See that's the issue we run into with women. Y'all want to be wined and dined for however many weeks and not give up nothing. Fuck that. I rather just pay for it if I want it that bad. Now if we're on a level where ok I got it this time. Next date the woman says I got it. That's how u build a foundation.
jlovesj333 that may be right but that is not true in all parts of the country. For instance in my area there are 13 black women to every one black male
Your "p" is so worthy!!!! Make sure you are giving it to the right, most deserving person!!! If he doesn't interest you mentally, financially, spiritually, he doesn't deserve it!
Your "P" is nearly worthless. Shera sold when the market was up. Late nineties and she wasn't even able to buy liquor or club. After 22, nobody taking care of you. With kids, forgeddaboutit
@@catchaliar1317 You're a broke loser hahaha You aren't fooling anyone. Go back to school and start bringing in money & you'll get an amazing woman like her, of you're LUCKYYYYY!😂🤣😁😜😇
0v0 Dashawn every guy has a penis but not every girl’s after it. You clearly dont have what these girls want and that made you so vile towards them. Overall, you worth nada
charles bush But who says we’re checking for young broke men? 🧐 Even if young girls are looking for young wealthy men, they better use them before they’re used because that’s what (young) men do and they’re on to the next one real quick. Goodbye sir .
The fact that you took 3.5hrs to repeat yourself in different ways I have a new found respect for you. You are taking time out your day to help others for free. Regular people don't do that... that makes you special. Coming from a family of all girls (6 to be exact) I definitely share what you teach with them. I wish I had this info in my teens. I'm in my early 30s now (no kids, no husband, just a 6 figure career) I feel so behind. I definitely take heed to your advice. Thank you.
Regina Craig Hugh Hefner's dead the only reason to take nude pics is to get paid for people taking photos of your nudity otherwise what is the point? 🤔
He started pressuring me at 2 months and then text me to say he doesn’t have time for a relationship because I didn’t give it up. Oh well! So glad I didn’t
if your bf ghosts you... ghost him back. go no contact until he reconnects. cut all access to you. his job is to chase and obsess over you.... if hes not your husband providing and investing in you.... there is no loss. you have value and they realized they cant afford you long term. let him disappoint another woman. you cant change a dusty, only he can change him self. if he comes back, give him an ultimatum... either step up as a husband and provider or bye.
AS You couldn’t of said it better. Once I start talking to a man I give him a small time period to take getting to know me seriously and if he doesn’t then I ghost him. Most women have multiple men wanting to get to know her so don’t allow any man to waste your time. That time could he spent getting to know someone who wants the same thing as you do.
She's right. I've had men pay my rent and buy my groceries and i didn't put out. Spent mad money. Then with the very few dusties i had fun with but didn't love who had nothing to offer and didn't want to work for anything try to call women desperate if she puts out too soon. Like attracts like. Have high standards and have value/high quality and attract that. Make em work and/or avoid dusties. Men like a challenge and it feels better to have self respect as a woman.I've even had traditional provider handsome and rich men say they'd rather wait for sex BC they like the anticipation. Wait.
Krys. Im not paying no rent or anything like that for no women never did and never will even my boy's say the same thing plus alot of here say that as well hell no
This is why I’ve been celibate for over 2 years. I got tired of giving myself away to dusties and not even getting an orgasm out of it because they were too selfish to please me. A former friend with benefits told me I needed to be his girlfriend to buy me a $70-80 gift. I didn’t need to be his girlfriend to have sex with though. Thanks but no thanks. Taking my power back.
Been there and the truth is most women don’t climax from sex. So giving it up really is a waste which is why men should pay a price even more. Why give yourself to a man just for his pleasure and receive absolutely nothing in return (not even an orgasm)?
@@ST5RZ_okay hear me out ! Been with my man for 4 years now (since 19) and I’m telling you you can teach them/train them when it comes to how to please your unique body. He just has to care about learning.
Tasneem Basit/ I see a demon when she says "okay" and leans forward while squinting with evil intentions. Yep. A jin indeed. Her gospel in the video titles. "Dont care, Lie, and Deception tactics"...Yep, devils work if I ever seen any
You better listen to her she is 100% right. This man I have been dating for 5 month with no sex. He is begging me to take me out. I don't text or call him. He always calling me asking when he can take me out. Sometimes I lie and say am busy but am not just chilling at my house. Before when I have sex too quick they don't do shit for me so I stop that crap. Look now this man been chasing me for 5 month begging me to take me to dinner. Thank you Sis you the best all your advise have help me greatly. Am in full control.
@Armelle Fershgenet I'm just curious to the women that love sex, Do you have kids? I used to think I loved sex too, but once I had kids and found true unconditional love I didn't feel lacking in anyway, and I had ALL my time occupied. My sex drive went way way way down and never returned lmao like I don't mind getting head hear and there but having sex just ain't all that🤷
@@krisbec5904 for men it's physical and for us is mental. I just need hugs and kisses tbh. When u give love and receive love back I think for us, women, it's enough. It fulfilling
Catcha Liar I meant sleeping with men straight away. Regardless of whether the man is wealthy or not you feel cheap doing it and men feel your worthless for it as well but young women/girls believe to find "the one" or even just love you have to have sex before he loses interest in you. Its a concept you'll never understand unless your empathic to todays young women.
SheRaSeven1 hey Shera.. love the channel and the information you giving men. For real. You spelling out all the tricks. Quick question. Just how nice/big is your husband side apartment? Marble countertops? Walkin closets with bathroom attached?bear rugs? Just how fly is your husband's bachelor pad?
Ruby -heavens no. That's our community problem!! Evil, violent, non sex having black women turn men gay when they get comfortable n fat in marriage and long term relationships. Evil women like Shera do it on purpose because they got fat and undesirable to the men she truly lust. You a fool to marry Bw in 2018. BW liabilities, not assets. So that's what is going on over James apartment
As someone raised by a pick me I am so grateful for your videos and your message. Even the dustiest treat me better after valuing myself to the highest point. My self esteem is now not based on how others feel about me
You are lying to yourself. You will fall into the same trap that got i can tell from your choice of words. Be true to yourself stop playing games you'll get what you want
@@lunkee6972 what i mean is when sheera gives advice its coming from her perspective based on the level she is in life. so taking her advice when you are on a lower level than her you will fall badly
I don’t give it up at all, this is my third year of abstinence. I don’t give it up until a man gives me what I want. I don’t give it up until I can be married, have children, have love, God, and a comfortable life where my man provides for me and takes care of me. And treats me like a QUEEN!!
@@lofiafterdark9882 "I don’t give it up until I can be married, *have children,* " ummm you do realize in order to have children, you must "give it up" Were you drunk when you wrote this?
Anyone who tries or attempts to cause you to believe that you are not the prize...is deceptive and unworthy of you👈. A man who values you, will protect your innocence...even while he is very attracted to you❤💁.
I fucked up by sleeping with him. He lives in Canada and I'm in Miami. He came down to Miami for business trip. We went out on 2 dates and he was leaving to Toronto the next day and I gave it up after 2 years of being celibate. I didn't come to my senses until it was over. And when he flew back home, we don't communicate like we use to. I feel so stupid! But it's a lesson learned.
@@Hello-qf3fd I’m doing great!. I’ve been celibate for almost 2&1/2 years now and I feel strong and empowered. My glow up is definitely real…No way I’m messing this up 😊
I remember I messed up with a guy I wanted to get to know on the first date, soooo I don't drink anymore lol. The fucked up part is I remember drunkenly telling him maybe we should wait cause men leave after sex and he said he'll always be there lmfao the absolute FOOL I was!! True clown I am cause I'm still missing him uughhhh🤪🤡😩
After you give yourself to a dusty, you realize how self-degrading and devaluing it truly is. By far the worst experience. It is not worth it, you and you alone are left without so much it is not even funny. You legit question your value and worth when the NEVER even deserved you in the first place.
Wow she be telling truth that I didn’t know about myself. Sometimes a woman’s high sex drive is just a form of looking for validation, usually that’s how a woman got manipulated .
Very true what you said about independent women. Their worried about trusting men to do their part. I’ve realised this as well. Independent sounds too masculine to me and guys often use that to take advantage so if I was still single and kept attracting dusties I’d tell them I’m ‘self sufficient’. Meaning. I’ve got enough to take care of mySELF... YOU will need to have your own... 💅🏽💸🐱 be gone ✨
Candy Kane same. I used words like I'm.responsible. I enjoy.my own company. Independent has a bad connotation to some even though it is not a bad thing IMO.
Ty fly sexy shit -- do men feel any shame when they use women for sex? 😴 at least one motive is more productive than the other 💅🏽💸 if men are only bringing sex to the table. What’s the point of having a man? The most attractive trait is having him as a provider and protector. Period. Everything else is sub par and irrelevant 😴☕️
Danaija Robinson -- Girl. SELF sufficient for mySELF. I don’t care about all that other shit your talking about. I’ve never had a guy bold enough to look at me and still ask me what I do with the intentions of leeching off me , or ask me to lend him money etc so I can’t relate. As soon as they see me. They know better lmao 😴☕️💅🏽
The more I keep it in my pants 👖😂 the more I realize how so many guys I dated didn’t have much to offer..one guy said he’ll cook for me but didn’t believe I would really show up & when I did he offered me leftovers 🙄 & was in his feelings I didn’t put out..he’s long gone trust me 🥴
I wish I would’ve knew this/your page before I lost my virginity, I wasn’t raised to stand my ground or think of myself highly. Even when you say no to men they will push and push and that’s what happened to me. I don’t wanna regret anything just know that everything ive been through is a learning experience and now that I have the knowledge from this channel I can step into the world of dating and get what I deserve and be treated how every women should be treated
haha I don't know why but women should listen to the lyrics by Christina Aguilera "Genie in a bottle"....if you wanna be with me babe there's a price to pay..I'm a genie in a bottle, you got to rub me the right way.
SheRa,you are a Goddess,to me.every time I listen to you I feel like I always have to keep my guards,up around certain people,who don't value me.which puts me on top of my game.especially since I don't have any friends,Thankyou for the knowledge.
You give up easy you old man you married. Him few cash and now youtube not you said is true you omly want cash becuse old man married to not help you you Satan worship remove skulls around and go get a job
Ok. Imagine a 22yo woman stuck in a LARGE home too big to clean. SUGARDADDY work long hours for the big house. Friends going on vacations n action dates while she sits home alone thru her twenties. Cheating risky business. Nightlife embarrassing or nonexistent. this is sad.. I guarantee James got an apartment while she continues to sit around on RU-vid for HOURS. smh
Alicia Squaire Shera is greatest!! She gives men the tools ands knowledge to buy they own 17yo woman. Buying a brand new 18yo girl is my dream. I get it now. Flaunt and offer assets I supposed to have at my age and trap a 18yo with marriage. As long as I get another apartment like Shera husband, she's mine forever. James my hero
I don't agree that a woman is the only one cheap for sleeping with a guy after three days of knowing them. It' is a reflection of the man as well because it illustrates he sleeps with anyone giving it. That's the problem with women only thinking only the woman is low for sleeping with them too soon and it don't have no reflection of the man's self value. To me, it speaks volumes about a man who will sleep with any woman without knowing her health status. We need to get out of that thought that a man can sleep with any woman in a short period of time without being labeled man whore.
men are physically more sexually driven than women are. you cannot treat it the same way. A man can leave his child before a woman could.... we are wired very different..... so you cannot compare apples to oranges, the world is not fair , never will be , never was, but it is a school and if you learn the rules, and the game you can win !
Hi Shera, I hear where you are coming from on your view but I still don't agree. This is about valuing oneself not about the ability of a man can leave a child and a woman wouldn't leave her child. Hence the reason where the term a man is consider a dog should he sleep around with many women without knowing their name. No way a man is excused from having no morals in sexual behavior. Women who don't want their child give them up for an adoption everyday. Hence the reason the foster homes are over filled with abandon children. My brother gave me the best advice and he said any man who sleeps with a woman in any state weither he known her short time or on a period; he's a low life. So coming from the mouth of a male who has the same belief that men aren't excused from being seen as cheap to sleep with anyone. Again, I respect your opinion but simply don't agree with it. If a man is quick to go to bed with any woman, he's cheap. I value the guy who isn't quick to act. These men do exist and live in the rural areas where the family teach them to value themselves more and take time to teach them about sexual behavior. Heck it's the reason why all these STDs don't go away because of the guys who don't value themselves as well take risks. lol!!
You're such a good mama to your kids and beautiful kitty. You talk so sweet and respectful to them both. Its such beautiful feminine energy. And cats represent femininity as well, its super beautiful. Ive seen a lot of mothers just yell at their kids, talk down to them, and treat them like a burden.
I wish I met this woman years ago. My mom never taught me nothing about men but otherwise she is a great mom. say NO to DUSTY GENES!!! Say NO to DUSTY SPERM!!!!!!!!!!
I’m 34 & ready to marry into wealth. Such a perfect time to find your channel! I always planned to marry a man over 50. But now I know to marry over 55! Ive been listening everyday, taking in so much information. I also just moved to a new state. I will marry by 35!!!
Kudos to the women that level up mentally fast. For me, I’ve advanced but I definitely still have a lot of unlearning and relearning to get this right but I will never give up ❤️
Girl this changed my soul. It hurt to hear the truth but I didn't know some things I was taught wrong. Old way of thinking. This is 2018 we better be ready for them I get you. This is true knowledge. Once you know better to do better. Thanks again
Shera this is the first time I ever watched one of your long ass videos lol. I literally grabbed my pen and notebook. There were so many good points n breakdowns that forced me to face the poor choices I made and why. Thank you so much, keep up the Good work!
Age should not discourage you from dating, I have seen 23 year old women who look 40, and 40 year olds who look 30. Hence, melissa Ford, gloria valez, beyonce, J Lo, nicole Murphy, lisa ray....it depends how YOU look, not your age💃
@@MaRiAm936 yes she can it's called a gym and good skin care regimen. Not to bring race up but it's possible especially for Black women that melanin is serious. Cost nothing to take care of yourself.
Lisa as a younger woman I agree with you, never too late I've seen gorgeous women in their later years my mother still gets mistaken for my sister she's pushing 60 lol
This is one of my favorite videos of yours! And that says a lot because I love them all! The comparison with cats was genius! U are very intelligent and that goes to show u that most golddiggers are very smart women 😊
Thank you Shera, My well off provider man just footed half the bill towards me continuing my education through the arts. I told him about you and he smiled ☺️
Your best video yet, Im glad you are doing most of the talking rather than answering questions. The more it seems that I'm rediscovering the dating/levelling up world the more I dislike sneaky, dusty men who are always playing women. They're the liars and women are needing to figure out their BS. Stop being cheap and easy ladies, you're the ones who are making it hard on all women other than the sleazy dusties out there that seem to be running amok.
You surley are helping many women. I got me a group of ladies retraining our thought Pattern. This is just not for your age but us older women as well. Thanks for your help and support and time. I appreciate you. 👀👂☕☕☕☕☕🙏🙌⏳⏳⏳😊😊😊😊😊😊
You are my sister from another mother! Love love you preach girl speak that word. I have lived by this and it is the truth. Men have always stepped up and bended over backwards to get me they chase forever. I have the power and always realize it. Xxx
This is so true I always told my friends this and I seen this video that confirmed my thought process with that. They get what they want then u don’t get anymore benefits
This is GOLD and one of Shera's best videos explaining this dynamic. Required viewing for all women who want more of out themselves, men and life in general.
You are right to say that if you give it up, you will be ghosted or not valued. I've been feeling this way for the entirety of my existence. I am now 32 years old and I understood some things. Even though I didn't have too many partners, the ones I had, I never felt they loved me as I want to. I really admire women like you who naturally respect themselves and know intuitively how to behave. I have to learn it and right now thinking maybe it's kind of late but promised myself I would rather stay single than compromise again. I have financial issues, that's true, but don't need validation from a man, as you said, I'm over that phase. Please, if you still make these videos, I would really like to see some ideas on how to keep him interested, in the dating stage. I felt many times, if I don't sleep with them, they won't contact me.
This was a good video and your daughter is blessed to have a mom like you. She is smart and funny just like her mom. She's gonna make it far in this world. Bless you Shera
I personally, who when I believed in not ever shacking up as far back as my teens and wasting time with a pretty boy dusty for decades, now as a leveled up woman would live with the man of means prior to marriage at his request as long as he has invested a lot in me a LOT like SheRa says. Now when it comes to having babies outside of marriage, whether with a dusty or man of means, that's where I draw the line because illegitimacy is NOT a good look. When children come into the picture, marriage is a must for me. I would be more proud to say that "this is my husband" as opposed to "this is my child's father."
I have my mom and sister both hooked on you now too. Ur truly a genius when it comes to the game. Thank you so much. Love all your advice... it's perfect!! 👌
Girl well said!! Its about time someone says it and keeps it real in social platform. That said more power to you! Women should never feel they have to put out because he paid your dinner, or even worst at times for nothing in exchange and I’ve seen this happen many times with the other ladies.
I'm so glad I found you on youtube. It's like getting best, rational and wise advices from mum that I needed my entire life. :D I don't talk to her at all and she's not interested in it also. So everything I know about men, flirting or seduction, I needed to find myself. Now I think I'm on the right track, thank to this channel. Thanks for being here and always giving best advices for all over the world! :3
Shera you are the truth! You really helped to raise my self esteem and many other women’s esteem. Even RC Blakes a RU-vid pastor says the same things you are saying in this video to help women.
So true i made a man wait and when he finally got it said it was worth it and even enjoyed my presence even when they knew they weren't going to get any
How your children respond to you is a testament to what an Amazing mother you are🌟 Your teachings are priceless and have changed my way of thinking forever🫶🏽 Thank you Thank you Thank you🙏🏽🫶🏽
You're the GOAT! ❤ HANDS DOWN THE BEST FEMALE DOING IT! REAL LIFE, REAL DEAL ADVICE!! Not the fake charm school, wear heels and prance around nonsense😂😂
Unfortunately I had to learn the hard way but I noticed my sugar daddy would start playing trick games after he got what he wanted so I basically started playing right back (not giving him shit)until he was back thirsty enough to give me what I wanted on MY time NOT HIS.
Helena F you ignore them and when he’s horny enough he’ll come around and try to befriend you again and that’s when you make your demands get him to give u what you want on your time and still don’t give him any that’s how you take your power back.
