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Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health condition characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. And here I discuss my own personal experience living with narcissistic personality disorder. Including the symptoms and behaviors associated with this disorder, as well as how it has affected my life. I also share some of my coping strategies and how I have been able to manage the disorder, along with helping you understanding your loved ones and their behaviors that may seem almost incomprehensible and potentially hurtful. Hopefully, my channel will provide insight into what it's like to live with narcissistic personality disorder, as well as what it's like for your loved ones. Thank you for watching!
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@Infrared1967 Год назад

Finally, someone really showing us what it looks and feels like to be like this. Thank you for not being a talking, monotone, psychology book.

@m00se40 Год назад

Shading the boy Grande 😂

@TheHornedDiva 10 месяцев назад

Amen to that😂

@RHathemoment 2 месяца назад

👍.

@beaconandguide Год назад

Being wounded creates insane anger at times.

@noonereally4798 Год назад

People can’t show you that they care about you if you pretend to not care about them, they’ll just take that as you wanting them to go away, because their is no other reason why a normal person would do that.

@staciacrick3373 4 месяца назад

One the narcissist believes you love them , they become more abusive because they can’t tolerate emotional intimacy.

@aprilmorgan909 Год назад

They aren't rejecting you, they just can't take any more pain. That doesn't mean they don't still care about you or wish things could be different.

@irene_zantae Год назад

You’re not insane, you’re traumatized. Vulnerability is scary and sometimes it causes stressful, dark and scary thoughts. I can’t imagine what it’s like to be in your mind when you’re triggered but I hope you get some rest and are able to find out what you need to bring you peace…be it a new city to go to or whatever. The journey of knowing your own darkness and doing your best to not spread it to other people is not glamorous or as highly praised as it should be, but its honorable. I hope you feel better.

@davidgafo 11 месяцев назад

Perhaps an Ayahuasca trip

@kimjhanp Год назад

That was the final straw for me being in a relationship with a narcissist when he told me he was better than me. It didn’t matter how many times he apologized after that, how many times he tried to talk it was over. He may think I never cared, which is false I was in love with him, but those words killed the relationship.

@patrickglaser1560 Год назад

Slam that door and don't open again

@itchingbitch Год назад

The one thing that made me go look it up was when he said "I never lie", like he was Jesus. I knew this guy since youth, even met him at a Christian church and could not imagine why or how he could say something so ridiculous? So I looked it up and found out that it is part of the beliefs that "Narci's" have and that led me to realizing what I was up against with this guy. Since I didn't see it in when I dated him in high school and it is nearly 50 years later; Is "Narcissism" something you can develop or maybe groom in oneself? "Pride cometh before a fall" also comes from the Holy Bible.

@itchingbitch Год назад

Hang onto that and recognize the symptoms in any other love-interest you might have ~ before it's too late and you make the same mistake twice, like I have. My self-worth has taken a few hits, but I never let them tear me down permanently, I knew I was somehow better than their tirades/fits said that I was!

@ktwhimsy6946 10 месяцев назад

⁠@@itchingbitchwow, my ex fiancé (thank God we never married) would always say the same… and not just in passing, he constantly talked about “truth” being the most important thing to him, and how he’d NEVER lie because it would create “inaccuracy”- of course what he meant is his opinions are facts & any input or different perspective is a direct attack on him as a person. It also became a blanket excuse for saying awful things to people because “truth hurts” 😳… From what I’ve learned (I’m not an expert) narcissism exists on a spectrum, and at the furthest end is NPD - if the guy you’re referring to is truly disordered, it usually becomes apparent around 20’s, but started as a coping mechanism (likely for trauma/abuse) in early childhood.

@Raul-nv7rr 9 месяцев назад

It IS crazy, Jacob. Don’ t kid yourself. Insult to injury, brooding about shit like that is nuts. Good thing you realize that; you need to seek therapy for your narcissism 😊

@patrickglaser1560 Год назад

No one betrays you unprompted; you insulted them first

@namo4130 4 месяца назад

True. Happened to me. 10 years fucking with my mind , humiliating me and making fun of me. Then, acting liké I hurt him. Crazy stuff.

@maggiepie8810 Год назад

I'm not sure I can be in your life typically means that someone appreciates your apology, but they're not sure that they can trust that you've changed enough to not hurt them again. It's something I (only speaking for myself) would only say to someone that I've genuinely cared about, but that's done something that really broke my trust.

@thetranspersonalalchemist Год назад

You can't continue to care for people that don't show care in return, that's been my experience with narcissists. They tend to get triggered so fast and retaliate that you get broken down and have to shut down. It's hard being on the other end because you can't understand why no matter how open-hearted you are, and no matter how much you try, it's never enough to soften them up. They want your love, but only the most shallow version of it. Part of actual love is not being perfect, discussing difficult things like when we hurt each other, etc. That's what's on offer from a healthy person -actual love for you, including your flaws, but you have to be willing to go against what your instincts are now and try forming new neuropathways. Anyway, keep working on it brother. Everyone has their struggles. I empathize with what you must have been through to develop these patterns and the difficulty of shifting them. We appreciate you trying.

@cc1k435 Год назад

That's the rare part, the trying. Hope he wins out against the darkness someday.

@adrianoavitabile Год назад

You're incredibly right.Very well said!

@pam164 Год назад

You need to get out that house i couldn't stand sharing a house with other people.

@sweetlullaby5156 Год назад

I feel sorry for narcissists because I am aware something happened to them for them to end up like this but the victim mentality will not help; if they can accept the fact that vulnerability and love exists, and that they should acknowledge and be accountable of what they do to people, and with therapy, they would come through this. I pray for everyone's awareness and healing.

@cc1k435 Год назад

I feel that way, too, about the narcissists in my life, but lately that's only landed me in exactly the same place as this guy, having to let go of everything and starting over. And I haven't been dealing it out to anyone else. Narcissism is such a waste to everyone on both sides.

@over-comer Год назад

@@Tailionis I'm going to guess that narc men seem more confident, whereas BPD men seem more needy and emotional. Women love confidence.

@sweetlullaby5156 Год назад

@@Tailionis I was attracted to a toxic person in my life, didn't know anything about narcissism before.. I fell for the love bombing, I thought what he showed me was genuine. It was when I found out that he was already seeing someone else and I saw this video about narcissism that I figured maybe he is a narcissist (it was like a puzzle piece that everything made sense finally). We're not friends, we're not talking anymore, and if there's a circumstance that we would be in the same event/gathering, I would be civil with him. Forgiveness is not about validating him or being bffs with him. It's about recognizing what happened, accepting it, and letting him go because nothing between us was genuine. Narcissists have a disorder.. I bet if they could choose, they would choose not to have that disorder. Nobody wants to be a narc or a victim of a narc. I have that understanding so I pray for their healing so they can't hurt anyone anymore. Yes, I pray, because it would take a miracle for them to recognize the disorder and actually want to change for the better.

@andrewsmith3257 Год назад

Therapy doesn't work for Narcissists. Narcs can't "learn empathy" no more than a psychopath can learn empathy. The only solution is to go No Contact. Everything else is bs. If you put all Narcissists in solitary confinement they would basically wither and die. Until society learns how to do this we will always be ruled over by narcissistic people in the workplace.. and the government

@name5876 Год назад

This whole issue is exaggerated by the lack of understanding. The problem is people get stuck on the very surface of the whole issue. Firstly they assume malice behind their words and actions when their trauma is reacting, not them. Mainstream theories also feed people with this assumption, demonizing them and confusing the already hurt parties. At the same time they depict them as if they were healthy people who are choosing to hurt consciously. So it makes people think they simply have to hold them accountable and they completely ignore the real issue behind it. As a result people get stuck on the surface of the whole problem and keep forcing the accountability on their side and completely ignore the demage on the other side. Which quite understandably makes the other party defensive because they want their demage to be acknowledged too (especially if they are facing a healthy person who's got a great advantage compared to the traumatized one). So they find themselves falsely accused of being malicious, blamed for it and the demage on their side completely ignored. And if they dare to stick to bringing it up, they get even labelled as having a victim mentality. Does it sound fair? I doubt it. So at the end of the day these theories make more harm than good, they make it a neverending spiral. It's baffling they even advise to hurt these people even more. I cannot understand the logic behind hurting a hurt person and expecting improvement. Of course children shouldn't handle the trauma of a grownup, it's a tragedy if they are left alone with it. But two adults can have a different approach and give up the false ideas and expectations.

@Cocobean134 Год назад

You don’t sound insane, but it’s so interesting to hear the counterpoint to the codependent vs narcissist dynamic. I see it from the opposite side where I wanted to let the narc win to prove I wasn’t the bad person they paint me as and prove I care. My focus couldn’t be on the hierarchy because the narc needs to be superior and I don’t because again that would make me “bad” and uncaring in their eyes. The codependent way of thinking is also “insane” and doesn’t make anything better, it just prolongs the relationship without progress.

@MrsGordonFreeman 4 месяца назад

This brought me to tears. It is what I do...I can't possibly be so terrible... I try to show that. Then get hurt so many times and turn off emotionally... Get called stupid...insulted...but I find myself apologizing just to save our family. But I know in my heart it can't keep going on. The cycle is toxic and no place for children.

@Jackied614 Год назад

It's because we wonder if we exist at all if no one is watching.

@redhouse3994 Год назад

I'm basically a Schizoid. I wouldn't say I'm opposed to people knowing me. I'm just kind of indifferent to people in general. I get basically nothing out of interacting with people. Whenever I'm interacting with people my only desire is to get away from them lol (even people I like). I guess it's similar to narcissism because of the lack of a real sense of self, it just expresses itself totally differently. To be a schizoid is to basically be a robot with anhedonia and a rich inner life. I tend to understand/empathize with narcs but they can't really get supply from me so they quickly move on.

@BlackCoffeeee Год назад

Oh man. This was tough to watch. You're replaying one of the millions of inner dialogues I've had over the years. 😢 They say we've no empathy but I can exactly feel the place that you're at in this moment, it's heart-wrenching. I hope things have gained more calm and balance since then. I'm a stranger, but I know how real the struggle for you is. Sending you a virtual hug bro.

@trekv 5 месяцев назад

are u stable now?

@monicabrauer8249 Год назад

I have a lot of anger towards my covert narc ex husband as he was emotionally abusive for years. But when I see what he could have been going through after I left him, I feel more sympathy for him. Thank you for showing us what it’s like to live with NPD❤️

@stelasenna9927 Год назад

God bless you

@tamapajamas Год назад

I now dont hate my dad, but feel sorry for him. Not in a judgy way, but with compassion. This guy is fantastic.

@CanberraProtest-dm6hu Год назад

My narc friend is a great musician. Before I knew he was narcissistic he write a song that goes "Theres nothing you can say or do. I win you lose I win you lose" 😆 I thought it was funny digging at his wife. Now I know it is his daily thoughts. 😆 Your old friends cared

@humanbean1424 Год назад

This video holds a major key in healing yourself. Here in your vulnerable state, help people understand the thought process of someone with NPD. And understand why they do the things they do. How you live and what you do have consequences. If you constantly thinking that people are scheming and manipulating, thats because you yourself do these things. You're just projecting. So hope you realize all the bad that you do, will not go unpunished. Itll affect you in some ways, some how. The moment when you focus on your own intentions, and be real with yourself, is the day how people feel about you becomes secular. Remember, you cant control what others do or say. But you can control how you are and what you do. If you live a decent life and are good to your love ones, how people think about you shouldnt matter because you know the truth. The moment when your truth is more important than others perceptions, is the day when youre less of a narcissist.the

@ImpulsoCreativo9322 Год назад

Exactly. This.

@jazmingomez2011 Год назад

This is how my ex was, and you just need to heal past traumas and learn to love yourself, no one is perfect give yourself grace and forgive others, only then you can have peace and our own sins can be forgiven. You must have been wounded and built layers of personality to protect that young version of yourself and now You don't Know who you are.

@jacobreich937 Год назад

I said this is a very narcissistic way, I don't feel your pain I really feel empathy, but everything you say matches exactly with how I experience my life and I'm in a strangely similar situation, and it's absolutely brutal. Your content is a fantastic mix between refreshing and honest and not overly cruel to a disorder that we are not responsible for. I struggle with this idea a lot, there's no island to ship us off too and I don't think we should all be taken out back and shot, so that leaves us with just doing our best to get better. No matter what you're not going to be wrong about everything, some of your frustrations are valid and most likely some of them aren't, keep breathing and finding healthy ways to deal with an unhealthy situation, thank you for taking the time to help everybody else heal a little bit even when you're in pain.

@Tyboogiewoogie 9 месяцев назад

Years have gone by and Iam now realizing this narcissism shit is from a person who was never feeling themselves for long enough in childhood to understand they need to strive for self esteem

@ArghMatey Год назад

I feel you’re just experiencing the grief of a breakup and the friends who also betrayed you. Grief +PTSD mixed together can make ya feel crappy & cray cray

@over-comer Год назад

Yep. Just went through it. I couldn't believe what I had become. Took some serious work to break free.

@foodlover8708 Год назад

If I had a breakup and my friends also betrayed me I would feel frustrated, angry and depressed with or without PTSD. You shouldn't feel this way about yourself, you are just going through a hard time.

@llglalu Год назад

Life is not fear. Treat your emotions like you treat you career or something you care about, art, sport, etc.

@mowthpeece1 Год назад

Denying someone hurt you is not strength. Strength is being able to admit you were hurt because you cared about them. But not anymore. Now there is air where you used to be. They lost the real deal. The loss is completely theirs. And don't expect anything from people, you'll never be disappointed again.

@CN-dv9nj Год назад

Your therapy and self work is visible and commendable. How many diagnosed NPD's do I know that would film themselves being less than perfect in public on purpose? Not many but you are one of them that has trusted the process you are trusting it right now making this video, see that?. We never get over wanting the love of and the relationship of a balanced caring family of origin . How many people do I know that suddenly get that love and belonging after parents that won't? None. Keep going, you are on the highway that leads to faith in what you trust. Okay? You are right where you need to be moving toward healing, working it out. You're allowed to go for healthiest self love possible, keep working it !

@beatasol4447 Год назад

That's beatiful and encouraging, what you wrote.

@CN-dv9nj Год назад

@@beatasol4447 it’s truth. The work it took to process obtaining such courage is done a small chip at a time smaller than one day at a time, it’s in moments of Working one small chip moments at a time not expecting the whole all at once of all troubling thoughts that are actually not our own thought they are the thoughts abusers tricked us to think before we had words, when all we had was perception. When one perceived false whole thought falls away, it’s bc we worked it off, it can’t come back and re-stick. We’ve done away with what an old belief that those abusers used to make us feel as bad as they do about us being smart wanting to give and receive love. We find directions w a skilled therapist to reconnect to our own self that is anticipating being freed from the imposed process of self defamation as taught by abusive people. I think that The beautiful is seeing the outcomes the results of the work. This video is the picture of growth of defiance to all that hate actually that undoing the abuse is being done. They are furious undoing of their intent is not just a potential it’s being done, it’s possible. They dread the day their child is not immersed in self loathing like they were taught. Gained here clearly is 100% pure courage, courage and self acceptance of whatever it takes to FEEL in acknowledgment of our human-ness as a thought being. We are what we think. Sometimes perfectly doing is all wrongly imposed into our thoughts to be the criteria of deserving love. The correctly nurtured thought won’t come from that family, it will come from one’s own fact of well thought out aligned to facts not aligned to damages. Aligned to healing not to loops of resubmitting to the abuses. I see into the level of mental torture it is to not know wtf they found unlovable wth they betrayed the child and pushed unlovable seeds. I see the resistance to accept the fact there’s not one thing you can do to change them to right thinking. I see it reasonable that revenge is always torturing from just below the surface our own self bc there’s no revenge good enough a human can inflict for doing this to your life. That revenge is pure protection at this time. As pieces add upon the courage stack fear will still come presenting at times but it won’t be fear of self love or fear of facts or fear of taking up courage. This video shows that. I’d say congratulations J.

@tiagozortea Год назад

You keep mentioning that you did so much for other people, but are you sure they want that? My mom is deeply narcisist, one of the things she does that isolates her is that she is SO OVER THE TOP with anything. You can't ask or even comment anything near her. For example once I casually mentioned I was craving chocolate, later that day she texts me the picture of a chocolate cake she made for me, I kid you not it looked like a fucking marriage cake, it was enourmous. I hate when she does these things because I know she is just waiting to rub on my face "everything she did for me". I wish I could just hangout with my mom and have normal conversations, but instead the whole conversation is her fishing for something she can do so she can later manipulate me and control me through guilt.

@KerryLeighBrett Год назад

Finally I am over the narc

@xpel7024 Год назад

I suffer from narcissism and I feel like I can relate to you truly and that is a weird feeling tho

@light6274 Год назад

If you can’t tell someone the truth then you can’t be happy. Like if my man would say like o know I have a personality disorder and ask me for my love and devotion I would totally be there for him and be so happy we could be there together through it all. Because I actually am totally in love with the man he is that he can’t show me

@sweetlullaby5156 Год назад

I hope you and the people around you have a good therapist; everyone needs to heal. I think you need to heal too before you go into a relationship.

@superanxietychick7035 Год назад

Living in your head 24/7 is poison. I can't remember if you tried DBT or not, but I do know it's very helpful for us with PDs, same as exposure therapy. Over the course of 7years of exposure therapy I have noticed that it's still scary to stand on the ledge, that will probably never go away. But for me, days/weeks/months of anxiety is now reduced to minutes maybe an hour tops. Jacob, I wish for you that you can one day be this open and honest with your partner, pee into the wind!!!

@kanderson772 Год назад

Thank you for this. My mom is a brilliant , brilliant woman who is a clinically diagnosed narcissist with bipolar. She quit all treatment and therapy when i was 7, and began self medicating with alcohol. She used the full force of her incredible intellect to try to destroy 7 year old me. I don't have a relationship with her at all at 37. I'm trying to understand her better.

@bugatti296 Год назад

She used ALL of that on a 7yo? We’re in the days of Noah.

@kanderson772 Год назад

@@bugatti296 it sounds like hyperbole, but it's true. I had a Harvard grad PhD who spoke 6 languages getting tore up on champagne every night and thinking up new ways to make me feel like shit. She was an amazing mom for the first 6 years of my life. From 7 to 12, it was a hall of mirrors nightmare that ended with her putting a loaded gun to my head. I got to go live with my dad after that one, thank fuck

@name5876 Год назад

@@kanderson772 She probably quit treatments because what mainstream psychology thinks of narcissists is bs. She needed real treatment, but it's not even on the horizon.

@adammcallister9675 Год назад

Maybe bother. I can tell you from my own experience it’s a lot of work with little relief or payoff. For me the deeper you go the worse you feel because you just keep giving them more space in your head. You are not responsible for them or understanding them. Understanding my parents made it harder to move on because I had to iron fist that door shut to have my own life. Be careful. Do not let that process be another instance of them controlling you remotely.

@kanderson772 Год назад

@@adammcallister9675 I understand what you're saying. She's getting old and it's been ten years since we've spoken. She doesn't even know she's a grandmother now. I just want to understand, or try to, how her head works now

@Mechanically_Speaking Год назад

You have to stop telling yourself you arent good enough. Bekieve jt or not, us normis get in our heads like that too

@CanberraProtest-dm6hu Год назад

I hear a massive super sensitivity of the fear of being rejected obviously from your past experiences. It's normal for everyone but in your case very likely indescribably more so intense. These are the times to allow the feeling and don't judge. Just breath and feel and allow it to be. Like holding a crying baby. Let it know its safe and you are here now and nothing will harm you. In time these feeling will reduce in intensity. ⭐️

@onepilltwopillredpillbluepill Год назад

Trauma response. I've had the same thoughts and I'm not NPD. The vindictive part is something to focus on releasing. Good luck on your journey.

@harmonyvaneaton4101 Год назад

I really appreciate your honesty. It helps so much.

@tansz8092 Год назад

I'm so sorry you're hurting.❤

@sharonchepkorir3571 Год назад

Me too, so sorry.

@drlarrymitchell Год назад

Not sure I've got enough popcorn in the house for this one...

@ageves8487 Год назад

Nervous system activation from past trauma can cause everything to become more alarming than it should be, on overdrive, no off switch. Idk if you read these, but brain spotting has been shown to be a very helpful therapy that can help you find which direction you tend to look in when your body is in a crisis state, so you can look in an area where it is more "safe", when it arises, and with a practitioner, you can help yourself process old memories that have been stored in the body and keeps you stuck in the past. Also, The Body Keeps the Score is a fantastic book on how the body remembers trauma, and ways to approach it that may help ease and understand the reasons you're stuck, or at least make it easier. Hope this helps, take care.

@VisceralGravitas Год назад

This feels like the Narcissist's empty schizoid core (theory). Or due to the loss of self-esteem juice and environmental stresses, you've regressed to paranoid-schizoid mode in Melanie Klein Object Relations model. And that paranoia ends up over-detecting agency, and overseeing connections and links to try to make sense of the world. There might also be some time distortion and light psychosis state going on, remembering fragments of memories and feeling like it's happening right now, and others are all bad, or all good. It is quite fascinating to see this raw unfiltered vulnerable state. I admire the disclosure, and hope this part can be integrated into your larger personality in the future; then there might be less chance of regressing back to this level of extreme.

@sweet2sourr Год назад

Yes, this reminds me of my own episode. I believe in the schizoid core at least for me having BPD.

@VisceralGravitas Год назад

@@sweet2sourr This also feels a bit like secondary psychopath territory. And this regressive mode feels similar to DW Winnicott's theory of an instinctual Destructive Drive of a lost true self, a sorta expansion of Freud's Death Drive Thanatos. But neurotic norms of society push active silencing, denying and exiling of this natural aggressive instinct in humans; making it very unfriendly for schizoid expression, and then writing up a whole mental illness landscape, often to just stigmatize a wide swath of normal human expression.

@auroradiamondheart8920 Год назад

Now that is true authenticity. That's a breakthrough imo

@adambrockway4184 Год назад

It wasn't that you weren't good enough. You actually did the right thing by reaching out to them. They just may be too hurt, or maybe don't feel that they are capable of trusting you or the words. You must understand that if you are communicating that you are making the efforts to change and you are showing them you are changing through consistent actions then you are doing what is in your control. If they do not believe you at that point or are feeling the aforementioned emotions, then it is them and the past that are the problems. It is not the current version of you. At that point it is perfectly acceptable to release the feeling of not being good enough, the worthlessness feelings (mixed in with the simultaneous defense of grandiosity) and the self hatred. It isn't warranted. You held yourself accountable, you are making changes and you have reached out. You have executed the things you need to do. You can feel proud of that even if they don't have the intended response you are looking for from the other party. At that point, it's about their inability to accept and grow, not about you being enough.

@lumpyspacecadet Год назад

I'm so sorry all of this is happening to you, Jacob! You really do understand how your own mind works and that's so incredible. I wish you had better people in your life who could understand you and help you regulate your self-esteem. I think you're really cool and handsome, so please don't feel so horrible. I'd give you a big hug if I could! I hope this self-esteem juice has helped, even if just a smidge. :D

@leeannflynn7213 Год назад

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate how real you are.

@zivelizabeth2727 Год назад

Hi, Jacob! I discovered something when I was looking for the definition of the word “emotion”, that may interest you. 1. Emotions are divided into passions, sentiments and affections. 2. Then I looked up synonyms to affects. Main Entry: affect Parts of Speech: verb Definition: influence, affect emotionally Synonyms: disturb, upset, influence, involve, interest, touch, alter, change, regard, inspire, perturb, relate, prevail, move, impress, transform, induce, sway, modify, impinge, stir, overcome, act on 3. Then I looked up: to affect. Main Entry: affect Parts of Speech: verb Definition: pretend, imitate Synonyms: feign, bluff, assume, adopt, contrive, act, simulate, fake, counterfeit, sham, put on, take on, playact, aspire to, do a bit, lay it on thick, make out like, put up a front When what affects our mind and becomes strong “emotions”, is categorized as a bluff, fake, put on, assumed… and so on, there is no doubt that overwhelming and very difficult “moods”, those more extreme unnatural categorized as affects, are not coming from the person experiencing them directly, but indirectly by supernatural forces. (When disappointments escalates to selfhate, anger… ) How to get rid of “the influencer”, AFTER being diagnosed, I don’t know, as you somehow have “accepted” their company so to speak. If what I am writing true, you can investigate by writing down what affects are showing up instead of react on them maybe? The more often you become "a useless vessel" they will leave you alone more and more. It may not be a coincident that the psychiatric history tells that they stopped casting out demons around 1500 - about the same time they open doll-houses/mental institutions, and began to earn money on affections.

@meaghenstandlee6644 5 месяцев назад

Now I see why my ex drinks bc he hates this town thinks everyone knows he’s a loser and can’t hear or see someone who truly tried loving him but I get it now! It’s like he’s blind and deaf to good words and intentions and tears hisself apart and is disgusted it’s honestly heartbreaking now I know I can’t reach him in the level of hell he’s in it’s self made prison

@dominicandrews903 Год назад

How amazing it is for you to be so open like this. All of these thoughts that you're having are genuine and authentic (although misguided). Not only are you seeing the world through your own eyes in moments like this, you are be entirely self critical AND sharing your inner problems with millions of strangers on the internet. No matter how tortured your inner-self is, you are fighting hard against your pathology to connect with your inner-self, truly understand yourself and even to share yourself without a mask. If that's not healing, I don't know what is. Obviously you are feeling terrible at the moment. But try to look at the bright side which is that at least you are experiencing life authentically. I hope you manage to feel better about all the people that 'wronged you'. You are an inspiration and it's not because you're special or talented it's because you're sharing your true self as much as you can and that's something all of us with narc traits can aspire to❤

@yanamclaughlin1644 Год назад

Brooo the social ostracism you dealt with during your late childhood awkward phase is breaking in. Ignore everyone telling you 'youre not insane' 'it's not narcissism' you're in emotional hell I know what it feels like it's like having a torture device twisting your nervous system into crazy shapes and you've been tied to the train of your mind and it's dragging you over the rails at like 80 mph. I scoffed at recorded affirmations forever but finally couldn't take it anymore and recently decided to try them. I recommend giving it a shot dude. Play quietly some on safety, anxiety, worry etc. Also "You Are" affirmations can be more effective than "I Am" affirmations for the external validation focused. Also I hope the people who weight shamed you when you were a kid wake up with all that panic energy transferred back to them.

@brookerutherford6249 Год назад

Saying nothing is more powerful

@susannooyen9845 Год назад

You just put it out there, uncensored and real. In this video I don't see any narcissism, I just see the same pain I often experience and the crap that keeps me up at night sometimes. My experience is that pretty much everyone is self centered and unreliable. People drive me crazy when they don't keep their word and my trust level goes from zero to minus zero. I find that I can only trust my pets because people suck!

@user-hs9sw8ld8c Год назад

The more we relize how much other people dont think about us the better off you are

@dc3561 Год назад

Ok so I want to address what you said towards the end about forgiveness and hatred and not being good enough. I've posted on your discord but I'm going to say it here too except in a different way so maybe it'll help you understand. My brother and mother malignantly abused me as a child (lots of physical abuse, bloody injuries, broken bones and all). I don't hate my brother. I hate what my mother made him into. I recognize that who my brother is, actually isn't how he presents now. He's behaving like this to cover who he is deep down. He's my older brother by only 2 years so I've known him effectively his whole life and I've seen the best of him and the worst of him from the unedited behind the scenes perspective. Although I forgive my brother, I'm not ready to have my brother back in my life yet because I don't have the resiliency yet to handle how he lashes out. He reacts physically to me, whether it's subconscious or not, he menaces me. He invalidates me, he insults me, and he scapegoats me. It's not that I hate him or that he's not a good enough brother. I'm just too vulnerable to his kinds of attacks and honestly, I'm just scared of him. I love him but I'm scared of him.

@valptn4334 Год назад

Good morning from Brazil! I've watched many of your videos over the time and I want to say that I really admire your effort in demonstrating your thoughts and exposing yourself in moments of anxiety and anger. I am diagnosed with BPD, with narcissistic traits and I can clearly see the difference in our thinking by watching your videos! I think the biggest difference I notice is that your initial thought is to understand others and then when you see this vulnerability you instantly shift back to defend your ego and the narcissistic side .. while mine is just the opposite: first I think about me, my ego and what's best for me and then I stop, reflect and understand the others side! Anyway, we all fight for our mental health in different areas! Congratulations for your videos!

@user-kp6ud7ht4z 11 месяцев назад

HOLY FUCK YOU ARE A GOD-SEND! thank you man, from the bottom to the top of my heart, thank you so much. you have no idea how much you're helping and spearheading the destigmatization of NPD... on second thought, you do have an idea! truly amazing narcissist right here, i will try my absolute best to teach other "NTs" to truly understand NPD without the demonization of it. i don't know you, but i truly believe that you are a great person. keep helping everyone heal bro

@T.O__ Год назад

I feel most of what you said so much. I have BPD but I think I might have some Narcissistic traits. I have these kind of episodes a lot and I don’t know what to do against it. I always explain it to my therapist as “feeling like going insane” but I don’t think that’s specific enough. I hate when I feel like this and I just hate everybody around me and feel like everyone betrayed me.

@margaritagomez3490 Год назад

That’s the problem, when you show someone you don’t care it’s cruel , because you do…..my narc pushes me away probably for what you are saying. I’m not chasing him, cause I feel him pulling away. I’m not one to beg”. And it seems like that’s exactly how you narcissist feel wanted…… Very confusing to us too 😢 Never got intimate, can’t help but feel if I had that would have been a worse feeling for me when he pushes me away…….we have to do what’s best for us too, but it’s not that we don’t care or we don’t love you. It’s so eexhausting, and draining to our souls”. Literally.

@MrsGordonFreeman 4 месяца назад

I never realized til I'm reading this and listening to him about being chased that that is what my husband wanted. He kept saying "why couldn't you just show me love" and it confused me because I had just been screamed at and called names. So I'm supposed to be the punching bag that hugs you and says it's fine?? I have tired. I don't like being pushed away.

@Claire90409 Год назад

I wonder if the feeling that you've done so much for someone and being upset that it went to shit is because of grandiosity? I noticed my partner would want excessive praise and pats on the back for things he had done, and I was grateful and showed it. But I also wonder if he felt I didn't realise what an *effort* it was for him to do those things. And also he didn't realise that it doesn't matter how many nice things you've done, some really bad, hurtful behaviour will override it. Because the partner thinks 'how can someone so lovely,kind, helpful etc also be this hurtful, vindictive person?' It's confusing. But I appreciate there's an intense inner battle and it is hard to do and be kind when you feel terrible inside. It is an extra effort. I think it's amazing that you're being vulnerable and open. It can only lead to growth in the end and us all understanding (and empathising with) each other more. I hope you feel better today.

@cassidytowers3848 Год назад

You don’t know how you feel- that’s why you rely on others responses. You’re subconsciously flipping the script so you can deflect responsibility- you have no identity without access to another’s individuality

@cherrydarlingxoxo Год назад

“Now I’m at a point where I don’t trust a damn soul.”I just read this earlier today, in a group about c-ptsd. “ In her 1992 book "Trauma and Recovery," which (I think) first distinguished between "simple" PTSD and complex PTSD, Judith Herman focused on two groups: abused women and Vietnam veterans. Each group found that their experiences were dismissed -- as imagined, or as unimportant -- by their ostensible peer groups, and that they themselves were dismissed and shunned by them. "In every encounter, basic trust is in question. To the released prisoner, there is only one story: the story of atrocity. And there are only a limited number of roles: one can be a perpetrator, a passive witness, an ally, or a rescuer. Every new or old relationship is approached with the implicit question: Which side are you on? The victim's greatest contempt is often reserved, not for the perpetrator, but for the passive bystander." In his two books about Complex PTSD in Vietnam Veterans (1994, 2002), Jonathan Shay talks about vets who felt (1) betrayed by the people they had trusted to support them (for example, by giving them firearms that jammed easily during firefights - early M16s in 1965-66) and (2) abandoned by the people they had trusted to look out for them (for example, by doing nothing when the shit hit the fan). The subtitle of his first book, "Achilles in Vietnam," was: "Combat Trauma and the Undoing of Character." In fact, he defines "complex PTSD" as: "simple PTSD plus the destruction of the capacity for social trust."

@YvonneMobley-uq1tl 3 месяца назад

It is the most absurd, delusional, nonsensical, self-destructive, obsessive, illogical, childlike thought patterns I could never imagine. The pettiness of having to THINK that you must win at any costs proves that you have squandered away the most precious gift of all, TIME. you can never win anything if you are unable to make that distinction.

@stacymess2015 9 дней назад

You faced a tremendous fear... this is the most vulnerable video of brain health I've watch. I lost my brother to suicide on my birthday (2019). Im confident prior to any knowledge of your existence...I know he struggled with NPD & PTSD. I truly feel I understand him in his final months of life now. By no means am I saying that's your path, I just felt this video in my soul. He & I were opposites, or so I thought. I, the empath. You have empath traits or you wouldn't be capable of feeling what you are in this video. Anger is sadness' cousin. Its easier to get angry & vengeful because it creates certainty in the brain. Those whose struggle with uncertainty use angry to boost confidence. Everyone needs certainty. And everyone needs uncertainty of life would be predictable 100% of the time. Humans seek variety & predictably. Its just what order of significance we place them in. Tony Robbins is pretty damn amazing at explaining the 6 basic human needs. You may find in his materials on youtube, your more "normal" than your mind leads you to believe. Your brain is trained to make you survive, not be happy. You can work out of survival mode & you have what it takes. Thank you for your content. 5 years I've been searching for answers about my brother (and bf of 10 years who definitely has NPD undiagnosed) you give tremendous insight & through your vulnerability (massive strength btw) help heal others. Thats empath stuff dude! Vibe on that!

@danielaspitz3052 Год назад

I understand your anger, though I don't understand the reasons for it. I developed CPTSD from my mother, a covert Narc and always ended up with men who aren't able to commit. At a young age I totally freaked out due to the fear of loss in relationships, but as I said, I've been with men who behaved in ways that got me insecure. My father is a grandiose Narc and beat my brother and me for "educational reasons", my brother became a Narc and my siblings as well, but I was the only one constantly freaking out, destroying interior and even attacking an Ex physically. I got out of my former toxic environment, chose à partner I would have never chosen before and healed, no anger, no depression. I'm an HSP and I was able to take humiliation to an inhumane extent, I never felt like having to show off because my father did and I hated it. I don't know which advice to give you, but I started getting along better at a certain point in my life when I just thought : FCK IT! And I totally question myself and I accept when others don't like me and I don't blame anyone. I also never felt like wanting revenge. I suppose, it's a combination of upbringing and personality, I wouldn't know how to get there if I had to learn certain things and unlearn others.

@bpuarmn1057 Год назад

I hope you are ok. I’m a big fan of moving and rebuilding. There’s a huge world out there of people. You are never alone on Earth.

@noonereally4798 Год назад

I know there aren’t really any known meds to help with npd, but anxiety /paranoia can be reduced with good sleep, good diet, a lack of drinking and smoking, and with GABA, Studies have shown that people with NPD suffer from extremely high cortisol for some reason, this could be why they’re always on edge, GABA binds to cortisol receptors in the body and reduces stress, maybe that could help your symptoms.

@rockybalboa4593 Год назад

My boy Jacob posting later now. I almost felt he abandoned us lol. I’m going through a crisis too man. Think I’m going to be emailing you soon because I would like to talk

@isobelle.London Год назад

Jacob it will be okay ❤

@morelocd 28 дней назад

Thank you J, your videos helped me to heal more than Therapy. To see that narc are not just evil but trying to survive.

@sqinisekomajolq5547 Год назад

❤ I'm sorry you feel Insane right now. Please talk to a therapist or counsellor because you are going through a tough period. Paranoia is just a feeling. Talk to these people so you can know what they feel about you and watch what they do toward you. ❤. Those things are facts and protect from overwhelming paranoia. You will get through this rough period. I am praying for Jesus Christ to give you strength. ❤️❤️. Thank you for sharing your feelings with us. ❤️. If they humiliate you they are not worth your time. Relationships are suppose to be compassionate. Forgive them when they reject you some people mean no harm by rejecting. ❤ Keep reaching out to people for help when you need it. ❤.

@user-kcrpine 11 месяцев назад

Insane is certainly the intellectually honest way to describe it. Wow…

@katarinakovrlija3372 Год назад

The paranoia is fucking REAL. And then when you come out of it a little bit and sort of "normalize" again you are like wtf how could I think that, I was so crazy???? But when you're in it it feels absolutely TRUE. I think the only thing that helps is putting off the final "call" of whether you will act on these thoughts and believe them until you feel somewhat more regulated. When you put it off and focus on other things and then you come back to it after a while the answer usually feels at least a bit more apparent than before. And black/white thinking is a bitch. Because you said either I'm a crazy narcissist or I'm right and they weren't loyal to me. The truth is probably somewhere in the middle. They probably did do hurtful things to you that you magnified and made them mean something else by creating all these stories around it to justify your emotional reaction because you can't possibly be this mad if they didn't do something HORRIBLE??? But they probably did care and love you even if you don't believe it fully. Just my opinion and no judgment here because I relate a lot to what you're going through but I've learned not to make any moves or "theories" about people and myself in those states because I regret it 99% of the time later...

@dogtrainingmexico Год назад

Will say it again, it may be time to move to another city. What is keeping you there? If you like Michigan and have friends there, that could work...

@cynicalafflictional1725 Год назад

Ahh! Learned helplessness! It affects both narcissists, empaths, abusers and victims. It will usually accompany the playing the victim tactic.

@cynicalafflictional1725 Год назад

Ego is the enemy of personal growth.

@foodlover8708 Год назад

I also kind of relate of lettings people think you don't care but you actually do. Sometimes i get into fights with my friends, I go home and cry so much then wherever I meet them, I act like I didn't care at all or they don't mean anything to me, I think its our ego 😂

@jenniehallmark-platero2325 Год назад

It is better to let go and pray for them to have all the things so that you get the same in return! Self-love means you don't look externally for someone to love you like you want you give yourself that first and others will respect that to you. God bless you for being truthful and showing us that staying angry because of being hurt is not a good coping method

@MrsGordonFreeman 4 месяца назад

I don't know what video it's from where you were discussing having a constructed personality (it was being referenced in one of nerd city's videos), but it really resonated with me. I could see the pain there. I just wanted to say, that we all have constructed personalities. It is the ego self and until someone learns how to shed it completely to embrace the person we are meant to be, we are all simply self identified by our memories, environment, people around us, things learned, embraced, or conditioned to be to survive. We're all human and it doesn't make you a bad person. It just makes you a person. We are all flawed but none more or less deserving of love and acceptance. Every person has a talent and unique gift to offer the world. Thank you for being strong enough to speak about this very difficult topic. I feel like if my husband was truly honest with himself... He'd be saying a lot of the same things.

@isabelleboulay2651 Год назад

um... take your meds or change them?! I've seen narcissism up close and multiple personalities owning it. You're living in your head only... no emotions involved so maybe your mind is taking up all the space. imbalanced.... looks painful, really. If all your supply is gone, you may be correct, you're collapsing. You said it though, if you don't value anyone, they will eventually leave. Now from what I understand, you may try to hoover some back or start all over somewhere else. Thanks for letting everyone observe your thoughts and processes. Just know that people can't help but leave for self-preservation any more than all the mental gymnastics you're going through. To each their own human nature. get some rest....

@Julia-2709 Год назад

I can totally relate to the whole freaking out when someone is outside of your room. I only feel completely relaxed when I am totally alone in my house otherwise I am always slightly on edge it is so annoying.

@LoveEndures7 5 месяцев назад

Thank u for being vulnerable. U explained your feelings in a way that I can have compassion for the ex. U are enough.

@TheHornedDiva 10 месяцев назад

This is hands down, some of the most relatable shit i have ever heard on RU-vid by far. Sadly but not too sad actually. Its exhausting beyond fuck all. Been binge watching and you haven't annoyed me yet or said anything to turn me off which is what i usually do whilst listening to the so called experts. Hope youre feeling good today and thanks. Forgive my typos, typing on a tablet...😂

@arcoirissonhos9384 7 месяцев назад

Jacob😢,eu sinto muita compaixão🥺😔, depois que comecei a entender atravez da sua lente como é difícil pra vcs também ser assim, narcisista nos traz muita dor😔,mais entendi também que vcs também carregam dores😢,quero que você saiba Jacob que nós amamos você 🫵🏼 ,e que você nos mostrando o outro lado, vemos que vcs não são monstros e sim pessoas com transtorno de personalidade narcisista,não se sinta só 😢,seus seguidores e inscritos sabemos que você é NARCISISTA e amamos você com todo nosso coração ❤️🤗, obrigada por ser transparente ,muitas dores vão embora com suas explicações , você é luz Jacob🌟✨, você é luz✨✨✨✨✨beijos do Brasil 🇧🇷🤗

@Prometheuspredator Год назад

You do realize being shipped of to an island with all narcissists that malignant narcissists will be there also stalking prey.

@HeavyJ318 Год назад

I admire anyone who can acknowledge their own faults & abusive nature, how damaging it is to others and is willing and striving to change. However, the self aware Narcissist who purposely continues the cycle of abuse I consider absolutely deplorable. What they do to people is just so evil it is beyond description for me, beyond what I see as possible for humans beings to be like. I cannot truly articulate it. Anyone who has had an experience with a malignant or vindictive narcissist will understand. The extent of their planning and scheming they go to in order to destroy other people and they pleasure they gain from it is pure evil. I consider them the next level down from serial child killers and molesters, they would probably do that if they were certain they could get away with it. They are literally evil.

@lss74 8 месяцев назад

Thank you Jacob. ❤

@larissacabrera2641 Год назад

I'm loving your channel, it's the first channel I find interesting from another country, you are very smart, it would be nice if we lived in the same country, I feel like we would be great friends, please never stop posting!

@itchingbitch Год назад

Narcissists are great actors and you can almost feel sorry for them, but the shit that they caused me to my own mental health. . .

@itchingbitch Год назад

I'm sorry "nameless" I can't hurt for you, I've learned the hard way with a mother and 2 men who've torn me apart. You ARE pathetic though, so please climb out of your "me"-ness and start trying to feel what "others" might feel. LEARN how to be empathetic. Order some books about it, or get The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman and read that. Good luck to you and may GOD bless you to have the wisdom you need. Amen! Written with sincerity from Miss T.

@RoxaneKamenski Год назад

You're a sweetheart I am a victim of narcissist abuse for 10 year n you're awesome I've been on this healing journey for my soul please continue keeping it Real ❤

@yohami Год назад

Thanks for sharing man.

@KimPossible666 9 месяцев назад

Thank you for these videos that help shed some light on an illness that is otherwise not known at all. I've been struggling with these issues all my life and recently got diagnosed with a borderline & a high comorbidity to NPD & ASPD since i've lost my friends, my partner and my parents threatened to put me out on the streets and i had to resign to a mental health hospital. I hope you will continue to share your life and helping to give people insight on such a complex disorder that is barely understood.

@guidancefromcolandra Год назад

You are so fucking brave for sharing this. ❤

@peachypossum30 Год назад

I thought so much about Kody Brown and the way he carrys on w Christine so much watching this.

@lizzygrant02 10 месяцев назад

i don’t have npd, but i’m diagnosed bipolar and you’re my inner thoughts spoken somehow. i love how raw you are, it’s truly addicting

@marijakalesnykaite Год назад

I feel meme potential: "You didn't affect me at all" *takes a sip of whiskey* Applicable to absolutely everybody.

@loserchan2360 Год назад

I always love when you upload tbh your just so amazing as a person and as a person who struggles with comorbid BPD and NPD I truly appreciate your channel and the views and information you provide to others

@pomeapple Год назад

I needed this. Thankyou ❤

@indiefilminternational Год назад

Even so-called “empaths” struggle with the primitive part of our brains that drives survival "Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal." - Albert Camus

@valinscia Год назад

The intro sounded like a flight attendant preparing us for take off then shifted into turbulence with “Im in a mood” 😅 ! Love your transparency and thankful when you share your thoughts 💭

@briannall7527 3 месяца назад

I agree, narcissists are insane !!!!!

@ElisangelaLeon Год назад

Te entendo perfeitamente. Me sinto Exatamente assim.. 😢😢😢 mesmo nunca terem me dado um diagnóstico

@BloodNAshez 6 месяцев назад

This is exactly what my ex is going through, like to a T. He makes me feel like I don’t matter but I know in truth I was one of the most significant people to ever care for him. It’s bizarre how similar you are.