WOMEN Are To Blame In Relationships with Good Men: FACT! | The Happy Wife School Show Ep. 1

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Some of the more challenging issues I speak to in relationships are:
Why I believe women are the primary cause of all relationship issues. If so, what about men and their responsibilities in a relationship? And why I call myself The Happiness Expert.
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Timestamps:
0:00 Welcome and Introduction
1:44 Special Thanks
2:32 Women are the Primary Cause of Relationship Issues
11:29 The Man's Responsibilities in a Relationship
21:31 Why I Call Myself "The Happiness Expert"
26:58 Questions and Comments

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@thehappywifeschool 2 месяца назад

Video Timestamps: 0:00 Welcome and Introduction 1:44 Special Thanks 2:32 Women are the Primary Cause of Relationship Issues 11:29 The Man's Responsibilities in a Relationship 21:31 Why I Call Myself "The Happiness Expert" 26:58 Questions and Comments

@user-hu5eh1lh9y 10 месяцев назад

I told my ex, “It’s not my job to make you happy! I can do the best that I can, to make an atmosphere that is conducive to love, joy, peace, comfort, etc. but I cannot make you happy. It is your job to make yourself happy.” She didn’t like that and things continued to get worse. She was listening to other women and ended up leaving and divorced me after 8 years of separation. At the divorce mediation, she was pregnant by her new love, yet she was so angry at me. I didn’t understand why. After all, she was supposedly happy. Why still mad at me? That opened my eyes to her attitude of victim hood. Thank you, great teaching.

@DosBear 10 месяцев назад

Those were the very words I used when my last relationship with a woman ended. It is not my responsibility to make anyone happy but that doesn't mean I don't want them to be. They actually don't understand what it means to take a vow which is a promise made for better or worse. They love to exclude the worst and little did I know, after 30 years, the worst was going to end up being me. LMAO

@Vid7872 10 месяцев назад

It seems to be when they get together with other women that the marriage suffers. Historically, a woman's social life was basically her sister-in-laws and cousins and maybe a choice neighbor that the husband approved of. Now, I'm understanding more and more why the husband monitored his wife so much: non-familial influence has no invested interest in the couple staying together.

@kerripendragon4888 10 месяцев назад

@Vid7872 women destroy other women's marriage and few women are smart to know this.

@thrilla72 10 месяцев назад

@@Vid7872Exactly!

@thrilla72 10 месяцев назад

@@Vid7872We got rid of traditions, only to discover exactly why they were put in place.

@larsnelson8431 10 месяцев назад

My soon-to-be-ex wife does not seem to comprehend what she has done to contribute to our marriage problems. She takes no responsibility. There is no willingness to grow or change. She seems to blame me for the relational issues her actions created. She now wants to walk away, so I am letting her.

@johnsawatzky2128 7 месяцев назад

Good for you. Hopefully you don’t have children… for their sake. My parents broke up and it sucked for me. I was 10 ish when it happened. It sucked for me. My mom was toxic at the time. And I had no male figure to learn from. Needless to say. I made many mistakes growing up and in my choice for marriage. I got married before I even knew who I was. Right after receiving a traumatic brain injury. Yeah… I made allot of mistakes. But I have kept my penis in my pants.

@GB-en7ue 5 месяцев назад

Accountability is like kryptonite to women.

@joejones4296 10 месяцев назад

Man divorced after 32 years here. My wife became angrier and angrier over the years. I tried to be patient and make her happy. She would yell at me and hit me and argue about almost everything. She told me when our youngest was 10 that when he graduated high school she would divorce me. And she did. I tried everything I knew to do. Seminars, church counselling, professional counselling. She still divorced me. She told me she did not want a divorce yet hired a maniac lawyer to harass me. I am one year out. I began counselling a year before she filed and am still going weekly. I am still traumitized. Like you said, she never took responsibility for her happiness or her actions. She was/is an entitled victim. I would have done anything to save our marriage. It was impossible. I hope you can reach and help some women before they destroy their lives.

10 месяцев назад

I hope this doesn't come across as victim blaming because that's not my intention, I'm just genuinely curious so I have to ask; since she told you already when your youngest was 10 that she was going to divorce you, why did you keep her around? I mean, I'm not married myself, but I'm in a long term relationship with a good woman so it has the potential to turn into a marriage... but if she told me, _"X years from now, I'm leaving you",_ I'd tell her to get out and stop wasting my time. What would even be the point of saying that besides serving as a manipulation tactic which, in my book, would be a big enough attempt at _negative_ manipulation to warrant a termination of the relationship on its own. Again, I'm sorry if it comes across as victim blaming, I'm just curious about what your thought process at the time was.

@daveshore8671 10 месяцев назад

sounds like a narcissist and you should look at why you stayed with a narcissist, for me it was rooted in my parents treatment of me. There is alot to unpack there. Why did I stay with a woman who put zero effort into connecting with me? Who seemed to get joy out of torturing me? Narcissistic supply is a roller coaster if you are the source, look at it, so you dont repeat it

@justsomeguy1671 10 месяцев назад

@...dude...do you have any idea how bad divorces can get...entire life savings gone, friends gone, perpetual negativity everytime you see each other because of the kids...the list goes on. He is obviously a trooper and decides he'd rather fight for a marriage. A lot can change in 8 years lol idk what to say. Have you ever lived someone? Or is your relationship of convenience....😅

10 месяцев назад

@@justsomeguy1671, so you're saying that it's better to spend 8 years grovelling at a woman's feet, begging her not to divorce you only to then, of course, have her divorce you (since her mind was already made up and she'd checked out of the relationship) than to end it 8 years prior when you're younger and starting over is, at least, _less_ difficult, not to mention you'd still have some pride left? I fail to see the logic in that, really, but since I'm not married myself I guess I'll have to take your word for it. ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

@user-vj2nz6re3j 10 месяцев назад

Same here 32 year marriage nagging bitching not happy sex maybe 10 times a year I showed her love and she did not respect me I don't know if she ever cheated on me and the 30 plus years but she probably did she had girls night out and girl vacation trips to Florida for a week every year she would scream and yell at me on the front porch for all the neighborhood to hear she just did not respect me so I eventually left after my son turned 18

@tracyraven7444 10 месяцев назад

Every female needs to "woman up" and hear this message, it takes guts to take it all on board after years of feminist brain washing, but it's the only way forward if happy relationships and marriages aren't to become a thing of the past ❤️

@thehappywifeschool 10 месяцев назад

🙌

@starguy2718 10 месяцев назад

Too little, too late. The (considerable) damage has already been done.

@tracyraven7444 10 месяцев назад

@@starguy2718 I really hope not

@jwarrior9986 10 месяцев назад

@@tracyraven7444 I mean he is right. You are looking at 30+ years of crazy vitriol from feminists. Even your ardent conservative women hold feminist values at their cores. Christian Conservative women will choose the values of feminism over the values of the bible (Corinthians 7 vs My Body, My Choice). You have to unlearn what you have learned, which is easier said than done. Is it any wonder why today's women seem so unhinged even to other women? We don't get to a place where mother's try to get their sons to "transition" (ie. submit to inhumane medical experimentation in order to become a fake girl) without decades of demonizing men and boys. You aren't turning that around overnight. You aren't going to convince men to come back to the table when you are throwing public temper tantrums if a man so much as glances in your direction. You aren't going to convince a man to risk his life and livelihood so a woman, who can destroy all of that on a whim, can get farther in the workplace. Men are withdrawing because women do not know the definition of "Too Far." It is on you women to change it and men have no faith that you will. In the 90's men were asking "What Do Women Want?" and were actively trying to become that. Now men are asking "Why even bother?" That is where we are. That is why "too little too late" is the current view. That will not change easily.

@bli3366 10 месяцев назад

@@tracyraven7444 Men are already walking away from marriage and relationships in the West, as well as anywhere else feminism has taken hold. Women asked for freedom and men gave it to them; so far they've proved that 99% of women aren't capable of making adults of themselves without men to lead them. They don't pay into taxes what they take out over a lifetime, they don't prepare for retirement well enough to take care of themselves, and they also tend to not reproduce enough to maintain the population which allegedly forces immigration to tick up--something that could also be argued to be something akin to empty nest syndrome, except that they never had children, so they adopt immigrants as well as pets, but expect the rest of the taxpayers to deal with the cost of doing so. So pretty much all of the good men I know are moving out into the countryside and refusing to deal with any female other than placing an order (one or two won't even do that), they go overseas to find a properly-feminine woman in some third-world country where men are still respected and revered as they should be for the work they do, and the women will stay virgins before marriage or keep their body-counts low. Yes, this is all because of the "modern woman" and feminism, but I still hold men ultimately responsible--since men were the ones that tolerated this behavior from women in the first place. It turns out Islam is mostly right about women.

@greenman5506 10 месяцев назад

I teach at a university and you cannot believe how the unhappiest women run everything. Their worst instincts are guiding their behavior, curriculum, power moves, and overall hatred of all things men, which is the very air breathed at university now. The young women attend at their peril. The young men are on eggshells, and stay silent lest they be cancelled in every respect. What a wornderful construct. I am sticking around just to see what will happen and to document the demise due to the modern woman ethos. Keep going....cultural change comes from truth speakers like you....keep it up!

@george1199 3 месяца назад

As a Christian man, I have always believed that it is more important for me to be holy rather than happy. I have a different opinion now, because for the first time, I understand what happiness is; having a healthy relationship with myself, will help me to be holy to my Lord. In fact, my relationship relationship with Him will even get better. Thank you for teaching me that.

@AmessengerofChrist 3 месяца назад

Amen brother. Even joy and peace in Christ which is foundational and long lasting as opposed to happiness which is a temporary state based on a variety of temporal, external factors.

@smokingcrab2290 29 дней назад

When people say "marriage is about your holiness, not your happiness" this is a gaslight. Why is marriage even celebrated if it's not about happiness? If it's not about happiness, why does it even matter who you marry? If all it's about is holiness, then why does the Bible say "better to live alone than with a contentious wife"? If it's all about holiness, then is it really necessary to need marriage? Didn't Paul say that you cannot serve God as well while being married as you could as a single person, because your wife takes up your time and focus? If course marriage is about your happiness AND your holiness. Being holy makes you happy. Doing what's right for one another under the Bibles commands is what makes you happy. And women do not ever do what the Bible states. My wife hates when I bring scripture up to her about respect, submission, and sex. Because she would rather live out the scripture that says "her desire will be to rule over her husband". She hasn't even leaved and cleaved. She's obsessed with her family and what they can provide. She has given into her fears and she has blamed me for the behavior that she has done to provoke me. The more love I gave her the more she emasculates. Everything revolves around her, her desires, her feelings, and her narratives. I'm so tired of taking all of the blame and burden and being the martyr for her immaturity. It didn't start off this way, but gradually she took more and more ground because she was always ready to discard me. And now she very well may destroy us because of her stubbornness and lack of humility. But I need to lead myself and live the life that I want, with or without her. I want to live in my purpose and leave everything behind that's dragging me down, even if it means her. I've never been so lost bro. The things demanded of us men are impossible.

@danielwake2430 10 месяцев назад

I left someone I had a deeply profound relationship with after ten years. It hurt terribly, still hurts. But this thing you're talking about was what happened. There was no way to satiate all of the things she thought would make her happy, and she treated me like the cause of her internal discomfort. I dealt with it, and I tried to help her, but it crossed a line I could not accept without abandoning my sense of self worth and respect, and as painful as it was, I had to leave her with herself. Women have the ability to use their mood as a weapon against us, and it works because we care about how they feel, but for some you can never be enough. I haven't tried to date since. When I am around women now, all I see is knives I need to stay away from. I wish it wasn't like that.

@eujinlee9936 10 месяцев назад

Fuck bro you just perfectly explained what I just recently dealt with. They will go crazy on you because they don’t want to face their internal emotional problems

@SansSentiments 9 месяцев назад

The knives part hits home hard my man. Well put.

@bcarr424 9 месяцев назад

An excellent metaphor. I hope the life you are building for yourself is happy and fulfilling.

@vicevestra 10 месяцев назад

You are the only one I can consider NOT a grifter in this space.... You acknowledge so many things in detail that i've never heard any women acknowledge in such a way.

@Kanyes-alt 10 месяцев назад

Bruh pearl explains the same things it’s sad how people like samantha alexia and even Emily get look at as grifters

@slartibartfast2452 10 месяцев назад

We need the grifters too though. Been in this space since it started in 2001. No one paid attention until the would be grifters got involved. So, like em or not, we need em. Yes, the would be grifters are borrowing without giving credit to the men that first said all these same things. However. All those men borrowed everything they said from someone that came before them. Hell, comedians alone; from Patrice O'Neal to Bill Burr, Bill Hicks and George Carlin don't even get the credit they deserve in this space, let alone all the people they borrowed from in evo psych.

@dwwolf4636 7 месяцев назад

Bettina Arnt, Suzanne Venker, Allison Armstrong.

@jalanG10 10 месяцев назад

My mind is blown.... I can't believe a woman is saying these things... but I'll just say its about time.. and thank you. There are good men in the world, and we're getting wary... and we're getting tired of it to the point of walking away into oblivion en masse... You're right, we can't stick around with this unconscious abuse, and our responsibility is to get wise to it.

@hotdogg8 7 месяцев назад

I wish there was something bigger than just a thumbs up 'like' button.

@HammerofGod777 6 месяцев назад

AMEN SISTER AND WHAT PEOPLE DON'T REALIZE, WE ALL HAVE TO GIVE AN ACCOUNT TO THE LORD WHEN WE ARE FACE TO FACE WITH HIM. WHAT EVER HAPPENED TO "FEAR OF THE LORD?"

@24thCenturyBuff 5 месяцев назад

It's not a new trend, there has been a growing advocacy for men by women over the last few years. It is refreshing!

@anitakalmes9209 Месяц назад

She needs viewers!!!

@snowplow7883 10 месяцев назад

Holding a wife accountable in a healthy way is a fallacy in the shadow of the Duluth Model, no-fault divorce, and family court. If today’s wives don’t turn marriage around, they are dooming their daughters to never be married…

@gilgamecha 9 месяцев назад

And their sons. They really need to think about what's going to happen to their own sons.

@snowplow7883 9 месяцев назад

@@gilgamecha they don’t care about their sons because they don’t love them to begin with

@gilgamecha 9 месяцев назад

@@snowplow7883 wow you are in a bad place. I hope you get better.

@snowplow7883 9 месяцев назад

@@gilgamecha 40% of the children in America are being raised by single mothers… who’s children are statistically most likely to fail in all aspects of adulthood… self-deletion, incarceration, dropping out of school, teen pregnancy, drug abuse, etc. knowingly and willfully setting up your own children to fail is the antithesis of love…

@SoloRenegade 9 месяцев назад

women don't give a crap about their sons.@@gilgamecha

@tonydecentblackman1327 10 месяцев назад

I'm afraid that women are the problem. My friend is a good man who wanted a good family. After having children he became unemployed. Basically, she got angry with him and wanted to destroy him. She lied about violence. She wanted to take the house that he had paid for. He is now in a hostel. Women's narcissistic unrealistic expectations that came from princess programming are the cause of a lot of broken families.

@noapologiesX 10 месяцев назад

So incredibly common. For a man to get married today it definitely negligence to do so.

@edwardelliott5756 10 месяцев назад

Yes, you can’t make someone else happy. I asked my mom one time how she could be happy with her life when we were poor and not eating all that well. She told me happiness is a decision. If you choose to be happy you will be provided you don’t look to others to make it happen.

@longnamenocansayy 9 месяцев назад

in life hardship will come. suffering is optional.

@michaelbaker2552 10 месяцев назад

Wow, you just described my wife and I to a T. We had sex before marriage and she was open for anything. She was very affectionate and full of fun. I realized something had changed the night we got engaged and she seemed, in bed, to be just going through the motions. She seemed to have lost all interest in sex. After we were married sex became more and more infrequent. I was on midnight shift in the beginning and the only night for possible sex was Friday night and, oddly enough, she was always angry for one reason or another that night. One time we went five weeks without sex. I ended up tell her how horny I was. She then said to me the cruelest thing anyone ever said to me: "If you're that horny, go to the bathroom and take care of it yourself." That was probably the longest sleepless night of my life. At that point I could have gone but I take my wedding vows very seriously. It has been a lot of years and I don't know what I can do about it now. She would never take the blame now and would see any suggestions that she bears any responsibility as an attack. That being said, now I finally know what happened and that it was not my fault.

@petert6543 10 месяцев назад

Look up narcissism

@alexanderhamilton8585 10 месяцев назад

Spoiled entitled delusional Literally NOBODY can EVER make them happy. Their fantasy Superman could come to life, and within a week she’d start with the shit-tests and pouting and bullshit. It’s *IMPOSSIBLE* to make them happy. The only possible chance you have is to literally buy a house, move the F out, then after you’re completely out of the house….look them right I. The eye and say “I am the captain of this ship, and You are replaceable”.

10 месяцев назад

Jesus Harold Christ, several _years_ you say? I can understand a couple of weeks because things happen and life gets in the way... even a couple of months if there's some sickness or whatever... but years? That's not ok! I love my girlfriend very much but if we hadn't been having sex for more than a couple of weeks (or, as I said, a couple of months if there were special circumstances) I would talk to her and tell her that although _she_ might feel that she's done with sex, I'm not so one of three things needs to happen. Either we start having sex again, we go our separate ways or we need to open up the relationship on _my_ end. And that last one is only because she's afforded special treatment, normally I don't do open relationships of any kind. Then I would sit down with her and have a discussion about which option she prefers but make it clear that those options are it, and that I personally prefer the first one but that one way or the other, the issue is going to be resolved.

@noapologiesX 10 месяцев назад

Haven't you heard how they put Dr. Jekyll elixer in wedding cake batter? You're story is sadly all too common.

@bcarr424 9 месяцев назад

Sorry to hear this. I was dead bedroom with my ex for almost 3 years, yet she also resented when I would address my needs myself. She would blame me for "replacing her" in the bedroom, but of course had long since abandoned our intimate life. It was a way of placing blame back on me and shaming me for being kind to myself when she wouldn't. The lack of care is evident and you should not feel bad for wanting intimacy in a marriage. Whatever you decide to do remember that you are not a villain for wanting affection and expecting it as a condition of a romantic relationship is not unreasonable.

@rougebaba3887 9 месяцев назад

I have noticed in my own marriage a very strange paradox that I simply could not understand. First, I want to explain that our marriage was more traditional. I was the sole bread winner and she was the primary care giver and home maker. This division was 100% mutual. Neither of us felt forced or manipulated by the other towards this end. We both wanted it. I noticed that when my day was hard and full of difficulties, if I walked in the door and my wife greeted me with happiness, femininity and gratefulness, it instantly cured me! It was like a miracle. It worked every single time, without fail. It didn't matter how bad anything external was, it was all worth it. But, if I had a fantastic day and came home to a bitter wife, my good mood didn't do anything to improve her outlook. In fact, it seemed to exacerbate her bad mood. This paradox was odd... her emotional state had the power to either bring me up, or bring me down, no matter to anything outside of our home that I had experienced. My emotional state could only make a bad mood worse, and in direct proportion to it's opposite! The better my mood to her bad mood, the worse her mood would get!! All kinds of combinations could be explored. But the worst for me was always the let down of coming home happy and happy to be home, only to have her unhappy and getting more unhappy that I was happy. I never kept that happiness for very long. No encouragement from me, no little playfulness, no amount of sympathetic kindness seemed to even make a dent. I suppose just listening to her complaints about her life helped her some.... but it always crashed my emotional state, though id hide it as best I could. After the gripe session was over, silence would prevail. She wouldn't get happy, just not any worse. A sort of emotional equilibrium would set in for her, while my inner mood was overshadowed by utter emptiness and prolonged silence. I would isolate and she didn't seem to care .

@soladeogloria5839 6 месяцев назад

Wow! Profound insights. I certainly can relate to “the little miracle”. Yes, my ex wife could do that for me. Now other women or men connections bring these miracles to bring joy to my life

@rortys.kierkegaard9980 10 месяцев назад

Don’t wait too long, ladies…. some “good guys” are tired of dealing with these abusers

@Harkescreative 3 месяца назад

Some is generous.

@JoseDiaz-rd9fh 3 месяца назад

They are hard to tell apart at the beginning. They all know how to land a man be nice and give great sex. An equal exchange for being taken care of but no. This price is too high to pay for them. They want to be taken care of on their terms. Unfortunately there's nothing in the marriage contract that enforces good behavior on the part of women. There are however plenty of laws regarding what a man must pay post divorce. A woman's obligations are completely voluntary and can stop decades before the marriage ever ends while the spousal support can go as long as the rest of her life. What a f****** joke

@slayer7682 10 месяцев назад

I enjoyed this. I'm a 46-year-old single guy and I'm going to sub to a wife channel. I was married to my high school sweetheart we had a daughter together. But I have been divorced for over 20 years, I have only been in 2 relationships since. I have 0 faith in relationships these days. It's too much of a headache. Too many horrors story's I know about with buddies in relationships. Thats enough to make me stay single. Women, you're too hard to please, in life and in bed. you all expect the man to be mined readers. I don't hate women I just don't want to be in a relationship with you. Most Men can stay single, women you are miserable solo as you get older. Sorry about the rant. I subbed though.

@kerripendragon4888 10 месяцев назад

Women wanting to be pleased have been deceived by Hollywood and feminist nonsense. They forget if that's the case, they have to please men also!!!

@CruceEntertainment 10 месяцев назад

Relationships are a job. If we have a big job already, why would we need another job?? When do we get to go home and just relax after a long day of work??

@slayer7682 10 месяцев назад

@@CruceEntertainment is that what you would call a conundrum? I go to work and come home to have to work at something else. But the job at home is the real headache.

@vitovitale8325 10 месяцев назад

my ex-wife same bullshit she expected me to be a mind reader... she'd hand me this bullshit... If You Really Loved Me then you would already know... give me a frickin break stay strong

@bli3366 10 месяцев назад

The problem is getting an older feminist or even reformed feminist to admit their faults or wrongs. To try to speak up tell the young girls that feminism is a lie and a disease. The one or two I've seen do it have been shut down HARD as soon as they started to tell their stories. It's almost like there's someone or something that is heavily invested in breaking up the families and crushing the natural hopes and dreams and purposes of women.

@thermalreboot 9 месяцев назад

Most men don't "feel like they're letting her down." they're downright being told they're letting her down. I had a girlfriend who didn't like how I walked, she said I walked heavy and it upset her. I was simply walking. Same GF told me she was unhappy because I didn't give her a room in my house, I didn't know that was a thing. Most of the time I was getting in trouble not for what I did, but for the numerous ways I didn't read her mind.

@HammerofGod777 6 месяцев назад

SHE WAS ACTUALLY TRYING TO SEE HOW MUCH AND HOW FAR SHE COULD CONTROL YOU BROTHER.

@thermalreboot 6 месяцев назад

@@HammerofGod777 She controlled me right out of her life.

@soladeogloria5839 6 месяцев назад

I concur, brother. With my ex within the gaslighting she noted that “it wasn’t what you said, but how you said it.” Talk about crazymaking!”

@wchamp170 2 месяца назад

My man, we must have dated the same miserable woman. She told me the same thing about my heavy steps. I gave her her own room. I gave her everything she wanted and it was still never enough and there was always something else. Be glad she's gone

@llorene88 10 месяцев назад

Our stories are very similar and 4 years ago was my red pill moment. I’ve grown and learned so much in that time and my marriage has done a complete 180. I’m so thankful to my husband who stayed and wanted to grow within our marriage.

@Trizzer89 10 месяцев назад

What was the first moment? It almost seems impossible to convert a lot of people

@schustererik83 10 месяцев назад

it was the moment I threatened divorce, I gave her a year to change. to her credit she changed and made things better than they have ever been. I'm her husband, obviously

@noapologiesX 10 месяцев назад

Good for you. And you need to tell as many other women as possible. There is an epidemic, and most women are telling women the exact opposite of what they need to hear.

@videonewsletter 10 месяцев назад

Actually... It's far more accurate to say "Happy Husband, Happy Life," since his happiness is a byproduct and final proof of a supportive, encouraging, and, yes, truly happy wife. Saying it as usual connotes that the wife's demands must be satisfied, so that all can be peaceful: a dysfunctional thought 😊

@kathycoleman4648 10 месяцев назад

If the family is viewed as its own universe, the husband is the sun and all must revolve around him or it will crash and fall out of orbit. Don't want to revolve around a sun? Don't get married.

@joycewatt8289 10 месяцев назад

Happy Husband AND Happy Wife can make for a Happy Life.

@bli3366 10 месяцев назад

True, because I don't believe that any woman can stay happy by herself for an extended period of time like a man can.

@Thinker1985 10 месяцев назад

@bli3366 If you go to feminist threads, they keep claiming that, statistically, lone women are the happiest, followed by married men, followed by single men and finally married women. I don't know if the happy lone women are those who divorced an abusive husband or whether it is all "lone women", including those who never married. Anyway, food for thought. I personally suspect their datasets were tilted towards older generations.

@Thinker1985 10 месяцев назад

I think the real saying should be "Unhappy wife, unhappy life". Essentially, an unhappy wife is pretty sure to make your life a living hell. A happy wife, on the other hand, is not a sufficient condition to make a man happy. To say it is would suggest that men's lives revolve around women. It is not so.

@clint120 10 месяцев назад

unless you are a super strong, confident guy, the ladies frequently will go after you and emasculate you in some form. This happens in a relationship, with platonic friendships, and on the job.

@justsomeguy1671 10 месяцев назад

I know I sound..idk mean or like I'm trying to ruin your values... But in my own life renaming them is helpful. Ladies they are not. B*tch or C*nt or something is better. Mean run through pair bond broken. Literally they aren't good people if they do this. And tell it to their face dude. They might actually respect you if you do. They need to be verbally disciplined

@4SG 10 месяцев назад

This channel will go to the moon if you keep message. If you keep putting out content of this caliber (honest, open and intelligent) you'll hit 100k quite soon.

@thehappywifeschool 10 месяцев назад

I appreciate your comment and support. More honest, open, and intelligent content is to come!

@jasonsherwood7539 10 месяцев назад

Facts. Very refreshing

@narn3904 10 месяцев назад

@@thehappywifeschoolyour subscribers will mostly be men. Women don’t want to hear these messages and men already know most of what you say at some level. You are a brave perceptive lady though.

@bli3366 10 месяцев назад

@@narn3904 Nevertheless; these are the messages that need to be coming from women--because no matter how many men say it, we're all just "misogynist pigs who hate women" at the end of the day. Having a woman being able to say these kinds of things allows a man to point to it and say, "see?" which can sometimes help save the day. But nothing can save a woman hell-bent on her own self-destruction; you can lead the horse to water but you can't make it drink. And we're going to have a ton of left-overs after all of this feminism that's been going around.

@karamlevi 9 месяцев назад

It will be censored and shadow banned. You need to be on multiple platforms now.

@peterhamstra8871 10 месяцев назад

My wife and I have been married for 12 years now. I remember at about 5 years of mariage after having two kids confronting her about ordering me around; I asked her "Do you think I will refuse to do anything that is good for our family or marriage if it is in my power to do it if you simply just ask nicely; Do you think I do not desire your happyness and that I would not happily work to make you happy if you asked me to help you?" For both Husband and Wife, helping the other is helping yourself.

@peterhamstra8871 10 месяцев назад

Thankfully for my wife and myself, neither of us have ever been happier in our marriage than we are now. The main thing I come across these days (outside my church) is that most people have no clue how to have a happy mariage. They approach everything as if it is 50/50 and end up just using eachother.

10 месяцев назад

Ah, but you see, women have now invented the concept of _"emotional labor"_ where they shouldn't even have to _ask_ you to do something, as that's too much work, apparently. As a man, you should just _know_ and spring into action and take care of, whatever it is she wants, because she's so oppressed that she can't be bothered having to tell you that she wants something done. Kind of like royalty in historical times... I guess they were very oppressed too. ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

@gilream 7 месяцев назад

I love reading these comments. So much truth from the male perspective. I was married for 22 years and have two great sons. Been divorced from her for 21 years now and they have been the happiest most fulfilling 21 years I could ever dream of. I thank God every day that I escaped with time to live my best life!

@merpius 8 месяцев назад

I wonder if this is why so many women are simultaneously terrified of of assault on their person and absolutely refuse to carry a gun. If they had a gun they would have to be responsible for what they do with it.

@WatchfulHunter 10 месяцев назад

Good stuff! Keep going! My X refused to accept any responsibility for our relational issues. And blamed me for everything. So balance is vital internally and in relationships. We are doing some things right. Identify those good things to each other to encourage each other. Then each spouse identify their top concern. She disrespects me. He refuses to really listen to me. But instead of blaming, we both work on being kind to each other. If all women emasculate men, men need to stand up to this bullying and confront that. If she refuses to respect him, he needs to get away from this toxic person. Men love peace and quiet. Men do not need women. Women need men. A disrespectful, toxic woman does not deserve a man or kids.

@deirdremorris9234 10 месяцев назад

I dont think anyone really "needs" anyone. As a community, we do depend on each other and ones skills. Adults Give. Children Consume. So relationships are not for those with child like mentality.

@fjockey1 10 месяцев назад

"Men don't need women. Women need men." So much for "strong and independent living my best life."🤣🤣

@bli3366 10 месяцев назад

@@deirdremorris9234 women consume. Women make about 80% of the decisions regarding discretionary income, are leading the credit/debt -crisis, and consume more money out of the tax coffers than they contribute over their lifetimes. Maybe 1-2% of women fall outside of this, but I would still ask you to look at a list of the world's richest women and how they obtained their wealth; it's not even a contest, most of it is through marriage & divorce, with a smaller portion being an heiress, and less than 5-10% actually did anything themselves for that money. And I'd suspect if you actually took a better look at the accounting of those alleged women, you'd probably find somewhere along the lines that the women who 'earned' their money were probably still some kind of 'product' who made a lot more money for some other men or company behind-the-scenes. Women need men because even in today's society where all of this is pushed, those women who "don't need men" still depend on men for basically everything from their food to their car/house repairs, to basically getting anything else done, including all the manufacturing and energy production that happens to "support" themselves. But men are content to go out into the wilderness and build a life for themselves, and to do most anything else that is required for themselves to survive. Women don't do that. Women still need men--they just don't have to date them to get it done for them if they can afford to pay the men to do it.

@gonzo5648 10 месяцев назад

There was a thread in the novel Atlas Shrugged where one of the main characters dealt with the idea that he couldnt make his wife happy. He promised to make her happy when they wed and he failed; it was a revelation to him. Only she could build her happiness. He forged a new attitude regarding how happiness is created. Worth the long read with tons of RP nuggets.

@kathycoleman4648 10 месяцев назад

No one can make another person happy. Hell, people can't reliably make themselves happy. Why? Because like a firefly in a jar, happiness is a quick and fleeting thing, and should not be a goal of consistency. Peace, tranquility, contentment, positivity, and joy can be worked toward. But happiness lasts about as long as the initial fizz when you pop the top on a can of pop. Anyone who expects you to provide that is nuts.

@theoriginalDAL357 10 месяцев назад

@@kathycoleman4648True. That’s because, and this is not a new idea, happiness is not a destination, but a process of thinking and living.

@jwarrior9986 10 месяцев назад

Ever hear the fairytale of the fisherman and his wife? The fisherman was a humble fisherman and all he wanted was to make his wife happy. His wife was not happy because they were poor and she wanted more. One day, the fisherman caught a magic fish. He freed it because it could talk. The fish offered to grant him a wish, but the fisherman, being humble, didn't want anything from him and just wanted to free him. The fisherman went to his wife and told him and she was very upset. She told him to go back and tell the fish she wished for a bigger house. The fisherman complied and the fish granted the wish. The wife was happy, but she couldn't help but feel she could get MORE than a big house. This goes on and on as she demands her husband keep going back and asking for more and more. She wished for a Castle, then she wished to be an Queen, then an Empress, then she asked to be a freaking God and control time itself! All the fisherman ever wanted to do was make his wife happy. This is an old story. Its like people back in the day knew things and weren't idiots. Who could have imagined that a person had a brain before the invention of the smart phone?

@Strider9655 10 месяцев назад

She's not going to change because she has a whole raft of friends telling her she's not the problem and financially now there's every incentive to just give up.

@kyleharr10 7 месяцев назад

It's super sad, I made mistakes in my relationship, but my ex just abandoned me I believe in large part because she had an army of women telling her what she wanted to hear.

@beentheredonethat-z5i 7 дней назад

Misery loves company. If the wife is unhappy, look at the women she is friends with or works with. Probably most of them are divorced or unhappy in their relationships.

@Strider9655 7 дней назад

@@beentheredonethat-z5i Very true, they're all trying to justify their own failures and dodge accountability by bringing more women down with them, they create that misery for others so that "look i'm not the only one this happened to, all men are definitely evil", because if it happens to others then it's not their fault.

@lukenielsen8397 10 месяцев назад

I just wish that my Ex wife could have heard this before she completely destroyed our family... I'm not perfect either, but this is what I was trying to get her to see, without knowing how to put it into words that she'd understand. I have and always will, work on myself. But I did give my "power" to her, and that was my portion of the failure. I just figured, "Well, I'm a man. I have shoulders enough to bear this burden."

@santoparfano1910 10 месяцев назад

Wow...I am impressed. I hope more women hear this message before they all implode their lives.

@SoloRenegade 9 месяцев назад

already too late for most of them.

@matthewstolmeier752 7 месяцев назад

Ya know, I was married for 20 years before she passed away. God rest her soul. Not one day, not one minute did she ever consider telling me what to do or in any other way emasculate me. That attitude would never fly. I can't understand why any man would tolerate that crap from anyone, let alone the woman he chose to be the queen of his kingdom.

@AmessengerofChrist 3 месяца назад

Well said friend.

@lcmd7833 10 месяцев назад

Excellent analysis and advice. How many men are living in quiet desperation, contending with an emotionally abusive and emasculating wife.

@slartibartfast2452 10 месяцев назад

No one can make you happy. That's your own responsibility.

@Wisdom122 2 месяца назад

I am not married, but, I thank you for your courage and great advice about the dark side of women. In my Department in Work, I work with 1 guy and 30 women. I see the dark side and hypocrisy of the women in work every day. No matter how friendly they are, I am very, very careful trusting most of the women I work with .. It has been a real learning experience !!

@wolfsomething 10 месяцев назад

Peterson understands male happiness. You are teaching female happiness.

@logantawhiti55 10 месяцев назад

A lot more men have been subjective to this sort of behavior than you think and it was prevalent through modern day feminism as women started getting educated the scales ⚖️ started tilting in society as men started to leave the teaching sector boys suffered with an increase in teen suicide and then they become the real victim's by default. I love your words of wisdom.keep up the good work.👍❤️

@johnm.sr.7646 10 месяцев назад

Most women today find all those good attributes that you stated BORING because good men pay attention to all the things that KEEP things STABLE and safe for those they care for. Let's face it, life is repetitive and boring but it's only half as boring if both contribute to the effort. Then relax and fun can be a shared break both enjoy and possibly grow the bond between them as earned by cooperation, not the daily goal.

@yoniab4719 10 месяцев назад

i just found ur content and i wanted to thank u for doing this, it really means alot coming from a woman to say this so i can show my female friends

@thehappywifeschool 10 месяцев назад

I appreciate your support :)

@stephenyochim7768 4 дня назад

I'm 64 and our marriage and life together ended more than 4 yrs ago Thank You so much Karyn❤ Four years separated after 35 yrs. She threw me out. I was a victim emasculated wife and narcissist and blamed me for everything. Let herself go made me move out of the bedroom. I am a good man I’ve never cheated. I’ve never laid a hand on her. All I wanted was love and respect after having two kids with her are grown men now.

@EtiainenAbaddon 10 месяцев назад

Even if ex-feminists (misandrists) "wake up" and "change their ways" the damage has already been done. It is far better to have a naturally loving/compassionate/kind hearted woman as a partner than a reformed misandrist that needed coaching/therapy to learn how to be accountable and stop hating men.

@thehappywifeschool 10 месяцев назад

My message is: that finding a naturally loving, compassionate, kind-hearted woman is like finding the needle in a stack of needles. Good luck.

@McInerneyEoin 10 месяцев назад

@@thehappywifeschoolThat is why we have walked away.

@karamlevi 9 месяцев назад

I believe her message is not putting us down, and I respect that immensely. It may be true, that the brain is set… but it’s set in us men too to be overly kind, overly cooperative, overly feminine and show we’re good guys. We too have been trained. I’m not saying it’s like 16:55 50/50. It is 50/50 because unconsciously we’re too nice and not leading / boundaries enough. Every 🍿 🎥 movie trains us 0.0001% and it adds up. Yes you may be right that a reformed masandrists may never reform, but the channel creator here is happiness orientated so she has to drop the male negativty bias or she won’t gain the happiness flows of love and so forth. Some of them can be trusted as much as we trust ourselves to be hard enough and leading enough and hold boundaries.

@stefanmatton8778 9 месяцев назад

@@thehappywifeschooljust because its difficult doesnt mean you have to self-abandon yourself just to have a warm body. A former misandrist/ feminist will NEVER be worth anything to men, reformed or not.

@valdius85 7 месяцев назад

Are you perfect? You write like a person who has never done a mistake.

@annarboriter 10 месяцев назад

I appreciate your optimism but most women have too many incentives to consider that any relationship is worth saving after she gets bored or imagines the greener grass on the other side

@starguy2718 10 месяцев назад

Especially if she knows that she will be given your stuff in Divorce Court.

@BeADad2447 8 месяцев назад

Years ago I realized how special it was to be boys! I also realized how women (even our moms) never treated us like we deserved. I started telling boys that it's special to be boys(good boys) everything you see and eat, especially every comfort women enjoy was built by men(roads, cars, buildings every house etc. Yet look at how women treat men and how awful men are treated by many hateful, psychotic bipolar women. And the divorce laws! They destroy the man and worse they destroy our children. Thank you for the video!.

@varmastiko2908 8 месяцев назад

All through the history men did all the work, women reaped all the benefits. In that sense nothing has changed. The difference is there used to be a sliver of gratitude. And now there is hatred.

@ironspaghett 5 месяцев назад

@@varmastiko2908I am not a feminist, but this is as simple as their biased view on history. Rethink the way you think.

@varmastiko2908 5 месяцев назад

@@ironspaghettMy life has been all about change from the beginning. I can't rethink any more than I do. I've always been rethinking everything I can every single day. That's why I know you should take your own advice because it was a very very long time ago that I thought like you do right now.

@paulbooij7594 10 месяцев назад

Pearl admits to being a red pill entertainer. Her goal is clicks, not the good of men.

@deirdremorris9234 10 месяцев назад

Pearlythings is a no brainer. She isnt married.

@chalsfo 10 месяцев назад

as a man, i cant se the problem - Are you not allowed to talk about things, even thougt yourself is the problem ?

@bakermiaz 10 месяцев назад

it doesn't matter if what she says it true

@jwarrior9986 10 месяцев назад

Better bachelor did a video on Pearl. Is she a grifter...yes. Is it bad for men's spaces? No. It gets the message out there to a wider audience. These ideas will be mainstream within 5 years. You will see mainstream news outlets talking about women trying to mend the fence at some point.

@jamesjonnes 10 месяцев назад

Pearl has done more for the red pill than most youtubers. She has close to 2 million subscribers.

@ryanmckillop2213 8 месяцев назад

After twenty three years of being abused exactly like this, I’ve always known however the last 6 months have been an awakening… It’s a family trait as it’s been noticed from the mother. You are appreciated for this message and validating what has been known for 23 years…

@garyseven4765 8 месяцев назад

It is so refreshing to see a woman actually identify The feminine causes to relationship failure and unhappiness that they experience married or unmarried which leads to the failure of their relationships

@SoloRenegade 9 месяцев назад

3:55 nailed it! As Buddhism teaches, nearly all problems a person faces in life, are SELF-INFLICTED.

@Animatthias 9 месяцев назад

A woman will make her man's faults the focus in order to distract from her own. Everything but utter perfection is a new reason to put him down. The unhappier they are with themselves, the worse this gets.

@iTman20007 7 месяцев назад

Only because I am currently living this exact content can I say thank you for reminding me of the real challenges I'm dealing with. I cannot communicate with a teardrop. Weeks of crying and a combative attitude have me standing on the doorstep thinking should I walk or should I run.

@jerzy2pi 10 месяцев назад

It is because easier path is to blame, break and benefit, then communicate to fix issues

@carlmiller1224 10 месяцев назад

For better of worse For richer or poorer Is sickness and health To love and cherish aren’t just empty words.

@joycewatt8289 10 месяцев назад

They shouldn’t be empty words but unfortunately to many they are. I don’t think MOST people realize the magnitude of those words but it’s part of the covenant that is actually marriage not merely a commitment. “Til death due you part” is to be taken literally.

@carlmiller1224 10 месяцев назад

@@joycewatt8289 exactly. 😢

@kerripendragon4888 10 месяцев назад

It means nothing to most women. Women are selfish in general , like kids and refuse to see their wrong! So why marry???

@gilgamecha 9 месяцев назад

The law and the culture consider them empty words.

@3chunter307 4 месяца назад

Them words and a piece of paper saying your married mean absolutely nothing to a woman.

@Dansyoung 9 месяцев назад

Very powerful message and mirrors what I experienced in my marriage with my ex. I was willing to put in the work, but I was running in an invisible treadmill while she was immasculating me. I could never achieve what she wanted, because it was impossible.

@Animatthias 9 месяцев назад

I can't think of a single relationship where the man isn't forced to conform to the female way of talking. Women may think or say they desire masculine men, but they absolutely can't deal with them. They don't seem to be capable of adapting whatsoever, as they have been told their way was the right way.

@antonioskarasulas7604 9 месяцев назад

Thank you. What you have said is so important. I watch my woman's mind at work and see that even though she is a good woman in every way she can't help but do the things talked about in this video. Her brain is wired to see things a certain way and to respond in particular ways to events and people in her life. It always looks self-destructive. And it is very tiring.

@angelowhite4701 10 месяцев назад

People would ask me how can you take your wife doing this and that to you? How can you stay with a women that may treat you as insignificant? This question was posed as a question about these mens situation in their marriage. I told them "I do not let my wife change my standards on being good and decent. If I do that I will not like myself nor her. Also what will she have to value in me that would prompt her want to change for the better." Nothing. I agree that when you are happy with yourself what use to bother you becomes lite and not a big deal as before. Your content in this video for men and women was top tier. How can a person respect a person who doesn't respect themselves. Spot on for men to respectfully stand up for themselves to their wives. Not as bullies but as a man of decent stature.

@duanekeith7816 11 дней назад

When a person causing the trouble stops causing the trouble -- difficult when it feels so good -- the trouble ceases to be caused.

@croneyr 9 месяцев назад

You are the best. I grew up seeing my mother treat my father like this. Good to see there is a solution.

@martyyoung598 10 месяцев назад

This is the best relationship information I’ve ever heard. You will have many more subscribers in a very short time. I wish you well! The problem for me is that if I show this to my wife it will immediately come back to me as, once again, accusing her (falsely according to her) of being the problem. I really appreciate to have already learned from you that I don’t have to accept her emasculating behavior. Next step, some practical steps on how to do this in practice.

@mgruntman 8 месяцев назад

If you show the video to your wife and she is not open minded about improving her self and the relationship their is no clearer sing it is time to get out if you stay it only because of your own denial.

@Volkbrecht 8 месяцев назад

How to do this, like so many things, isn't complicated. It is tough, though. You have to stick to the boundaries you set. Say no, mean it, and follow through with it. Yes, that will increase the risk of her leaving. But it is the only way in which you can make her respect you. You may well discover that there never was a way of winning. In that case, the sooner you get rid of her, the better. But who knows, with a little luck you manage to open her eyes.

@ppepke70 7 месяцев назад

So True, everything she says in here. My wife who is à REAL NARCISIST!!! watches videos thinking I'm the Narcisist,, yet she is so unhappy and angry ,always pointing at me and saying all the things I'm doing wrong !!!!! Just cant make this stuff up. !!! This message helped me so much. I knew it was not all me. There are women who wake up and see things right and they break the curse of Eve, Eve was told her desire shall be for her husband but he shall rule over you. In Hebrew the desire means the desire to rule over ,,, when the wife wants to rule over the husband it will ALWAYS BE WRONG.

@aaronm.2718 10 месяцев назад

Your perception of "happiness" is 100% spot on and you're the first I've come across that's been able to articulate exactly what it is. Keep it up!

@smoothoperator1134 9 месяцев назад

Thank you for your humility. There are so many who need this message. I’m so happy that your marriage survived

@peterlondon2058 10 месяцев назад

I stumbled upon your post today and you are different. You speak from a place of genuine soul searching and acknowledged truth. I truly thank you for explaining. I felt like the worst man in the world and blamed myself for everything. Thank you for the enlightening truth..

@scottibreiding 7 месяцев назад

you are authentic, sincere, hard-working, honest, and you deserve every bit of your success. you’re helping so many people ❤️ Thank you and congratulations 🎉☺️

@richardbeaudet7718 6 месяцев назад

When you first started sharing and sounded like you were going to cry it brought tears to my eyes, what you're teaching is real, it needs to be shared, so many relationships will be helped, what you're saying is mind-blowing you're putting words to everything I new but couldn't say,

@mraravind1111 10 месяцев назад

I believe that the greater one focuses on giving rather than receiving, the happier one becomes.

@clint120 10 месяцев назад

As long as you’re not giving in

@mraravind1111 10 месяцев назад

@@clint120 There is always a catch.

@Chriskriller 10 месяцев назад

What about when they want you to give what you cannot allow yourself to give? What you say is true, but it doesn’t affect the problem of women’s not taking responsibility for their happiness. If they continue to blame you after you’ve given everything you have to give, and continue to do so, you’re going to get hit by burnout and depression. It’s called placing them on a pedestal for a reason. You have to learn how to establish and enforce healthy boundaries for your own well-being and learn how to prioritize your health day to day while giving her the space and support needed given those boundaries to improve her own mental health. Sometimes we can’t tell that they are an emotional black hole until later, but once we do it’s important to prioritize your own mental health and joy while also attempting to support and encourage them.

@chipsteve 9 месяцев назад

Yes that is very often true & a great spiritual principle to live by - *as long as* you're giving from a place of freedom. Men who are trapped in bad marriages who give-give-give are just trying for the least awful outcome, and that usually doesn't lead to fulfillment or joy - like giving freely is able to provide.

@timrainey4907 6 месяцев назад

You're comments are a breath of fresh air. As a husband, I've been reading the book Love & Respect, which resonates with your exact message. Men need respect, while women need to be loved. When we fulfill our God given destiny in marriage there will be happiness and peace, and love. When you don't, it's utter chaos, sadness, and pain. It doesn't have to be that way. I hate living in the CRAZY-CYCLE...😞😞. THANKS FOR THE GREAT POSTS....

@bswantner2 8 месяцев назад

Society tends to swing too far one direction, and often comes back just as swiftly. Wonderful rational women like you are going to become pivots in society, as financial and emotional burdens hit their thresholds, and necessity presents itself. Thank you for your content.

@gilgamecha 9 месяцев назад

14:00 your honesty about this is heartbreaking. You are a very brave woman. Thank you for doing this.

@lordpetrolhead477 6 месяцев назад

Just watched this and I’m gobsmacked (English expression) by how spot on your words are. Now subscribed to your channel and now off to watch every video you’ve done. Bloody well said Karyn!

@vanessawest1664 7 месяцев назад

Open minded woman would never see this as an attack. It’s actually very eye opening and makes so much sense. Which is all I ever search for or need is ‘whatever makes sense, is what I need to grow’. I can relate to all of this in my relationship with my fiancé. He is such a wonderful man. The type of man who has the qualities you’d hope for your daughter to one day find in someone. I never want to see him upset, angry or hurt. I will always look at myself and I expect him to do so also.. so we can grow and stay together and be happy and like she ^ says be in a dance! I love your videos!

@dailycooper 4 месяца назад

I have one emasculating red flag I want to talk about. Whenever my wife starts speaking about something being wrong in our marriage, with the kids, business I deep down start feeling that something bad is coming. Because whenerver she finds something on the radar that requires improving I know that I will suffer somehow. I'm not talking about the hassle of having to be a part of the solution and work to better something. I'm talking about she dragging me into the blame gane where whatever you do, it is always your fault that something is not working and the consequence is she spiraling out of control: finding a new thing to do, work or run away from her responsibilities. And it's always about her potential and ideas that have been been squashed and disregarded. But in reality, she has no skill or knowledge to do anything benefitial let alone life changing that will better our family.

@DarthCarey 4 месяца назад

What a profoundly wise woman you are. I wish every wife, married to a good man, would listen to this video with an open heart and mind.

@whitetuberose2782 3 месяца назад

Thank you for your wonderful content. So helpful to us married ladies who need an authentic message versus the same old therapy style content. I love my husband and our family and am working to figure out my “downward spiral” behavior that I’ve struggled with for my whole adult life and have searched endlessly to find a solution. Thank you, I’m taking it all in.

@richardanderson-ze3sk 10 месяцев назад

It is a blessing that I found your program. Put my mind at rest.

@emmahowells8334 10 месяцев назад

Both genders have to be the solution after all a relationship is a partnership. I have a good man in my life my husband he's a great person, husband & father. Feminism has a lot to answer for in my opinion, it's not only poisonous towards men, it's poisonous towards women too, that's why I was never drawn towards feminism.

@jorge-7121 10 месяцев назад

Wrong. Relationships are not a partnership,according to God, there is a leader and a helper (Gen 2:18).

@emmahowells8334 10 месяцев назад

@@jorge-7121 Then God is wrong, this is real life and not the bible or the era from when the bible was written. So you & God are wrong.

@jorge-7121 10 месяцев назад

@@emmahowells8334 You dont understand that God is creator of everything ,that is reality. Science studies reality and found big differences between men and women, so there is a natural hiercharchy and traditional marriages do better. You can not say reality is wrong, that's dumb. You can not fight God, you can not fight reality.

@rong4189 10 месяцев назад

New to your channel, surprised at the seemingly low subscriber count, then more surprised to learn that it’s only a month old! Well done and great content, thank you!

@Amgirl03 7 месяцев назад

I appreciate your videos...I took the red pill and have not looked back... I been working on deprogramming myself...( From school, television, family of origin, society, churchianity ECT) My husband and I are both neurodivergent.... But over the years I have had many female friends and female family members that have a hard time with accountability... So I cut ties with them and decided to work on myself and be a best and good friend to my husband first after The Most High😊 I am free indeed and growing by leaps and bonds..no more toxic so more codependency....and it now begins with me. Love and 🫂 to you Karyn😊❤

@nerychristian 7 месяцев назад

The most important thing a woman can do to keep her relationship strong is to talk less. Don't speak unless what you are saying offers some benefit to the other person- whether it be providing encouragement, sharing how much you love and cherish the other person, asking the other person how their day is going, asking the other person if they need help with something, etc.

@KeepingWatch95 7 месяцев назад

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@viponkumar9652 7 месяцев назад

You have a thought provoking different perspective in this talk. Seems nice. Wish I had come across this perspective 20yrs back. Liked your definition of good men. I have started making notes from your talks, to be read and re-read at leisure

@MichaelMowl-kh1pm 10 месяцев назад

I am a good man. (Ephesians 5:25) and I have been blamed for two wives unhappiness and their cheating.

@derfalschejunge 9 месяцев назад

You went through it a second time? You're quite the optimist.

@hoffhomme7106 9 месяцев назад

Absolutely brilliant work Karyn.......You wear U're heart on u're sleeve.....You're so passionate about this problem You describe it to the best way I can relate too....I had 48 years....I was the Good Man as you described.......Long ago I used to say to my Ex....."Stop building wall"s ...Listen to yourself and you don't listen yo me!!" And guess what?? ....."Yea I was accused time and time again being Angry and Abusive".......I wasn't, she interpreted it only though her misguided ways Thankyou Karyn .....Don't stop what u're doing please, very unique Truth's 💘🌹🌺

@duelette Месяц назад

Finally a woman is talking about the men! Thank you so much!

@hectorlugo655 10 месяцев назад

You are a breath of fresh air in helping me communicate to my future wife. I am responsible in being the best man I can for my wife and help her to be my best partner I want and need.

@gthao112 2 месяца назад

Can we please fire all the marriage counselors today and just have you as the only marriage counselor. All women old and young need to hear this. It's unfortunate, but societal norms are destroying good men and they don't deserve any of this punishment. Thanks for your message, it's so good to hear that some women gets it.

@Apbt-rv7zw 8 месяцев назад

Really good stuff, this needs to be said and highlighted to change a dangerous trajectory in society.

@UnexpectedWonder 10 месяцев назад

This is that wifely Wisdom! 👊👊✊✊👏👏👌👌🙏🙏 She's spittin' the Absolute Truth. Nothin' but Facts were spoken. I will say that it's vety important to heal from your Past and understand, especially what happened in relation to your Parents, your Childhood, and your Adolescence.

@downton39 5 месяцев назад

Karen I am so happy I have found your channel. I found it too late for my last relationship but going forward I know what to look for in a woman and to refer her to this channel. 🙏🏽👏🏽👏🏽😁

@ChristnThms 10 месяцев назад

"The grass isn't greener..." This gal doesn't even realize she's admitting to guys that there's no hope. Just walk away. Even in an "enlightened" state, you're never going to have an actual ally. She admits, point blank, that EVEN SHE continues to struggle.

@hieug.rection1920 8 месяцев назад

No one is perfect. She’s making an effort. Means it’s possible and someone who USA ware of their faults can be brought to realize their error. This is also what men have to do from our end. Marriage is supposed to be a man and a woman working together, for each other. For the family.

@ChristnThms 8 месяцев назад

@@hieug.rection1920 I'm going to assume you're earnest in your beliefs. If not... The concept of two people working together is great... except that the guy isn't considered human. Ignore words. Observe the actions. Even when the woman claims to support men, they're not treated as actual people. They're more like dolls that sit quietly until chosen and then only parrot what's in her head. Ask yourself, seriously ask yourself, what is the likelihood that you'll ever have a genuine desire to treat your G.I.Joes as equal to yourself. There's your answer.

@PlanetOfTheApes999 8 месяцев назад

@@ChristnThms Well, when it comes to meeting women on the internet, you're absolutely correct. Finding a decent woman online is incredibly difficult. It's much easier to meet good women in person, but unfortunately, people don't really meet in person anymore. The problem is that the digitalization of society has perverted women's psyches. If people go back to living in the real world, most women will once again see men as people instead of objects.

@canelareina3795 6 месяцев назад

There is hope. Find a unicorn in the US OR Be a passport bro Train your wife from the beginning to behave well. Always maintain a masculine frame.

@ChristnThms 6 месяцев назад

@@canelareina3795 unicorns don't exist, and the passport bros will get the same results if they bring their brides back here.

@ardent9422 10 месяцев назад

Falling madly in love with you and your message! Please keep it up!

@propbender2 5 месяцев назад

Hey Karyn. I found you about a month ago, and I have been dealing with my marriage being "low sex and sexless" for the past 25 of our 52 years together. I now find myself miserable, angry, upset, lonely, addicted, emotional, and if I did not know JESUS as I do I probably would have taken my life 10 years ago when I acquired E.D.. I have been in a intense study of all of this for the past 5 years, and I need to tell you that YOUR CHANNEL and teaching has really opened my eyes. I have shared with my wife about you many times, and she finally sat down with me and watched the first 1/2 of this episode #1 yesterday. She abruptly and angrily stopped watching the moment you mentioned something about the wife controlling by withholding sex and emasculating the husband. I am asking her to watch more of your videos, but so far she is angrily ignoring my requests, but I am not giving up. My question to you is: Do you have a particular episode that you would recommend for her first initial complete viewing? Frankly, as a Christian woman, her mind is quite closed to your teaching in general, as she has also learned to emasculate me via the women's teaching at church. I also love Jesus, but through my studies over the past 5 years regarding my extreme misery and anger over our sexlessness I have now recognized that the subject is Taboo in the Church, causing more hypocrisy by his people. I have thus become more distant from the church, although I will always love God. I only hope and pray that my wife will be open minded enough to recognize that your teaching comes from wisdom about modern relationships, and your teaching has so much to offer, especially in my marriage. Thank you for what you are doing, and God bless you!...

@TheHornet1fan 10 месяцев назад

thank you for your unmistakable integrity and sensitivity, I was very touched by your words.

@smokedawg9371 9 месяцев назад

Your message has given me a new vision. I can’t thank you enough!

@patrickhiggins6726 10 месяцев назад

You are a very honest woman. Respect and regards from France.

@wh6123 10 месяцев назад

@2:00 mark. Thank you for your vulnerability and speaking to your personal experience. I've seen this in a few other videos I've just started subscribed this weekend and I'm glad you don't edit out how connected your heart is to wake women up and allow men to heal. There are a lot of different redpill content and it's refreshing to find someone who feels authentic and genuine. I'm in a 21 year committed relatioinship, 2 years wife continues cheating and unable to get anywhere with reconciliation or divorce. I joined a support group of men who are betrayed or wayward. The stories are almost the same when it comes to reconciliation, it's up to the men (who gather there) to save their families, keep their wives always happy, and the women share no personal accountability or ownership to take the bad with the good when shit hits the fan. Even the social media influncers here who advocate for this say they weep for the the average man who struggles. I'm truly greatful to have someone like you with a sense of humbleness, humility, vulnerability, and integrity as those are counter inituitive things for many women to work on in this space and for you to appear as you.

@wh6123 10 месяцев назад

@ 16:40 "Hey do you want to say that in a different way?" I literally had that disagreement yesterday morning. My wife victimizes herself when I said 'you threw this right in front of me' and she claimed I said 'you threw this in my face.' I asked her would it be the same thing if I spit on the ground in front of you vs I spit in your face? She said yes it's the same thing.

@thehappywifeschool 10 месяцев назад

Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your experience so we can all learn and understand the abuse that happens to good men with emasculating wives.

@1bozina 10 месяцев назад

"I joined a support group of men who are betrayed or wayward." - Would you mind sharing the name of that group? I am a betrayed 57 year old guy struggling to keep my family/marriage together and of course there is pretty much zero support out there for men in my situation... I mean, it's the men who do all the cheating - right? Even the 12 step, self help group like Infidelity Survivors Anonymous has a list of meetings but the majority are for women. I guess it's a double edged sword for us guys: A) Only men cheat, B) It's weakness for men to be hurt... (So none of us share that hurt.) Anyhow, if you could share the name of the group I would appreciate it. Thanks

10 месяцев назад

@@wh6123, oohohoo, if my girlfriend said something that dumb to me, I would give her a practical demonstration of the difference! Now, I'm well aware that spitting on someone else is legally considered assault, so before anyone else does the same, I want to point that out so your legal problems aren't my fault!

@videonewsletter 10 месяцев назад

Thank you for this enlightening live video! Please, one day touch on the subject of the power of using words as cheerleading tools to show appreciation (desire, passion, love, praise, recognition, compliments, admiration, etc) to a husband.

@BobbyDirt 10 месяцев назад

I just about shed a tear with you at the beginning. Well done on the channel. I’m proud of you.

@noapologiesX 10 месяцев назад

Absolutely astounding video. What you are putting out is so completely right on. Thank you for what you are doing. I will share your channel with everyone I know. One quick note. For the sake of helping such a worthy channel, I do believe there are a couple instances in which the word choice could be ever so slightly improved for better clarity. For example, when you say "it is so much easier to get a woman to change" I believe what you are meaning to say is "It is so much easier TO TURN A RELATIONSHIP AROUND by getting the woman to change." The truth is it is far easier to get a man to change. Men are more focused on the problem behavior while women are more focused on how they choose to feel about anyone's response to the problem behavior. This is due in part because women are far more susceptible to validation/feedback and too they are in general higher on trait neuroticism. When taken together this makes it difficult for them to acknowledge any wrong-doing. I'll ask all the husbands out there how many times they heard their wife apologize and in 95+ percent of the cases they will say essentially never. . For more on this subject, see Why Women Don't Apologize : ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-QnMvAZJr2NU.html. Though it is harder for women to change, it IS true that if the woman changes, with a good man, everything changes. And not true in reverse. If the man changes, the relationship remains dysfunctional. The husband can be strong in his frame, and not relinquish his power, but if his wife isn't ready to give it back (and let's be frank, very few are) then be prepared to live in perpetual strife. There is one more, and here I realize I'm being a little picky but again just trying to help your deserving channel. You say the reason that you believe women are the problem "boils down" to "I must see myself as the problem in relationships" 3:46. No doubt this is a good principle for everyone to adopt, and I espouse this all the time in fact. Yet to say the reason "boils down" seems to indicate that is the basis for the claim, which veers a tad from rest of what you rightly point out in your video. Regardless, outstanding work! Please keep it up.

@narcsurvivalist3921 10 месяцев назад

I applaud you for pushing this form of accountability. I am guessing you are getting some hate mail and messages about this. Keep doin that ya doin!! I love your channel and thank you for your support. ❤

@theromihs 2 месяца назад

I've been saying to myself for a long time now that many people are too obsessed about what others think of them, their image, and as a result they invest too little time focusing inwards on themselves.... we can point fingers at social media, but the cause of the issues in my opinion are related more with the fact that most people do not have access to a space where they feel safe and are able to talk about their feelings.

@EyeOfScrutiny 10 месяцев назад

I much appreciate your candor and honesty.

@MrWaterbugdesign 9 месяцев назад

I love a happy wife. What man wouldn't. However a spoiled person cannot ever be happy. Hear so many American women wanting to be spoiled. Next year I'm moving full time to SE Asia. OMG the women there are so happy with just having a family and creating their own family. And that's what I want too, create a family, be a provider. I love providing, but only when appreciated. In the US a man's wealth is a given, taken for granted. That's not any fun for me. Very different in SE Asia. There I can find a young woman who I can show the world. In the US even by age 20 they've experienced a lot. Taking a woman to Europe isn't new to her. In SE Asia it's such a thrill for me to show my partner many new things all the time.