Being a physician takes years of schooling and a lot of sacrifices. People respect you and hold you in high regard. My parents wanted me to do It. My heart just wasn’t in it. I wish you all the best. Thank you for sharing.
Well, you will need to be a part of the reformation/rehabilitation of medicine as it is practiced in the US, because right now ethics seems to have taken a back seat and patient care in hospitals is extremely dangerous.
Not a healthcare worker but, I understand what you are saying and unfortunately there are some people out there that do respond better when you’re angry and popping off on them. I’ve worked at several places where I had a manager or a coworker that were like that, it sucks. I think people are like that because someone popping off on them maybe keeps them in check? At least that my theory. Either way, I avoid places that AT ALL TIMES LOL. I’m sorry but I don’t want to work somewhere where I have to constantly argue or snap at my own boss constantly to get them to listen to me, that’s not healthy. I know this video is old but I related to your story in some way and I had to share my thoughts. You did the right thing. I’m not going to be toxic because that’s what you’re used to or that helps you in some sick way, that’s not who I am. I can get mad but I avoid people who take me there. I don’t see it as a good thing that I have to challenge my own boss to be seen as “worthy” of respect, F that noise. I’m not sinking myself down to your low level behavior just because it’s the norm for you, I’m just leaving lol.
We all respect your uttmost honesty throughout all of these situations. We all kind of learn as we go on in life and I sincerely hope you find your true path in life. God Bless!
Hello, I stumbled across your video. I couldn’t finish a pediatrics residency because people were just so toxic. I was 3 months away from finishing. I got so I’ll because of residency and it was so freaking lonely. So take care of yourself and value you above everyone else.
So thankful for your videos and honesty! I’m in my first year of medicine in Canada and my mental health has taken a huge hit and we’re scheduled to go back January 2nd. I’m going to try to use some of your study tips and to get reaally intentional about carving my life outside of medicine
I see that this video was uploaded 3 years ago, so I have no idea where you are in your life now. I’m most impressed by your character, intelligence, maturity, and focus. Anyone with the slightest trace of wisdom would want to have you as a sister, daughter, girlfriend, instructor, whatever.
But how can we study while depressed? I have so much difficulty concentrating and studying in med school. I’m always physically and mentally exhausted I’m half able to study but when it comes to revision I feel so tired and exhausted. I feel so sick seeing others studying quick and revising lots of times while I can’t.
It feels like an endless cycle. I understand. I had to change my whole lifestyle around. I put mental health first and studying second and accepted whatever that brought because at the end of the day that matters more than what job you get. I had to start doing things and created habits even if it meant not studying as much (consistent prayer routine, eating three meals a day, running, finding a hobby). Our bodies can’t be on hold for 4+ years. It naturally starts to catch up to us. I tried to turn anxiety back around on itself and welcome it as a friendly reminder that I must not be treating myself well & I have to change instead of being fearful of it.
Thank you so much for being transparent about med school, residency, and the infrastructures of such. I admire your vulnerability of showing the doubts and questioning of healthcare. It is reassuring and validating, from a patient point of view, to hear healthcare professionals share commonality of the issues within the system. More respect for you! ❤
I was a flight instructor in the military and I can relate to this - it is not that we want you to feel bad - we want you to internalize that very soon there will be no instructor to look over your shoulder and save you from a horribly bad decision.
Be proud to be DO but also accept the stigma as well. You went to DO because you couldn't get into MD and that's ok. You are still receiving somewhat of a similar training as MDs (or identical). But you still couldn't get into MD school which are more competitive and requires higher MCAT score and GPA and more extracurricular activities etc.
You know something…having a narcissistic parent and being held at gunpoint has given me so much power to deal with those nay sayers. Piece of advice, it’s not you it’s the person throwing the tantrum. They have issues that they haven’t cleared from and yes being kind will pay off just be patient y’all!
Curious to what drew you to medical school /becoming a doctor in the first place? Asking as I want to go in the field as a career changer. I do think there are cons in any career and its important to know all the pros & cons and adjust expectations (thats what I had to do with my job)
This is so true. Happened to me after I moved to a new city post grad, made tons of friends in the beginning but slowly realized I don't like to spend time with most of them and started distancing myself. Idgaf now, I make extra efforts for people who I genuinely like and want to keep in my life
Very nice? I wish I am join your life? My life without girlfriend? My life is missing life partner? My life is alone and single life bachelor's still age 33years old? My education is graduation? My life is found a girl enter my life and my life is save? You country you house your home my life is save? My family is poor and refuge living a life? My family could not able to afford my life partner? You are interested in my life? You are help support with me? You are any questions about my alone life? I am reply to you
I would live to hear more details about residency that you mentioned in this video! Like what a day in the life looks like and how many hours you work (even simple things like what you eat for dinner). I'm currently a medical student and am really concerned about what day to day life looks like and would love to hear some insight! Live your videos
Have uou vonsidered a school in another country or becoming a medic?nurse, physical therapist, you want to help and heal ppl those are good qualities look harder ,and try some of these,
"I haven't lived passionately for a very long time." " I miss waking up and being excited about what I'm doing." This resonated with me so much. Thank you for opening up and sharing this video. I admire you and you motivate me to push through my PA journey. <3
It's refreshing to see someone being honest. So many med students and doctors only show the positive and it makes people who feel these things isolated
Physician influencer culture is very interesting. I can’t speak to other people’s experience but there is definitely down sides to this profession and I hope my transparency can lead to more open conversations especially for students
I’m currently in nursing school and just somehow stumbled across this video. Just from the first half of the video alone, I resonate with what you said about how you weren’t willing to look over stuff just so you could get a letter of recommendation. That alone shows me you value integrity and will be such an amazing doctor in the future. I wish you all the best on your journey.
Thank you, appreciate that a lot. I definitely have my days where integrity is tested and I fall short. My hope is to never let myself be okay with things that are not right. I see a lot of being who grow numb to their actions in this profession and it is sad to watch. Hope your journey gives you fulfillment.
Osteopathic doctors will always have a sense of inferiority complex due to the lower admission standards on average.Having said that, if the schools were cheaper, there may some financial benefit.
Thank you for sharing. I'm not a Christian, but ultimately you're talking about faith and I can translate that to my faith quite closely. I've tried so many things to get out of depression but I fall short at every stage. But now I accept that I indeed can't do it alone like you said and that I need God for this journey. I've been neglecting my spiritual health lately. I should get back to it. So, thank you. This was very helpful.
So glad you found this helpful. I hope you've been able to stay the course and continue to feed your soul. Whenever I am discontent or living through the motions, I can also point it back to not being where I need to be spiritually. When I fully submit to God's calling, my life is the most free and content. The world will often do its best to convince you otherwise.
