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the high context japanese culture is almost like javanese culture. you say everyrhing indirectly. one day my chinese indo manager scolded me: "u hv to say it how can they know, they can read ur mind?" am a mix javanese-manadonese so am not that indirect but apparently my reservation can frustate a chinese indo (who are usually more direct) 😂😂😂 i forgot why i did that but i gueas i was thinking i will say it but not right here right now, i kinda take it slow, u know like lets sit at lunch and talk abt it informally first 😁 well anyway... was just feeling funny as i remember this. oh and i had 3 japanese friends when i studiwd in the netherlands. got very close with 1 of them, am okay with her, we get along so well. in a certain point japanese can be more firm than javanese.
I never heard a more genuine advice about what Japanese universities to apply for. Thank you! Since I was planning to apply to some mid japanese universities but I guess I’ll try only Ivy League ones
Can you make a video on how to get a cabin crew job in Japanese airlines for foreigners. I'm from Bangladesh and Willing to get a job in Japan as a cabin crew.
Sure everyone has a different idea about how to live life. Humans like to have strong opinions. But at the end of the day, respect helps everyone get along without fighting.
My 5'7 friend who went there said there are a good amount of guys taller than him there, but the girls were shorter than him even in their thick af platform shoes.
Two things. I think Ruth Benedict based her research mostly on information provided by one Japanese American informant. So a grain of salt is advisable. The other one is: sin is a christian concept, Catholicism is one branch of christianity, US was and still is overwhelmingly more Protestant than Catholic.
I came across this video randomly and I love the advices that you’re giving these women. You’re not sugarcoating anything and giving them a really good realistic view of human and Japanese psychology and mentality.
A lot of people, especially Australians and English people born after the 70s are very honne. I was raised "traditionally" by an English father. At least for the middle and upper classes, the english are very tatemae based. I have been told I'm two-faced by my fellow Australians, and I find our Australian honesty very confusing. If I'm honest with you, you're upset with me, so I prefer being polite and "two faced." I'll take my british stuffiness over oversharing and "stiff upper lip" over throwing thoughts and opinions around without thinking of others. Boundaries are nice. I think I get why so many Japanese people, even those who hate tatemae, still have it. The english version is less extreme, though. Maybe a happy balance between the two is preferable?
Great information, but I have to respectfully disagree with you about changing yourself to get a cheater back. I can be the best girlfriend, boyfriend, or spouse in the whole wide world, but a person who is inclined to cheat would **always** cheat on me regardless of how great I am. They were never really mine to begin with (and never will be) and they completely shattered my trust, so there’s nothing of substance left to fight for. What’s the point of wasting time and degrading myself trying to keep them? I’ll just cut my losses and leave, thank you very much! 😂
I highly appreciate your touching on this interesting topic (no pun intended), as I have recently undergone a cultural clash regarding it. My close, male Japanese friend, whom I (an American woman) have been speaking to on the Internet for *seven* years, finally came to visit me in the U.S. for the first time last April. I tried to be as hospitable as possible, taking great care to respect his personal space and not make him feel uncomfortable. *Then* disaster struck. I was driving us around my town sightseeing and decided to stop at my parents’ to go to the bathroom. I asked my friend if he was ok with going in their house and saying “hi” to them because I felt bad about leaving him alone in the car. He enthusiastically said he was fine with visiting, so we had a nice, 5-minute chat with my mother. While we were saying goodbye and going out the door, Mom unexpectedly reached out and *grabbed* the guy, hugging him like he was her long-lost son! Of course, he froze. I was *horrified* because I didn’t want him to feel weird or her feelings to be hurt if he recoiled, but I couldn’t say or do anything because she is 80 years old. 😓 After we left, I awkwardly laughed and apologized to him about it twice, but he just laughed too and kept saying he was okay and “liked hugs.” I’m not sure if I believe him or not due to tatemae obscuration, but I’ll just take his word for it. 😅🤣
In the U.S., we also associate patriotism and displays of our flag as being overly right wing and signs of someone being a terrible person. It’s interesting to hear of the same perspective coming from another country.
Hello, My name is Kat 😊. Thank you so much for this video! I've got some questions for you. I hope you can answer some of them...: Could you make a video about "how Japanese man want to be treated by their girlfriend"? So what is essential for Japanese man to have the relationship work out?... How does a relationship work for them? I've had the impression a relationship in Japan is often more a hanging on, than trying to make it a nice living. Japanese men often prefer their work over their relationship, right? Isn't that super complicated for the girlfriend?... How does it work out then?... Thank you so much for all your videos! You help me a lot to understand Japanese culture better! My regards 😊
I kiss my husband every morning before He going to work, and when I 'need it' just say to him casually. Don't mean to be aggressive, but I just like to communicate it clearly. Just saying.
the way you seat in your chair while talking to your audience is some how disrespectful and may be understood as arrogance in some cultures, i really like your topics but if u care add more audience make a sense of respect in your body language, thank u
Multiple questions. If there are over 180,000 religions in Japan, yet not many followers (according to stats), what is there to worry about, how powerful can they really be? Do you think Japanese people lie about not following a religion? Is “shinto” even classed as a an actual “religion” to Japanese people? Or is it more of a general belief that is accepted amongst all?
Are you ethically Japanese? I thought that wasn’t common? Hair removal might work. I’m nearly half Native American, and I have no chest hair or beard. I once got bullied for having a pre-pubescent chest. lol
@@orvos1459 no, i am austrian, just confirming that a strong beard is a nuissance. You didnt get bullied because of hairs, you got bullied because some people where brought up low and didnt improve until this point.
When my Japanese boyfriend said ' I really like you but let's break up' . I asked him why, he said my mind to him is heavy for him, it's better for him to have lighter relationship .I can make that as he wants but he said I don't need to adjust , he seems really like me but why I don't get the answer. I told him to tell me that " I don't like you and I don't want you" He can't say it because he said it's not his true mind. I'm confused. I really like him , I don't know what to do. I want to keep this relationship. My question is is that normal that Japanese man can't handle that showing so much affections to them
And he said he has project to do with his full attention and can't make our relationship priority. I understand that and I never asked for to do that. He is software engineer and I'm gaijinn. Can someone help me please.
there is some overlap between shyness and what you are describing. Often shy people care too much about what other people think of them, they are too self consious. So perhaps Japan as a culture is a bit more shy than other countries because you have a collective care about what everyone thinks of you.
