My Wife Wants a Divorce (I Was Totally Blindsided)

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My Wife Wants a Divorce (I Was Totally Blindsided)
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@leeboriack8054 10 месяцев назад

No spouse wakes up on a given morning and says “I want a divorce.”, it has been brewing for a long time.

@makamurphy 9 месяцев назад

Exactly

@Bambotb 7 месяцев назад

Still doesn't make it a logical decision

@ykonratev 5 месяцев назад

That obviously can't be true. Some clearly do with just how many women file...among other reasons..

@janemathaba7706 3 месяца назад

I BET she WANTED to TALK about ISSUES/PROBLEMS & CONCERNS she had about their Marriage for YEARS & he DISREGARD her COMPLAINTS & take it as "NAGGING"! He DISREGARDED something that was or that COULD HAVE BEEN SOLVED years ago! Now he has Pikachu Face🥵🥵🥵

@danielallan8061 2 месяца назад

@@janemathaba7706 Maybe women should learn to communicate better instead of nagging? Ever thought of that? Also, don't expect men to read your mind. Or pick up your "hints". Use your words like a big girl.

@anonymous135 10 месяцев назад

I have 3 friends who found themselves "blindsided" as well. Problem is WE ALL SAW THESE DIVORCES COMING A MILE AWAY. This guy is in denial.

@Wtvrflotesurgoat 10 месяцев назад

Men love to ignore and gaslight their wife’s misery. 🤷‍♀️

@oldgeezer2780 10 месяцев назад

I remember a man calling into a radio show years ago. His wife was barely speaking to him - for something like six weeks. Radio host asked what happened six weeks ago, he didn't know, she asked him to think hard. Well....there was the fact that she found out he forged her signature on a second mortgage without telling her about it. That's it, the host said, she's furious about a debt she didn't have any say in. He was stunned, and said in complete disbelief, "You really think that's it?"

@butterflygirl2285 10 месяцев назад

IMO - Men can be very strange about not understanding their spouses. It's almost like there is a light switch that turns off when their spouses want to discuss issues. I have heard the shocked, "I was blind sided" statement so many times. Why is this?

@williamclayton9566 10 месяцев назад

@@cheesecrackers3928 80% of divorces in the USA are initiated by women.

@sometimesising1016 10 месяцев назад

@@butterflygirl2285Saving face.

@lindanowak7893 4 месяца назад

About 50 years ago when I told the father of my children I wanted splitsville, and asked him a few months after, “Didn’t you see that something was wrong?” He said, “I knew you weren’t happy, but I didn’t think you’d LEAVE me.” In other words, it was OK for me to be unhappy, it just wasn’t OK for me to leave him.

@berniegordon6338 4 месяца назад

Or in other words when you said through sickness or health, through good times or bad he thought you meant it but apparently you didn’t

@whatliesbeneaththeweave3518 4 месяца назад

@@berniegordon6338Are you saying you’d stay with your spouse if they wiped out your savings and cheated on you with your brother? All relationships have conditions.

@berniegordon6338 4 месяца назад

@@whatliesbeneaththeweave3518 I agree but the comment was that she wasn’t happy. Vows aren’t I’ll stay married to you until I’m unhappy

@arash9255 4 месяца назад

You women these days seems selfish and not tolerated, life is hard, it's weird for me to see people like you because in my opinion tolerance is part of love and people lost it these days

@CassieNishti 4 месяца назад

@@arash9255 tolerance is what users and abusers expect. couples can work together to heal small issues, but this isn't 1950 and women don't need to tolerate what men often dish out. and men are free to leave when women act like garbage.

@teresaparvin7327 6 месяцев назад

I know someone who's husband dangled the threat of divorce over her head for over months. He had hired a lawyer but then just sat on it and did nothing but continue to make her life a living hell. She finally said screw this. I'm out and had him served with papers when he least expected it. He was pissed because it was her taking control of the situation. In her case, it was the right thing to do.

@CyeOutsider 4 месяца назад

Lol, love it! Good for her.

@sarahrobertson634 4 месяца назад

Good for her. She called his bluff.

@jennifere4641 4 месяца назад

My husband was shocked (according to my youngest daughter) when I decided to leave, despite the fact that he gave me the silent treatment for 18 months prior to my decision. During his silence I tried communicating 4 times. When he did respond, he said nothing was wrong. When the lawyer called him the first time, he raged and shouted at me, saying he should never have married me. He said I hadn't contributed to the marriage, a marriage of 28 years.... So I moved out after lockdown (early 2021), divorced a year later. No regrets🐦✨💖🐾

@BagznBirdz 3 месяца назад

You have kids - you contributed more than he ever could.

@chez0788 Месяц назад

@@BagznBirdz yeah because apparently, she produced through asexual means. No male needed for kids I guess lol.

@singerg02 4 месяца назад

They're ALL "blindsided". 🙄That's almost never the case. They were just completely oblivious.

@sarahrobertson634 4 месяца назад

They all feign ignorance.

@dahliacheung6020 Месяц назад

I mean I think this guy was kind of blindsided seeing as his wife lied to him from the beginning and was carrying that guilt

@sarahshanahan2222 10 месяцев назад

It's been said that women go through the grieving process during the relationship while they are trying and giving chances Men tend to grieve after. I wonder if it is true

@ConstructionHoney 10 месяцев назад

This makes sense to me.....thanks for sharing

@Mrs.TJTaylor 10 месяцев назад

Interesting thought.

@alexavasquez1992 10 месяцев назад

Yes, the worst part is women waste several years and up to decades trying to cling onto a relationship that can't be fixed

@timothygibney159 10 месяцев назад

💯. I am in a minority of men and initiated my divorce but grieved during the end and post divorced.

@PepeCoinMania 9 месяцев назад

they are trying to find another options lol

@goinggaga4ladygaga 4 месяца назад

10 years into my marriage, I started to tell my husband that I had been sexually molested as a child. Before I got past that point he looked at me and said ‘ you never let anything go’ That’s was it for me, I didn’t tell him anymore about it. I hadn’t told anyone before as the shame kept me silent. I felt I was tarnished. The whole truth of it was I was molested in foster care (while my mum was dying from cancer) for years by 3 different people, one was female. I thought people would look at me differently or think it was my fault as it was 3 different people. I finally told a counsellor and the weight and shame were lifted. I was six when it started and 13 when it finished. When our child was growing I looked at him at those ages and it put, how young and innocent I was into perspective . If it had happened to him, I wouldn’t blame him at all, why should I blame myself. I was just a kid trapped in a 💩 situation at the mercy of the people trusted with my care.

@carolkingsafer9728 3 месяца назад

💔💔💔 you should have been treated with love and kindness for what you survived 🙏🙏🙏 I was blessed to have a husband that helped me heal from sexual abuse starting as an infant 🙏🙏🙏 Prayers your way 🙏🙏🙏 there's many walking wounded in our midst 🙏🙏🙏

@fotini777 2 месяца назад

I’m sorry you had to go through that.

@vaska1999 2 месяца назад

I'm shocked by your husband's callousness. 😢

@AngryVet44 10 месяцев назад

If you are blindsided by divorce it means chances are she had complaints for years and you did nothing about it. Chances are You thought she would live with a “tolerable level of permanent unhappiness” in the marriage.

@ineedhoez 10 месяцев назад

Facts. She stopped complaining

@slee2695 10 месяцев назад

Lmao or she's just cheating...but yeah blame the man

@SHINeeismydrugXP 10 месяцев назад

It could be true, also she could be saying nothing and expect him to read her mind, then after years blowing it all in his face leaving him confused.

@haute2death 10 месяцев назад

This is always the case. They do nothing to change til you leave

@MRkriegs 10 месяцев назад

That doesn't sound like it applies here at all though

@kennywynn1513 10 месяцев назад

There is more going on with this woman than what we know and what he knows.

@richardv9648 10 месяцев назад

You should write Bible, with those crptic messages.

@joshuacorbin221 10 месяцев назад

walk away wife syndrome means it was over years ago, and that fact gave her the ability to pretend, so things looked better on the surface, even though the marriage is terminal. Because, as a rule, women tolerate bad marriages far less than men do. period.

@shachede6828 10 месяцев назад

Of there is more going on. This is a 17 mins video, There more going on with him with That decades of porn addiction.

@aliparker3 10 месяцев назад

What's going on is she's bored and made a dumb decision to marry him.

@slee2695 10 месяцев назад

@@aliparker3you must be a lot of fun..considering all the comments you've made about him being boring....im sure your cats enjoy you being so fun

@CyeOutsider 6 месяцев назад

Im always sceptical about men saying they were blindsided by divorce. Chances are they just ignored complaints for years, never wanted to discuss their feelings, never communicated, and took it for granted that the wife would fo everything for the family while they dismissed her repeated requests for help as "nagging". You can only takw so much of that until it occurs to you that you're better off on your own if you have to do everything on your own anyway.

@sarahrobertson634 4 месяца назад

Males seem to enjoy ignoring their wives, and then acting surprised when they leave.

@nychris2258 3 месяца назад

What about women ignoring complaints for years?

@danielallan8061 2 месяца назад

If a man discusses his feelings, he gets cheated on or his wife divorces him. Every guy has a story like that. At the very least, she weaponizes it against him later. It's always the man's fault. Women never use or deceive men. They're just good little angels.

@danielallan8061 2 месяца назад

@iamdragonettatoo This video is about a man, but women are all up in these comments making it about them.

@MoonFoxSassy 10 месяцев назад

Please take some calls with both people in the relationship. We need both sides and to feel their dynamic.

@michaelh2282 10 месяцев назад

He does occasionally. However, it's not easy to get both people on the call, and he can only do that if both sides have a positive, open-minded personality, otherwise, the conversation will either devolve into a three-way shouting match once one person perceives, rightly or wrongly, that John is taking sides, or that person will simply shut down.

@YaYa-ke1zr 10 месяцев назад

Yup but some couples don’t want their dynamic to be observed.

@MoonFoxASMR 10 месяцев назад

Also, water is wet. @@YaYa-ke1zr

@mattbackus 9 месяцев назад

I say that every time I hear one of these calls!!!

@mle011 10 месяцев назад

All the people in the comments saying her lie was worse than his, are clearly showing they’re porn addicts themselves. He was finding sexual gratification for 7 years, probably on a daily or weekly basis, outside of her. He wasn’t attune to her needs, making her feel desired, probably tried replicating what he was watching (basically no foreplay, no actual emotional intimacy or romance) and then after 7 years of this is “shocked” she wants out. Porn addiction kills relationships.

@williamclayton9566 10 месяцев назад

BS. No such thing, unless you're spending hours and hours on it and missing work. It's just Normal. Male. Drive. Stop demonizing/shaming masculinity. Wives want to monopolize a man's sexuality/sexual outlets, that's all. Keeps him under control.

@jessiesheldon-huffey1824 2 месяца назад

Yep, it's causing my divorce currently.

@vaska1999 2 месяца назад

100%.

@Mountainhippiedude 10 месяцев назад

My ex gave the same story about pretending to be someone else 14-15 years ago. Said she needed to be herself and she had been living a lie. Turned out that she was having an affair with her boss and spreading horrible lies about me behind my back. Divorcing me was the kindest thing she ever did for me. In hindsight, she was incredibly controlling. I had no idea just how miserable I was always walking on egg shells so as to not make her angry. It wasn't until she was gone that I realized how peaceful life was without her.

@Thevoiceofreason84 9 месяцев назад

How did her affair pan out ?

@akendon7260 4 месяца назад

@@Thevoiceofreason84Like most women that left their marriage for an affair or cheating, 90% of them never pan out and they always seem to regret. I'm speaking from experience and over a dozen circle of men with similar experiences. We've all moved on without our spouces and never remarrying again. Life is peaceful and sweet now!

@consumerdebtchitchat 10 месяцев назад

As someone who's been married and divorced, it's my experience that once someone tells you they want a divorce, give it up. Let them go. Life is too short to beg someone to stay with you. By the time the word divorce comes out of their mouth, they've long thought about it. Even if the divorce doesn't take place until years later, they've usually mentioned it before. Just my experience.

@Kienlamb 10 месяцев назад

There is a big gap between saying something and doing something so this seems like a very harsh rule and so black and white thing to do. My suggestion is start having hard conversations and dig into the issues and then decide the actions to take. Of course it is much easier to say than do.

@consumerdebtchitchat 10 месяцев назад

@@Kienlamb I do agree with you. However it takes two parties to want to put in that effort and dig deep. You may wind up with someone who does not wish to dig as equally hard. 🥴🥴

@Kienlamb 10 месяцев назад

@@consumerdebtchitchat I agree. It definitely takes two people wanting the same thing

@PepeCoinMania 9 месяцев назад

how many times did you cheat on them

@amateur_football9751 8 месяцев назад

Agree, this guy is just wasting valuable time, he needs to let her go and end of story

@javaskull88 10 месяцев назад

An addict of any type is never fully present emotionally in a relationship. They are either directly under the influence of it, or thinking about it, and keeping secrets and lying, either through omission or commission. They don’t need or love their partner as much as they need or love the target of their addiction. They’ll dismiss people and things that interfere with their addiction.

@audreybaird007 10 месяцев назад

I remember one of my family members telling her husband that she had been living a lie, and wanted out of the marriage. Turned out she was a lesbian, and had fallen in love with her female golfing partner.

@Cyanopteryx 10 месяцев назад

Falling in love with your golfing partner is literally the most lesbian thing I've ever heard lol

@carrie14u2nv 10 месяцев назад

That's were I thought this was gonna go 😂

@queenbutterfly4888 10 месяцев назад

@@carrie14u2nvme too lol

@zeldadesantiago6974 10 месяцев назад

Ouch

@sydneydinks 10 месяцев назад

That's 100% what I thought was happening

@9liveslisa 10 месяцев назад

That was great advice at the end when he told Jack that if she wants to leave, that's fine, but you stay there. She can leave, She can file for the divorce. He can stay put. He's not leaving. Yeah, Jack. Stay put and let her leave and wish her the best. And good luck to you. You'll get through this. It's not easy, but it is doable.

@dougboal7425 10 месяцев назад

When a woman says she wants to leave to "be her true self," it means she is already seeing someone else, or plans to.

@sarcodonblue2876 10 месяцев назад

Nope it means the man was not listening to her and her needs weren't being met and she felt like she couldn't express herself. She wants to be away from that stress so she can breathe.

@queenbutterfly4888 10 месяцев назад

Yup!!

@shaniahpaster12 10 месяцев назад

No she feels trapped and needs support

@Cheesecake819 10 месяцев назад

Or a lot of someone else’s.

@jusplay7309 10 месяцев назад

Sadly that maybe what is going on here

@saraojala6283 10 месяцев назад

Usually porn addicted men are emotionally checked out of marriages. He's probably been emotionally distant for a long time and she's felt it. She doesn't like the unsatisfying relationship they've been living out. Pornography destroys intimacy and unless he gets that dealt with its unlikely they can rebuild a better relationship.

@sarcodonblue2876 10 месяцев назад

Exactly

@anniealexander9616 10 месяцев назад

Exactly! I don't think the guy even realizes why she wants a divorce. I think he actually believes it's because she wasn't a virgin when they married.

@Dansyoung 10 месяцев назад

Do you know why married men use porn? Because the person they are in a relationship with doesn’t put in effort to satisfy them. No man would pick pornography over being with a real woman, but if your partner isn’t putting in effort and you have needs and are loyal - pornography is the logical solution.

@sarcodonblue2876 10 месяцев назад

@@Dansyoung they use porn because they don't know how to be emotionally available in a relationship and don't understand that it won't be all sex all the time and life happens. They are selfish and expect sex.

@Jamie-wh3kd 10 месяцев назад

@@Dansyoung it's not that women don't put in effort, that's a lie you guys tell yourselves to make yourselves feel better. it's that men want and often are most aroused by things that are utterly unsatisfying or even downright physically uncomfortable/painful for women. that's just the hard truth of it.

@arielacornfeld7953 10 месяцев назад

John Deloney us one of a kind. The way he tackles the most complex of problems, it’s fascinating to watch. Not only is he brilliant, strategic mind, but he is also deeply warm and wants good for humanity. His methodology: He warmly invites the caller in making them comfortable, like an old friend. Then once the caller starts explaining the problem he starts fidgeting with the papers and pen in front of him, absorbing all the relevant information and scribbling relevant notes down. He then bursts into his incredible insights!! He gives a reality check, but also lifts the caller into self-worth, reality and heart-warming common hood. Such a joy and completely original 💪 Come do a book tour in Jerusalem 🙏🏻

@TopVillain 10 месяцев назад

He’s definitely gotten better from when he first started

@TopVillain 10 месяцев назад

He used to try to predict what people were going to say now he listens more

@rachelmaddowswife8713 10 месяцев назад

"I love the new her that I'm meeting," this is so unbelievably sweet. If the wife reads these comments, please try to make things work with this man.

@cabayern9416 10 месяцев назад

She won't. He is des and she is playing him.

@rachelmaddowswife8713 10 месяцев назад

@@cabayern9416 what is "des"?

@rustyshackleford6637 10 месяцев назад

I think she has taken a couple of dongs

@uceemeforeal8185 10 месяцев назад

@@cabayern9416 keep in mind, he has been holding things back as well. They both have stuff to work on.

@ireneswackyjournals8810 10 месяцев назад

@@cabayern9416not all women are playing men. This trauma men have with previous girlfriends needs to be addressed with a therapist.

@SeanGunz 10 месяцев назад

She wants to try counseling after having no interest in it before because the guy she thought was an option turned out to not be as interested or as good as she thought. I don't think she's into the caller sexually, which is why he copes with porn. He probably doesn't know how to be attractive to her and she's bored of him

@bigherm70068 10 месяцев назад

Yep

@kingasif9265 10 месяцев назад

The part where she was crying is because her AP told her I don’t want a relationship with a cheater 😂

@shachede6828 10 месяцев назад

Which part of the video did you get the cheating from? Stop projecting the woman that cheated on you and your bitterness on this man. She is also willing to try counseling even after he dropped bomb of his decades of porn addiction.

@SeanGunz 10 месяцев назад

Actually, I've been the guy who a few married women have tried to end their relationship for, and I don't go for it, and they go back to the guy who they ultimately leave in the end

@SeanGunz 10 месяцев назад

Also not saying she cheated just she's not into her current marriage and had someone in mind but it didn't work out. That's why all her explanations sound like word salad excuses that you have to try extra hard like standing on your head to understand

@JJJJ-he8bz 10 месяцев назад

I wouldn’t fight for anyone to stay in my life. They can go.

@mattrodgers157 8 месяцев назад

Yeah but do you have a house and kids?

@anacabral873 4 месяца назад

How humble… It shows how deeply you love the other person, they leaving doesnt even bother you.

@JJJJ-he8bz 4 месяца назад

@@anacabral873 no it just feeds a woman’s ego for the man to cry and beg for them to stay. I will never do that again in my life I’ll be upset but my life will go on.

@JJJJ-he8bz 4 месяца назад

@@mattrodgers157 does it matter? If the woman wants to go let her go.

@anacabral873 4 месяца назад

@@JJJJ-he8bz maybe someone did that to you, doesnt mean every woman will do that. How stupid are these quotes "Men are.../Women are..." men and women are different from each other, just because a man cheated on me doesnt mean others will. People are different, dont generalize, thats the saddest view on the world you can have and more importantly it is not true. I agree with you, if someone wants to go, Im not going to force them to stay with me, but when you say "i dont fight for anyone" it feels like you are superior to others

@dannwhitehead6193 10 месяцев назад

I like Johns advice. My wife said she wanted out in 2022, I tried like a fool to hold on to her. I should have just told her to get out. I paid for everything in the marriage. I bought her out and the place is now mine. In the end she did me a favor.

@aliparker3 10 месяцев назад

Why did you pay for everything?

@fauxbro1983 10 месяцев назад

@@aliparker3because women are freeloaders

@dudeorduuude5211 10 месяцев назад

@@aliparker3because many men like him don't have any insight and frame everything in terms of money. Notice this dude mentioned nothing other than money. If he thinks that's what relationships and marriage are all about, that is his problem.

@Joce123 10 месяцев назад

@@dudeorduuude5211Marriage is a business contract

@lnaph 10 месяцев назад

@@SarahConnor562 not all investment is monetary and when two people build a life together assets should be divided evenly if there is a split.... but not seeing the rest of the investment that is not monetary leads to entitlement and bitterness.

@The3rdGunman 4 месяца назад

Dude sounds like he irons and folds his socks, putting them away in alphabetical order with a lock on it.

@joygarrett8397 10 месяцев назад

Somehow I think everyone is missing just how “casual” this guys voice is . . Didn’t even sound upset or remotely heartbroken that she asked for divorce! Anyone else wonder if she was playing a card to get Him to Admit about his porn addiction (that she may have suspected or found evidence of) and how That made her feel so I valued & unloved & disrespected??? Why does everyone “assume” she’s having an affair? And yes I Do understand about the “2 steps forward 1step back” form of incremental leaving. . I had to do that once just to slowly get things in order to escape a very toxic & controlling relationship all the while also protecting my children . . . Just adding a different perspective . .

@krystalgardiner5591 10 месяцев назад

I was in a relationship with a “flat” man like that, and at the end of it I started saying things to try to get him to fight for me. Not saying it was healthy and Inregret it.. but that’s what I was thinking about to.

@joesmith3590 10 месяцев назад

That is how a man is supposed to sound lol

@aliparker3 10 месяцев назад

@@krystalgardiner5591Bingo. My very first thought was that she's bored. He's boring. He bores me. His voice, cadence, in and out of confidence, he's annoying. She did something stupid to inject volume in the relationship. Not a smart route. She shouldn't have married him.

@alluringbliss4165 10 месяцев назад

Her lying about her virginity shows she's not innocent. It's plausible to assume that she could have cheated on him.

@slee2695 10 месяцев назад

@@aliparker3seek help..

@Mike_Cosentino 10 месяцев назад

I feel for that caller 😞 nobody ever wins in these kinds of situations.

@sarahalderman3126 10 месяцев назад

That is not true. Something very similar occurred in my marriage many years ago.

@Mike_Cosentino 10 месяцев назад

Just because it didn’t happen to you doesn’t mean it can’t for anybody else myself included but I commend you for working through it. Not a lot of ppl want to whether it’s a marriage, friendship, family problem, business relationship, etc.

@ireneswackyjournals8810 10 месяцев назад

Not always, sometimes this is what creates the real team out of it. Basically once all laundry is aired and therapy is processed there’s more trust and an actual team.

@elyse443 10 месяцев назад

He caught her crying but it wasn’t the first time for sure. She’s been out for a long time unfortunately. The “counseling” thing is often to soften the blow. And she most likely knew something was up with him sexually outside their bed. Usually women can feel it.

@Chet_24 10 месяцев назад

Or she's cheating, and the other guy changed his mind.

@MoonFoxASMR 10 месяцев назад

@@Chet_24 typical male response, defer blame and refuse accountability. It couldn't possibly be that men have flaws... oof

@williamclayton9566 10 месяцев назад

@@MoonFoxASMR That's funny! I know what kind of girl you are by the kind of man you claim all men to be. It is well known on the interwebs that accountability = women's kryptonite.

@briskettacos 5 месяцев назад

@williamclayton9566 she probably knows from seeing men do this before. You're projecting, as men do.

@eraldadevole 4 месяца назад

@@Chet_24 He called himself addicted to porn. Chances are they weren’t having much fun and connection all these years.

@karo1922 10 месяцев назад

Had a similar situation: my husband left during in vitro process via phone, moved out soon after, and ghosted me. Oh, contacted me soon after to ask for money…he laughted at marriage counsling, basically he suggested that he will find someone easier to have a baby with.

@twinkletits2459 10 месяцев назад

Congratulations! Sometimes the trash takes itself out.

@vaska1999 2 месяца назад

😮 What an AH!

@TheJgraham12345 10 месяцев назад

Nah, I’m not buying it. She’s not happy with this guy and is looking for a reason to leave. This guy should run.

@saeedhossain6099 10 месяцев назад

sounds like she think she's winning her freedom and will take some cash and houses on the way out. But then realized that the freedom is going to cost too much

@Oneness100 10 месяцев назад

Wow, you don't know. You're not involved with their situation, you're just adding your own conjecture based on your own experiences in bad relationships. It's not about what YOU feel, it's about him and his wife and how THEY feel and are willing to do the work necessary to more forward together or not.

@TheJgraham12345 10 месяцев назад

@@Oneness100 “She’s done with our marriage and wants a divorce.” When asked if she’s willing to go to marriage counseling to try to save the marriage and she says “No.” She’s already made up her mind at the beginning. Let’s say you had a felony on your record that you were ashamed of and you hid that from your husband/wife. Would your first instinct be “I’ve got to divorce my partner because I can’t be who I really am?” No, your first instinct would probably be, “Hey honey I’ve not been truthful about something, it’s eating at me, and I’m afraid you’ll leave. But I love you and want to stay together and hope you’ll understand.” It makes no sense to jump straight to divorce and refuse marriage counseling when she’s the one that’s been hiding this the whole time! And, are you going to sit here and act like not being a virgin is the worst thing in the world. The majority of humans are not. He was going to leave her over that? I don’t think so. Most importantly, she said “I’m not fulfilled in our marriage and the life we built together.” Ma’am that says it all. This is not about her being ashamed about her not being a virgin.

@Oneness100 10 месяцев назад

@@TheJgraham12345 I don't hear what questions you're asking her. Ask her who she thinks she really is and why she thinks she needs a divorce over it. She's obviously just throwing out ways to sabotage the relationship/marriage. Let me ask you a question. Do either of your consume drugs or alcohol? If so, on what level? She's obviously not capable of being honest about her feelings and if she's not willing to go through couples or at least individual therapy, then simply call an attorney and get yourself protected as she might be misdirecting you while she's going behind her back. That's also a possibility.

@dcarr-kr7hk Месяц назад

@TheJgraham12345...If he's already wallowing in pornography? It will be no great loss to her. That you can count on.

@chrism2042 10 месяцев назад

Caught my ex with another dude, what a devastating experience. Years later when my real wife's Mom came in from work, her husband of 17 years told her to have a seat and told her he wanted a divorce because he wasn't happy. This was with a woman that literally waited on him every hour of the day they were not working. When I say waited on him, he expected breakfast on the table at 7:00 am before she left for work, expected dinner on the table at 6:00 pm. His clothes had to be washed and ironed every weekend because he refused to pay for dry cleaning. He expected the house to be dusted, vacuumed, and scrubbed every weekend when he was usually playing golf or watching sports. All while she worked a full time job, he done nothing around the house but pay someone to mow the lawn. When I heard he wanted a divorce because he wasn't happy, I said "he has been seeing another woman. Call me crazy but I would put money on it. I would never be a dirtbag like that to a woman nor expect a woman to wait on me, but I am telling you he is seeing someone, why else would he leave a pretty wife, younger than him that waits on him like he is a king because he suckered her into thinking that's what it takes to keep a man happy"? The next day, my wife (his step-daughter) went to his work to find he wasn't there but his car was, so she waited. That evening his girlfriend brought him back to drop him off at his car where he skipped work to be with her for the day. I have a friend that keeps talking about seeing another woman because his wife of 7 years has not allowed him to touch her 6 years. Every time he talks about seeing someone else, I tell him, you need to get a divorce if you are not happy, not wait until you think you found another woman.

@zyzzuschrist3410 10 месяцев назад

Simp take

@chrism2042 10 месяцев назад

@@zyzzuschrist3410 - Who's the simp? When I caught my ex with another dude, I told her to come home that night, get her sh** and get out.

@aladdout9454 10 месяцев назад

You are a good man.

@aladdout9454 10 месяцев назад

@@chrism2042he's the simp. He probably got cucked and simped still and now he's trying hard af to make up for it. Sneaki behaviour.

@sydneydinks 10 месяцев назад

I think you gave your friend good advice...and your poor mother in law, what a horror :(

@rebeccaoprea9917 10 месяцев назад

Confession is not repentance. People want to get things off their chest to make themselves feel better and now you’re stuck with the load .

@Oneness100 10 месяцев назад

confessing is at least a step forward.

@rebeccaoprea9917 10 месяцев назад

@@Oneness100 yes, but not if they’re not willing to change.

@ireneswackyjournals8810 10 месяцев назад

@@rebeccaoprea9917this depends on what you are confessing. Having relationships before marriage is not the same as confessing another an affair during marriage

@MoonFoxASMR 10 месяцев назад

👏👏👏

@saundracohen4032 4 месяца назад

🎯🎯🎯

@stuartlemusic 10 месяцев назад

The dishonesty is a bigger problem than the actual things she is hiding from what I can tell. If you hold onto stuff and don't identify problems with your partner, how are you ever supposed to move forward together.

@Emptytopfloor 10 месяцев назад

There can be no negotiation with Adultery, Abuse, Addiction. The wife probably had suspicions before. She needs to leave.

@danielallan8061 2 месяца назад

She's a liar and probably a cheater. How is she in the right?

@warrensloan3467 10 месяцев назад

He needs to go ahead and start preparing for her to leave, because the idea has already crossed her mind and she’s clearly dealing with more than most, I would also recommend you empty out any joint accounts that you have, and if she wants her half give it to her, but if you just leave it there assuming everything‘s going to be fine, you’ll find yourself one day with an empty house and a $10 balance.

@MrMadaket78 10 месяцев назад

Been there, this is great advice. Also canx the credit cards on any joint accounts.

@user-he6rs8xi7u 10 месяцев назад

*negative balance

@warrensloan3467 10 месяцев назад

@@user-he6rs8xi7u I was being generous, haha

@briskettacos 5 месяцев назад

If you're doing anything financial you need to get a lawyer involved. Don't just drain the bank account.

@terrykaphingst5106 4 месяца назад

Not all women clean out the bank account and take everything in the house.

@allaboutroofing2 10 месяцев назад

I tried to get together with my ex GF of many years. She told me a couple weeks in that everyone, including myself thinks she is so kind and innocent, but thats not who she is at all and that she isn't the person people perceive her as at all and that she is something entirely different, and is infact a mean person. I left that day. I am glad she was honest enough to tell me what she really is. Her parents and I remain friends and they also have no relationship with her despite me never telling them what she told me. Not sure hoe someone becomes self aware of being evil, but she did. Glad she told me.

@sobeliever1638 10 месяцев назад

When someone tells you who they are believe them...good job.

@rustyshackleford6637 10 месяцев назад

What did she mean by evil

@zeldadesantiago6974 10 месяцев назад

How odd that you never knew her like that

@_Tree_of_Life_ 4 месяца назад

Or she's actually so kind, sweet and self effacing that the normal human feelings of frustration she sometimes experienced made her think she was mean and you just missed out on a beautiful relationship with a lovely, albeit slightly anxious, person If she was mean, she'd act mean.

@kathirodden6109 10 месяцев назад

What about her side of the story Delony! Your giving him exactly what he wants to hear

@Petruskinhap972 10 месяцев назад

Poor guy. He sounds so happy that she changed her mind.

@erikaronska1096 10 месяцев назад

I hate to say it, but I feel his honesty about his porn addiction was the nail in the coffin. She has one foot out the door and that just tells her she was never “all that” from the beginning

@blingman78 10 месяцев назад

She was never "all that" because she lied that she had zero bodies.

@alluringbliss4165 10 месяцев назад

She lied about being a virgin.

@dudeorduuude5211 10 месяцев назад

@@alluringbliss4165ha, exactly. They both have pent up sexual stuff that resulted in them lying. If they embraced it with eachother, they could handle their sexual side in a healthier way... together.

@John-du2mq 10 месяцев назад

Well she did lie and that probably exacerbated that feeling.

@rustyshackleford6637 10 месяцев назад

She's been donged

@MrsBee-uo2lc 10 месяцев назад

The big problem in today's society is they think a marriage will work out when it's being dictated by their feelings. That's not how a successful marriage survives. Throughout your lifetime of marriage you're going to have times of being absolutely in love with that person and also feeling like you hate the very fiber of their being. Feelings come and go, if my husband and I did that we would have been divorced three times already. But here we are together 16 years later and We are as happy as can be. Sometimes you just got to step back put your feelings down and wait for things to pass and work on things that are problems. Love is an action and choice not a feeling...

@ireneswackyjournals8810 10 месяцев назад

Think in this case it may actually be guilt that overwhelmed her. If that’s the case, the issue was her overreacting and not telling him the truth. Then again, if he is the type that does not like to hear truths this can be an issue. In this case he was supportive, but some men are not. I think the issue is that people need to date longer and actually build enough trust and knowledge of their partner. People marry and don’t know whom they are marrying in totality. Some it’s due to a lust filled haze, resulting in disappointment when flags were not looked into or analyzed as they occurred resulting. In others it’s not asking or wanting to ask the important questions before or analyzing the person. This can be due to lust or inexperience. So when they marry they don’t really know how their spouse will behave in manners or who their spouse really is. He’s not the guy I married is more like, you didn’t pay attention to his behavior with friends and parents. Also, had she gotten to know him better maybe she would have eventually told the truth before marriage so they could both have an adult conversation and move forward.

@j.davila4523 10 месяцев назад

If only most knew…

@zeldadesantiago6974 10 месяцев назад

Very wise advice because it’s true

@sitka49 10 месяцев назад

It's interesting how most LTM come down to the lowest common denominator? ( And you just hope for more good times than bad.) or the marriages turns into "it's just about the kids". Another example, you can pick them out when eating at restaurant ( Oh yeah! Date night again.) They come in sit down pull out their phone's ( or years ago sit and not say anything to each other, and it just the symptoms' of the problems in the marriage) for the next hour and half - and if they do say 10 or more words to each other it's about kids, work , family, or how they need to to get the leaky roof fixed or they need to get the garage cleaned out. ( or worse case scenario end up in a fight by the end of the night) And their so entrenched into their routine, ( People are creatures of habit or its path least resistance? One thing they can agree on is eating food) trying to do anything else would be as painful as pulling teeth. Me and the wife quit doing date nights yrs ago. Everytime we tried doing something we could never agree on it, it would always seem to hit wall, or it turned into a point contention - it was just easier not to do it , then the stress of trying force it.

@Mrs.TJTaylor 10 месяцев назад

And love changes year to year.

@natasha83196 10 месяцев назад

Jack is a good guy. I hope they get through this valley and come out the other side stronger.

@sarahrobertson634 4 месяца назад

He's pretty oblivious

@TheEblenRealestateTeam 10 месяцев назад

Am I the only one who sees this caller as a little off and not telling the full story? I hate when men act totally blindsided like they are the perfect husband.. something is off... But I think its best he lets her go. She clearly doesn’t want to be with you. He seems to be putting everything thing on HER. NOT really saying anything about him...

@MoonFoxSassy 10 месяцев назад

Exactly. Please take calls with both parties!!!!

@michaelh2282 10 месяцев назад

Oh, I'm pretty sure he felt blindsided. A 30+ y/o virgin male would be pretty clueless about women and he talks to John in an emotionally cold, stoic analytical manner, similar to an engineer.

@MoonFoxSassy 10 месяцев назад

@@michaelh2282 that’s a him problem. Doubtful that she never tried to communicate with him…

@AB-mx1de 10 месяцев назад

Agreed, something is off! He is so unbothered too, his tone is happy and unconcerned almost.

@TheEblenRealestateTeam 10 месяцев назад

@michaelh2282 This society is really forgiven to men and infantizing and given them a benefit of a doubt.. omg she had sexy before she was married.. it makes her a hoe?? But him havinf full fledged porn addiction the whole duration of the marriage.. oh he know what he wants to know about women.. (oh again not his fault and his wife, Because she wasn't a virgin when they got married.. (she is the bad person here??) Listen, I wish her well.. Woman just don't leave her family for no reason.. Guys want to play Innocent and not taking the accountability for what they do.. No, I am not falling for it. Bring the wife, I bet it would all start to make since.

@milkbaby99 10 месяцев назад

Wholesome advice! 🙂👏

@javaskull88 10 месяцев назад

With both of them keeping secrets from the other from Day 1 of their marriage, they never achieved emotional trust and intimacy in the first place. It’s very sad, but I bet it’s more common than we know. I wish they’d go into counseling, both joint and individual, and be really honest with themselves and each other. Get to know each both for real, and maybe their marriage has a chance.

@ineedhoez 10 месяцев назад

Imagine hiding a whole ass addiction and wondering why your marriage is broken. Seems like they both lied about their values. He was a porn addicted virgin and she lied about being a virgin.

@danielallan8061 2 месяца назад

I honestly think her lie is worse. Lying about porn is still bad.

@lav7161 10 месяцев назад

This is rough. I just feel like humans who get forgiven so quickly just decide that they can get away with it again. This dude is too nice. If he stays, it's going to be way to one-sided. What is there to salvage if all 7 years have been a lie?

@greenAbbot 10 месяцев назад

There’s a huge chasm between “I was ashamed to tell you I slept with someone before we met” and “The last 7 years have been a lie”.

@shachede6828 10 месяцев назад

She is too nice too. He has porn addiction and tell his wife. They both need to forgive each other. Marriage is happens like this. If you throw in the towel every time, no marriage will survive.

@randomadviceguy1780 10 месяцев назад

Has all 7 years been a lie or has there been a few lies (that they both felt far to deep of self shame for) for 7 years?

@williamclayton9566 10 месяцев назад

@@shachede6828 "Porn addiction" is BS. It's just normal male drive. If he's not missing work or blowing entire paychecks, because of it, it's not an addiction.

@ChristianOne 9 месяцев назад

@@williamclayton9566😂 If you found out your sexual partner was looking at males in porn daily, getting off to other men's dongs behind your back, keeping it a secret...you saying that wouldn't eat at you at all? 😂😂 Please. Use some of that "male self-control and drive" ya'll brag about toward healthy win/win goals for your relationship. Don't cop out witj LAME excuses. 😂😂

@LauraLParr 10 месяцев назад

Bro, she already grieved this relationship while being in it with you AND possibly, she already has someone. Let her go.

@CRobinsonpk 10 месяцев назад

Sounds just like a buddy of mine these last few years. Wife wanted a divorce suddenly. They were both supposedly virgins before marriage. Didn’t want to do marriage counseling and wanted to move out to “find herself “. Turns out she was banging a coworker and lied until the very end even after she forgot about her iPhone location showing her at the dudes house during the separation every night. She obviously started banging another dude, couldn’t recreate the same thing with her husband but refused to work on it. Oh BTW they have THREE little girls. My buddy is the absolute perfect father and has the heart the size of the sun. The dude dumped her. She’s a single bitter lady now. He’s moved on is about to married to another woman two years after the divorce that actually appreciates him. Be prepared for what’s about to come brother. Protect yourself.

@ireneswackyjournals8810 10 месяцев назад

Not everyone is you, or your buddy. This blanket statement is your bias by the way.

@CRobinsonpk 10 месяцев назад

@@ireneswackyjournals8810 chill. It wasn’t a blanket statement. It was an anecdote. Hence the beginning statement “sounds just like…” A blanket statement would be something like: “every woman that wants a divorce is cheating.” Sounds like you implied a blanket statement. Either you got caught up in the atmosphere of the comments or you’ve got some negative experience with this subject. Either way I hope you have a great day from here forward!

@ireneswackyjournals8810 10 месяцев назад

@@CRobinsonpk apparently a few folks kept claiming she was basically a cheater. That is not always the case, with either sex. Cause women also jump on the bandwagon if he is cheating on me and then the guy had a massive work trauma and just doesn’t communicate it effectively. Sometimes a duck is a duck and sometimes it’s not.

@auemmjee 5 месяцев назад

The second marriage probably won't last either.

@Youdontneedtoknowmyname3-iu1vk 10 месяцев назад

I show my husband who I was from the beginning now after 7 years hes sick of my attitude 😂

@michaelh2282 10 месяцев назад

😂

@Calcifurr 10 месяцев назад

Wow this was one of the best caller moments. Left an impression on me.

@FreeSpirit47 7 месяцев назад

I faced something similar though I didn't lie to the one I was married to. I was saving myself for marriage. I was gang raped , had my virginity stolen from me. It was so traumatic, I stopped eating, couldn't sleep, didn't have a period for several months, was so afraid I was pregnant. It took a long time to work through it. I didn't tell anyone. Was so embarrassed, hurt, ashamed, it hurt too much to talk about it. A few years later, when I met the man I married, he never asked me if I was a virgin. I was so afraid he would ask me, then, I would have to talk about the gang rape, think about it, relive it all over again. We had been married for 3 months; everything was so good. Then, he asked me, random, out of left field, if I had been a virgin when we married. I told him that I didn't want to talk about it. No lies. It was just too painful to talk about. after I worked so hard to recover. He had lied to me; told me he was a virgin when he had actually been with several partners before he met me. He told me he did it because he wanted some "experience". His was voluntary, mine was forced, violent, criminal, left me feeling so broken until I worked through it to recover as much as someone can recover from something so horrible.

@ireefree2024 7 месяцев назад

I feel sorry for you. Hope you had some therapy ❤

@FreeSpirit47 7 месяцев назад

@@ireefree2024 Thank you for your concern. Yes, I did undergo long, painful, arduous therapy. It hurt so deeply to bare my soul to a counselor. It made me a much better person, wife, mother, friend.

@FireSilver25 4 месяца назад

So sorry that happened 😢

@vaska1999 2 месяца назад

I'm sorry he lied to you.

@sitka49 10 месяцев назад

A lot of times when a woman's done their done. They'll go through counselling, ( maybe for the other partners benefit) ,and the other partner will have high hopes of a reconciliation ,but the reality is the wife is just posturing to save gracie and to say to themselves they did everything they could.

@biffm.2806 10 месяцев назад

And then a couple years later they wish they didn’t divorce (at least the couple people close to me wish that).

@sitka49 10 месяцев назад

@@biffm.2806 A lot of times that does happen. But regret is the worst human emotion. If you took another road, you might have fallen off a cliff. Be content.

@norse_cat 10 месяцев назад

He sounds so nice and taken advantage of. I’m concerned about cheating too. Maybe the virginity isn’t the biggest deal after so many years together but the present circumstance is more troubling.

@kingasif9265 10 месяцев назад

Most nice guys get treated like trash.

@TheEblenRealestateTeam 10 месяцев назад

the virginity thing was a petty thing to bring up to me.. to make her look a certain way (he never said when she told him this... he has said nothing self-reflection on what action he could have possessed played... I CALL BS.

@shachede6828 10 месяцев назад

His porn addiction is very troubling

@kingasif9265 10 месяцев назад

@@shachede6828 no her lie is very very troubling

@blodus4521 10 месяцев назад

People are trying to use his addiction to deflect from everything she's doing lol

@Losochill 10 месяцев назад

It’s done! I went through that at 14.

@rebeccaoprea9917 10 месяцев назад

Theres change and then there's growth, change can be bad but growth isn't. And usually when someone changes, it was already in them to begin with, they were just masking.

@bodhisattva2348 10 месяцев назад

How come men NEVER see divorce coming 🤔 😂

@ST-rj8iu 10 месяцев назад

Because they are selfish and don't listen. They only think women should listen to them. Not the other way around.

@Dansyoung 10 месяцев назад

This is becausemen actually meant their marriage vows and can’t comprehend just giving up because there’s another person who is an interesting option.

@alexavasquez1992 10 месяцев назад

@@Dansyoung that's hilarious because men do exactly that as soon as they have extra disposable income - the leaving for a younger model trope is associated with men for a reason

@Dansyoung 10 месяцев назад

@@alexavasquez1992 Yup I’m sure some men do it as well. I guess the same message goes out to you - don’t get married 🤷‍♂️

@daliaa5294 10 месяцев назад

Men are inherently more selfish while women usually sacrifice more. They expect us women to put up with everything

@tacooflove6175 10 месяцев назад

These words are so wishy washy I have no idea what’s she’s upset about and at least him he came right out with it and said his problem. It sounds like they both don’t like their life’s and are now going to build something fun and interesting together.

@BG-mh6pc 10 месяцев назад

I’m in this boat. Its excruciating.

@rhondacrosswhite8048 3 месяца назад

Almost seven years ago I put my partner of 17 years on a plane to go visit his adult children. I never saw or spoke to him again. He sold the house from underneath me and I only corresponded via our lawyers and his son in law. I was literally suicidal at 59 years old with absolutely nothing-not even a car. I survived because if anything happened to me, my dog would have ended up in the animal shelter. I never knew he was such a coward. He never said a word to me. He told his girlfriend plenty but at 78 years old i knew his mind was slipping. I'll be ok but even now I'm not great.

@vaska1999 2 месяца назад

What a betrayal, and what a coward! I'm so sorry you had the misfortune to be married to such a man, and I hope you're getting a little better each passing week and month. God bless you!

@joeriveracomedy 10 месяцев назад

The other guy chose not to leave his wife so the wife in question had no other choice at this point to stick around

@TroyP20 10 месяцев назад

Preach.. her side dude was like naw im good😂😂😂

@catholicfemininity2126 10 месяцев назад

Wow, for some reason I automatically thought "she probably had a history like sleeping around that he didn't have and she lied about it to get him and now doesn't have peace..." As a virgin lady, this is one of my biggest fears... marrying a man who lies about his values or beliefs like virginity just to get with me.

@Amila-ym7ny 7 месяцев назад

Why would that be your thought? Weird asf

@charmle 3 месяца назад

It's hard for them - married sluts, etc al

@KingMercury 10 месяцев назад

This reminds me of the Kubrick movie ‘eyes wide shut’. And the last line of that movie is the advice this situation needs.

@adrian-ck7bi 10 месяцев назад

"We need to f***"?

@auemmjee 5 месяцев назад

That movie was about child trafficking

@ninjaspam2000 4 месяца назад

Once I heard that he found her crying by herself and then told him she was not feeling fully fulfilled in the relationship, the first thing that came to my mind is who is it? Usually situations like this have a trigger, and for them to have been together long enough to have a kid together, the catalyst is usually an attraction that is sparking a desire.

@annbann6 10 месяцев назад

Im reading the comments and find them very interesting. I'll play devil's advocate. I don't think either of their admittances is that big of a deal. Yes, there is dishonesty and both obviously hid these things out of shame. But I just don't think its a marriage breaker. People (esp in religious communities) often feel they have a role to play and the family needs to be wholesome and perfect and that is just not reality sometimes. God made humans very flawed. Neither of their confessions makes them a bad person esp because there was no INTENT to hurt the other person. She had some D before and he watches D lol. They can still be great people and great role models and be close to God and each other. I think they should be relieved to know they both have their "stuff" and they just gotta be truthful about who they are. The idea of "perfection" is a dangerous game. I think it's a shame that they weren't able just to talk about this stuff years ago.

@anthill1510 4 месяца назад

This! Having sex before marriage and watching porn once in a while is only a probelm in religious conservative communities that MAKE it a problem. And than people have all these unnecessary hang-ups and people feel like they need to lie and that`s what`s actually damaging relationships.

@MarinaNic8 10 месяцев назад

Why is nobody talking about how his confession is way worse!! A full on addict, hiding it for YEARS while he did it. Wow, I feel sorry for her that’s not gonna be a fun journey.

@greenAbbot 10 месяцев назад

To me this sounds like a couple who was brought up in an atmosphere of extreme religious guilt, and each felt the other was going to judge them for their natural human behavior. In that environment, “I occasionally have the urge to use porn” can get defined as an addiction because it’s easier to face as a disease than something that’s part of you. I predict that if she can get over pulling away from him because she feels dirty about her past, his energies will get redirected.

@sfappetrupavelandrei 10 месяцев назад

@@greenAbbotPorn is a disease. But in a world where we bring 5 years old kids to drag shows, of course you would think it is something normal.

@Nic27169 10 месяцев назад

@@SarahConnor562⁠They have both been deceitful. Her lie was based on past events and his is based on past and current events. It’s not fair to label hers as major and his as no big deal. Porn use will absolutely negatively affect a marriage in a number of ways. By his own admission, he has been viewing it since he was 12, and if he hasn’t been able to gain control over it, then he would be correct in labeling it an addiction.

@aliparker3 10 месяцев назад

@@SarahConnor562Are you kidding? Familiarize yourself with its obstacles and effects on marriage, family, and connection.

@ineedhoez 10 месяцев назад

@@SarahConnor562porn addiction is not using porn responsibly. By definition...

@triciacooper9317 4 месяца назад

After 16 years, my ex retired from his job, his father died, he said he is unhappy and it was all my fault. He said I better change. Then he started picking fights with me and I wouldn’t take the bait. He actually started a fight with me because he stubbed his toe on a chair leg and he said I should have apologized about it. He was trying to manipulate me to kick him out. He had never complained b4 so I was blindsided. Within one day he rented an apartment, and started seeing a girl from our circle of friends…and told everyone that I kicked him out. So, I’m completely broken, and ruin my reputation. I really do not understand. Why a human would be so cruel to another person. I did everything I could for this man.

@vaska1999 2 месяца назад

He sounds absolutely awful! You should rejoice that a man who asks you to apologize when he accidentally stubs his toe has finally set you free. You're going through some pain right now, but when the dog clears up, you'll realise just how cringe your marriage with that self-centered fool was. Hold your head up, dear lady, and enjoy the sunshine!

@MrMadaket78 10 месяцев назад

I was wanting to tell him to take the opportunity to end the marriage, until he said they had a child together.

@aliparker3 10 месяцев назад

It's simple. She's bored. She shouldn't have married him.

@williamclayton9566 10 месяцев назад

She shouldn't marry ANYONE. She's a drama queen.

@auemmjee 5 месяцев назад

@@williamclayton9566people with addictions shouldn't even be dating

@MusicFreak61594 10 месяцев назад

I loved the advice in the end Dr. John.

@Fiery154 Месяц назад

When staying was worse that BLOWING UP my family I left. If he would have said I’m not leaving my bed, I’m not leaving my house, I would have uprooted my children and our lives and moved away from him. Alcohol drank up the man I loved. I couldn’t take the meanness, property destruction and setting fires (literal fires). I tried to get us help. He thought it helped, bc I stopped complaining to him. I was “nicer.” But I got nothing in return.

@christopherpayne8146 10 месяцев назад

Pretty sure she has some one else.

@f.w.1318 10 месяцев назад

This lady is being led on by another dude probably doing him already, told her lover she leaving her husband so there can be us, her lover said uh no I just want you on the side, so lady went back to husband, and wants to work it out with counseling. According the husband she has had multiple partners in her life, probably misses that part of her life.

@denisehall4818 3 месяца назад

This happens a lot.Many times men don't care if their wives are happy as long as they perform in their roles.They are very surprised when their wives leave. The men start paying attention because now it impacts them.

@karlas9961 5 месяцев назад

I like your advice at the end. I feel like there would be less divorces if the person who was needing, the divorce was the one who left and lost it all. People may mention divorce less and willing to work together if they were in danger of losing it all.

@kschrop 10 месяцев назад

Welcome to 2023. Guy is WAY too soft. I would love to see her social media profiles.

@godknowsimstupid7848 10 месяцев назад

Ill save you the trouble, duck lips and filters lol

@kschrop 10 месяцев назад

@@godknowsimstupid7848 Lol I didn't expect anything less SMH

@carylhalfwassen8555 10 месяцев назад

@@godknowsimstupid7848I am clueless what that means! Not to seem dumb but maybe I am.

@Bunny11344 10 месяцев назад

Why am I picturing some old middle aged Karen with glasses

@Girlgonewise 10 месяцев назад

The person she was leaving him for doesn’t want her…She was just something to do.

@SeanGunz 10 месяцев назад

Yea kinda a weird 180 of not wanting any counseling or any attachment to agreeing to counseling with a word salad explanation

@sugarwaterpurple5280 10 месяцев назад

It would take more than a day for that to come to light.

@timothygibney159 10 месяцев назад

@@SeanGunzmy ex did that a few months before I left her

@n3rdpl0w 10 месяцев назад

People change over the years. You’ll never be the same person 5,10 or 20 years down the road but just bcz you change doesn’t mean you should leave your partner. You said forever

@williamclayton9566 10 месяцев назад

Mostly women change. The procedure that runs in background in her brain that disqualifies men from sleeping with her never stops running, even after marriage. [We know that something like that is there because if there weren't, she would be indiscriminant about who she slept with and every woman that did this had children and grandkids that were outcompeted by the descendants of women that did discriminate. Simple evolutionary pressures. Men that did NOT take every opportunity to screw any and everything that sat down to pee had fewer descendants than those that did.] That's why after 10 years men report having 90+% of the sexual desire for their wives as they did at point of marriage, while women report a drop of anywhere from 50% to 80% after anywhere from 2 years to 10 years. Women find faults in their man. She's hard wired to do so.

@JB-bl6qo 4 месяца назад

@@williamclayton9566you sound delusional 😂😂

@lainasketches6711 4 месяца назад

This man is wonderful…

@princesjasmyn 10 месяцев назад

The dude was prolly ignoring all her complaints and surprise, she wants out. You may have kept her for a little longer but she’ll eventually leave again

@johniii8147 10 месяцев назад

John has been working out a lot

@tacooflove6175 10 месяцев назад

Yup it’s a little tighter on the shoulders and arms yes 💪🏼

@Cloudsofa 10 месяцев назад

He looking gooddd

@johniii8147 10 месяцев назад

@@Cloudsofa He should do a shirtless one

@annbann6 10 месяцев назад

bahahahahaha

@omotayosatuyi252 3 месяца назад

@@johniii8147ayo

@thegiftofgabby5581 10 месяцев назад

Ooooooooooh no she didn’t!!!!

@anneb889 10 месяцев назад

This reminds me of the pina colada song.

@gsquared2394 10 месяцев назад

She is saying “it’s not you, it’s me”

@Kinglore2000 3 месяца назад

In other words, it's him.

@animatedaries6806 10 месяцев назад

Oh yea she been cheating and thought she was gonna run off in the sunset. Chad or Tyrone said nope. Or she doesn’t want to be the bad guy. Run dude.

@catsaresocute650 5 месяцев назад

I mean that's actually something that has been on my mind. I have a friend who seemes to be using that logic. I will tell you that I lie about something substantial and then I won't tell you from as much I understand because I would end the friendship. I find that bizzar in a sense but persume he has trauma previously due to how he acts in general. I am still hear despite you telling me that & I have told him I won't leave. He dosn't feel save telling me as I understand it. So wtf could I do

@omiyinkaogunsegun5012 25 дней назад

His wife told him what was wrong over and over again. Was he listening? Of course not! He chalked it up to her nagging him OR he just tuned her out OR went deaf and dumb on her. She has had enough!! Also, there seems to be more going on than what he is saying publicly.

@noahdeets9965 10 месяцев назад

She’s seeing someone else. This dude seems like he can be walked all over and blame himself lol

@djpuplex 10 месяцев назад

Everything is bigger in Texas even the Simps

@godknowsimstupid7848 10 месяцев назад

@@djpuplex😂

@michaelallen1154 10 месяцев назад

@@djpuplex 🤣

@joshuacorbin221 10 месяцев назад

It can be difficult for some people to grasp the concept that they were rejected by someone important to them. Deal with it dude, accept the fact that you are being abandoned.

@djpuplex 10 месяцев назад

@@joshuacorbin221 Yeah a man calling in looking for sympathy ain't happening. If the genders were reversed Delony would be trashing the husband and the comments section would be loaded with women commenting how much of a scumbag and coward the husband is for wanting out.

@pwstroud 10 месяцев назад

Women are not being honest with themselves I swear. Its hard to feel loved by a man and its hard for men to truly express true love the lack of that makes most women file for divorce but i really think there are signs before

@lilfirerbunny 4 месяца назад

I feel a lot of the people in this comment section don't understand thatnot all women are the same. When you struggle with vulnerability and the fear of abandonment you may love your partner more than life and be so afraid that they will not accept you that your instinct is to run. Not every woman is trapped in a terrible marriage that they actually want out of, some of us are trapped in our own minds and we are destroying ourselves. Our husbands don't need to reject us to make us fear rejection, we had parents or other authority figures do that for us as children. I wish this couple happiness and healing on their new journey!

@SnowFoxParty 10 месяцев назад

You should do a topic on couples who have on again off again relationships and how it works into marriage later on

@auemmjee 5 месяцев назад

And then how it works into divorce later 😂

@kaylacombs6254 10 месяцев назад

She was definitely cheating

@jcherpes 10 месяцев назад

My guess is that she has a boyfriend, or is actively monkey branching. My guess is that after she told her husband she wanted a divorce, the boyfriend (or her limerent object) told her he didn't want to leave his wife (if he's married) or he didn't want her moving in. I feel for this guy, but man, the odds are not in his favor at all. He told her about his porn addiction, now when she leaves she will use that against him.

@lwedel3361 10 месяцев назад

Monkey branching was my first thought.

@penelopesanchez1679 10 месяцев назад

There is more to this story.

@Nevsky777 4 месяца назад

Seven years was the threshold for lifetime spousal support. It was increased to 10 years. I would search the underlying reasons why the woman was so firm in disclosing her intent. I would say YES, I want a divorce.