This Is A MASSIVE RED FLAG 

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The best pre-nup is no marriage.

My ex-wife cheated with two of her coworkers and a customer who is a local tattoo artist. I told my kids and my family, and I made sure she told her family or I was going to do it. I had not one but two different female therapists tell me I should not have told my kids, that I was being petty and damaging my kids by telling them the truth. I told them because it's damaging to lie to kids. Kids aren't as stupid as most adult's think they are. If you lie to them, they'll start to see things, shadows of the truth, there'll be cognitive dissonance and they'll start to resent you and question everything you say. They'll be hurt and wondering why dad lied. And yes, your ex-wife will start to lie to them and try to turn them against you. My ex is doing that now, even though she knows the kids already know the truth. My kids have voluntarily told me, without me even asking, that their mother badmouths me whenever she has them, and she tries to convince them to say that I hit them so she can take them, because I have primary custody. She doesn't come get them about half the time she is supposed to, and she tells them she's sick. They have made several comments about how no one is sick that much and she lies all the time. I have explained to them that you can love someone while still knowing what they're doing is wrong, so it's not their fault and their mother has problems. Because they have had the truth from me, and they've seen clear examples of her lying all the time, they trust me and not her. I know this was long, but I hope it helped someone see why doing what AG said in his video is so important.

"I would never take anything from you" is womanspeak for 'what's yours is mine anyway, so it's not stealing.'

Using her logic. “why get married, Im never going to leave you”

No woman want a 50/50 relation...until the divorce arrives.

It's crazy to me that men still choose to get married

Always remember, the righteous sees mercy as a virtue, but the unrighteous sees generosity as weakness.

If your first instinct is to exploit some one's weakness, especially if that "weakness" is being kind, you're just evil. Lets just call it what it is.

I decided not to date again after my divorce at age 40, eleven years ago. Best decision I've ever made.

Most men don’t talk prenup because they don’t want to offend their girlfriend. However, she will have no problem offending you during the divorce.

Do not trust women. She can keep a secret max 48 hours. 48 hours is the time needed to change her mind. ON ANYTHING. Creature, who's mind is operated on emotions, cannot be trusted.

"What if she made more money?" Then she would not want to marry him in the first place.

Her : "I would never take anything from you." Her (later) : "I've changed my mind."

Women fail to understand every man signs a pre-nup before they get married....it's with the government. We're only asking to level the playing field.

My grandmother passed away. I left to attend to her matters, only to be notified that my spouse changed the locks and had falsified a court document to keep me away from my son indefinitely. Never saw it coming. Let this be a warning to EVERYBODY who’s married. You never can know what is going on in the other’s mind.

Men appreciate fair play and that is their weakness.

Imagine working the better part of your life to build an empire only to lose the house, cars, retirement funds, half equity because she no longer wants to be married or wants to find herself or leaves for another guy. I'm not looking forward to be homeless and broke at 50 or 60, and looking for handout.

I remember talking to my ex's mom on the night I found out she was cheating on me, and her mom took her side. All her friends took her side, most of my friends refused to take MY side. She broke me down, and unfortunately she got her way in almost every part of that breakup. Women always claim that life as a man is easy, but they have no idea (and refuse to learn) just how lonely and difficult it often is.

Always remember men - you get more of what you tolerate.

Her answer alone is extremely suspicious. I was never married, but I have witnessed plenty of exploitation of men I know personally at the hands women that I can never trust a woman ever again. Thank You for all the content on female nature, Alex. I know I'm better off knowing the truth, and remaining single.

Just don't help women in general.

My ex wife hated being at home and went back to work early from maternity leave, so I gave up my career to stay home with the kids. BIG mistake. Sex dried up and she treated me worse and worse until finally kicking me to the curb. I left with nothing, met someone new which enraged her, so she decided I couldn't have custody and only see the kids every second weekend. I fought her and won 50/50 care. She became so toxic my new partner had to break up because the fallout was affecting her kids. It came time for financial settlement and I was entitled to half of her super. She'd met someone new and was getting married, so I saved it until her honeymoon and called her to tell her she could have her super as a wedding present hoping the gesture might end her animosity. My mum had died 2 weeks before and I was still grieving but she informed me in that phone call that she'd spoken to lawyers and because I hadn't settled yet she was going to take me for half my mum's family farm. You're so right! Generosity is only seen as weakness!

Famous last words. “My wife would never do that to me.” Yes they would and they can.

I've got a client who built up a couple million dollars worth of cash and assets over 30 years from nothing. His first asset was a 4 plex that he lived in for years while he built equity and continued to add to his portfolio. Fast forward to divorce once the kids were grown, he had to give her $500k in cash and two rental properties that hold 20 units. She drug him through divorce proceedings for almost 2 years. 3 years later she was telling his girls she wanted him back. 😑😑🤦🤦🤦. Effin women.

A woman can never love a man for who he is, they only love a man for what he can provide. It is just that simple.

Any man getting married without a prenup is a fool.

Never trust people who are guided by emotions and feelings. If your women won’t sign the prenup : dump her immediately

Women: "I don't want a prenup because if you really love me, you don't need a guarantee or safety. You don't trust me enough?" OK... then I need no marriage. If you really love me babe, then you need no ring/guarantee/security, right? You don't trust me to stay with you? Same game. 2024... dudes - NEVER without a prenup. Even a prenup can easily be dismantled but at least it's something.

My ex exploited all the knowledge she had about me in such a disgusting way. She wrote the most twisted horror-stories about me to the authorities. I had to pay a fortune to lawyers to prevent her to take my children away from me. She still treats me as an evil demon and pretends to be caring about the children. I am sure that one of the main reasons why she wants the children is money. She also has the knowledge that I am a very good and loving father so taking the children has been a very effective way to hurt me deeply. It was not a forgone conclusion that I would survive this. But I did and are fighting for my children’s right to see their father. I am a normal person maybe a little bit boring and calm and this extreme treatment has made me find whatever strength I had to save myself. I have tried to keep calm during the entire process and have not fueled conflict as she is benefitting from conflict and she is trying to induce it all the time.

I got the house, the car, primary custody, all the debt and all the legal bills. She got cash and half the equity. I ended up with a negative net worth of about $130k. No alimony or child support though. Then every other year or so for the next 16 years she'd drag me into court to get custody and money even though she flaked on 85% of her weekend visitations (I kept a log). I won every case but it cost me several hundred thousand dollars in legal fee's. Even though we caught her in perjury multiple times I had to cover the bulk of her legal fees each time because I had assets and she didn't. On the upside, within the first year my house quadrupled in value and my business took off. The look on peoples face when they heard that a straight white male got custody of the child in a divorce in California said it all about how rare it was for the man to prevail in family court.

You only win that game by not playing it. This society is so broken that we'd need to start from scratch.

No marriage. No kids. No cohabitation. Zero tolerance for disrespect. Protect yourself at all times.

My ex filed for separation 3 times three years in a row, in September every year. During the second separation I pulled out 1/2 of our checking and had 1/2 of pay dropped to my new account, left 1/2 to hers. This seemed fair and reasonable to me. Just before I received the third separation, I realized it was coming because she emptied our checking account. I got the sep two days later and couldn’t even hire a lawyer till I got my next paycheck. That’s how women reward kindness and fairness.

Something dad told me too. Always have a stash off cash only you have access to and that she doesnt know about. Women will leave you completely broke if they can. That advice kept me from being homeless but it was close

That one woman who says: 'it's not you're too nice, you have to be more masculine and set your boundaries'. If you have to talk to her and treat her like a child, she is a child.. and you may as well call yourself in a relationship with someone who's underage. If she isn't grown up enough to respect your boundaries before hand without being told, it's not a relationship.. it's simply a business transaction. How many of you love your co-workers? How does it usually go when you mix business with pleasure? Run. Just run away as fast as you can. Before you commit to anything, you have to learn how to understand this before you're committed in a relationship.

In divorce, you find out who you really married.

Show them no mercy, they know what they are doing. They act like children so treat them as such, protect yourselves fella's 👍 they will blame you for everything because they take no accountability. My ex admitted she was a terrible girlfriend and then continued to be a terrible girlfriend 😂 don't let them off the hook

No pre-nupt, no relationship. Walk away if your boundaries are not respected.

Seriously, you have to be simple in the head to break up with a girl, and then leave her at your place while she looks for new accommodation while you move out for a few weeks.

Down where I live (New Zealand) the government just changed our marriage laws to have the prenuptial contract built in to regular marriage law. It's auto include for us now, so we have that going for us, which is nice.

I respond by saying I won't make her sign a prenuptial if she waited to get married at 75.

Forgiveness is personal. It is letting go and not carrying hatred in your heart towards them. They may not even know if you have forgiven them. Telling others the truth is not revenge, it is just telling people what happened so they can make informed decisions in how they want to deal with them. Actions have consequences. Revenge would be going above and beyond to hurt them,

Forgive only yourself for being fooled. And learn.

hubby asked me to sign a prenup. i said sure. he never gave it to me. 24 years later we’re going strong

"Generosity only flows down." Great quote! In the opposite direction you're just a victim of manipulation.

There is a reason the old ones said, "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned." Beware, young man, beware.

Every time I watch your video my world becomes a little more darker. I don't know how you cope the more you learn dynamics between men and women, the stories, and just not despair.

My ex did exactly what you described. After 7 years together, including 3 years helping support her while she studied for a university degree, she told me it was over, and she was moving out. I continually asked for an explanation and a chance to work out whatever the problem was. Eventually I wore her down and she came clean- she had been cheating on me for some time, and she was leaving me to be with him. I gave up and let her go, but did the “nice” thing and just told people we weren’t happy together any more. About a month later I heard from a mutual friend that she had been telling everyone that she left me because I was abusive and neglectful.

*"Only the powerful can be generous."*

If you get to the point of divorce, anything said before that is no longer valid... that includes "I would never take his money"

When I was 4 my parents broke up, but my father never had something bad to say about my mum. However, my mum was constantly talking bad about my father and manipulated me into not liking my father. She failed on me, gave me into professional hands (foster home), but she manipulated me so much, that I still refused to go to my father when I had the opportunity. The things that happened to me made me angry and emotional for a very long time, but it grew on me, so much so that I swear myself I will maintain power in my relationship to ensure my children will be raised properly when I eventually become a father. I don't know how it is to raise a human, but I can't things let happen on my children what were done on me.

Prenups are ok; Nonups work 100% of the time. GYOW

Humanity, humility, and honesty are predominantly male traits. If you can find a woman with 2 of these three traits, she is a unicorn.

Funny, my entire life I refused to bend the knee with women who I had broken up with for cheating. At the time I felt like I was being a jerk. Anyone who'd ask, I'd tell them. Even when they didn't 😂. I thought I was being petty. At 16 an ex lied about a pregnancy. Within a day the entire school,(including teachers) ridiculed me, shunned me. Friends turned their back on me. Later to find out she had been with not 2 but 3 other dudes. OK. I vowed never to be silent about "the deal" with a bad breakup. At 30 I protected my, now ex-wife's image/reputation, despite her being extremely verbally abusive, racist towards me, etc... , I fell right into "protection mode.". Even my own lifelong friends, family (especially my father), extended family, literally everyone who knew us....had turned their back on me. Ok. Meanwhile, she's being so "nice" to me and playing up a false victim role behind my back. This was roughly 20 years ago and despite who she really was/is coming to light, most still haven't or "can't" face me with the smallest apology. So many people wrote me off and I can say that everything regarding this topic is soooooo real/factual. People who say, "I didn't know." or "But I thought that...." simply just didn't listen. Young and old men alike: please let this video sink in.

A friend moved to NZ with his girlfriend, after 4 years she wanted to return to UK, he didn't: she took half his stuff

Never let your women to move in into your apartment or a house.

Mercy is like tolerance; it's a tool, not a virtue.

I am a woman , and I know full well of this behaviour . Men , speak out and tell the truth . I assure you , she wont .

Man: I make nice $ in my job, finally i can provide a better life for my wife and kids. Woman: Now that i have money, i dont have to "tolerate" the beta i settled with.Time to get the kids and house while hubby sleeps on a futton...

Didn't bother watching after 00:08: Their feelings are their reality. The reason she sounds like she believes what she says is because she does... _now._ And she _feels_ justified in feeling that way. Later (as we all know), she will _feel_ differently. And she is not bound by the rules of consistency, or the rules of honor ("her word"), or any other rules that closes off options for her. *Women will never consciously take an action that will close off options to them.* Even when they get married, they don't see that as "closing the door to their single self". Instead, they see it as _opening_ the door to what they (perceived they) couldn't have before. And as we all know, if they desire their single options again, they will take them...with no guilt. Feminine Chaos = "No. Closed. Doors." It is natural, and nature always wins.

She says that when shes happy and in good mood, which is now, shell never take anything from him. Now, imagine her being super emotional, angry, resentful and spiteful..ya, shell take EVERYTHING. Women always take everything

Sadia Kahn needs to understand that ANYONE who sees kindness as weakness, doesn’t deserve kindness.

Great video. Men must realize that : Men's innate instinct to protect women, being generous/kind/gracious to women backfires big time in this current modern gynocentric non-patriarchal society. The male brain got hardwired for protecting women at a time when the society was strictly Patriarchal. But it has no place in the modern gynocentric society. So, show no mercy. Be ruthless. Be powerful and have capacity to be dangerous. That's the only way to protect yourself and avoid self-ruin. Funny, this is also the only way woman will respect you and be attracted to you. Fear commands respect. For females, respect begets s3xual attraction. She must fear you. Be in the power, stay protected, and make sure she fears you and she knows you can be dangerous and you are not be messed with. Don't give her the power. If she gets the power, she misuses it and burns everything down.

Avoid marriage at all costs.

I was married once to a woman whom i didn’t really want to marry. I was an idiot. Good news was no kids and a very easy divorce. No assets really. Never got married again…..thank God.

Men who get cheated on don't want to admit it because it's an admission of their own weakness and faults.

That's it. At begining of our marriage my wife noticed my mercyfullness. My biggest mistake but were anotherr times. I observed her within years saw that I need to be phragmatic. . She was good teacher- wife !!! . She set divorce in premeditated way and I kept her in a "posivite mood" - no any warnings. She hired experienced in divorces lady lawyer because she had my money to pay her, they wrote a nice "bad story" about me only without evidence. No problem if "he is of course a husband", Because two ladies and lady judge were convinced it will be a "piece of cake". . When I brought to court collected by me evidence and documentation ( and reception of court was documented with dates and stamps) the only ex response was "how dare you" All that ended in judge begging me to agree for divorce withut any settlement of guilt and zero alimony. Did she change later and understand? I do not expect - her only reflection 15 years after divorce was " I do not know where I made a mistake". 🤨

It should be called a Pre Nope contract. Does she get half or more of everything I have on a whim or greed? Nope... 🥴

Jesus Alexander, you completely nailed women's nature to a T in divorce vs how men deal with it!! Wish I didn't have to learn all this stuff the hard way about 10 years ago.. MEN, LISTEN TO THIS MAN'S ADVICE!!

Gents most laws in the states do not allow you to just kick her out, if she has established residency in your home and she does not leave, you will have to go through the eviction process, 6 months minimum at least the state I am in.

my father had a divorce a few years back, he sighned everything that they didnt co-sighn over to me, so when he divorced her there was only so much she could legally take, she still took a lot but it was at least worth it to get her out of our lives, she was alwase my fathers wife, never my mother

Alex, this is excellent advice. This video is going to help give many men a backbone.

I have learned soooo much about the Evil of women in the last three years . I thought my situation was rare and unique but have found that its Normal operating procedure for women in Divorce.

Yeah, this is a reality. At least the mercy part. I concede that some women see weakness and try to exploit it. When I got divorced, I allowed my ex-wife to stay in the guest room while she was house shopping. I ended up finding a new place, and she helped me by buying the house so I didn't have to list it. But I did tell everyone what happened and what we were doing. I told friends and family what happened and that I wasn't staying with her but was forgiving her, and if I could forgive her, they could. So, I maintained the high ground and control. I just did what my lawyer recommended, and he's brilliant. So you can be kind and forgiving and merciful, but you maintain control and control the narrative with truth. The truth will set you free. But I still believe in being kind. My ex-wife has actually been really helpful since our divorce, and she even found me a new sweet dog after I lost my previous dog. So an amicable divorce is possible, but you must stay in control. If you lose control, you lose.

I gave up my career to be a stay at home mom and work from home dad, with our adopted daughter, for 12 years. Despite the family court accepting our divorce agreement, they were quite happy to give her (many years later) half of my $1000 monthly pension, including retroactive for 4 years, to supplement her over $100K yearly income. She literally did get everything, including the home I was supposed to be able to keep), my physical and mental health, and my kids (she was only the step mother of my two natural daughters). Except, of course, I got to keep all the mutual debt! With traditional values, a prenup is not required. Unfortunately, those values are not enforceable, even if the law says it is. These days, you not only require a prenup, but also yearly postnups, since a prenup's value decreases with time, and also because the system is so so so much against men.

That is hilarious to state oficialy thatt "I will not take anything form him" and at the same time "I will not sign on any paper (that my honest) statement which I just said. "

Any woman single after 25 is a massive red flag

I really appreciate your direction and advice on this subject! You are so absolutely correct, thank you!

Great point : never show a woman mercy unless you have power

It is war when break up happens unless she proves otherwise.

They are getting worried that their retirement plans are getting harder to secure

Great video. Forgiveness of a behavior should not be conflated with tolerance of that behavior. It is a declaration that you are not going to let that behavior have power over you. When men forgive their significant other for bad behavior he needs to communicate that

I live in California. Years back, my (then) girlfriend got physically violent against me... I had a conversation with her. Told her it couldn't happen again. Her response, "No, if you're out of line, I need to hit you. And if I'm out of line, you have to hit me too!" So a few days later, she was gone for an extended period, I packed up my stuff and moved out. I had paid the rent through the end of the month, and given the landlord notice! Thus began my nightmare... So it took my landlord 4 months to evict her, some guy she moved in, and a few friends who knows who else. I had to help him, I was still on the hook for the rent. In the mean time, she would harass me, then call the police and tell them I was harassing her. The correct answer... Pack up all her stuff, put it in storage, rent her a motel room, change the locks, leave a key to the storage and the motel on the door, and don't answer... When she calls the police, claiming she lives there, tell the police she doesn't. They'll say it's a civil matter and stay out of it... I actually helped my friend to this just last year, worked fine. Just to reiterate, move her out, not you!

When asked about prenups by women, what you should say: "Would you sign a pre-nup that states that if you get divorced for any reason, you have to pay spousal support, you lose half of your stuff, and if you have kids, he gets custody and child support that he can spend on what ever he wants, so you have to work all week and take care of the kids on the weekend, while he "takes care" of them during the week while they are in school, while living in a house you have to pay for? If you think that's a bad idea, what your really saying is "I don't want to be treated like a man".

Women think nice = weak. I made this mistake many times.

This is so troubling, but so true. 😢

My ex "would never take anything from me if we got divorced" until she did.

Lesson: NEVER trust a woman to be a good human being !

Shock....horror, Alexander is spitting facts big time with this video! Well done!

Thank you so much for the advises!

Choose Either one: 1. You SHALL NOT trust a woman's words, TRUST her actions. 2. TRUST, but VERIFY it.

Those eyebrows are a red flag.

"I've grown accustomed to a standard of living" so then she's going to keep coming over to his to cook and clean...right?

Most disturbingly though, a Pre-nup does not offer as much protection as many believe. They are often thrown out by judges in the extremely gynocentric court system.

I got married two years ago. My husband makes six figures, I’m a medic and where I live we don’t make as much lol . I offered a prenup for him to know I love him for him and not this “things” he turned it down multiple times. Since he said “No” , he has total control of everything. I’m not on the house , not on the joint bank account. I have to ask for money. It works for us and deep down, I hope it does give him peace.

I got married thinking it was for life. No prenup. She filed. I realized right away that the decks were stacked against me. Everything heavily favors women. One piece of advice I have is be the good guy. No matter what she's done, she will always see herself as the victim. Women don't want to see themselves as the bad guy either, so if you suck it up and just try to be nice and more generous with her than she deserves, it will turn out better for you. Plus, I found it made it easier to let go. No reason to focus your energy on someone that doesn't care about you.

This is your best video ever. This harsh truth is something that every man should know. Most men do not realize that they can be punished rather severely for what they believe are acts of kindness. Most men do not realize that many of the things that they believe are acts of kindness and generosity are really placing themselves at tremendous risk for financial and emotional ruin.

This happened to me. Ex wife cheated and left. I kept my mouth shut. I didn’t tell anyone to not speak bad about her. She went around telling everyone that I was all sorts of abusive and filed a restraining order simply on her word, no evidence, to get custody of the kids. Men-don’t stay silent. They will use this silence as a green light to only tell their story and paint you as a monster.

What is the interest to give your generosity to someone who will never reciprocate if the power situation switches ??