🇵🇭HOW TO Find: A low maintenance girlfriend  

I love the humor, the red light and buzzer in this video😂😂

You don’t have to be a body language expert to see Chrissy’s discomfort when you asked her to start talking about sex. The handwringing, the eyes darting around… 😂 Very sweet. I think I’m looking for a balance between high maintenance and low maintenance. I don’t want a high maintenance woman, but I also don’t want a woman who thinks, “Now that I have landed a man, I don’t need to worry about staying fit or wearing makeup anymore.” I think the package that was sold should be the one the guy gets (and vice versa). One of my pet peeves is how often people let themselves go after marriage…but, as soon as they want a divorce, they are back in the gym desperately trying to get in shape again. 🤦‍♂️

Tampo is a childish manipulation tactic that doesn't work on men like me. I take the free time to get something done that I want to accomplish.

Tampo has really hurt my relationship with my Filipina wife. While the silent treatment is gone, the underlying resentment is not gone. I hope at some point she cares enough about our relationship and mature enough to communicate.

Awesome video. What you mentioned applies to all relationships. 😂

Excellent and so true.

If you want a low maintenance woman, they can be easy to find: just look at her nails. The longer they are, the higher maintenance she is. Nothing better than a Filipina that has shorter, natural nails and very little makeup. It isn’t a stretch to say that older Filipinas look about 20 years younger than most other women.

Old school values were foul then and now. Find a domestic worker who works for others as she will take care of you and is very attentive and low maintenance

Love the graphics and sound effects. 😅 I scored a low maintence wife! And consequently I try to treat her like a queen! After 3 years of a long distance relationship we learned a lot about each other and all your points about communication were on point!

Seems like this was good information for having a good relationship no matter what country the people are from. Very helpful advice and good things to think about.

Hilarious beginning, good video.

You are on your way to success on RU-vid with a high quality video such as this one….very organized with a load of information….bravo .

Crissy is beutiful. you are one lucky guy. Once again another great video . cheers guys 🥂🥂 👍

Very good at explaining potential trouble areas. I agree that there things are good to investigate and only time will tell how difficult a person may be. I think that there's probably a similar list for men as well. Also, realize that nobody is perfect either. Some issues one can be tolerated but be careful because a little problem when dating may become a monster, once married.

Good girl, Chrissy. That was the right answer!😊

HI GANG, NICE TO MEET YOU (BOTH) . CRISSY, YOU PROBABLY ALREADY KNOW THIS, BUT YOUR VERY CUTE, ROBERT NOT BAD, IF I WENT THAT WAY....LOL... I'LL WATCH YOUR NEXT VLOG, BE SAFE SEE YOU NEXT TIME ♥

Interesting topic!

Love it guys!! Amazing ❤❤❤

I concur w/ what others have said- your videos are profesional and well thought out. I would avoid the temptation that others have done by mixing paid endorsments (i.e. Christian Filipina, etc.) into your message. You have not done that and I say Bravo! Once folks tune in and think they are viewing a paid endorsements" they will quickly tune out. Just my thoughts. Good Job! - David

This is one of the most fruitful videos I have ever seen. So much excellent very useful content from both of you. I will listen to this over and over to gain more clarity. Your efforts are very appreciated 🙏🏼

Thanks guys. Some great advice there.

Good points appreciate the information.

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This is awesome. Well done, and thank you for some helpful tips many of us would never think of before diving into a relationship.

This video could also be considered "How to have a good marriage and how to maintain a good relationship". You guys were talking about some difficult subjects. Good job!

Good solid advice and information from both of you. I am now caught up. Loved your videos. I will be waiting for your next one. One idea for your channel. Have Chrissy sing your opening to each video. Just as The Filipina Pea has her signature theme song…a short signature song with Chrissy’s beautiful voice would really make your channel stand out.

Just found your channel. Good stuff

I'm 60 and planning on a trip to the Philippines in November 2024. I would really like to meet you 2 and discuss retiring there. Love your videos and hope to stay in touch. Take care.

funny beautiful amusing couple..subscribed ...you guys are so different from other filipin....ssss you tubers . i enjoyed 4 videos so far , she is nice girls and above way average intelligent too

Wow! Thanks for providing not only an informative video but an entertaining one as well. It's easy to see how your attention to quality lead you to become a VP at Raytheon. I hope that you maintain this high level of quality. I plan to move to the Philippines next year from Southwest Florida. Best wishes to you.

Great video thanks for bringing to light i travel to cebu in November

Tampo definition: The closest word in English is sulk because it involves self-withdrawal. So, men.... the advice that this expat stressed is extremely important. Because he did a lot of research. So right from the get go. You as a man must nip that temperament shit in the bud. You must state that you're not going to put up with any of it. And if she starts it, kick her ass out the door. You vet by observing how she handles controversy such as not getting something minor that was promised. Or making her wait. You need to seriously vet for tampo through testing before you seriously commit.

Another great video! Excellent topic. Thanks. You have some great advice on questions to ask, such as "rate your Tampo from one to ten" and "what are your financial expectations of your bf/husband for your family?" I'd like to explore the topic of screening more, specifically with regards to when, where and how to ask these sorts of questions. For example, I've heard from Ms. Pea that sending a text list of questions isn't effective as a Filipina will likely only answer the first one, or one that she chooses. You didn't specifically talk about it but it seems like you asked the Tampo question early on but in a video chat where you could see her genuine reaction as opposed to say texting it where someone could research the "right" answer that would appeal to Westerners. Your channel will keep growing quickly if you continue to produce genuine content like this.

maayu kaau mu explain c papa rob ai very organized ang ideas ❤

Thamk you, It is so nice seeing a couple flow together as you do! How long have yall been together?

Hello, valuable information, it is always good to know that you two are well.

Wow, finally found someone mentally mature and best thing is they are couples. Just watched yours this video and subscribed you. ( from USA ). Hope to talk you soon. Thanks for sharing wise knowledge.

Lol You guys both kept me really guessing and laughing and rewinding to see it again. Great humor, timing and editing. And advice. But really the questions were ones all couples should talk over. One thing that always bothered me in life was when a person hadn't done much introspection, self-knowledge, or had enough experience to really get to know themselves. Right? You ask them a question and they just don't know. Maybe they'll have too high an opinion of themselves. Those are the people that life will change on you, and... surprise, surprise... you are the one left behind saying, "Uh, but you said...!" Anyway, really getting to like you guys, keep up the great videos.

Just discovered your videos today, great content and humor. Been watching lots of channels to learn more about the Philippines. You're a lucky man finding Christy, she's very cute. She wouldn't happen to have a sister ?

You guys have a GREAT channel!! I wish mine was this good. Maybe i need a filipina GF?

Most of the other male bloggers typically come from ex-forces or blue collar backgrounds and as such they lack the intellect that you show (I don't disparage them but sometimes it's nice to have some conversation that is a little more nuanced). I think CDO is a good option - my gf of 5+ years is from Iligan and while her family is great I don't want to live in the same town.

you two are quite a cute couple.. 🌞🌞

Great video! I hope I can find a nice woman like yours when I go to the Philippines.

I’m a new subscriber to your channel and I love it! You both communicate so we’ll. I’m coming over in late January for 3 months To put my boots on the soil. I will be retired and will be looking for a place to live and lastly Find a beautiful lady to enjoy life together. I’m 62 and healthy And love Philippines culture.

Another outstanding video. I really enjoy you both so very much. I'm also a new subscriber. Thank you!!

Dear Chrissy and Rob - Here's one for you Rob. I really hope you send a thank you every now and then to higher powers for finding such a smart and serious woman like Chrissy. I myself have been married 3 times each time hoping that I would succeed, but without success. Best regards from Denmark 😂😂

Hey you two....Awesome vids with incredibly simple, direct information ....Great work .....and editing is exceptional Rob, no messing around I noticed at the end Rob when you mentioned where you guy's are located.....Ive got a Lovely Girl/Woman I met online and coming over just after New Year ....Funnily enough. she's located not too far from where you are in Malaybalay......beautiful mountains, and climate I believe Cheers to you both and keep up the great work..........Wish you both the very best

This was my first video of you guys thank you it was a good vid

If I had to guess what kind of business you were in before retiring. I would have to say you had something to do with production of movies. Because your videos have that quality. As for myself, I worked on the movie sets for many years so I’m relating to your techniques.

Another awesome video! I just found your channel! The question on sex is best! A high maintenance woman will put you on the time clock because she is going shopping and you are paying right after! 😂😂

"Honey" ...A: "Yes dear. Do you need help with that towel?"😂

You both are a good team nice to see Chrissy again..Rob you talk to much poor Chrissy has to answer that last sex question.. I feel sorry

Ang mababang maintenance ay mabuti. Pero mas ayaw niya kay Tic Toc.😂

This is just the Gottman Institute teachings. Been around for decades. They have some great books and are the most renowned in the field of relationship theory. I think it’s something like with 96% accuracy they can predict if a couple will stay together or divorce within 5 mins of watching them interact

She won’t say what it is because “you should already know why I’m not talking to you because I’m a typical 96% of women that believes men should be able to read my mind and I shouldn’t have to tell you or ask you!” It’s comical really how many women really believe this. That men should just know and be able to read their minds. Granted: some men also believe this as it’s not exclusive to women. Just much more common in women. Most common reason they give to support this is “if he really loved me he would just know”

High maintenance girls believe that they won't lose the guy when they are a pain. This is the danger in allowing a girl to take your affection as a given. Both people must know that they can be replaced or you will get the poor behaviours mentioned.

The definition of low maintenance is a subjective because it depends on someone's income. The key is living below means. There should be an agreement between 2 people on spending. No matter how good a relationship is, it will start to crumble if unable to pay its daily needs especially during emergency. I am a person who put logic and not emotion when making decision especially if it is a long term relationship. This is my personal opinion.

Get a new subscriber! This is a very interesting topic for me. Thank you !

Cute rapport

Me personally I would NOT accept tampo at all. It is NOT a cultural thing, it is BEHAVIORAL, it is immature, childish, manipulative and emotionally abusive behavior. MATURE ADULTS talk about their problems to solve them before they become something bigger, you can't do that if 1 of you isn't talking. I can't fix a problem that ONLY exists inside HER HEAD. If she wants to throw a childish tampo tantrum, while she's in the bedroom not talking to me, she can pack her things and leave permanently and never have to talk to me again. If she wants to be a MATURE ADULT, we can sit down and talk about it calmly, respectfully, open minded, and HONESTLY and find a solution that BOTH parties can accept. This is why she NEEDS to understand HIS culture too, her problem may stem from not understanding his culture and what he said/did is just a part of it, and is NOT a problem to him. If she just speaks up and tells him, the problem can be resolved quick and easily. I get wanting to "cool down" so she doesn't say something she regrets and hurts my feelings, my feelings will heal, but the emotional scars from tampo may never heal. This goes right along with adapting and changing, a Filipina in a relationship with a foreigner, it is no longer HER culture, it is BOTH of their cultures and BOTH need to adapt and change. What is OK in her culture may not be in his, like tampo, it is UNACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR from a child, much less an ADULT. You don't reward poor behavior (tampo), it will only get more of it and it'll only get worse. Constant affirmation is EXHAUSTING, and if he forgets, it creates unnecessary problems. Filipina's need to GET OVER IT, he chose YOU out of the other MILLIONS of other beautiful Filipina's, obviously you are good enough for him, he thinks you are beautiful, and the one he wants to be with. Do NOT add drama and stress where it doesn't need to be, most foreigners are older, have already dealt with all of life's stresses, don't add more to it, or he won't be your foreigner for long. They want to relax, have PEACE, and just enjoy life and take you along for the ride. What I want to know is, if I run into a lady on the street and ask her on a date, why does she feel the need to bury herself under make-up and show up looking like a completely different person? When I ran into her on the street she didn't have all that crap on her face and that was the lady that caught my interest, NOT the one buried under make-up that shows up. Her putting all that make-up to make herself look good for me, would have the complete opposite effect, that would be an instant turn off for me, I HATE make-up. Another huge turn-off and pet peeve of mine is punctuality, being retired military being on time is important. Especially if it's for a date, if she's late, she will be dining alone because she's showing me she wasn't that interested in me because she wasn't excited enough to be ON TIME (REAL World time). Saying she's late because she was getting ready is the worst excuse she can give. She's been getting ready her whole life and knows how long it takes, she should have planned accordingly to be on time. Time is the one thing NO ONE will ever get back, don't let someone else WASTE yours. One thing I think you should also ask right up front is, can she provide you a CENOMAR (Certificate of No Marriage), if she can't/won't even if you offer to pay for it (They're VERY cheap), MOVE ON, she's not available. Besides, you'll need that CENOMAR to be able to get married, might as well have it early on. I also agree, you NEED to talk about her family, whether you will support them or not, so she can decide if your intentions and hers align or not and whether she should pursue the relationship if they don't. She will also need to MANAGE EXPECTATIONS of her family/friends, just because the foreigner has money, does NOT mean they do, HE worked most his life to EARN it and he decides how he will spend it. A relationship can be just as easily destroyed by her family/friends greed as it can by her actions and behaviors. Me personally, I am NOT financially responsible for other ADULTS, I didn't work most of my life and being deployed to war zones to pay for someone else's laziness and early retirement. I am financially responsible for myself, my LIVE IN girlfriend/wife, and OUR child/ren (Should we have any), NO ONE else, anything beyond that is me being kind and generous. If she lives with me, I am already supporting her parents, although actual money isn't exchanging hands, I am the one providing for her needs, NOT her parents, and the money they aren't spending on her needs, they can now use for their own needs. If she eats 2000 pesos of food a month (Not sure if high or low, just an example), that is 2000 pesos I spent, NOT her parents and they now have the 2000 pesos to use for themselves.

I don’t put up with the silent treatment.

Hi Rob and Chrissey love your channel. I have followed your advice and scheduled to meet my bingo in Davao in April for whole month. Planning to relocate permanently to Davao before end of year. Could you do an episode on cost of educating a child in Philippines. My girlfriend is over 30 and a government professional in Davao. She has two boys, age 9 and 15 years living with grandparents in a small town in nearby province. My girlfriend owns the home which parents and her children live. I would wish for her to retire and be accessible with me to travel. So I will take on the obligations of raising these kids in Province. I need to know what is a reasonable allowance for the kids. Thank you for all the good content. BTW it took me about 10 months to find and fully vet my Queen. ❤

What's the difference between stonewalling & Tampo?

I have binged on several of your videos today. This is what I have observed: 1. You are taking financial responsibility for Chrissie & her son. 2. You have moved Chrissie from her poverty-stricken hometown to a beautiful home, a good distance away from her hometown. 3. Chrissie no longer needs to work as a school teacher. Instead, she is enjoying making RU-vid content that provides less income than her job as a teacher. 4. Add, you are paying her a consistent, reliable "allowance" on a regular basis. 5. It "appears" you are paying for the majority of your monthly cost of living, your excursions to scenic local locations in the Philippines. I also saw a video where you mentioned you went together to Argentina, & other vacations outside the Philippines. 5. Chrissie's son will soon be joining your household & you admit to possibly adding another child to your family. 6. You also mentioned you will also soon provide financial assistance to Chrissie's parents. 7. I see your relationship with Chrissie to be one-sided. You are bringing much to the table in this relationship with Chrissie bringing a minimal percentage. 8. This particular video is about finding a "low-maintenance Filipina." How can you produce this sort of content when you are DEEPLY involved with a "HIGH-MAINTENACE Filipina?" Seems very HYPOCRITICAL CONTENT to me, considering you also mentioned she is now wearing more expensive clothing & started wearing jewelry. You appear to be a handsome, beautiful, & caring couple. I hope it is enough to survive an almost 40 year old age gap & the fact your relationship is barely a year old. I wish you both all the best in your future. I hope you two can overcome the red flags I have noted that pose as challenges towards a successful future together. You both appear to be good people. I wish you both much success & happiness together.

Why not find a woman who can support herself and is not dependent on a man for financial support..

That thing in your right hand, is that a remote for your camera?

I’ll be vert honest with you.if a person has a good intention to you? Hell be a really a good person to you and to your whole family

What website did you meet on ?

What do you guys think a Philipina means when she describes herself as “Simple”?

Please dont put on the music in the background, i cant barely hear what you are talking about!

Florelyn has never had tampo

It’s your fault bro 😆 she has a job?

My Filipina had me $20,000 in debt within a year.. she had kabit (five in total) she and another Filipina committed fraud using the name of my ex.. oh! she made me sleep on our baby’s baby mattress for two years. Where were you twenty years ago when I needed help?

I will just say, dont encourage "tampo" they want the man to "suck up " to them when they pull this "tampo" (bad behaviour). Just ignore, do not reward this behaviour and in no time they will realize its not working to their advantage.

old guy with a girl half is age just seems so wrong

What you're describing are classic narcissistic traits, toxic.

That’s my style also, if I’m mad to my husband I will not talk to him for days. I will give him a silent treatment.

I just love how you guys get edgy lol

what is that Xpats facebook you guys are on?