Submissive Wife: The Secret to a Happy Marriage? 

There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; each one is special. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've realized that there's always a way to solve problems. Five years ago, my wife and I were almost getting divorced because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to sort things out. It was a difficult time, but we got through it.

I wish you would make a video about the impact that these women have on their sons. Not only are the husbands getting emasculated by their wives, but sons are also suffering the consequences of seeing their parents' relationship dynamics. I grew up with a mom who emasculated my dad. Every day she always found new things to criticize, or new things to complain about. My mom would criticize the way my dad sat, the way he ate, the way he dressed. Living with her was like walking on eggshells. I never felt at ease around her. If she didn't like something, she didn't hesitate to express her displeasure. She wanted to have complete control over everything that happened in our home. I never saw her initiate physical affection with my father. Not even a hug or a kiss. My dad was always treating her really well and never lost an opportunity to express how much he loved her. Yet she never reciprocated. I still remember one day when I was a boy, my mom was going off on her usual tirades. Then she turned to me and said "When you grow up, promise me you won't be like your father". As you can imagine, this really tarnished the way I saw my father. And it left me without a father figure to emulate. I assumed that my dad was not someone I should emulate or respect. Maybe that is why I never married. I was always afraid that my marriage would end up like theirs. Sexless, joyless, roommates. Even my sisters took after my mother. Even though I was the eldest son, my sisters always talked down to me, and rarely ever showed me any respect. As a result of these dynamics, I grew up to be a very timid and passive man. Always afraid to express himself and waiting to see if my mom approved of something, before doing it.

As a wife of 27 years to an amazing man. I am so happy we implemented these three rules into our marriage. I have no regrets in my husband's leadership. This wisdom has increased our intimacy and trust in each other. It has brought out the best in each of us.

I’m a husband and I support this message.

Your channel woke my wife of almost 10 years up. You say everything I’ve ever said, but when she started hearing it from you an other woman, she did a complete 180, apologized for not actually listening to me, just hearing me over the years. She said she took it as me being controlling and never saw it from my perspective and she started to think what if I was treating her that way. To be honest, a lot of it was her mom, because she got between us a lot and was filling her head with things telling her I just wanted a slave and all of that. After she had her little awakening, she broke down in tears, and became the most loving, intimate, and tentative person. And mind you, she was never a bad person, or bad partner, but had some really bad habits that were getting in the way of our marriage being more than what we had. She started binge watching everything on your channel. We have actual conversations again, she’s open, talks to me about how she’s feeling, the bedroom is more active than I could have ever fantasized about, literally 8-9 times a week, she’s initiating more than half the time. She actually considers the outcome of things before she acts and asks me if it crosses boundaries or is disrespectful. Your series on emasculation hit her extremely hard and she felt like the most cruel and heartless witch. She sat in my lap, cried and cried and cried, and promised to never make me feel like that again and promised from that point on she was going to be the best wife she could possibly be in every way, and she has been in the most authentic and genuine way. She helps around the house again, cooks with me. It’s to the point that she literally will not go anywhere without me and we actually work together now, same days and schedule. She somehow convinced her boss and his wife to let me work there, and they love us both. She said she wanted to make up for lost time and still be with me, even if we’re at work focusing on other tasks, she just wants to know I’m close by. There’s just so much that has changed in so many amazing ways. It’s almost like she had a newfound appreciation, love, and respect for me. Almost like it changed her perspective and she finally saw me for who I really was after looking back over the years and seeing I never lied once, I was always up front and honest, I was 100% consistent with everything I’ve ever said and done, no matter what, I never stop keeping up my end of the marriage just as I vowed to. She said looking back and seeing I wasn’t what her mom or jealous friends said I was, she found me extremely attractive and irresistible again, started telling me she never realized how much of an amazing man I really was. She got of birth control too, and she said after being off for 2-3 months and her hormones changing, she started finding things attractive about me she never noticed before and that she feels the birth control had a part to play with things too, and when she was on it she had virtually no sex drive, and now she’s like a feral animal with me in bed. She even said being off of it has actually made sex enjoyable in ways she never experienced and she said that she feels so much mire feminine and comfortable with herself, and that her mental health is better, since she’s been off, she’s lost a lot of weight and her exercise routine hasn’t changed, but she’s actually a lot drop weight now. She talks about how being off it made her more confident with herself, she feels like her again, and other issues she was having for years stopped when she got off BC. And it’s all stuff she chose to do on her own. I had already learned there was nothing I could really do. I came across your channel, and truthfully had nothing left to lose. I showed her. Surprisingly, she didn’t take any offense and was more than open minded. It was that or walk away. I made no demands, requests. I just made a playlist of your most relevant videos and just said “since you never listen to me when I talk, here’s everything I’ve been trying to tell you coming from another woman.” She watched those videos and then binged everything you put out and does to this day. You really did wake her up and she took the initiative and made the changes herself after a lot of self reflection. And she took full responsibility for once, apologized, and kept her word this time around and only keeps improving. It saved our marriage. On a Side note, it may be a bit different and harder for us being we both have ASD and she also has ADHD, so those come with their own set of nonsense that’s hard enough to work around as it is…fuck, I’m about to start crying lmao But thank you for what you do, Karyn. Your work is making a huge difference and I seriously cant thank you enough. If you never decided to do this, I dont think we’d be married anymore by this point. Our marriage became more beautiful and amazing than I could haver imagined. She’s not only become an amazing wife, but she became my best friend again and now has my back and works with me rather than against me. She fully submitted and let me finally take the lead without stepping in. Dont get me wrong, she has a say in everything, but she trusts my judgment and doesn’t question me anymore and isn’t combative anymore. Sorry I’m rambling, just thank you. Please keep doing what you’re doing.

Submission is doing what you have to do when you don’t want to because you married a man you trust to make the right decisions for the family.

Karyn, I find your videos so helpful! I’m sending this to my fiancé so we can go over it together. One thing I’m going to point out to her that might be a helpful shift of thought for everyone: A woman “Allowing her man to lead” sounds to me like she’s the leader preparing to give up the helm. In reality, the woman has never been the leader in a marriage, but has chosen to reject the leadership of a good man. Therefore my ideal woman would want to “acknowledge and follow her husband’s leadership”.

I hope you read this. And the reason I say this is because I believe what you are doing is great. You are trying to bring back the right ways of living and helping people understand how to treat each other in relationships. Thank you so much for all that you are doing. ❤

As a man who struggles with my wife on all points that Karen speaks about, I agree wholeheartedly with the concept of submission and your definition of that is spot on. But I also believers women , my wife included, I think most women don’t what it actually looks like in real time bc of the lack of examples. For example my wife’s mother did not submit to her dad in the way you described. Ironically my wife’s dad ruled the roost with an iron fist but begrudgingly and always disagreeably and with contempt. So naturally my wife doesn’t know what that actually looks and sounds like.

Karyn always brings great information on marriages & being a happy couple 😊👍

It’s not about being submissive. It’s about being agreeable and not difficult.

@Karyn At the beginning, you said you don't have a biblical understanding of the meaning of being a submissive wife. I find that amazing, since what you describe in your talks is exactly what it is. For those who say "Look at history and how women were treated", you are lumping in the surrounding nations who did not treat their wives well. Those who were His people, the Israelites, and followed His teachings had good relationships. It was the surrounding nations who did not follow the teachings who were the problem. Keep teaching the way you do. It is right on track.

Thank you Karyn!!

Love your channel Karen.

Very insightful. But, boy, I can't believe that this is not extremely triggering to some women.

Know your place, read Lucas the mucus and the Meaning of Life It is scalar

Y’all, it’s a two-way street, reciprocation! > Ephesians 5:22-25 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church 👫🌟

Real Hip-Hop from this JAWN !!!

It is the word of God.

None of this works if the husband lacks wisdom.

In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. Then his wife wanted to take over.... that's why God doesn't have a wife anymore.

The word submissive already has negative connotations. It can be degrading, infantilizing, and also inferior. Not even children are told to be “submissive” specifically because it’s just that dehumanizing. Not wanting to be submissive in a romantic relationship does not equate to being entitled or above discipline, critique, and orderliness. Is the man entitled for wanting to be dominant and in control with that logic? If he has to feel in charge to “feel like a man”, then don’t you think that’s a product of social conditioning? Lots of men do not feel this way, and would rather be equals to their partners. Also, the concept of being emasculated is purely psychological, and also a product of social conditioning. And you say it’s wrong to infantilize or treat the man like a child/weak, and yet are happily fine with treating the woman as such. Now, what does leading even mean? I feel like a leader is someone who leads in a specific topic or movement. No one can lead 24/7 in everything! No one is perfect or an expert in every way of life. Partners in marriage both have their different strengths and weaknesses. To say that the “man” should be the leader is already an oversimplification in itself. Why should things be centered around the man’s ego/superiority complex when there can just be good decision making from both sides anyway? In conclusion, not only is this misogynistic (and a little misandristic) but a very black and white view on marriage, and I hope others really do deep thinking before considering them.

Don’t get married