty.
These advice videos I think are wonderful! I don’t think I necessarily need these types of videos for myself but I do love how they educate other people/help break stigma against masturbating,and I also find these quite entertaining even if I don’t learn anything new❤
this is really cool how you talk about self pleasure. I just found your channel today and this is my forth video to watch! I really wish this was talked about more, it should be. I’ve never commented on a yt video before, you really inspired me to, but I just wanted to put it out there that I think you are an awesome content creator and made me feel so much better and more positive about myself and my personal experiences then I ever have. thank you so much, really
I relate to so much that they said. I too masturbated at a young age, but had NO idea that's what it was till I was much older (like teenager age), and I feel so much shame for doing that still. It was so drilled into me that I was doing something wrong, before I even knew what it was that I was doing, all I knew was it felt good to feel external pressure on that area. I''m still religious, so it's complicated lol.
I started at a young age too and didn't know what I was doing, when I was older I learnt about wanking but couldn't accept the fact that it was what I was doing. I thought that as long as I don't put any fingers in it wasn't masturbation, but fortunately now I understand that I'm a teenager and it's ok. I'm religious as well and that's where my concerns came from. But I stopped listening to old priests who feel like they can decide about people's bodies and I'm happy with myself. I wholeheartadly wish that to you and I'm sending you the loveliest greetings that I can!
@@leep7136I went through such a similar experience! I love what you said about the priests and everything! I am religious too, and completely agree with you lol ❤
Thanks for giving me this advice Keara I haven't been feeling very well since Monday nights and I hope that you and your loved ones have a fantastic weekend ❤🏳️🌈🙏🔥
thankyou you so much keara! you feel like an older sibling to me. thank you for answering one of my questions, you have just helped me so much and i feel a lot better about myself :))
To me cheating is direct communication that is sexual with someone outside the bounds of an agreement. If you're deleting texts or hiding the car, it's cheating.
I know this is an old video but you are just so open about it, and i love how inclusive you are, all the videos ive watched about masturbation related stuff so many people are just like people think god will judge you, and I'm like bro what avout the people who are nonreligious but still are feeling guilty about masturbating so thank you
I watched porn when i was 9 because my friends shower it to me, naturally I started watching it on my own too because it felt nice and was fun I remember thinking “it’s funny I always get this tingly feeling when I watch it” I like knew it was “wrong” and didn’t want my parents to know, even though i dont remember being told that directly. I stopped after my parents foun out. I have started a bit again. But I feel really shameful about it, mostly cause of my age I think
Everybody’s sexuality develops at different rates. There’s nothing wrong with it happening earlier for you! Just like how some people go through puberty before others. It’s natural and okay!
I started with about 13 and now with 52 still do it several times a week if I feel like it. My wife of course knows about and I got "cuaght" already...unfortunately she does not feel as comfortable about her own self love (which she practises, as I know) or just talking about it
I'm ace and have very little personal interest in this sort of thing (To clarify for anyone readinng those two things don't always go together, but they do for me. Everyone has their own experiences !) , but I do have a general interest in the topic so your videos have been interesting to watch !
At your age, masturbation is important. Do it daily (multiple times). You won't have the need for that once you hit your mid-30s or so. So, enjoy your high hormones while they last! Orgasms are much more intense in your younger years, so have as many as you can now:)
Yes, start young to have good orgasms, younger lads can grow fairly big on erection, they can produce alot, masterbation them can have them screaming in orgasm,so start young.
Im a teenager and i love doing it but our roommate always stays up really late and lm scared that he will hear me or something because my bed is really shaky
I’m going to be real honest right now, I’m a young teen but I’m hyper sexual and have more knowledge than most my age and more mature so I am the person all of my friends go to when they have questions, concerns, need advice or to vent, about sexual or self pleasure things as well.
Thank you for this 😭my question wasn’t listed but you basically answered it Penetration is NOTTTT my thing and when I went on a date with a girl one time, she wouldn’t listen to me when I told her I hate penetration and only cliteral stimulation. She acted like I never once tried it. I’ve tried my whole life and I just don’t like it. I prefer clit pleasure and honestly she’s not going to be my partner if she can’t LISTEN 🥲we all have our preferences and mine is different
@@KearaGraves exactly! We both communicated what we liked but as soon as I told her what I don’t like she seemed to ignore it over and over so I kinda just decided to not let things go further :> I want to be happy during pleasure, not uncomfortable. So thank you for these videos!! 💙
Question... what can I use for lube (other than the thing itself ofc)? I don't think I can get away with buying some actual lube without my parents finding out :p
Extra virgin coconut oil is brilliant,can be mixed with a little soap/ saliva , the oil itself is good for skin on your body parts as well, good to taste as it's a food, oral wise. Orgasm can be electric.
Thank you for your content it ha really helped me in my quest of knowing how to bring myself to orgasm. I'm a christian and have been taught masturbation is wrong but how can it be when it brings joy and entertainment to my life? I'm close to leaving the church for good.
Hi, Keara and Happy Thursday!😊😊😊😊😊😎☀💙💙💙💙💙🇺🇸🌷🌈💜💜💜💜💜🎇👍. These new ideas are amazing to look beautiful and fabulous, just like you.😍. When I was in the high school lunchroom in 2006, my best friend Erica, talks about going out on a date and look fabulous. Then, she asking me about three things to have fun on a date. (1) Make eye contact and say "Hey" or "Hi." (2) Find the place that looks clean and nice like a restaurant or a movie theater. And (3) When the music starts, dance. Let the music flows into your mind and relax. After that, take her home and say, "Thanks for the dance. It was...incredible."😊💙💙💙💙💙💙🌷💖💖💖💖💖👍. So...yeah. And that my friend, is to find a date that loves you very much.🌷. And one more thing, don't be shy. Walk tall.😎🎇👍
oh ya no when i was like 10 i did it but i thought it was wrong and thought i was disgusting til 7th grade i learned wat it was and it took like a year to finally be like “shiiiit. ok then this is chill”
OMG i just realized this I dont know if you will see this, Keara but I just wanted to say that I thought you looked familiar lol and I noticed that you were in the "lost and found music studios" show and i LOVE that show and you were my favorite actress!!
also thank you so much for the video, i completely relate to the whole guilt surrounding it. i used to think i was a monster before i got educated that it is infact okay
(I’m an atheist but…) God sounds like a perv. (Jk! Jk! Anyone who is religious, I don’t judge you if you don’t judge me!) Again, I’m an atheist but… I still get ashamed. I’ve gotten caught by my dad and grandma but also, no matter what, I just feel ashamed. I guess it’s a personal thing, but I still get ashamed. I think it’s because it’s so often and I fantasize and stuff like that and I get ashamed. (I think the reason I’m so ashamed is the cause of trauma, it’s part of why I’m hyper sexual, but I just feel so guilty afterwards)
about feeling guilty about God. The human being is made in the image and likeness of God ....😄... Ok ... but if the human being is so imperfect then he means that God is not perfect either ... right?...🙄😏
When I was 12 I was mid way through puberty and literally had the biggest fucking sex drive out of all 12 year olds. Unfortunately, because of that I ended up landing in a situation where I was sexting a very creepy and manipulative guy in my class, and I didn’t realise how much control he had over me until both of our parents and the school found out. The thing is that I was the only one to get punishment because I was the one who initiated it, even though nothing after that one message was my responsibility. All of the videos I sent of myself I set as view once, until he started making me send them normally. Then one day I was hanging out with him and he opened his phone up to a whole album of videos of my naked body. I asked him what it was and he quickly clicked off and told me I must have mistaken something else for pictures of me. I remember being horrified when one of his “mates” that I had never even heard of or met had somehow got my phone number and called me a prostitute. Multiple occasions he tried scheduling times for us to have sex. I didn’t want to say no so I asked if we could do it at his, because I presumed that once we got there I could get in a chat with his mum or something so that I didn’t have to do it with him. He was insistent on this place that was hidden away behind a block of public toilets. He said he had gotten in trouble for it multiple times so I obviously refused. I started messaging this other boy at the same time as an escape, hoping it would be different but both of us fell down the hole at the same time. Neither of us had intended for it to become sexual but I suppose since I was expecting it (because of the creepy guy) it eventually did. I sent him pictures of myself shirtless (still wearing underwear though) to tease him because he couldn’t see them since he had a Nokia. About 7 of them. When the school called my dad, my mum looked through my phone without me knowing. I had 4 panic attacks throughout the whole night after she told me everything the school had told her. It was probably the worst day of my life. The following day we had a meeting at school, where they basically just asked me why I did everything, and then shamed me for it. I told them I didn’t know why I did it and I didn’t know what I was getting myself into and they just kept telling me I was lying and that it wasn’t possible for me to not have predicted it. Every time I think about it, it makes me feel physically sick. Even one of my closest friends (my ex girlfriend) couldn’t help but blame me for it. I knew what she was saying was true but she didn’t attempt to comfort me at all. “You know that your started it so you can’t blame him for it.” “You know you could have blocked him I don’t see why you didn’t. “ “you could have said no and just stopped messaging at any point.” It’s even worse that she was saying it to my face around other friends aswell. I told her she doesn’t understand what it’s like to be in that situation. From that point on my mum knew that I watched porn because I lied in the meeting and said that the videos I had sent the creepy guy weren’t of me and that I had taken them from an adult website. (they weren’t allowed to see them plus my face wasn’t in them) My mum occasionally makes jokes now whenever I appear panicked when she is about to search something on my phone. She always says things like “about to clear your search history are you?” I don’t know whether she knows if I watch porn but it would be weird if she did Anyways thanks for listening to my rant because the school denied me therapy :)
Actually idk if god likes it when you touch yourself but Jesus died so that way we can be forgiven for our sin but god still loves us so when we die we can be forgiven (if you believe in god)
